need some creative thinking

[Wylie's Mom]

Originally Posted by tinav

I don't want to give her any ammunition like going to the party alone and giving her an opening to express that to others in a demeaning way......people love gossip,lol. I would rather show up with a date even a boring one, lol, just to limit what anyone can say regarding me socially.

And then maybe it would just be best to not give a crap and just go and get what ever I can out of it and that's that.

I don't really understand how going to a party alone gives anyone gossip ammunition...? If/when I see someone go it alone, I think either nothing at all or, "awesome confidence, yes!", bc it can be hard to enter a social gathering alone...I get that.

But let's say she *does* comment on it and get demeaning about it...that's not going to hurt you, it will hurt HER and her alone bc she will look like a complete A-hole and everyone who hears it will think that of her too. So, if she wants to go that route, let her go ahead and dig herself her own hole to fall into, ya know? And meanwhile, you're looking like a class act with confidence! Right?!!!

Take your advice in red above - that's what I'm talkin' about !

[tinav]

Originally Posted by Wylie's Mom

I don't really understand how going to a party alone gives anyone gossip ammunition...? If/when I see someone go it alone, I think either nothing at all or, "awesome confidence, yes!", bc it can be hard to enter a social gathering alone...I get that.

But let's say she *does* comment on it and get demeaning about it...that's not going to hurt you, it will hurt HER and her alone bc she will look like a complete A-hole and everyone who hears it will think that of her too. So, if she wants to go that route, let her go ahead and dig herself her own hole to fall into, ya know? And meanwhile, you're looking like a class act with confidence! Right?!!!

Take your advice in red above - that's what I'm talkin' about !

That is most likely the way it will work out....one of the owners asked me yesterday if I was going and I said I wouldn't miss it...it will be fun and I really like everyone there and will miss them till they call me back into work...which most likely won't be till next year...just have to accept that, that's my deal and that is why I get paid what I do (not that it's so great )but I have more flexibility than the full timers.

I am at the point that I am just going to enjoy...busy season is soon over I will be home with my furbaby till my next project but still it won't be like busy season so I can shower her with attention which she really deserves.
This busy season must have been pretty difficult for her and she has been very good.

I was great working this out with you all....I am back to my practical self, lol..but we can keep the thread going if anyone else would like to chime in.

Love you all...hugs,
tina

[yorkiemini]

Awesome! Sounds like you have come to a good place with this issue.

My husband died many years ago, and I have gotten so used to go to events and places by myself,that I don't even think about it anymore. To my knowledge no one has ever questioned it or comment on it.

I even has "the look" down to ward off any uninvited folks

Go and have a great time!

[Maximo]

Happy to hear you said you would go. Enjoy!

[Jellymint]

Nice! Hope you enjoy yourself. You kinda have to post after and let us know how it went. Nod nod. One of the "rules" I think. (of course that could just me being all nosy and stuff)

[tinav]

Hi All.....

Yes I am at a much better and more realistic place about it all....thanks to all your help.

Today one of the guys(men, lol) that works in the office I am in announced he is going to the party without his wife.....the party just happens to fall on the anniversary of the death of his wife's grandmother and the family has a special evening planned.

I also found out the only people invited is the office ,no clients, so it will probably be a lot of fun...I am guessing some of the others (mostly guys) will be going alone also (this company has a few pretty young cuties working there)...maybe only one or 2 others but hey who cares, one small glass of wine and I won't know where I am anyway, lol. It's being held at the race track...hope they don't find me on the track trying to catch a horse (I love horses, lol)

I will definitely be posting to let you all know how things went.

Hugs....talk to you soon.

tina

[tinav]

Hi All....

Hmmmmm where do I start....kinda simple I think. Went to the party alone. During that last week before the party I decide to just ask someone to go instead of trying to find a guy that was "suitable" for me to date also (LOL that was very funny) . Well I did get some very (what seemed to be interesting guys from their profiles) saying yes they wanted to go....but I didn't take them up on their offer to go...too short notice to feel comfortable...so I went alone. When I got their some of the people that I worked with in my department (the room) were waving me on and very happy to see me...also another lady (my age) came right over to welcome me (we were a little chummy at work also) (different dept).

So from that point on I was involved with the people I just mentioned most of the time. It was held at the race track so I bet a couple of races and won 3 out of 5 races....some people were following my bets so when I won they won too. I hit the long shot once and won $165.00 on a $5.00 bet...that made the night. So we ate gabbed, drank and laughed. All in all it was a good night (although a little confusing, but who cares I am no longer working there) so time to move on to greener pastures.

One thing that always annoys me is when the boss wants to introduce me to his wife.....Why, Why, Why must I meet their wives...esp when I am not going to work there any longer. Of course I was nice and thru in a good pitch for myself "told the boss what a couple of clients had said to me" A few clients told me that they love the company and felt very comfortable working with them....They were clients that I was handling so they were talking about me....so it was a dual sided compliment...how could he not catch, Lol.

The other boss I think was kinda disappointed that I was not mingling more so that he could also introduce me to his wife...but hey you can't please them all. I did have a few hello words with him when I arrived (didn't work with him) he is in a diff department.

But any way I will miss most of them but now I am home finishing the last of the returns that I have to do and giving my little GiGi all the attention that she needs and deserves.

So do we have any comments or questions.....?lol. Fun to chew the fat on this one, lol

Tina

[DBlain]

sounds sort of fun I guess, just curious what type of company did you work for, what type of work did you do and what age bracket are you in? Not many companies anymore make a big deal out of spouses/partners and social events so it is interesting to hear about one that does

[tinav]

Originally Posted by DBlain

sounds sort of fun I guess, just curious what type of company did you work for, what type of work did you do and what age bracket are you in? Not many companies anymore make a big deal out of spouses/partners and social events so it is interesting to hear about one that does

Really! That is an interesting observation. I worked for an accounting firm, I am an accountant and I am retirement age...but not retiring. There were about 25 people invited and guests. So it was the end of tax season
party....most firms have one but they differ in
type and place....ex:some just go to a restaurant etc. or have it in the office...it varies.....but I am constantly plagued with meeting the wife....next time I am going to ask "why"..... if it is a company I am not too crazy about......I almost did that last year...just so happened I was in a bad mood the day the wife came in (during tax season) so he didn't bother. ....but I know it was pending. Yuck!

[tinav]

Where is everyone??? Must be out having a good time


Tina

[Maximo]

Glad to hear you had a good time overall. Congratulations on your winnings!

[tinav]

Originally Posted by Maximo

Glad to hear you had a good time overall. Congratulations on your winnings!

Thanks....I did need the cash...can't find where I put it..have to search the house, lol.

tina