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JCarlson2004 · 08-16-2006, 01:19 PM

Oops and I forgot to mention that I paid for the reception but my parents paid for the venesian (sp??) hour and it was REALLY lavish!! They chose the highest package and then added stuff to it LOLOL!!!

Jim and I also paid for our actual ceremomy ... we got married at the Staten Island Botanical Gardens. So we had to pay the rental fee, then rent enough chairs (which was sooooooooo freakin expensive), then rent tables for beverages (iced water, lemonade, iced tea, etc.) since it was an outdoor ceremony in case the guests got thirsty. Then we had to pay people in tuxedos to walk around and serve everyone the beverages!! When we got done that ceremony alone was close to $3,000!!!!!!! Plus we had to pay the DJ extra to come, set up his equipment and play the wedding music!! And out florist we paid extra too to come and decorate all the chairs w/ white lace and roses ... my god we almost wen't broke LOLOL but it was worth it!! It was soooooooo beautiful!!!

Rockster's Mom · 08-16-2006, 01:33 PM

WOW!!! I bet your wedding was so gorgeous. I am glad you did not have the issues we do. My fiance's parents will not pitch in for anything not even the rehearsal dinner, but they want to invite anyone they want. I did not put my fiance parents on the invitation because I felt that my parents were throwing the wedding for us and needed to be reconized for it. I know we are suppose to buy a gift for his parents, but I am having a hard time doing that when they have not done anything to recieve a thank you for besides buying a few things for us from our registery. Just like your parents, my mom/dad keep buying us wedding gifts along with paying for the wedding.

RLC12345678 · 08-16-2006, 01:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Rockster's Mom

WOW!!! I bet your wedding was so gorgeous. I am glad you did not have the issues we do. My fiance's parents will not pitch in for anything not even the rehearsal dinner, but they want to invite anyone they want. I did not put my fiance parents on the invitation because I felt that my parents were throwing the wedding for us and needed to be reconized for it. I know we are suppose to buy a gift for his parents, but I am having a hard time doing that when they have not done anything to recieve a thank you for besides buying a few things for us from our registery. Just like your parents, my mom/dad keep buying us wedding gifts along with paying for the wedding.

I'm really sorry you're having to go through this. Did his parents' say their excuse for not paying for their additional guests is that the bride's parents are supposed to pay for it? Tell your fiance that HIS parents are supposed to pay for the Rehearsal Dinner and Honeymoon! They can't just get off scott free!

If I were you, I would NOT put his parents' names on the invitation. I would not. AND I wouldn't buy them a present. I would give your parents a present in private.

Rockster's Mom · 08-16-2006, 01:50 PM

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Originally Posted by RLC12345678

I'm really sorry you're having to go through this. Did his parents' say their excuse for not paying for their additional guests is that the bride's parents are supposed to pay for it? Tell your fiance that HIS parents are supposed to pay for the Rehearsal Dinner and Honeymoon! They can't just get off scott free!

If I were you, I would NOT put his parents' names on the invitation. I would not. AND I wouldn't buy them a present. I would give your parents a present in private.

All my parents and I are asking for is for them to pay for the the addtional people if the attending guests go over the 60-65 people due to the catering situation, and the rehearsal dinner. My fiance and I paid for our honeymoon. From what my fiance has told me that his parents will not pay for anything because they just don't doing anything like that from him. Which is weird to me, but I guess every family is different. As for the invitations I did not put his parents name on it and my fiance agreed with me on that. Of course his mom did not like it. And I am planning on giving my mom/dad and sisters presents in private for all the hard work they have put in planning my wedding for me since I live in Fort Worth and the wedding is in Houston were they live.

Tillys_mom · 08-16-2006, 05:21 PM

I'm sorry that you are going through this. The same thing happened to me last year during the planning of our wedding. My in-laws were being jerks about it all and my parents ended up having to pay for everything. They were on a limited budget and they gave us a number of people we could invite from each side. Hubby and I were fine with that. His parents on the other hand kept adding people to the list. We made them pay for any extras and they had to pay for the stamps even to mail the extra invitations off. It wasn't fair to the people we wanted to invite. We wanted our wedding to be very small and personal and they wanted to invite people we had never even heard of. Just showing off.

I had to stand up to my in-laws and I'm glad I did. They didn't make the planning process easy but hubby and I got the wedding we wanted, not what they wanted.

LoveyB · 08-16-2006, 11:14 PM

Weddings are soo stressful...im getting married in 5 months and things got pretty crazy

You get so much advice from so many differnt people!! My parents are paying for everything while the soon-to-be inlaws keep asking why are we having such a big wedding etc.... Im the only girl and the youngest in my family so of course my parents are going nuts with all this!! The most frusterating part is that we live with my fiances parents so I cant even talk about anything cause I can see the money signs in there eyes (things arent cheap nowadays!!!) So ive learned to keep my mouth shut about everything and dont let her in on any new plans or anything. Were aving 200 people witch 30 are from his side and thats it. I have a HUGE fam and lots of close friends so it was hard to get the list down. Im with you during this stressfull time I just cant wait for it to get here and ENJOY the day and make the very best of it.

Rockster's Mom · 08-17-2006, 07:42 AM

Okay, I am still trying to pick myself up of the floor. My future MIL just called me to get my mom's phone number, so that she could speak to her about the rehearsal dinner. She told me she need to know the names of resturants in the area that take reservations for large partys, so that she could make a reservation and set up payment. My fiance and I are in shock that my future inlaws are offering to pay for this.

Lexi Rae · 08-17-2006, 07:44 AM

thats great...

RLC12345678 · 08-17-2006, 07:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Rockster's Mom

Okay, I am still trying to pick myself up of the floor. My future MIL just called me to get my mom's phone number, so that she could speak to her about the rehearsal dinner. She told me she need to know the names of resturants in the area that take reservations for large partys, so that she could make a reservation and set up payment. My fiance and I are in shock that my future inlaws are offering to pay for this.

Yay! This is GREAT news! Wow, they must REALLY want those extra guests of theirs to be able to come to the wedding!

ytsirk27 · 08-17-2006, 07:48 AM

Me and my husband spent 500.00 on our wedding. I did my own flowers...i did our cake top. I MADE my 3 tier wedding cake. The part that cost was my dress for 300.00 and jeffs tuxes for him and his best man and my maid of honor. It was small but very nice and I really enjoyed it. We had a nice reception afterward. I have been to the big fancy wedding and knew I dod not want one of them. I understand ppl wanting a nice wedding but mine like i said was 500.00 probably and was small and really nice!

yorkieangel · 08-17-2006, 08:00 AM

BLECH... To this day I think of my wedding with aweful memories. I myself didn't want one and my hubby and his father had a FIT. They actually booked a church and invited guests and then TOLD me about it. I hated EVERY FREAKIN MINUTE of it. I would have MUCH RATHER just eloped.
I did the wedding thing for hubby but ALWAYS will remember it as one of the worst memories we have together on a day that was to be so special. The whole day was freaky

08-16-2006, 01:19 PM	#16
JCarlson2004 Mommy To 3 Poochies Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: New York Posts: 8,287	Oops and I forgot to mention that I paid for the reception but my parents paid for the venesian (sp??) hour and it was REALLY lavish!! They chose the highest package and then added stuff to it LOLOL!!! Jim and I also paid for our actual ceremomy ... we got married at the Staten Island Botanical Gardens. So we had to pay the rental fee, then rent enough chairs (which was sooooooooo freakin expensive), then rent tables for beverages (iced water, lemonade, iced tea, etc.) since it was an outdoor ceremony in case the guests got thirsty. Then we had to pay people in tuxedos to walk around and serve everyone the beverages!! When we got done that ceremony alone was close to $3,000!!!!!!! Plus we had to pay the DJ extra to come, set up his equipment and play the wedding music!! And out florist we paid extra too to come and decorate all the chairs w/ white lace and roses ... my god we almost wen't broke LOLOL but it was worth it!! It was soooooooo beautiful!!! __________________ Mommy Loves Codie, Tia & Baby Cali RIP My Precious Katie - I Love You

08-16-2006, 05:21 PM	#20
Tillys_mom Spoilin' Tilly & Jack Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Indiana Posts: 2,227	I'm sorry that you are going through this. The same thing happened to me last year during the planning of our wedding. My in-laws were being jerks about it all and my parents ended up having to pay for everything. They were on a limited budget and they gave us a number of people we could invite from each side. Hubby and I were fine with that. His parents on the other hand kept adding people to the list. We made them pay for any extras and they had to pay for the stamps even to mail the extra invitations off. It wasn't fair to the people we wanted to invite. We wanted our wedding to be very small and personal and they wanted to invite people we had never even heard of. Just showing off. I had to stand up to my in-laws and I'm glad I did. They didn't make the planning process easy but hubby and I got the wedding we wanted, not what they wanted. __________________ Momma Tilly Money will buy you a pretty good dog, but it won't buy the wag of his tail.

08-16-2006, 11:14 PM	#21
LoveyB Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: San Francisco Posts: 282	Weddings are soo stressful...im getting married in 5 months and things got pretty crazy You get so much advice from so many differnt people!! My parents are paying for everything while the soon-to-be inlaws keep asking why are we having such a big wedding etc.... Im the only girl and the youngest in my family so of course my parents are going nuts with all this!! The most frusterating part is that we live with my fiances parents so I cant even talk about anything cause I can see the money signs in there eyes (things arent cheap nowadays!!!) So ive learned to keep my mouth shut about everything and dont let her in on any new plans or anything. Were aving 200 people witch 30 are from his side and thats it. I have a HUGE fam and lots of close friends so it was hard to get the list down. Im with you during this stressfull time I just cant wait for it to get here and ENJOY the day and make the very best of it. __________________ ~Michelle~ ~James' Mom~

08-17-2006, 07:44 AM	#23
Lexi Rae Gina, (Lexi's Mommy) Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: LONG ISLAND,NY Posts: 10,455	thats great... __________________ Gina & Lexi CLICK HERE for our Photo Album ...

08-17-2006, 08:00 AM	#26
yorkieangel Rescue Angel Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: md Posts: 1,530	BLECH... To this day I think of my wedding with aweful memories. I myself didn't want one and my hubby and his father had a FIT. They actually booked a church and invited guests and then TOLD me about it. I hated EVERY FREAKIN MINUTE of it. I would have MUCH RATHER just eloped. I did the wedding thing for hubby but ALWAYS will remember it as one of the worst memories we have together on a day that was to be so special. The whole day was freaky __________________ Yorkieangel

08-16-2006, 01:33 PM	#17
Rockster's Mom Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Fort Worth, Texas Posts: 1,279	WOW!!! I bet your wedding was so gorgeous. I am glad you did not have the issues we do. My fiance's parents will not pitch in for anything not even the rehearsal dinner, but they want to invite anyone they want. I did not put my fiance parents on the invitation because I felt that my parents were throwing the wedding for us and needed to be reconized for it. I know we are suppose to buy a gift for his parents, but I am having a hard time doing that when they have not done anything to recieve a thank you for besides buying a few things for us from our registery. Just like your parents, my mom/dad keep buying us wedding gifts along with paying for the wedding.

08-17-2006, 07:42 AM	#22
Rockster's Mom Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Fort Worth, Texas Posts: 1,279	Okay, I am still trying to pick myself up of the floor. My future MIL just called me to get my mom's phone number, so that she could speak to her about the rehearsal dinner. She told me she need to know the names of resturants in the area that take reservations for large partys, so that she could make a reservation and set up payment. My fiance and I are in shock that my future inlaws are offering to pay for this.

08-17-2006, 07:48 AM	#25
ytsirk27 BANNED FOR SCAMMING MEMBERS! Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 2,811	Me and my husband spent 500.00 on our wedding. I did my own flowers...i did our cake top. I MADE my 3 tier wedding cake. The part that cost was my dress for 300.00 and jeffs tuxes for him and his best man and my maid of honor. It was small but very nice and I really enjoyed it. We had a nice reception afterward. I have been to the big fancy wedding and knew I dod not want one of them. I understand ppl wanting a nice wedding but mine like i said was 500.00 probably and was small and really nice!