I don't mean to be the tough mean girl here but u asked what i would do if i were in your shoes. I wouldn't terminate the pregnancy. I could not and would not abort my child to save my life later on. What I would do is see if I could carry the pregnancy as close to the due date as I could to give the babies a fighting chance as well as myself. I know this is a tough decision for you and I'm so sorry you were dealt so much but I have to say along with praying you stay healthy. I will be praying you don't abort this pregnancy. The babies deserve a chance at alife too. I know alot will get mad at me but i just don't condone abortion for NO REASON.

Oh, she has a reason.... five very valid ones plus a husband.

I don't condone abortion for "no reason" (who does?!?!), but I think if there ever was a reason, it's in this situation and no one can judge. I'm not saying you're judging... I'm just saying in general.

Hugs to Courtney :love: :love: :love: :love: :love:

Look I didn't bash you for your opinion so please don't bash me for mine. I stand firm in how I feel. It is my religious beleif in this as well as my personal beleif. I feel god would want me to tell her this i'm not saying it to be mean. She herself said it was an unacceptable choice so why are you so upset with me. No matter how upset you all get with me I feel I am right in giving her another opinion and another choice. A choice for life and her unborn children. Am I so wrong for that?

I'm not saying you're wrong and I'm not bashing you at all. I am just stating that I think it's fine if you wouldn't have an abortion, but maybe you should check out the reasons why she should/would. Like Deb (bchgirl) said, the reasons are her five children, her husband and her own health, not "NO REASON". I guess I'm just trying to be objective...

and I was trying to give her another way out that would help all of them. I'm not telling her WHAT to do I"m saying what I would do.

I feel that this is a choice for her and her family to really sit down and discuss it is a LIFE altering choice to make and what ever she chooses we should all SUPPORT her regardless....

:thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup: I agree. I know I will

i will toooooo... :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup:

She doesn't need this to be a debate. I just told her what I would do and lets leave it at that.

I have one last thing to add then Im done with this thread.... Is there an option of adoption in the decision there are so many people out there that cant have kids that would love to have one or two in this case why not go through the pregnancy as far as you can and let them be adopted.. Even if they are disabled there are still people out there that will love a child regardless of disablities I know I would love them uncondtionally

I so agree here...and all the best to you Courtney....We're here if you need to talk and you have lots of prayers for you and your family.....and I truly hope you are going to get thru this terrible time and be healthy again. You must be scared out of your mind.

HUGS to you :hug:

i just like to voice my concern, there are a lot of hospitals that specialize in cancer treatment, i would try like hell first to get a hold of my husband and look thru the phone book of nearest cancer treatment hospitals and get there opinion.... there has to be choices out there for her..... i hope everything works out ok...... if you could last a couple of more months without kimo you could have a c- sections and still go thru therapy,,, i would be calling every hospital around my area to help me....

Thank you
 

Thank you to everyone for your thoughts, and well wishes. My heart is breaking right now but as always I am trying to stay strong. As I do not wish for this thread to be a debate, I know we all have our opinions; I value everything you all have to say. Believe me when I say I would love to put my unborn children’s life before mine but what is that saying for my five children I leave behind if I am unable to beat this again!! I just don't know :(

As for those that have asked about my husband, he is 6-hours away, on a boat in training that only takes place once a year. I know his work is not as important as my health, but in the same breath I need to have some time to compose myself, gather as much information as I can because he is a person that wants all the facts laid out before a decision is made. The other thing that is extremely hard is that we only have about 8 days to decide what we are going to do because treatment needs to start immediately weather I choose to terminate my pregnancy or not.

I have, after much research, ruled out continuing the pregnancy and holding out on chemo. One way or another I have to have the treatment or the cancer is going to spread. I know this first hand from my first round of cancer as it started as a stage 1 and progressed very rapidly to a stage 2.

I want the very best for my unborn children, family and my kids. Is it fair to them to lose their mother at such young ages? Will they resent my decision later in life? Will they get the same care and be raised the same if I weren’t here? We all know that mom’s do it better than anyone else. And my husband……..I can’t imagine what he would go through.

I understand we all have our differences in opinions and beliefs and I respect that of each and every one of you. I wouldn’t have asked for your thoughts if I didn’t truly want them.

I have an appointment with a Regional Medical Center that has a super Cancer Center on Monday and my husband will be home by then to get a better understanding. And to answer many of your questions, yes I do have my mom here and actually just got back from lunch with her and she is very supportive, and like many of you will not make a decision for me but will support whatever decision I make.

Thank you again, to my online family, for your thoughts, prayers and advice. I never thought I would need you all like this and I can’t tell you how much it all means to me to have you here, even if just on a computer screen.

Courtney...I am so glad you have your Mom with you! I have been thinking about you all day and my heart is breaking for you :(
You have to do what is best for yourself, your husband and your children. You will make the right decision....I just know in my heart that you will! :thumbup: