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Potter · 01-12-2007, 07:24 AM

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Originally Posted by red98vett

WOW. Well....Since his good friend is named 'Porkchop' you can give your boyfriend a new nickname too - "Totally FRIED" ..... cause that story was lame.

Sorry you caught him in a big one and hope you work it out.

That is a good one Villette...He is Totally FRIED. Men can be such pigs sometimes.

Oscar's Mummy · 01-12-2007, 07:43 AM

The fact that he didn't fess up AFTER you caught him in the lie tells me that whatever he was REALLY doing is FAR WORSE than the lie itself. Most guys I think would tell the truth after getting caught - but your fiance decided it was better to keep going on with the lie - a lie that wasn't even remotely believable. He has done something - and the fact that he wouldnt' look at you or say anything just says that he's guilty of something.

I've been through a LOT of crap with guys... too many stories to count.... so I have very little patience for men and their crap. If I were you, I would now be wondering what else he has lied to me about - what's been going on behind my back and for how long, etc. I don't trust liars. Now that he's lied to you once - wouldn't you be forever questioning him from now on? How do you get the trust back?

I hope that we've all read into your situation wrong for the sake of you and your kids - I hope that you two can work out whatever is going on in your relationship. Do what's best for you and your KIDS - those are your two top priorities.

Good luck and best wishes.

Peters · 01-12-2007, 07:45 AM

he was with someone else and he is a horrible liar maybe he didn't think you had the sense to figure it out or wouldn't try. maybe tale him next time he disappears! men suck sometimes at the very least they could be real "men " and be honest we at least deserve that!

Fulrtonchigirl · 01-12-2007, 06:32 PM

LOL you guys are crazy!! Well this morning he tried to cuddle with me and put my ring back on and i told him sorry! Im single now! I said its friday so go out with the whore you were with. He hugged me and told me he loves me and there's no one else, Im the mother of his children, Blah blah blah.....I left him a sticky note on his car that says what comes around goes around! Ne ways, He tried to kiss me and think it was funny, After work i went to his job and wanted to run him over when i seen him walking to his car! I said to him "r you going home or are you going to meet your BI????? He said "do u wanna really know where i was? I said yep, He said at the strip joint with his friend...I rolled up the window and tried to pinch him and took off! Now im just giving him the cold shoulder and i will keep you posted....P.S im 27 monday and he will be 29 in feb....

dragonflysw · 01-12-2007, 06:52 PM

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Originally Posted by rachelsyorkie

Also I would make him go to the doctor or health dept for STD & HIV test & tell them he needs all the whore tests run. I know I'm crazy but it keeps my man terrified & in his recliner at all times. We have been together 15 years. Crazy B works in my world. I know your heart is broken though. I hope he gets a kidney stone, I love it when my husband gets them he cries & has to go to the doctor. I tell him its punishment for being a man. And when someone is acting really stupid I say you you you MAN & explain I think that is the worst thing you can call someone. Wow I am horrible. No wonder no one likes me. Oh well my yorkie adores me so what do I care

O.k.....I am laughing so hard that my side hurts! I have never been able to be that out-spoken!! Good for you.....love your train of thought!

Sorry about you loser man....he'll get his in time! Always comes back twice as bad!!!

Breeze · 01-12-2007, 07:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Fulrtonchigirl

LOL you guys are crazy!! Well this morning he tried to cuddle with me and put my ring back on and i told him sorry! Im single now! I said its friday so go out with the whore you were with. He hugged me and told me he loves me and there's no one else, Im the mother of his children, Blah blah blah.....I left him a sticky note on his car that says what comes around goes around! Ne ways, He tried to kiss me and think it was funny, After work i went to his job and wanted to run him over when i seen him walking to his car! I said to him "r you going home or are you going to meet your BI????? He said "do u wanna really know where i was? I said yep, He said at the strip joint with his friend...I rolled up the window and tried to pinch him and took off! Now im just giving him the cold shoulder and i will keep you posted....P.S im 27 monday and he will be 29 in feb....

I'm so sorry, I don't think I would believe him just yet, he's had sometime to think of an excuse and probably feels the strip joint one will do, it is one that is bad enough for him to lie about last night but not bad enough for you to not forgive him today.

Go with your heart, do you trust him? Can you work this out? Is he usually a great guy? Do you see a future? .....

You instinct will be your best guide

All the best!

Rockster's Mom · 01-12-2007, 07:12 PM

I am so sorry this happened. Is this the first time in 3yrs his has done something this stupid? If so why don't you hear him out. Maybe he lied to you about the strip club because he did not know how you were going ti react to it. Some girls freak out that their guy would even go to that kind place. I am not tryng to defend him because he was wrong in what he did. BTW, he is not a very good lier. Good Luck!!!!

YorkieShadow · 01-12-2007, 07:28 PM

Im sorry this has happened.
A strip joint with his friend is better then him being off with another women.
Now how do you find out if this is the true story or one that he made up?
I hope you can get to the bottom of it. Good luck.

LunasMomma · 01-12-2007, 07:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Potter

That is a good one Villette...He is Totally FRIED. Men can be such pigs sometimes.

Wellllll.........when ya lay down with "Pork Chops" you get totally FRIED

Okay I couldn't resist

Anyway, to the original poster, I'm sorry that you are going through this, I have BEEN there with my exhusband

It's either another woman, or it's drugs, but he was somewhere he shouldn't have been that's for sure. The best advice that I can give you is this: NOW MAKE SURE YOU DON'T EVER EVER FORGET THIS, whether you're dealing with a man or a child (what an oxymoron THAT is

.

if you give an ultimatum (I'm gonna leave if it happens again, for example) be prepared to follow through on that. Don't ever say something and not follow through on it, or he'll never respect you and he'll do whatever he pleases.

Big hugs to you sister, stay strong!

cchu · 01-12-2007, 07:55 PM

Now you know why he didn't tell where he was. He thought you would get upset at the fact that he went to a strip club. I know that dishonesty cannot be forgiven but in this case, you should really talk it out with him. He obviously didn't cheat on you but he should have been honest about where he was going.

Guys are really dumb sometimes!

joy and bella · 01-12-2007, 08:20 PM

what friend what he at the strip club with? is there any way to confirm that. dont tell him this, but for example did he buy himself a drink at the strip club, could u maybe look at his credit card bill? you said you called all the friends he could have been with, so who was he with?
what was his excuse for not coming to get you?? gosh i am sooo sorry you are dealing with this!!! boys suck!!!

doortego · 01-12-2007, 08:33 PM

May I ask how many children you have and what are their ages? Did he know there would be someone else there with them?

jnguyen115 · 01-12-2007, 08:38 PM

Yeah I agree that he might not have told you bc he was scared but it doesn't excuse him for leaving you stranded at work...that is the part that upsets me the most. Was he having sooo much fun that he couldn't just leave to pick you up at work? Sorry that you have to go through this...keep us updated!

rachelsyorkie · 01-12-2007, 09:37 PM

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Originally Posted by dragonflysw

O.k.....I am laughing so hard that my side hurts! I have never been able to be that out-spoken!! Good for you.....love your train of thought!

Sorry about you loser man....he'll get his in time! Always comes back twice as bad!!!

Oh I never had to do that, its just my advice (the whore test)

But honestly you dont want the truth, it will only make things worse.I watch alot of Dr Phil so I know everything,lol. Just make sure you make sure he knows where he wants to be from now on & try to be happy again.

Tiggerwit · 01-12-2007, 10:02 PM

I learned from a lesson from my ex... careful what you look for because you just might find it.

I always thought something was up and finally one day he left his email up and yep I found it.

Anyway, I don't know what's what and I'm sorry. I do agree with LunasMomma, if you offer an ultimatum then follow through with it. I'm not sure I buy the strip club excuse or not. To me it's not worth lying about, but again, I'm not sure what your reaction would have been if he just came out to begin with about going there.

Sorry, hang in there. I would suggest though that if you are always going to have it in the back of your mind that something is up, then move on. It's not worth going day to day always questioning his every move and action.

01-12-2007, 07:43 AM	#17
Oscar's Mummy Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2006 Location: Toronto, Canada Posts: 1,275	The fact that he didn't fess up AFTER you caught him in the lie tells me that whatever he was REALLY doing is FAR WORSE than the lie itself. Most guys I think would tell the truth after getting caught - but your fiance decided it was better to keep going on with the lie - a lie that wasn't even remotely believable. He has done something - and the fact that he wouldnt' look at you or say anything just says that he's guilty of something. I've been through a LOT of crap with guys... too many stories to count.... so I have very little patience for men and their crap. If I were you, I would now be wondering what else he has lied to me about - what's been going on behind my back and for how long, etc. I don't trust liars. Now that he's lied to you once - wouldn't you be forever questioning him from now on? How do you get the trust back? I hope that we've all read into your situation wrong for the sake of you and your kids - I hope that you two can work out whatever is going on in your relationship. Do what's best for you and your KIDS - those are your two top priorities. Good luck and best wishes. __________________ Janice, Oscar and Baby Ruth "The more people I meet, the more I love my dog."

01-12-2007, 07:45 AM	#18
Peters YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Alabama Posts: 2,225	he was with someone else and he is a horrible liar maybe he didn't think you had the sense to figure it out or wouldn't try. maybe tale him next time he disappears! men suck sometimes at the very least they could be real "men " and be honest we at least deserve that! __________________ A pet's love is true right from the start, through good times and bad, like sharing one heart.

01-12-2007, 06:32 PM	#19
Fulrtonchigirl Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Plainfield, Il Posts: 146	LOL you guys are crazy!! Well this morning he tried to cuddle with me and put my ring back on and i told him sorry! Im single now! I said its friday so go out with the whore you were with. He hugged me and told me he loves me and there's no one else, Im the mother of his children, Blah blah blah.....I left him a sticky note on his car that says what comes around goes around! Ne ways, He tried to kiss me and think it was funny, After work i went to his job and wanted to run him over when i seen him walking to his car! I said to him "r you going home or are you going to meet your BI????? He said "do u wanna really know where i was? I said yep, He said at the strip joint with his friend...I rolled up the window and tried to pinch him and took off! Now im just giving him the cold shoulder and i will keep you posted....P.S im 27 monday and he will be 29 in feb.... __________________ MeLANie~SoNia'S~MoM

01-12-2007, 07:55 PM	#25
cchu Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Queens, NY Posts: 1,485	Now you know why he didn't tell where he was. He thought you would get upset at the fact that he went to a strip club. I know that dishonesty cannot be forgiven but in this case, you should really talk it out with him. He obviously didn't cheat on you but he should have been honest about where he was going. Guys are really dumb sometimes! __________________ Christine and Zoe www.dogster.com/?269135 Yes guys...Zoe is a BOY!! He finally forgave me.

01-12-2007, 08:20 PM	#26
joy and bella Donating YT Addict Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: florida Posts: 1,232	what friend what he at the strip club with? is there any way to confirm that. dont tell him this, but for example did he buy himself a drink at the strip club, could u maybe look at his credit card bill? you said you called all the friends he could have been with, so who was he with? what was his excuse for not coming to get you?? gosh i am sooo sorry you are dealing with this!!! boys suck!!! __________________ I LOVE my baby girl Bella!!!! She is my world!!

01-12-2007, 07:12 PM	#22
Rockster's Mom Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Fort Worth, Texas Posts: 1,279	I am so sorry this happened. Is this the first time in 3yrs his has done something this stupid? If so why don't you hear him out. Maybe he lied to you about the strip club because he did not know how you were going ti react to it. Some girls freak out that their guy would even go to that kind place. I am not tryng to defend him because he was wrong in what he did. BTW, he is not a very good lier. Good Luck!!!!

01-12-2007, 07:28 PM	#23
YorkieShadow BANNED! Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: USA Posts: 9,999	Im sorry this has happened. A strip joint with his friend is better then him being off with another women. Now how do you find out if this is the true story or one that he made up? I hope you can get to the bottom of it. Good luck.

01-12-2007, 08:33 PM	#27
doortego Little Bit & Buttons Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: US Posts: 2,160	May I ask how many children you have and what are their ages? Did he know there would be someone else there with them?

01-12-2007, 08:38 PM	#28
jnguyen115 Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2006 Location: Garden Grove Posts: 211	Yeah I agree that he might not have told you bc he was scared but it doesn't excuse him for leaving you stranded at work...that is the part that upsets me the most. Was he having sooo much fun that he couldn't just leave to pick you up at work? Sorry that you have to go through this...keep us updated! __________________ *Jeanie & Stanley*

01-12-2007, 10:02 PM	#30
Tiggerwit Just me 'n my boys Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Murphy, TX Posts: 4,596	I learned from a lesson from my ex... careful what you look for because you just might find it. I always thought something was up and finally one day he left his email up and yep I found it. Anyway, I don't know what's what and I'm sorry. I do agree with LunasMomma, if you offer an ultimatum then follow through with it. I'm not sure I buy the strip club excuse or not. To me it's not worth lying about, but again, I'm not sure what your reaction would have been if he just came out to begin with about going there. Sorry, hang in there. I would suggest though that if you are always going to have it in the back of your mind that something is up, then move on. It's not worth going day to day always questioning his every move and action. __________________ "Be kinder than necessary, for everyone is fighting some kind of battle." Alphy 's Roxy