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ytsirk27 · 08-11-2006, 10:11 AM

What would you do in this situation...... My husband has become really good friends with this guy and I am good friends with the wife well she never comes over or if she does we stand outside because she HATES animals except fish and thats because they dont touch her.....My husband wants to ask them over for a bbq. I told him "Jef, she wont come or she will have her husband suggest we go to theirs because of my dogs and she hates animals and shell expect me to put them up. Jeff sais well i guess we wont have a bbq than. Her husband LOVES animals but not her. My husband is standing by me which I love but I feel very selfish for not bending alittle and putting my dogs up. I feel I sahouldnt have to and it's not like we hang outall the time...Am i doing the right thing or should i bend and lock up my fur kids!!

cindy0721 · 08-11-2006, 10:13 AM

No you should not have to.. it is your home and you should be able to do as you please.... who knows u might change her mind,especially given her hubby likes animals...I never liked cats....but my hubby got one and well let's just say I have another one now...lol.....

ytsirk27 · 08-11-2006, 10:16 AM

OH NO...NEVER has liked animals ever..her husband will even say so.. They have an outside dog and she makes her husband friend come and feed it when hes out of town working...DOES NOT like them at all!!

smileyanni · 08-11-2006, 10:17 AM

Don't be mad, but I had a friend the same way before we moved and we used to let the dogs have run of the basement while they were over. They were hardly there so it was no biggy. Turns out later I found out she hated dogs because if they lick her she breaks out and she just never said why she hated them

ytsirk27 · 08-11-2006, 10:19 AM

Oh Im not mad!!

Just confused. She came in one time and Mason jumped on her leg and she took her shoe off and scooted him away so she wouldnt have to touch him...SHes like that with ALL animals!! SHe sadi there dirty hairy creatures and dont know why anybody would want them!!

cheryl000 · 08-11-2006, 10:21 AM

I'd hate to see the pets you love get in between a friendship. You should have fun and have a bbq if you want to. Is there any way to set up an expen outside so that the dogs can play and whoever wants to give them attention can go to them? I know my dogs love jumping on new people, so that is what I do when people come over because even people who like dogs don't like getting dirt on their clothes. I hope you can figure out a way to work things out. Or if you guys can talk about it, that would even be better. They might get offended if you have one anyways and not invite them without telling them why.
Good luck!

Lexi Rae · 08-11-2006, 10:21 AM

hell no,,, she dont like animals, dogs, cats. etc,,then stay the hell in your own home... see ya........ no loss..... i dont hang around people who dont like animals... just my opinion....gotta love animals to be in my company....
dont put your pups out for (no one) ever...they are part of the family, arent they? ....

JCarlson2004 · 08-11-2006, 10:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Lexi Rae

hell no,,, she dont like animals, dogs, cats. etc,,then stay the hell in your own home... see ya........ no loss..... i dont hang around people who dont like animals... just my opinion....gotta love animals to be in my company....
dont put your pups out for (no one) ever...they are part of the family, arent they? ....

Took the words right out of my mouth.

vainchick5 · 08-11-2006, 10:23 AM

I would say that you shouldn't have to change your home life around for anyone, especially if they are coming to YOUR home. But if you are wanting to have the bbq or stay friends with this couple, maybe compromise and put a barrier for the babies so they don't jump on her lap or anything. For example, my family loves coco but they've never been animal people and they are not comfortable sleeping with her when they come over. So to make them a little more comfortable I provide them with sheets coco has never touched and I let her sleep in her crate or stroller, so she doesn't jump on them. I'm ok with that because I don't want them NOT to visit and they don't that often anyway. It's just a personal choice.

ytsirk27 · 08-11-2006, 10:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Lexi Rae

hell no,,, she dont like animals, dogs, cats. etc,,then stay the hell in your own home... see ya........ no loss..... i dont hang around people who dont like animals... just my opinion....gotta love animals to be in my company....
dont put your pups out for (no one) ever...they are part of the family, arent they? ....

Yes they are. Thats why I dont feel like I should have to lock them up... But I dont want to upset anybody either. My husband said "well than we wont have them, they can stay home"!... They were the only ones we were inviting anyways.....This is the same woman if you read my other post that is trying to get me in her business....

ytsirk27 · 08-11-2006, 10:26 AM

Maybe I outta realize finally that not everybody loves animals like me!!!

smileyanni · 08-11-2006, 10:27 AM

I realize its hard to imagine why some people don't like animals (how could they not) but there are certian things I don't like that people love... hopefully we can all compromise if we want to have friends... but of course its a personal choice.

ytsirk27 · 08-11-2006, 10:28 AM

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Originally Posted by smileyanni

I realize its hard to imagine why some people don't like animals (how could they not) but there are certian things I don't like that people love... hopefully we can all compromise if we want to have friends... but of course its a personal choice.

Thank You!

vainchick5 · 08-11-2006, 10:29 AM

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Originally Posted by ytsirk27

Maybe I outta realize finally that not everybody loves animals like me!!!

It's hard to understand because we love our babies, but honestly I don't like going to other people's homes when they have animals. I really don't know how others keep their animals, so even though I'm an animal lover, I get grossed out pretty easily by how some people keep their pets. Nothing personal against them, but it's just me. I know me and most of my friends care for our babies like family but not everyone sees our babies as family. I've just learned to accept that and I have far too many good people in my life to alienate them because of their preferences. But I also don't alienate Coco because she's my family as well. It's a fine line.

Lexi Rae · 08-11-2006, 10:31 AM

gotta say this, but if my own mom didnt like lexi, i would tell her to stay home.. sorry, this is my child...my only child... understand or not , its too dam bad.. those are my rules... but thankgod mom loves lexi.. its her granddaugher of course and thats exactly how she treats her... its so funny.
im my moms baby and lexi is mom... that goes for my whole entire family.
they know and my b/d knows that animals have such an impact on me that is unreal.... oh well just call me crazy or dont call me at all...

08-11-2006, 10:11 AM	#1
ytsirk27 BANNED FOR SCAMMING MEMBERS! Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 2,811	Please Help...what Would You..... What would you do in this situation...... My husband has become really good friends with this guy and I am good friends with the wife well she never comes over or if she does we stand outside because she HATES animals except fish and thats because they dont touch her.....My husband wants to ask them over for a bbq. I told him "Jef, she wont come or she will have her husband suggest we go to theirs because of my dogs and she hates animals and shell expect me to put them up. Jeff sais well i guess we wont have a bbq than. Her husband LOVES animals but not her. My husband is standing by me which I love but I feel very selfish for not bending alittle and putting my dogs up. I feel I sahouldnt have to and it's not like we hang outall the time...Am i doing the right thing or should i bend and lock up my fur kids!!

08-11-2006, 10:13 AM	#2
cindy0721 Always In My Heart Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: The Lone Star State Posts: 3,393	No you should not have to.. it is your home and you should be able to do as you please.... who knows u might change her mind,especially given her hubby likes animals...I never liked cats....but my hubby got one and well let's just say I have another one now...lol..... __________________ Cindy & Gizmo Gizmo on Dogster *Rest in peace My Madda* *very much*

08-11-2006, 10:21 AM	#7
Lexi Rae Gina, (Lexi's Mommy) Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: LONG ISLAND,NY Posts: 10,455	hell no,,, she dont like animals, dogs, cats. etc,,then stay the hell in your own home... see ya........ no loss..... i dont hang around people who dont like animals... just my opinion....gotta love animals to be in my company.... dont put your pups out for (no one) ever...they are part of the family, arent they? .... __________________ Gina & Lexi CLICK HERE for our Photo Album ...

08-11-2006, 10:23 AM	#9
vainchick5 YT 6000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: CA Posts: 6,588	I would say that you shouldn't have to change your home life around for anyone, especially if they are coming to YOUR home. But if you are wanting to have the bbq or stay friends with this couple, maybe compromise and put a barrier for the babies so they don't jump on her lap or anything. For example, my family loves coco but they've never been animal people and they are not comfortable sleeping with her when they come over. So to make them a little more comfortable I provide them with sheets coco has never touched and I let her sleep in her crate or stroller, so she doesn't jump on them. I'm ok with that because I don't want them NOT to visit and they don't that often anyway. It's just a personal choice. __________________ Mommy to Coco and Rocco

08-11-2006, 10:31 AM	#15
Lexi Rae Gina, (Lexi's Mommy) Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: LONG ISLAND,NY Posts: 10,455	gotta say this, but if my own mom didnt like lexi, i would tell her to stay home.. sorry, this is my child...my only child... understand or not , its too dam bad.. those are my rules... but thankgod mom loves lexi.. its her granddaugher of course and thats exactly how she treats her... its so funny. im my moms baby and lexi is mom... that goes for my whole entire family. they know and my b/d knows that animals have such an impact on me that is unreal.... oh well just call me crazy or dont call me at all... __________________ Gina & Lexi CLICK HERE for our Photo Album ...

08-11-2006, 10:16 AM	#3
ytsirk27 BANNED FOR SCAMMING MEMBERS! Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 2,811	OH NO...NEVER has liked animals ever..her husband will even say so.. They have an outside dog and she makes her husband friend come and feed it when hes out of town working...DOES NOT like them at all!!

08-11-2006, 10:17 AM	#4
smileyanni Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Utah Posts: 101	Don't be mad, but I had a friend the same way before we moved and we used to let the dogs have run of the basement while they were over. They were hardly there so it was no biggy. Turns out later I found out she hated dogs because if they lick her she breaks out and she just never said why she hated them

08-11-2006, 10:19 AM	#5
ytsirk27 BANNED FOR SCAMMING MEMBERS! Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 2,811	Oh Im not mad!! Just confused. She came in one time and Mason jumped on her leg and she took her shoe off and scooted him away so she wouldnt have to touch him...SHes like that with ALL animals!! SHe sadi there dirty hairy creatures and dont know why anybody would want them!!

08-11-2006, 10:21 AM	#6
cheryl000 YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: none Posts: 1,495	I'd hate to see the pets you love get in between a friendship. You should have fun and have a bbq if you want to. Is there any way to set up an expen outside so that the dogs can play and whoever wants to give them attention can go to them? I know my dogs love jumping on new people, so that is what I do when people come over because even people who like dogs don't like getting dirt on their clothes. I hope you can figure out a way to work things out. Or if you guys can talk about it, that would even be better. They might get offended if you have one anyways and not invite them without telling them why. Good luck!

08-11-2006, 10:26 AM	#11
ytsirk27 BANNED FOR SCAMMING MEMBERS! Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 2,811	Maybe I outta realize finally that not everybody loves animals like me!!!

08-11-2006, 10:27 AM	#12
smileyanni Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Utah Posts: 101	I realize its hard to imagine why some people don't like animals (how could they not) but there are certian things I don't like that people love... hopefully we can all compromise if we want to have friends... but of course its a personal choice.