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mrs. chris · 09-05-2006, 01:51 PM

oh your poor little baby... you stay at your mom's during the day to stay away from overpossesive mil that's good. she has no right to tell you how to raise YOUR child...you are too nice...i used to be like that but got tired of everybody stepping all over me. Tell her to please respect your privacy, your weight, and esp. your child-rearing or there will be consequences such as supervised visitation with her grandbaby or no visitation at all. Beg your mom if you have to to go ahead and move in now even though your room is not finished....record the way your mil treats you and let your hubby, your mom, etc. listen to how crude she treats the mother of her son's child. Maybe they will all gang up on her. As far as making you do housework when you are still recovering from MAJOR surgery and poh-poohing your complaints of pain and discomfort....sh*t on that....ask her was she playin betsey homemaker right after her heart surgery???? and as for her digging in your stuff....dig in hers right in front of her face and when she says something about just tell her turnaround is fair play!!!eewwww....i done got my irish up over here just thinking about this mess.

you said you didn't want to tell your hubby about it cuz he'd get up in her face...well sweetie let him have at her....oh and by the way i hope you feel better soon and love your babies name...it's kind of close to mine which is christina. smoochies to the baby and hugs to you. tell that ol' turkeybutt where to get off and it'll put her in her place from now on....don't be a doormat to her...she sounds like she likes to put you down to build herself up and what kind of person is that for your baby to grow up around? BTW...JMO

vainchick5 · 09-05-2006, 02:36 PM

Just let your boyfriend give it to her. She certainly sounds like she deserves it. Respect goes both ways. There is only so much crap you should take from your inlaws and you've taken way more than enough. It's not fair for you to have to deal with everything by yourself. He should be taking care of his own mother, not you. He needs to get more involved and perhaps skip the gym to take care of you.

You daughter needs YOU not her grandmother. You are doing all of the right things. My nephew was a colic baby and we did the milocon, gripe water, and we even went to soy milk, then eventually our savior milk was Nutramegen, which is pre-digested milk. It reallllllly helped with his colic. May want to ask her dr. about it. It worked like a charm. He still had his moments but it was like 70% better which helped a lot. I stayed with my sister for the first 5months of his life to help her with him. So I know about sleepless nights. My sisters mil is also over bearing but my sister gave it to her, so she backed off after that. Either you give her a piece of your mind or have your b/f do it, afterall he needs to be responsible for his own family.

Yorkie3 · 09-05-2006, 02:41 PM

This very topic was on Dr. Phil yesterday. Anyone watch? His usual advice is that the son/husband should stand up for his wife and that he should be the one to talk with his mother.

txshopper73 · 09-05-2006, 02:42 PM

HOLY MOSES! Asian grandmothers! UGH!!!!!

Girl, first thing is to put a tape recorder in your room. If you hear the old bat coming, push record and then play it back for your boyfriend to hear. He needs to put his mom in check. If he doesn't then he's not man enough to stand up to his mom, he sure as heck isn't man enough to ever protect you and your self esteem...which is some of the things a man is suppose to do.

Get out and get out fast. I don't know if you've kept your mouth shut around her but I sure as heck would have told her off. What a wench. Obviously, in her eyes, you were just a oven to bake the bun. She doesn't see you as worthy enough and sadly, no woman will EVER be worthy enough for her son.

From one Asian to another, do NOT put up with her crap!

Hugs to you and your baby! Psycho grandmothers SUCK!!!!!

chachi · 09-05-2006, 03:11 PM

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Originally Posted by txshopper73

HOLY MOSES! Asian grandmothers! UGH!!!!!

Girl, first thing is to put a tape recorder in your room. If you hear the old bat coming, push record and then play it back for your boyfriend to hear. He needs to put his mom in check. If he doesn't then he's not man enough to stand up to his mom, he sure as heck isn't man enough to ever protect you and your self esteem...which is some of the things a man is suppose to do.

Get out and get out fast. I don't know if you've kept your mouth shut around her but I sure as heck would have told her off. What a wench. Obviously, in her eyes, you were just a oven to bake the bun. She doesn't see you as worthy enough and sadly, no woman will EVER be worthy enough for her son.

From one Asian to another, do NOT put up with her crap!

Hugs to you and your baby! Psycho grandmothers SUCK!!!!!

I agree get out of there fast.

xtine · 09-05-2006, 07:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by txshopper73

HOLY MOSES! Asian grandmothers! UGH!!!!!

Girl, first thing is to put a tape recorder in your room. If you hear the old bat coming, push record and then play it back for your boyfriend to hear. He needs to put his mom in check. If he doesn't then he's not man enough to stand up to his mom, he sure as heck isn't man enough to ever protect you and your self esteem...which is some of the things a man is suppose to do.

Get out and get out fast. I don't know if you've kept your mouth shut around her but I sure as heck would have told her off. What a wench. Obviously, in her eyes, you were just a oven to bake the bun. She doesn't see you as worthy enough and sadly, no woman will EVER be worthy enough for her son.

From one Asian to another, do NOT put up with her crap!

Hugs to you and your baby! Psycho grandmothers SUCK!!!!!

Kim this exactly how i feel.. that i was just an oven to bake the bun! when i was in the hospital on bedrest.. she LOVED me.. once that baby was out she turned into this witch.. i really need to get a tape recorder ASAP so my boyfriend will believe me when this does happen..

but to tell you the truth im PMSy lately and i've been a b*%ch to her when she gives me crap lol..

like why did i buy my daughter clothes.. shes going to outgrow them anyways.. i said.. yes your right, my daughter will outgrow them, but its my money and i like to buy her dresses

and i took my daughter and went into the bathroom lol.. im sorry if that was rude but i cant take it anymore

09-05-2006, 01:51 PM	#16
mrs. chris Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: louisiana Posts: 209	oh your poor little baby... you stay at your mom's during the day to stay away from overpossesive mil that's good. she has no right to tell you how to raise YOUR child...you are too nice...i used to be like that but got tired of everybody stepping all over me. Tell her to please respect your privacy, your weight, and esp. your child-rearing or there will be consequences such as supervised visitation with her grandbaby or no visitation at all. Beg your mom if you have to to go ahead and move in now even though your room is not finished....record the way your mil treats you and let your hubby, your mom, etc. listen to how crude she treats the mother of her son's child. Maybe they will all gang up on her. As far as making you do housework when you are still recovering from MAJOR surgery and poh-poohing your complaints of pain and discomfort....sh*t on that....ask her was she playin betsey homemaker right after her heart surgery???? and as for her digging in your stuff....dig in hers right in front of her face and when she says something about just tell her turnaround is fair play!!!eewwww....i done got my irish up over here just thinking about this mess. you said you didn't want to tell your hubby about it cuz he'd get up in her face...well sweetie let him have at her....oh and by the way i hope you feel better soon and love your babies name...it's kind of close to mine which is christina. smoochies to the baby and hugs to you. tell that ol' turkeybutt where to get off and it'll put her in her place from now on....don't be a doormat to her...she sounds like she likes to put you down to build herself up and what kind of person is that for your baby to grow up around? BTW...JMO __________________ Mrs. Chris Mommy to Whiskey (yorkie) Sweet Pea (chi) Harley (weenie-rat) Pudge (pit bull) Mr. Cuddles (cat) Mr. Kitty (cat) and my two daughters

09-05-2006, 02:36 PM	#17
vainchick5 YT 6000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: CA Posts: 6,588	Just let your boyfriend give it to her. She certainly sounds like she deserves it. Respect goes both ways. There is only so much crap you should take from your inlaws and you've taken way more than enough. It's not fair for you to have to deal with everything by yourself. He should be taking care of his own mother, not you. He needs to get more involved and perhaps skip the gym to take care of you. You daughter needs YOU not her grandmother. You are doing all of the right things. My nephew was a colic baby and we did the milocon, gripe water, and we even went to soy milk, then eventually our savior milk was Nutramegen, which is pre-digested milk. It reallllllly helped with his colic. May want to ask her dr. about it. It worked like a charm. He still had his moments but it was like 70% better which helped a lot. I stayed with my sister for the first 5months of his life to help her with him. So I know about sleepless nights. My sisters mil is also over bearing but my sister gave it to her, so she backed off after that. Either you give her a piece of your mind or have your b/f do it, afterall he needs to be responsible for his own family. __________________ Mommy to Coco and Rocco

09-05-2006, 02:41 PM	#18
Yorkie3 Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Indiana Posts: 4,685	This very topic was on Dr. Phil yesterday. Anyone watch? His usual advice is that the son/husband should stand up for his wife and that he should be the one to talk with his mother. __________________ Janet

09-05-2006, 02:42 PM	#19
txshopper73 Donating YT 14K Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Texas Posts: 14,226 Blog Entries: 1	HOLY MOSES! Asian grandmothers! UGH!!!!! Girl, first thing is to put a tape recorder in your room. If you hear the old bat coming, push record and then play it back for your boyfriend to hear. He needs to put his mom in check. If he doesn't then he's not man enough to stand up to his mom, he sure as heck isn't man enough to ever protect you and your self esteem...which is some of the things a man is suppose to do. Get out and get out fast. I don't know if you've kept your mouth shut around her but I sure as heck would have told her off. What a wench. Obviously, in her eyes, you were just a oven to bake the bun. She doesn't see you as worthy enough and sadly, no woman will EVER be worthy enough for her son. From one Asian to another, do NOT put up with her crap! Hugs to you and your baby! Psycho grandmothers SUCK!!!!! __________________ As always...JMO (Just My Opinion) Kimberley