I am so incredibly heartbroken.. - YorkieTalk.com Forums

IpodLola · 11-07-2015, 12:23 PM

I am new to yorkie talk and I needed to get on here for support and direction. I have lost 3 of my beautiful yorkie companions in the last 7 years, two being recent in the last 3 months due to horrible situations I cannot help but feel like I to take blame to myself. My first yorkie died from a horrible liver shunt that my vet unfortunately could not fix in surgery and died. I was so devastated..I had bought another dog from the same breeder around the same time and she lived till she was 7 years old and died suddenly this fall from hemorrhagic gastritis after I picked her up from being boarded and again I was so devestated. She was in puppy ICU for 3 days and the vet thought she was getting better but she died suddenly from shock and they were unable to revive her with cpr. My vet told me both situations could have been prevented by better breeding standards.My husband decided to try to cheer me up and he surprised me with a 9 month old puppy he had bought from a breeder and she was such a joy to have and really helped me to cope with the loss of my other dog. Yesterday I experienced the worst and had her in the car with me running errands. I went to get in the car and she was so excited to see me she jumped up to lick me like she always does but jumped to high and lossed her footing while the car door was open and fell from my seat of my car onto the pavement and hit her head. I panicked and tried to rush through traffic to the nearest vet and am not quite sure how I got there because I was crying so hard. The vet took her and tried to do cpr on her and gave her epinephrine but her little heart had already stopped. I contacted the breeder to tell her what happened and all she said was " my condolences to you." I am so angry, sad, hurt and feel so alone. I can't help but think this is my fault for all of it and I'm so heart broken to know that there are so many breeders out there that don't seem to care only about profit and not the heat ache that they put people through because Yorkies bring so much joy and they are our family members. My heart is so heavy and I feel so cheated. I also feel like I can't trust the breeders because I feel like it's about profit and size, not health. I don't know if I can ever allow myself another yorkie because of this. So, so heartbroken.

jshade · 11-08-2015, 10:07 AM

I am so sorry for your loss. I am at a loss for the words that might bring comfort. My thoughts and prayers are with you.....

Yorkiemom1 · 11-08-2015, 04:31 PM

I am so very sorry for your unfortunate incidents....the only thing that we can rationalize our pain with, is that we can learn from every mistake we make. You can not beat yourself up over events, just remember that you will never do that again with another baby. When you think you are ready for another baby, start your search for a BREEDER, not a new puppy, but a responsible breeder that stands by her dogs.....save money during this time for your puppy when you find the right breeder. Buy your next baby from a responsible, reputable breeder that has a history of selling healthy babies....hang around dog shows, where dog breeders congregate....start collecting names of recommended responsible breeders. When you find your breeder, she will have a baby for you....you may have to wait awhile to get the puppy....reputable breeders keep their babies until 14-16 weeks old...some may let them go at 12 weeks but a reputable breeder will vaccinate her babies at 8-11-14 weeks old at least.....some use a vaccine that requires 4 shots....be steadily collecting your money for your new baby....and you will find a wonderful breeder that will have a HEALTHY baby for you....and then you just have to be reading every book you can, to understand and realize some of the dangers and stunts and tricks these babies get into or pull that can be fatal. You must learn from all your adventures and misfortunes, and you are improving as a small dog owner....you have to just stop and think of everything they can do or get into that can cause a problem....just like working with a small child!

Give yourself time to heal, start saving your money for a well bred dog, be reading "Yorkies For Dummies" that is full of valuable information.......and hang out at dog shows collecting names of good breeders....and you will find you a healthy baby and you will be knowledgeable and more aware and cautious in how to watch out for every single step or move they make!

buddybear · 11-08-2015, 04:51 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't fully comprehend but I do wish you remember the wonderful memories they brought to you.

Wylie's Mom · 11-09-2015, 05:10 AM

I am so very sorry for all of your losses and heartbreak - I just cannot imagine.

MzLynnC · 11-09-2015, 07:39 AM

So sorry for your loss. Agree with Yorkiemom1. Good Advice.

sandy simpson · 11-09-2015, 12:23 PM

We cannot understand why things happen in this life. you know you loved and cared for the dogs . Let go of guilt feelings. Do not look back. Every day is new. If you truly love dogs you should get another dog and love that dog . Your days will be filled with love and friendship.dog loving people have big hearts.

11-07-2015, 12:23 PM	#1
IpodLola YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Nov 2015 Location: Greenville, SC, USA Posts: 1	I am so incredibly heartbroken.. I am new to yorkie talk and I needed to get on here for support and direction. I have lost 3 of my beautiful yorkie companions in the last 7 years, two being recent in the last 3 months due to horrible situations I cannot help but feel like I to take blame to myself. My first yorkie died from a horrible liver shunt that my vet unfortunately could not fix in surgery and died. I was so devastated..I had bought another dog from the same breeder around the same time and she lived till she was 7 years old and died suddenly this fall from hemorrhagic gastritis after I picked her up from being boarded and again I was so devestated. She was in puppy ICU for 3 days and the vet thought she was getting better but she died suddenly from shock and they were unable to revive her with cpr. My vet told me both situations could have been prevented by better breeding standards.My husband decided to try to cheer me up and he surprised me with a 9 month old puppy he had bought from a breeder and she was such a joy to have and really helped me to cope with the loss of my other dog. Yesterday I experienced the worst and had her in the car with me running errands. I went to get in the car and she was so excited to see me she jumped up to lick me like she always does but jumped to high and lossed her footing while the car door was open and fell from my seat of my car onto the pavement and hit her head. I panicked and tried to rush through traffic to the nearest vet and am not quite sure how I got there because I was crying so hard. The vet took her and tried to do cpr on her and gave her epinephrine but her little heart had already stopped. I contacted the breeder to tell her what happened and all she said was " my condolences to you." I am so angry, sad, hurt and feel so alone. I can't help but think this is my fault for all of it and I'm so heart broken to know that there are so many breeders out there that don't seem to care only about profit and not the heat ache that they put people through because Yorkies bring so much joy and they are our family members. My heart is so heavy and I feel so cheated. I also feel like I can't trust the breeders because I feel like it's about profit and size, not health. I don't know if I can ever allow myself another yorkie because of this. So, so heartbroken.

11-08-2015, 10:07 AM	#2
jshade Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Pasadena, Maryland, USA Posts: 80 Blog Entries: 1	D I am so sorry for your loss. I am at a loss for the words that might bring comfort. My thoughts and prayers are with you..... __________________ Joan Mom to Casey

11-08-2015, 04:51 PM	#4
buddybear YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2014 Location: prescott valley az usa Posts: 1,232	I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't fully comprehend but I do wish you remember the wonderful memories they brought to you. __________________ Jennifer + Buddybear:

11-09-2015, 05:10 AM	#5
Wylie's Mom Furbutts = LOVE Donating Member Moderator Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Phoenix, AZ Posts: 35,889 Blog Entries: 2	I am so very sorry for all of your losses and heartbreak - I just cannot imagine. __________________ ~ A friend told me I was delusional. I nearly fell off my unicorn. ~ °¨¨¨°ºOº°¨¨¨° Ann \| Pfeiffer \| Marcel Verdel Purcell \| Wylie \| Artie °¨¨¨°ºOº°¨¨¨°

11-09-2015, 07:39 AM	#6
MzLynnC Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2013 Location: SC Posts: 256 Blog Entries: 1	So sorry for your loss. Agree with Yorkiemom1. Good Advice. __________________ Lynn - Cricket , Damit, Dixie, Gracie , Daisy , Luke ,Lily

11-08-2015, 04:31 PM	#3
Yorkiemom1 Rosehill Yorkies Donating YT Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Houston Texas Posts: 9,462	I am so very sorry for your unfortunate incidents....the only thing that we can rationalize our pain with, is that we can learn from every mistake we make. You can not beat yourself up over events, just remember that you will never do that again with another baby. When you think you are ready for another baby, start your search for a BREEDER, not a new puppy, but a responsible breeder that stands by her dogs.....save money during this time for your puppy when you find the right breeder. Buy your next baby from a responsible, reputable breeder that has a history of selling healthy babies....hang around dog shows, where dog breeders congregate....start collecting names of recommended responsible breeders. When you find your breeder, she will have a baby for you....you may have to wait awhile to get the puppy....reputable breeders keep their babies until 14-16 weeks old...some may let them go at 12 weeks but a reputable breeder will vaccinate her babies at 8-11-14 weeks old at least.....some use a vaccine that requires 4 shots....be steadily collecting your money for your new baby....and you will find a wonderful breeder that will have a HEALTHY baby for you....and then you just have to be reading every book you can, to understand and realize some of the dangers and stunts and tricks these babies get into or pull that can be fatal. You must learn from all your adventures and misfortunes, and you are improving as a small dog owner....you have to just stop and think of everything they can do or get into that can cause a problem....just like working with a small child! Give yourself time to heal, start saving your money for a well bred dog, be reading "Yorkies For Dummies" that is full of valuable information.......and hang out at dog shows collecting names of good breeders....and you will find you a healthy baby and you will be knowledgeable and more aware and cautious in how to watch out for every single step or move they make!

11-09-2015, 12:23 PM	#7
sandy simpson YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: santee, california Posts: 2,123 Blog Entries: 1	dog We cannot understand why things happen in this life. you know you loved and cared for the dogs . Let go of guilt feelings. Do not look back. Every day is new. If you truly love dogs you should get another dog and love that dog . Your days will be filled with love and friendship.dog loving people have big hearts.