would he make you lose weight ???
 

Ok .you know i have to pay him back or breed Gracie, now he sayed if i lose 30lbs I dont have to pay him back, Ok dieting is very hard for me because i once had a eating disorder so i try not to diet to hard. So im just wondering what some think about this? I know im chunky but do I need someone telling me.... :mad: . I thought when you get married you dont have to pay your hubby back like a bank .Now I need to to diet to , omg what does this man want .. :animal-pa :confused:

Maybe your husband isn't trying to be mean or insensitive, but that's how it's coming across. You should remind him of your past eatting disorder and he should be way more sympathetic. Plus, you shouldn't have to pay him back anything in any situation.........your married. I hope everything works out and if YOU want to lose weight, do it for yourself and not for someone else or because someone else say's you need to. :)

I Agree!!!:thumbup:

OMG, I would kick him to the curb!

if he really loves you!, he would not even tell you ...you need to lose anything. he should love you for who you are...not by what you look like. THATS BULL!!! He dose not love you if he says sh*# like that! If I where you, He would come home to his Sh!* on the curb and all the door locks change. Let him Try TO GET IN. 911 is a phone call away!

You shoudn't have to pay him back anything. He's your husband. And you don't have to lose the weight unless you want to. It's not anyone's decision but your own.

Would my husband MAKE me lose weight or make me pay money back to him?
NO WAY!!! He values his life - and our marriage -too much for that nonsense.

Kim, I am very clear on the fact that I can live quite happily on my own and I have made sure that my husband is very clear on this fact, too. We both know that I will be treated with respect or I'm outta there. It's mutual. I don't expect my husband to put up with bad treatment from me either.

It's not a matter of what "this man" wants, Kim. It's a matter of what you want!

Ditto!

i agree with all the replys

Im thinking someone is pulling our leg now--is anyone else suspicious??

why is it everytime i post on this site someone thinks im pulling a joke . i cant believe the way some think on hear. :eek:

Geez girl...I'm sorry but - it surely doesn't sound like your husband has his priorities straight! Your husband reminds me ALOT of my best friends husband. Once she was sick and needed to go to the emergency room at about 1 a.m. - well she was so sick that she COULDN'T drive herself (they live kinda far out - about 30 minutes from town) so she BEGGED him to drive her there - well he used HIS truck to drive there and he MADE her pay him back in gas!!!!! :eek: Un-be-freakin-lieveable!!!! :eek: Now THAT...made me sick. What kind of "HUSBAND" makes his SICK WIFE pay him back in gas for driving her to the ER!!! OMG - when she told me that, I was FUMING - P!$$ED!

NONE of this type of sh!t would fly with me, I'll tell ya that right now. You don't MARRY someone because of what they look like - you marry them because of WHAT'S INSIDE - and if that isn't GOOD ENOUGH - then you have no business getting married in the first place. It's as simple as that. You need to give your husband a reality check and explain to him that you don't look like you did 15 years ago, and you won't look the same in ANOTHER 15 years as you do right now - and NEITHER WILL HE. Geez, what is he going to do when you get OLDER?? Make you pay him back because your skin isn't as taught as it used to be years earlier? Give me a break. I could go on and on and on about something like this - but I won't. However I will simply say this: YOU don't need to lose weight, your husband just needs a reality check. :rolleyes:

P.S.- Sorry to be so blunt - but I cannot STAND to hear about husbands acting this way toward their wives. I hear it enough from my best friend and it makes me want to THROW UP. I am just taking up for YOU girl...what your husband is doing to you is NOT RIGHT.

Maybe you should let your husband come to YT and read all of these replies :rolleyes: :mad:

Good luck and don't put up with his BS!!!!!!!!

I am very worried about you! Do you have any family or friends to go stay with? Is he abusive other then mentally? There is a hotline you can call if you feel you are in danger. Do you need the number?
I don't know how long you have been married or how old you are. Do you have a job? Any income of your own?
I used to volunteer at a women's shelter and these are all HUGE warning signs of abuse or escalating abuse.
You can PM me if you like.

This man has put you into servitude not a marriage! Tell him no problem, you will pay him back for Gracie after he pays his bill. Then give him a list of all the things you have done for him since you were married, including any cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. Sounds like with him, you might come up with a hefty bill to present! Then before he blows a gasket -- tell him, "now don't you think all this 'who owes who' is ridiculous? "

As to the weight ..... I can't even imagine putting it to you like that. If he was seriously concerned about a health issue, that would be one thing but he is putting that on the table with money, breeding a dog that is too young, and that is not right. He needs to grown up!

Tell him fine you'll pay him back if he starts leaving money on the nightstand! I've been married 25 years now and I can tell you it's suppose to be a partnership. I'd have it no other way! I don't look like I did 25 years ago and neither does Terry. We'll change even more as time goes by, that's not what's important! I support him and he supports me in our lives together. We're a team and we work together on mutual goals and individual ones as well. Being a breeder was my dream, not Terry's but he supports me in it. We purchased the dogs together and though they are mostly my responcibility he helps out as much as I need him to. Even comes to shows with me when he can. Everyone deserves to be loved unconditionally by their mate, that means you too! If your weight affects how you feel about you than work on it, I will too. I'm sure you can get alot of support here. If you're happy with your weight or feel that it's what is best for you right now, tell him no deal. Don't endanger yourself or your pup because he's being ignorant!

She has to be very careful!
If what she is saying about him is the honest truth, he could really hurt her if she "talks back" to him or stands up for herself.
These type of men view their women as property and they are not allowed to have anything of their own.
By her husband,(the jerk) wanting her to pay him back for the puppies or telling her to lose weight, he is trying to control her and keep her self esteem down. So she feels she has no other choice but to stay with him, because 1) nobody else wants her or 2)she could never make it on her own without him telling her what to do. If she does work outside of the home, this so called man will take her money and dole it out to her as he sees fit. Very Controlling, Very insecure man!

i said it once before ill say it again
if this is true this is a very unhealthy marrige and it would be best it you got a divorce
JMO

I think your Husband is very controlling and needs to read this thread and worry about losing his own weight

He needs to let some of that air out of his head so he can come down to the real world.

Your husband needs a major reality check. It sounds like he's trying to control you, be careful.

Is he telling you to lose weight b/c of heath problems, or b/c he wants his "skinny" wife back? If the latter is the case, I'd pay him back (not that you should have to, you are his wife)! :mad: Since you had an eating disorder he should be 100% sympathetic of this. That's just not nice. :(

yes, I posted about it on her other thread. i think this is a troll and as far as the hubby, i would tell him that everytime he crawls into MY BED, he is getting paid. or that he owes ME! if it is for real, this is a shame that a marriage is like this.

Why would you guys accuse her of lying? Some husbands are controlling. I just can't believe what I'm reading that YT members would accuse another member of lying just because they're having a problem with their spouse. Wow.

Sorry if this seems blunt, I'm just amazed. and kind of upset.

I say drop the weight, whats he weigh? about 200 pounds, drop that off, right at the curb!!!!!!

Now I remember why I am single;) I would not put up with this nonsense.

Marriage is a partnership and one should not have to 'pay back' the other for anything. If you're having this much conflict about breeding your little female maybe it would be in her best interest if you found her a new home where she would be safe and not bred...then you can deal with your marital issues without distraction. If he really wants you to breed her for the money he'll stop at nothing to get his way.

LOL You had me for a second! Good one!! Single? Me too! :happyboun

Im thinking that maybe i dont fit in this club everytime i post, someone in this club thinks im lying , why is that? it is getting on a nerve . do you people that think im lying think everyone is lying :mad: Im only talking to the ones that keep saying that........

I believe you and so do many others so dont get upset about a couple of posts. We do have people who come on here every now and then that just post to get people upset. I just think some are sensitive to that. You belong here and are welcomed here

I believe you but I really wish you were making this up. I feel very sorry for you having to put up with this man. I don't know if anyone read in your other post that you have five children. That makes it a lot harder to just pick up and leave.

It's too bad but the only weight you need to lose is him! After the mistake I made, getting a divorce was the best thing I could have done. It was a lot easier for me though, only having one child.

Best of luck to you.

Don't get upset. It's just that YT has dealt with a lot of "trolls" over the years. "Trolls" are people that come onto a site and cause trouble by purposely writing controversial posts. Like your posts...breeding too soon and breeding 4lb female to a 7lb male. People also come up with some weird things to argue about. Like one time: My furbaby bit a horse in the butt and the horse died (or something silly like that). We are one big family here, and we try to look out for one another and try not to waste time on "troll" posts b/c they are only started to get people mad at one another. It's because you are new that people think you may be pulling our leg. I hope you are not a "troll" and are truly not quite educated in the Yorkie field...yet! ;)

Because you can't verify people's true identity people get a little nervous when some one with a thread that gets people going comes along. You'd be surprised what some people will do for entertainment. Please don't get upset, we really would like to help you and your little dogs. Marriage is difficult at best and alot or hard work, alot of give and take. Everybody needs advice once in awhile. Let's go ahead and trust her guys, what could it hurt? Don't give up on us, hang in there hun!

Like one time: My furbaby bit a horse in the butt and the horse died (or something silly like that).

Hhhhhmmmmmmmmmmmmm, been gone a while, sorry to have missed that one!:)