I have a stalker.....help! (seriously)

[cribal]

Originally Posted by lisatodd

since you published his phone number....maybe we should all call him and let him know...."we know what you are doing" and if he sees he is getting calls from a bunch of different area codes, this may stop him.
what do you think????

This is exactly what I was going to say... If the cops talking to him doesn't stop it then we need to get a few of us on here to call him. Just plan a time so ever five min. he'll get a phone call from one of us...

Crystal

[sneri13]

Val I hope the cops calling him, stops him. Good luck.

[Passionfruition]

Lisa, Crystal, I plead the 5th, but feel free to call him if you want! I love everyone's fog horn, loud piercing noise ideas!! Those are GREAT! Why haven't I thought of that yet?! What a funny idea!

I can't change my number *yet* - he is calling me on my unlisted mobile number. I do not have a home phone line, only this cellphone. This is it, and I just changed it from my TN number to the local area code here in SC, and every time I change my number I am terrified I'm going to lose touch with someone, ya know? I refuse to sacrifice my friends just to get rid of this guy.

The cops are calling him today - the REAL cops, and giving him an ultimatum (stop calling......or go to court, haha.) HOPEFULLY this is it.

But feel free to call - and if you do I wanna know if he says anything. I think his name is "Ricky".....but I have never met this guy in my life, trust me, he's a total stranger, and a creepy one at that.

I don't want my phone to ever have record of me calling him - but if I can't, you can. LOL, this could be kinda fun.

[bchgirl]

How about no reaction from you at all. When you get his call, open the phone, and set it aside. Harassing someone can't be much fun if you don't get a reaction. Or any chance you and hubby can switch phones? You use his and visa versa? Can't imagine he'd continue calling you if it wasn't you answering the phone....

Maybe the police tactic will succeed in scaring him off, and you won't need any of our help or suggestions. Good luck.....

[red98vett]

Originally Posted by cribal

This is exactly what I was going to say... If the cops talking to him doesn't stop it then we need to get a few of us on here to call him. Just plan a time so ever five min. he'll get a phone call from one of us...

Crystal

I'm game - anything to help a friend -

Val - if you want - why NOT give him a taste of his own medicine ?

[Juliealfies mum]

He probably does not know you if it started with a wrong number ,but I suppose that could be a red herring. You would know if you changed numbers and the calls continued . I hope he gets the message from the police and just calls it a day. I know how you feel as I have had a few calls like this in the past!! Then found out i was someone I knew quite well. I let them know I knew it was them and have never broken breath to them since. I just completly ignore him if I see him now. But its horrible not knowing who it is and if you know them I hope you get it sorted out if not just try some of the alarm ideas like sounding something loud and ear piercing down the phone.

[JCarlson2004]

Val, I'm so sorry. But please listen to me ... BE CAREFUL! This guy is obviously deranged and crazy. He may try to retaliate after the cops call him today. You need to be very careful if you go out alone at night. Let me tell you about my experience -- it's a long story.

When I was 19, I started working in Manhattan at a large law firm -- my first "real" grown up job. After working about 5 or 6 months, I began to notice this middle aged guy in a lot of places -- on the train or express bus, outside of my office building occassionally and sometimes at places I'd go eat for lunch. But I never really paid him any attention because I just figured he worked in the same area as me. But then he started making eye contact with me and giving me these creepy, leery smiles. Then one day out of the blue, while I was walking from the train station to work, he came up to me and said "Good morning Jennifer." I almost had a heart attack!! I said, "Who are you and how do you know my name" and he said (which scared the HELL out of me), "I know everything about you Jennifer Lynn. Where you work, what train you take, where you live. I know that you when you eat at Wendys, you dip your french fries in a frosty. I know everything about you." I remember what he said to me EXACTLY! Well I'm sure you can guess my reaction … I RAN LIKE A BAT OUT OF HELL TO WORK!!

When I got to work I called my parents and the cops. My dad took me to file a police report. But basically the police said they couldn't do anything to him because he hadn't threatened me or tried to hurt me -- also, I didn't know who the guy was, I didn't even know his name. But I was still scared $hitless. My dad drove me into work for the next week but that couldn't last forever so I started to take the train again. I didn't see the guy for a few weeks and then it started again. He would always say hello or hi and smirk at me in some sick way. By this time, my dad was picking me up after work (which wasn't easy because he worked in Brooklyn and I worked in Manhattan -- he had to drive through all that crazy traffic every night!!) Whenever my dad would pick me up, we never saw the guy. It was like he saw my dad and then just left so that there would not be a fight or argument. But my dad is smart (and sneaky). One night after work he said that he wasn't coming to get me. So I left my building and the creep was outside and started following me. Then out of nowhere my dad and 3 of my cousins jumped out of a car. They said to me where's the guy and I pointed him out -- he was walking practically right behind me. So my dad and cousins surrounded the guy and basically threatened his life! They grabbed him by the shirt and were yelling at him and shaking him. The guy said that he never touched me and it's not illegal to say hi to someone. My dad forced the creep give him his wallet so that he could look at his ID and get his name. Then my dad threw him on the floor and said if he ever even looked at me again, he'd have both his knees broken.

After that I didn't see him for awhile -- about 6 weeks. Then he started in again. He must have thought that my dad wasn't serious. He tried to kiss me and I then I ran and he chased me into my office building at 9 a.m. in the morning on a crowded Manhattan street in broad daylight!!! I won't go into detail but my dad and cousins basically beat the crap out of him. They had his address from when they looked at his drivers license. After that, I never saw the guy again.

The point of my story is that the guy got MORE and MORE aggressive each time and he got worse each time something was done to him. So Val please be careful with this creep -- he may seem "harmless" now because it's over the phone but he may get aggressive once the police get involved. He's already proven that he's determined because he keeps calling after your hubby threatened him -- in fact, you said he got WORSE than before. Please carry pepepr spray on you (just to be safe) -- at that time, I even carried 2 box cutters. You never know when you might need it and I hope that you never do. But sweetie, you know the saying … better safe then sorry.

[chachi]

How scary! I would blow a whistle into the phone next time he calls

[red98vett]

Val...For anyone wanting to call but BLOCK their number - here is info on it

Call Blocking The first way is to block the transmission on individual calls. Typically by punching *67 (depending on your telephone company) immediately prior to dialing the remainder of the phone number, you can block the sending of your phone number to the called phone. You need to prefix the phone number with *67 each time you want to block sending your phone number to the called party.

and Jen - GOOD FOR YOUR DAD ! Wow was that a scary story. I've been followed but never had a stalker - this is a real eye opener and we see women murdered EVERY DAY lost to these psychos - Jen - you were VERY LUCKY ! Hugs to you and Shake your dads hand for me !

[JCarlson2004]

One more thing I forgot to mention:

This guy knew my schedule - which meant that he was stalking me for a long time. If I worked over time and left work at 8 p.m. instead of my standard time (which was 5 p.m.), he'd be outside my job waiting for me. It was so frightening! These stalkers guys are good and they are PATIENT. That's why you must be very careful and always watch your surroundings Val. If something feels wrong, then is probably is. Sometimes I'd just get this creepy feeling and I'd look around and then spot him across the street just staring at me. Or I'd be having lunch and get this creepy feeling, then I'd spot him outside the restaurant looking in at me. So go with your gut feeling Val, trust yourself. I will PM you my phone number. Call me if you need ANYTHING at all, even if you just want to talk or vent. I know what you're going through sweetie. You're not alone.

[JeanieK]

Can't you get a restraining order against him? Did you google his number to get an address? the Police should be able to get an address from the cell phone company if it's a cell phone. What he is doing is against the law even if he hasn't threatened you.

I think I would change my number, and then just call everyone that you know to give them your new number.

[Passionfruition]

OMG - he *just* called me again!

What the heck??!?!? - It's all I can do not to answer the phone by saying "JAILBAIT!"

[Highlans]

Originally Posted by DianaB

Maybe you should do like they do in the movies, blow a fog horn or a whistle into the phone. It's scary that someone can invade your personal life and there's not much that you can do about it. You would think that the police could see all the phone calls that he's made to you and put a stop to it. You may need to go ahead and change your phone number.

I agree blow a whistle down the line really hard what a creep.

[lynnt34]

Originally Posted by Jaspermom

Get a whistle, air horn, trumpet, some kind of really loud noise maker, and blow his freekin ears out!!! Go for it!!! Hope he gets a migraine!!

Love ya, girlie, and I am so sorry this is happening to you. I got stalked via phone once, and it does indeed suck. It didn't last long, just a couple weeks, and one time he called and I said my phone was tapped by the police and he never called back. lolol dummy.

GOOD LUCK, sweetie! Let us know how this all turns out, OK? Stay safe!!

Get one of those air horns from the hardware store , you know the ones they take to football games..........than give it a blast right into the phone!!

[bchgirl]

Originally Posted by Passionfruition

OMG - he *just* called me again!

What the heck??!?!? - It's all I can do not to answer the phone by saying "JAILBAIT!"

You think this is a kid? Is that what you mean? If I thought it was a kid, I'd call his number back (not necessarily from my phone) and speak to a parent or whatever adult was available. Shoot, is his number a cell number? If not, google it and GO to his house and speak to them directly.

Actually, the more I think about it....I'd just change the number and be done with it.