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Peters · 10-19-2006, 06:50 AM

i totally understand! i was so sick mon i couldn't stay up hardly and when i was well i'll spare the drtails but i was really sick felt like i had been poisoned or something! anyways i asked him to stay her and watch our little girl cause i was sick she's 3 needless to say he just blew me off so i did the best i could all day till he got home at 3 then i just went to bed it really hurts my feeling that he wasn't there for me! then yesterday i had to go have my porcelin crown that broke in half basically pryed off my back tooth it's sore and so on but he doesn't even ask how i am or anything he just starts arguing with me! wtf! if i had enough $$$ i would so live on my own and never associate with him sometimes! they just don't get it or just don't care it makes me so mad!!!!!

my family's 2 hours away and i have no friends here ..just makes me realize how alone i really am in times of need!

kitty · 10-19-2006, 07:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Peters

i totally understand! i was so sick mon i couldn't stay up hardly and when i was well i'll spare the drtails but i was really sick felt like i had been poisoned or something! anyways i asked him to stay her and watch our little girl cause i was sick she's 3 needless to say he just blew me off so i did the best i could all day till he got home at 3 then i just went to bed it really hurts my feeling that he wasn't there for me! then yesterday i had to go have my porcelin crown that broke in half basically pryed off my back tooth it's sore and so on but he doesn't even ask how i am or anything he just starts arguing with me! wtf! if i had enough $$$ i would so live on my own and never associate with him sometimes! they just don't get it or just don't care it makes me so mad!!!!!

my family's 2 hours away and i have no friends here ..just makes me realize how alone i really am in times of need!

Sorry to hear that you are going through. Hope all gets better.

RoxyJosMom · 10-19-2006, 07:09 AM

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this when you obviously need help at home, comforting and a big hug. Some men just don't get it!

I hope you start feeling better and stronger soon. Take care, sweetie.

red98vett · 10-19-2006, 07:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Peters

i totally understand! i was so sick mon i couldn't stay up hardly and when i was well i'll spare the drtails but i was really sick felt like i had been poisoned or something! anyways i asked him to stay her and watch our little girl cause i was sick she's 3 needless to say he just blew me off so i did the best i could all day till he got home at 3 then i just went to bed it really hurts my feeling that he wasn't there for me! then yesterday i had to go have my porcelin crown that broke in half basically pryed off my back tooth it's sore and so on but he doesn't even ask how i am or anything he just starts arguing with me! wtf! if i had enough $$$ i would so live on my own and never associate with him sometimes! they just don't get it or just don't care it makes me so mad!!!!!

my family's 2 hours away and i have no friends here ..just makes me realize how alone i really am in times of need!

You're not alone....

HUGS to you both - and I know how you feel - My husband is sick so I can't be ....but there's many days I feel alone too. I have friends... but they just don't want to hear about things, so I don't talk about them - Our ideas of friendship seem to differ ....

There are times I just want to take off ...but the girls keep me centered.

Tiggerwit · 10-19-2006, 07:42 AM

Bummer... i'm sorry. Make sure to let him know though in a nice way how you are feeling and that you would really appreciate his support and help. I'm betting if he has no clue about the kids and what it takes he has no clue how you are feeling and won't unless you tell him.

I hope things get better for you.

Caliandie · 10-19-2006, 08:00 AM

Well, bless your heart...I am sending good thoughts your way. I have 6 children so I know how hard it is to raise a bunch, even when you feel well.

May I make one suggestion...If there is some way (this time or the next) that you can get your Doctor to tell your husband directly that you CANNOT do such and such and that you MUST have help for so many days or stay in bed for this long, it might help. Men often listen to Doctors when thry won't listen to anyone else.

Husbands sometimes don't want to admit thier wife is seriously ill or injured...they sometimes just don't know how to deal with it all and so they hide (at work or somewhere else) rather than facing something that scares them or makes them uncomfortable, like pain and sickness.

Rae Rae · 10-19-2006, 08:06 AM

I'm sorry you gotta go through this. He needs to be there for you.

Dragonfly · 10-19-2006, 09:59 AM

I'm really sorry you are going thru this, HE NEEDS TO BE THERE WITH YOU. I'm not going to say what I thinking.but he needs a good kick in the butt.

Patti · 10-19-2006, 10:37 AM

Sorry you are having a rough time! Men just don't seem to get it sometimes! I would gladly help if we were closer. Hope your week gets better.

kitty · 10-19-2006, 12:50 PM

Well, I'm back from the doctor and now on an anti biotic since the incision is infected.

Hubby is going to be home some time tonight but is leaving tomorrow for Gaurd. I go next week to get the stiches removed and a follow up with my regular doctor for my blood pressure which has been high for a while now. I will probably start blood pressure meds next week.

I was just wondering when I got old and started falling apart. lol My 7 yr old told me I was really really old so I should start going to the doctor alot now.

doortego · 10-19-2006, 01:12 PM

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Originally Posted by kitty

All 4 of the kids are mine and my husband has never had kids before. He doesn't understand what it takes to deal with them everyday day in and day out. When I called and told him about the surgury he just said that I'd be fine because he wasn't raising those kids by himself. I told him he wouldn't have to my ex-husbands would come and get them. My sister was kind enough to take me to the hospital and pick me up from the hospital when I had the surgury but she has 5 kids and with my 4 that makes 9 and they are all out of school the rest of the week. She can't take me to the docotor since she doesn't have a vehicle with enough seat belts for everyone. I am going to attempt to drive today. I haven't taken any of the pain meds so I think I should be ok.

I think you should have the exhusbands come get the kids and give yourself a chance to heal and pamper yourself a little bit.

Bama Yorkie Mom · 10-19-2006, 01:48 PM

sorry kitty. hope things get better for you soon.

kitty · 10-19-2006, 02:25 PM

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Originally Posted by doortego

I think you should have the exhusbands come get the kids and give yourself a chance to heal and pamper yourself a little bit.

My ex-husbands haven't even talked or seen their kids in over 3yrs. I seriously doubt they would take them for the weekend.

2blkcatsmom · 10-19-2006, 02:37 PM

im so sorry you do not have anyone to help you i hope you get well soon if you lived near me id tell you to drop them off at my place i have 2 kids ages 2 and 9 mo id watch them and feed them we are having bbq chicken
and fries and veggies any way i dont drive cause i only have a permit so but i would have watched your kids its to bad there are not more people out there to help others

yougetthesmiles · 10-19-2006, 06:58 PM

awwww I would be hurt as well! I think your husband should be by your side in time of need. Have you talked to him and expressed to him how you feel?

I will say, when I was sick with the flu 2 weeks ago my husband was very good to me.

I hope you get to feeling better.

10-19-2006, 06:50 AM	#16
Peters YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Alabama Posts: 2,225	i totally understand! i was so sick mon i couldn't stay up hardly and when i was well i'll spare the drtails but i was really sick felt like i had been poisoned or something! anyways i asked him to stay her and watch our little girl cause i was sick she's 3 needless to say he just blew me off so i did the best i could all day till he got home at 3 then i just went to bed it really hurts my feeling that he wasn't there for me! then yesterday i had to go have my porcelin crown that broke in half basically pryed off my back tooth it's sore and so on but he doesn't even ask how i am or anything he just starts arguing with me! wtf! if i had enough $$$ i would so live on my own and never associate with him sometimes! they just don't get it or just don't care it makes me so mad!!!!! my family's 2 hours away and i have no friends here ..just makes me realize how alone i really am in times of need! __________________ A pet's love is true right from the start, through good times and bad, like sharing one heart.

10-19-2006, 07:09 AM	#18
RoxyJosMom Love The Verminator! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: ny Posts: 4,282	I'm so sorry you have to deal with this when you obviously need help at home, comforting and a big hug. Some men just don't get it! I hope you start feeling better and stronger soon. Take care, sweetie. __________________ Roxy loves Alphy Remi loves Millie [COLOR="Purple"]Mom to RoxyJo & Remington , Fozzy Bear & Chloe

10-19-2006, 07:42 AM	#20
Tiggerwit Just me 'n my boys Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Murphy, TX Posts: 4,596	Bummer... i'm sorry. Make sure to let him know though in a nice way how you are feeling and that you would really appreciate his support and help. I'm betting if he has no clue about the kids and what it takes he has no clue how you are feeling and won't unless you tell him. I hope things get better for you. __________________ "Be kinder than necessary, for everyone is fighting some kind of battle." Alphy 's Roxy

10-19-2006, 08:06 AM	#22
Rae Rae YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Illinois Posts: 4,823	I'm sorry you gotta go through this. He needs to be there for you. __________________ Owned by Rocky and Bella

10-19-2006, 09:59 AM	#23
Dragonfly My Sun Shine's bright Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Georiga Posts: 2,353	I'm really sorry you are going thru this, HE NEEDS TO BE THERE WITH YOU. I'm not going to say what I thinking.but he needs a good kick in the butt. __________________ My beautiful Sunshine Me & my Gang

10-19-2006, 08:00 AM	#21
Caliandie Registered User Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Indiana Posts: 24	Well, bless your heart...I am sending good thoughts your way. I have 6 children so I know how hard it is to raise a bunch, even when you feel well. May I make one suggestion...If there is some way (this time or the next) that you can get your Doctor to tell your husband directly that you CANNOT do such and such and that you MUST have help for so many days or stay in bed for this long, it might help. Men often listen to Doctors when thry won't listen to anyone else. Husbands sometimes don't want to admit thier wife is seriously ill or injured...they sometimes just don't know how to deal with it all and so they hide (at work or somewhere else) rather than facing something that scares them or makes them uncomfortable, like pain and sickness.

10-19-2006, 10:37 AM	#24
Patti Donating YT 30K Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 35,509 Blog Entries: 6	Sorry you are having a rough time! Men just don't seem to get it sometimes! I would gladly help if we were closer. Hope your week gets better. __________________ Cali Pixie Roxie : RIP Nikki; RIP Maya;RIP my sweet Dixie girl 1/17/08 http://callipuppyscastle.bravehost.com/index.html

10-19-2006, 12:50 PM	#25
kitty My Best Friend Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: oklahoma Posts: 2,258	Well, I'm back from the doctor and now on an anti biotic since the incision is infected. Hubby is going to be home some time tonight but is leaving tomorrow for Gaurd. I go next week to get the stiches removed and a follow up with my regular doctor for my blood pressure which has been high for a while now. I will probably start blood pressure meds next week. I was just wondering when I got old and started falling apart. lol My 7 yr old told me I was really really old so I should start going to the doctor alot now. __________________ Support our Troops :

10-19-2006, 01:48 PM	#27
Bama Yorkie Mom Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Alabama Posts: 2,134	sorry kitty. hope things get better for you soon. __________________ Linda and Maggie http://www.dogster.com/dogs/490696. http://www.dropshots.com/mnl

10-19-2006, 02:37 PM	#29
2blkcatsmom Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: elizabeth city,NC Posts: 190	im so sorry you do not have anyone to help you i hope you get well soon if you lived near me id tell you to drop them off at my place i have 2 kids ages 2 and 9 mo id watch them and feed them we are having bbq chicken and fries and veggies any way i dont drive cause i only have a permit so but i would have watched your kids its to bad there are not more people out there to help others

10-19-2006, 06:58 PM	#30
yougetthesmiles BANNED FOR NOT MAILING PRODUCTS PURCHASED Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Indiana Posts: 9,295 Blog Entries: 3	awwww I would be hurt as well! I think your husband should be by your side in time of need. Have you talked to him and expressed to him how you feel? I will say, when I was sick with the flu 2 weeks ago my husband was very good to me. I hope you get to feeling better.