Punch Your LIGHTS OUT!!!
 

No, not anyone from YT! I am feeling totally stressed out right now and I just want to kill my boyfriend. I hate him. I am so sick of fighting! I am so sick of listening to him whine and complain. I am so sick of having to deal with him and his problems. I am so sick of trying to pretend I care so much. The last straw, I let him borrow money a few weeks ago, and asked for it back a couple weeks afterwards and he said he he didn't have enough money. SO last night he said that he had 2 thousand dollars and I asked for my money and he said that I said that he could have it to pay him back for money he spent on "us". Now I am out that money that I was saving for my Europe trip, I worked so hard to save it. :cry: I never said that and I never asked him to spend money on me!!! My school load has me on the verdge of going insane, and I just feel like a goin crazy!!! I shouldn't complain about my life bt I am so sick and tired of dealing with all this crap! Sorry to go on, you guys are like my therapy session...Thanks :rolleyes:

Hannah, I'm so sorry that this is happening to you... Have you tried telling him.. "Look __________, I have never asked you to spend money on us and I have been working so hard for my trip. I lent you that money because you really needed it at the time and I don't feel that it's fair for you not to pay me back. When did I ever say that you could keep the money?" I feel like a therapist now... LOL Oh, well, that's just my .02... Hope you work everything out and I can't wait to meet you next weekend!!

I agree with DaisyMaesmom ask him for your money back and if he doesn't give it back you need to rethink your relationship.

You sound really upset and I can completely understand! I would just tell him to give you your money back or else.... :p

Yes I said almost thsoe same words and he said said Oh yea you did say I could keep the money. You are just money hungry cause I told you that I have 2,000 dollars. He also told me that I told him to keep it. He swears to God that I saiad that, but I don't believe any of his 'swears'. I am just so sick of this guys. Four years and I took so much crap and I was SO SO SO SO stupid. And now I feel bad to leave him cause I hate to see him unhappy. And this money thing is pissing me off so bad. And he is accusing me of being money hungry. I told him not to spend money on me if he doesn't want to, and now he is saying I should pay him back for all this money he spent on me. I want to move to England :(

Ok Dr. Phil here~ LOL

It sounds like it is much more than the money, the money is just the last straw, I would GET the money, Today, while he has it, then kick him to the curb with what he has left. Any man that needs you to pay for the date things,that is what he's doing your paying for your couple things, including him.. is TROUBLE,and I would not deal with it, I've had my share of losers that I had to pay for,, then I matured and realized its time for someone to take care of ME! And I now I have that. Which is how it should be. JMHO
Good luck in whatever you decide.. but remember,,, YOU teac people how to treat you.. and if he gets away with this,,it WILL continue and get worse.
Stand up for yourself, and what is yours...the $$ !

Think about it this way.. It's either you or him unhappy... Which would you rather see??? :) It might make him unhappy if you leave him, but then maybe he'll think twice and realize that he's in the wrong...

Thanks! You are so right. And I know, I have let him treat me far worse than this. He has major baggage, and I have been so stupid with this relationship. I would never ever let any man ever treat me like what he has gotten away with. I feel so stupid but at least I now know what I want. He was my first relationship...Lord I think I have seen it all! I should have done the curb thing a long time ago but I just can't do it. Goodness I feel so stupid about him. I have been a HUGE b***h to him for a while cause its so hard to pretent that I care about our relationship when I don't. Anyways, I just want my money that took me about 2-3 weeks to save, when he earns that in a day!!!!!!!! I'm in school and I work and he only works...

if i could tell you how much money i lent to other boyfriends and never got
it back, your head would spin... i will tell you.. my first boyfriend owes me
to this day, around 10.000 dollars... bailed him out of jail. he skipped..lent him
money for a motorcycle, sold it for drugs.. and stole my jewerly...
you know what, that sucker does not have me anymore... im alway lending
money an never getting it back...your a really good person, but keep your
hands out of your pocket for now on.... find someone who will take care of
you...cause you are worth it.... i found out the hard way. good luck

Hey Chicklet, I'm so sorry to hear you're going through all this. I'm so sick and tired of abusive (wether it's physically or emotionally) men taking advantage of good women. I would kick him to the curb so fast he wouldn't have seen it comming. I was in an abusive relationship before and I know how you feel. This jerk I was with cheated on me, lied to me, made me give up all my friends; and yes, I admit it at first breaking up with him was hard b/c I didn't want HIM unhappy. But Girl, it's alot easier than you think. You have to look out for the Numero Uno - That is YOU. It's unhealthy for you to take this abuse. I sympathsize with you. But if he can't respect you enough to do something as simple as repay a debt, then this is leading nowhere. If he's saying that he's using the money that YOU supposedly gave him to pay for the money he spent on "us" then where the heck is his contribution?!

I'd prolly say, "Listen @%#wipe, I'm sick & tired of your crap. I never said you could have that money. And if anyone's a money hungry $%#@ that would be you dip$%#@!!~ I'm taking my money back & my life. Go to Hell." Then punch him in the stomach, knee him & the groin & tell Thor to sik 'em and bite his toe off. Take your money and leave.

Ok ok, maybe that's a bit harsh. But that would be along the lines of what I'd do. LOL. That also could be the NewYorker in me. :) Take care of yourself Hun. And there's nothing that puppy kisses, snuggles, & time won't heal.

*BIG HUGS* & *PUPPY KISSES* from Sango & I

If he loved you..whether he owes you money or not he should want to help you to come up with the money to visit england. I know if jay really wanted to do something that was important to him..i'd do whatever it took to help him as he would me.

Thanks! You really made me laugh!! It is so true what everyone is saying, kick him to the curb. I should. I just keep thinking, I should wait until I go to Europe this summer so I don't have to worry about him showing up at my house (my parents house) and beggin to be back together or something like that. I will be gone for 2.5 months. Look at me...I am making excuses. Grrrr, I suck! Again everyone Thanks for responding, I just really need to vent I feel like I am going crazy!

I'm glad I was able to get a smile outta ya! Life is too short to be taking crap from people. I say you should do it ASAP. Don't put off 'till tomorrow the garbage you can take out today. It'll only stink up your life. :) Let your parents know he's a jerk and if he comes by to ask him to leave (with a shotgun pointed at his head of course). Change your voicemail message so it'll play "Cry Me a River" (Justin :luvu:). He'll get the hint. And that way you can start planning for your fabulous Europe vacation. And concentrate on more impt things while you're there like checking out all the hot european guys, and wether you want just a tan on the beach with or without bikini tanlines. Heard you can go topless there! (I personally am too shy & wouldn't go topless LOL)

Keep your chin up Girlie :thumbup:

This sound like a typical Judge Judy case. Threaten to take it to Judge Judy, she'll clean his clock and set him straight.

I don't know you at all, but I can tell you, you don't have to put up with that from ANY man. There are plenty of good men out there.

I loaned a masn mney once too, and never got it back. I came to realize, any man that would borrow from a woman is a user.

No need to feel stupid, as you can see a lot of us have been there and learned too. A man with pride and self respect will not ask a woman for money. He is the loser hone, not you.

I'm sorry Hannah. Let me tell you what I've learned from men...NEVER let a boyfriend borrow money. Either you never get it back, or you "hear it" every time you ask for it. It's not worth it. My cousin and I both lost money on our ex's because we let them "borrow" it and they never gave it back. I will NOT do it again. Most women feel badly and loan their men money. I'm sorry, but I don't know if you'll get it back. Look at it this way...you paid money to get rid of him...if you want to get rid of him. Listen, if you want to talk, PM me. I have a lot of hot air! LOL :p

I have a idea, if it were me .. .I would ..say just drop it.... cook a nice dinner and let it go.. then when he is asleep or in the shower go into his shower or hiding place(every man has a $$ stash somewhere in the house or car) and get whats yours and leave it at that.. Oh but make sure you can hide it where he can't find it & then kick him out and change your locks(just in case).... good luck whatever you decide!

WOW!! So much great advice here!
 

Advice that is awesome and I agree with:
1. Do whatever you can to get your money back.
2. Kick him to the curb
3. Don't take this kind of crap from any man
4. Do not feel stupid!!! These are called "LIFE LESSONS"


Anytime you are challenged in this way, Hannah darling, you come out the other side a stronger, more capable person because you LEARN so much!! YOU WILL BE FINE, but you sure do need to get rid of this guy, I am sad to say. Suzie has it all right... AND DO NOT FEEL BAD!! Love is a funny beast; one day it's all wiggly and giggly, and the next day it bites you in the butt! There are way too many negatives here for you to continue wasting your precious time on a man who doesn't deserve wonderful YOU!!

HUGS, Babe! Now I REALLY CAN'T wait to see you next week!! I will give you this hug in person!!! :hug:

If you feel like this now...think about this...would you want to put up with this s**t for the rest of your life? Heck no!! :thumbdown :mad:

O crap, that's great! LOL :thumbup:

I sympathize with you. Times like those are no fun :( :thumbdown

Just take deep breaths and repeat to yourself, "Homocide is still a felony. Homocide is still a felony..."

I am so sorry that you are going threw this, but we all have been there, done that, and have the T-shirts to prove it. You should kick him to curb ASAP and stop wasting you time and energy on this guy. Life is to short to be dealing with a jerk like that. If you're worried that he will show up at your front door step begging and crying well there is little thing called 911 and they will give him pretty silver bracelets to wear. You are wonderful person and beautiful lady, and you deserve someone that is going to take care you and spoil you rotten with any compliants or conditions. Good Luck and Rocky sends lots of puppy hugs and kisses!!!!

Ha ha...T-shirts...that reminds me of something funny. My sister dated a real loser of a guy for almost 3 years...he was OK at first, but as they "grew up" he "grew" into an idiot. We finally knew she had moved on when she appeared wearing 2 hilarious shirts: One just said "Have you dumped your boyfriend today?" on the front. The other one said, "I'm not with stupid anymore," and she had his old football number screen printed on the back of it.

Maybe you could get one of these and he would take the hint to straiten his act out? :)

Boy, I'm really sorry to hear you feel stuck, because you're not.
Stand up for yourself! Tell him you want your money back.
If he says no, out the door he goes. It's so sad that a girl would
let a guy get away with this, it's not just you, it happenes everyday!!!
Only it never gets better it always gets worse. They will make
you feel great, until they get what they want, then they leave you feeling like crap. If he's not the Man of your dreams, and it sounds to me he's not,
then it's time for you to stand up and move on. Money really isn't the problem, your hurt feelings are. He's not going to pay you back, OK get over that, but now work on your heart. Is this the man of your dreams, the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, have children with?
Hmmmmmm When you go to Europe, relax, take time for you. Before you go, sit your parents down and let them know it's over, and you would like their support on this.
There is a nice Prince out there for every Princess, your first one was just a frog, now send him back to the lake, and start living again, so YOU will be happy. Best of luck to you! :2hearts2:

My advice....don't loan anyone money you can't afford to give away. I have in laws that owe us thousands. So now we're the a--holes for asking/expecting it to be returned when we could've started out as a--holes for not loaning to them in the first place...but we wouldn't be out any $.

I'd dump your boyfriend but not because of the money issue....because he makes you miserable. Consider the money tuition to the school of hard knocks...

:lol tears That is as funny as the time my friend sent her ex a singing telegram to his office to break up with him. I was so proud of her for that because he deserved the embrassment after what he put you threw (stole money, sold jewerly, and cheated on her with her BFF at the time).

WOW! Everyone has such great stories to share, and they make for some laughs and thats totally what I need right now. The general consenses is, get rid of him and I know that. I really know that. No I don't want him to have my babies, NO I don't want to marry him, No I really don't love him anymore but I do care about him a lot. AND my mom cried and cried when I got back with him after I dumped his ass once. So I promised her I would never marry him. I would have my parents support 200%, so that's not the problem. I just wish that I could do this and it would be drama free. He is such a drama king and..ahhh. And who ever said 911 was a good number, you are right. He doesn't want to go BACK to jail AGAIN! :rolleyes: Yes, I do know how to pick my men huh? :rolleyes: Life lessons, yes, and I just know there is a purpose for all this and it will bo okay someday, it just sucks right now.

I love that I can depend on my YT friend so help me feel better. You guys are so good at it. Thanks so much!!! Really, thanks!

PERFECT!!!! :p

Hahaha, yeah...seriously!! :)

You guys are seriously cracking me up!