Private Messages (PMs)

[MissPinkBarbie]

I've gotten that feeling of someone before too. I've also had too many nice ones to let that one bother me. I think that it's also hard to interpret a message in words as we may take it one way as it may not have been intended to be.

i.e. when you speak to someone in person or hear a voice, you know what tone is being used and the moods..but when we write to one another, it is not always easy to decipher the tone being used and therefore miscommunications and misinterpretations happen.

does any of this make sense?

[MeganS]

I'm sorry you had a bad expierance.

I love getting PMs! haha. it makes me feel special. I sent someone a PM a couple days ago saying how one of the puppies in their avi stole my heart when I saw him.


I've only gotten a negative PM once. But who cares? Out of all the PMs I have, there's only 1 that's negative. I think that says something special about the YT members.

[TinyBit]

I had several people pm me after I lost Duke. and I found it very comforting. Thanks to everyone who took time to do so.
Dawn

[Nikki+2]

Originally Posted by scrapindee

Have you ever used a PM to send someone a compliment--especially someone you haven't spoken to before?

Have you ever had the respondent totally respond opposite of your expectations?


I've met some very interesting YT members through PMs over the years. Sometimes we have agreed; sometimes not; sometimes we agreed not to agree.

First time, I have sent a PM to someone on any forum, complimenting them on a response and basically saying that their perspective gave me something else/new to think about and the response was very negative.

Wow that stinks! I haven't had that happen (knocking on wood like crazy! ) but it would actually really hurt my feelings. Okay, I'm off now to send you a nice PM, just like you deserve!

[jp4m2]

I don't get many PM's so when I do it may take a few days before I notice one...I must be the only one that sees mine & go.. "Uh oh, what did I say?"..

( man what a pessimist....)

[txshopper73]

I've sent a couple of not-so-nice pm's to people and have had some sent to me. Take it with a grain of salt...it's the internet.

I even had someone call me a "B" on a thread once. Of course, they are no longer a member here and I got a good laugh about it.

[jp4m2]

Originally Posted by txshopper73

I've sent a couple of not-so-nice pm's to people and have had some sent to me. Take it with a grain of salt...it's the internet.

I even had someone call me a "B" on a thread once. Of course, they are no longer a member here and I got a good laugh about it.

Haven't you heard, at times the "B" word is considered a compliment ....

I always consider the source of a criticism...if it's from someone I considered my friend or someone I respected then after I consider if it had merit, it might hurt....

If it's someone I met a millisecond ago or someone I have little or no respect for then it definitely wouldn't send me into the fetal position looking for my binky.....

[diggy4]

No bad experiances here YET I hope I never do! Sorry you got a bad one and I agree....consider the source!

[CO_yorkie_momma]

Wow, I have not had any bad experiences yet. I usually dont even notice my pms but I have gotten several nice comments from people that were nice enough to pm me. I appreciated them for doing that and it makes a person feel like they are part of things here.

[BamaFan121s]

That's a really unfortunate thing to have happened. Try not to let it get to you too much.

[Kodak]

I do all the time and say hello and ask where they got their yorkie from, how many they have....blah blah. I also thank people for their kind words and give out well wishes to members.

[livingdustmops]

Originally Posted by jp4m2

If it's someone I met a millisecond ago or someone I have little or no respect for then it definitely wouldn't send me into the fetal position looking for my binky.....

Cracked up on this comment...

[Lexi Rae]

ive only received nice compliments..nothing ever negative... love you all

[red98vett]

I've had thousands of pm's go back and forth - me sending them - and receiving them ...I can only think of 2 that were negative - and those people ended up being banned for one reason or another. I can say that in all the pm's I've sent OR had ....they were all great - it's a good way to connect with people

I try to send out personal messages if someone is going thru a really hard time or lost a pet....and ok - I admit it - just to gossip too LOL

I can't see anyone being negative over a compliment and would have to think the pm was misunderstood...maybe it was worded so that the person didn't know they were getting a compliment ?

[babi1542]

No I haven't and hope I don't receive any in the future. I am very optimistic and choose my words carefully, If I don't have anything nice to say then I just don't answer