Girl...RUN.

Unless you want to spend a good chunk of your life, walking on egg shells, tip toeing around his jagged edges so he doesnt get mad and lash out, you need to dump him....and I would not meet with him...there is NO excuse good enough to negate fear and hurtful anger directed at you. Tell him you have decided this is over, and you do not have the time nor inclination to psychoanalyze his rage issues.....HE is the one that needs professional help, not you, and you have no qualifications to give him that.

If you feel like you said your peace and he has accepted that than leave things as they are. You said that you made it very clear to him that it is over, so stand your ground and do not allow this man to sweet talk you into getting back together, it will only get worse. He will say Im sorry I wont do it again... but he will and like you say by that time it may be too late.

Anger issues, road rage, flips out over spilled milk!!! follow above advise, he can use your puppy to hurt you. When a hurtful person knows what you love the most they know the way to really hurt you is through what you love deeply, be it a child or a pet, they will hurt it to cause you the most pain. Heed all the advise you have been given. Men like this never change.

You already know what to do! We are only mirroring back to you, the concerns you have already expressed!


I would only text him or email and say, no meeting now, no meeting in any future between you and I. Quite simply you are not the man for me.

This guy has major issues that are showing up very early in the relationship. Don't waste your time on him, he will only hurt you worse as time goes on.

Have some self respect.... you deserve to be treated a lot better than that. Don't meet him, don't talk to him, and block him from your phone.

There has been a lot written about domestic violence and abuse. Look up cycle of abuse and I think you will find he fits this model. He appears to have a need to control and I think he is going to get worse. Hope you'll cut your losses now while the relationship is new. Sorry you had to experience this.

No time for anyone who would use seriously cruel words to hurt or belittle me and then expect me to forget it. Not! I've no time for a man who would call a woman names - never has happened to me and if it ever did, that person would be an instant part of my past. Who needs any man that bad?

I agree with everyone else. Leave the jerk asap and don't meet him anywhere! I've had the unfortunate luck to have been with a guy like this. We were together not even one year and after we broke up (HE broke it off with me after I worked a 16 hr day!) and left my self esteem totally messed up. I still have nightmares about him to this day and it's been more than 12 years. Totally controlling. He liked me for my slim figure when we first started seeing each other, then once we got together he sabotaged my diet. Gave me weight lifters protein shakes telling me it was healthy. When I had my wisdom teeth out, I thought great way to jump start losing weight for a week only soft foods, soups, etc. My medication kept me knocked out most the day. He would wake me up and feed me: mashed potatoes, with mayo, spam and butter. I was too out of it to know, just that I should eat. Didn't even let me wear regular bras bc my boobs looked too big. Made me wear sports bra styles that flattened out my C cup. He could have attitude or say mean things, but if I so much said anything with sass, he cussed me out. Told me I have no say in anything bc I didn't have a job (I was a full time student at the time, he worked at an auto parts store). I could go on. Even after we broke up, he wanted to be friends. But when I would call him to chat, he would brag to me about his new younger girlfriend, that her parents are wealthy like his. He even called my sister to ask if he could stay at her place while he visited his gf at college bc he was not allowed to stay in her dorm room! Can you imagine the nerve!

Leave the A-hole now! Do NOT give him another chance. He is only manipulating you. After only 3 months you should not be seeing this behavior. Actually never. This is scary. I don't have anything against people who use cuss words. I mean I do. But the way he said it, over spilled milk?! OMG who is really the psycho?

Another thing I am worried about is if you say no to him, he may become a stalker. Keep notes of if he ever threatens you. I was going to say to tell him you will meet him and stand him up, but I think that will piss him off a lot and might want to get even, so don't do that. Just cut the cord. Don't talk to him at all. No text no nuthin.

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My momma (who was the smartest woman I have ever seen!) always said, "You cant change the spots on a leopard"......"If he did it once, he will do it again"...."If he did it to HER, he will do it to you!"

I agree with everyone else. Run away...and fast! If he truly cared about you, he would never have called you those names, no matter how angry he was. You don't need to meet with him, you don't owe him anything. As the saying goes, their are plenty of other fish in the sea, go find one that respects you.

Many members on here are nurses and we attend a lot of seminars. The last one I attended was on Domestic Violence and I want to share this website with you.

The National Domestic Violence Hotline | 24/7 Confidential Support

When I was married to my abusive husband, he would say horrible things to me, then say he didn't mean it, forgive me and I did. For each time this happened, the verbal, mental, emotional, physical abuse got worse, my forgiving him to him was a sign I was weak, reason for the continued harsher abuse. I had the better education, the better job, higher salary then him. He was very controlling, I couldn't have any friends, if I was talking on the phone with a co-worker friend he would disconnect the call, tell me I was on the phone long enough. Back in those days lol, the was no such word as "abusive, controlling, low esteem husband". It was years after I left him married women had rights against abusive husbands. I didn't know I was being controlled lol, after leaving the marriage, abused married women now having shelters for battered women, I realized I had been married to a man that had low esteem for his lack of education, and low paying job, this he took out on me. Thank god I had no children with him. Tell this man you will NOT meet up with him, and YES, block his number, have nothing to do with him. Him saying he LOVES you is just a PLOY to get you back, he knows the word LOVE is what women want to hear, if you forgive he will take this as a sign of weakness, the verbal abuse will escalate, 3 months of a relationship is nothing. He is showing early signs of no self esteem, no respect for woman. Stop it now. Have no contact with him, no text, no chat, NOTHING. Put it behind you as a learning experience. There are fine men out there, that will respect you as a woman, this man does not. All the RED FLAGS are up. (((HUGS))) Move on.

Many times after an abuser does or says something nasty they become the sweetest person for awhile afterwards, and then they do it again.

That's how they keep you trapped, they make you think they've changed so you'll stay.

This reminds me he was starting to mention certain tops that I wore or dresses that were showing too much. He was very subtle about it though, didnt think about it much.

He also said he was a jealous person, he never showed signs of it while we were together.

He said last relationship ended because he wasn't very tolerant (but he was different now) and they had too many disagreements.

Now it all makes sense. :confused: