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bkessler · 01-05-2006, 04:19 AM

Wow.. Your boys are adorable..What sweeties.. Anyway, I agree that you should go to the school board or police for this case.. No child should have to be bullied like that.. its horrible.. Does Joran's school have a bullying program... As a PE/Health teacher in the inner city, I make sure to cover the topic of Bullying... I think you should talk to his health/PE teacher and see if they cover that topic.. If not, I can recoomend some websites I use with my students about bullying.. Good luck

JHurtt · 01-05-2006, 04:21 AM

I am so sorry for you, your son, and your family as I am sure this is affecting everyone! What an awful and disturbing note! I agree, you are not overreacting at all......it is the school that is not reacting quick enough! With all of the problems that have occured in schools throughout the nation, it is amazing to me that a school would shrug this off so quickly! I mean the LEAST they could have done was at least notify his teacher so that she could keep a close eye on your boy!

I too would go to the school board and the police. I also would threaten the school that if they do not do something, I would go to the media. Of course, I probably would never actually do that.....but no one likes bad publicity and that might kick their butts into gear! Please keep us updated and I will keep you all in my prayers.

wendybee · 01-05-2006, 06:15 AM

has your boy told you who has written this, because if one of my sons had written that especially at 6 years old it would of worried me that they new to do it.
if i was you id be on to the school all the time until they did do something about it, how dare anyone write such disturbing things to a young boy he must of been frightened, the parents of the letter writer need to know what there child is up to keep us informed

wendybee · 01-05-2006, 06:18 AM

ment to say your boys are lovely and what a lovely picture of the two together

DaisyMaesMom · 01-05-2006, 06:24 AM

You have EVERY right to be upset. I have a 13 year old in the 7th grade and it would kill me too if I found something like that. If you don't get the satisfication that you want from the school go to the school board for your county. Did you try asking your son if he gets along with this kid. Sometimes, although, I still don't understand why kids have a very strange since of humor. I've never seen anything like that, but my son and his friends are quit mean to each other occassionally.. Please, if you don't feel happy go above the schools head. This is not something to just sit on in this day and age... Hope this helps!

centralnewyorki · 01-05-2006, 06:24 AM

Wow, your sons are adorable! They are going to be some fine looking men when they grow up! Could it be a case of jealousy? If teachers and his peer like him and he sounds like a well-rounded child, could it be a less-popular child at school? Perhaps you could ask Joran if there is anyone that he doesn't talk to much that could do this. Has he beat any kids in contests? Gym class? The note is disturbing, but it's even more disturbing to think that the school isn't investigating it. I would definitely call the Superintendent, Board Members, President of the PTA, police, etc. If nothing is still done, call your local paper- I'm sure they would be interested to know that the school isn't doing all it can to help create a comfortable environment for all of its students. I could better understand the school taking the note lightly if it just said "I hate you" (or something like that), but whomever wrote this note is obviously disturbed. A child should not be thinking or threatening these types of actions. Good luck finding this little punk.

YorkieLady · 01-05-2006, 06:31 AM

I, too, am a single mom of a soon to be 10 yr old son, Jordan. I would be livid if I had found something like that directed at my child. You did right by going to the school, but I would not stand for "putting it away in a file" and that was it. I would be making tons of phone calls and making appointments to anyone that would listen.
My son is very active in baseball and there has been a recent "splitting" of the team he was on and this one kid that used to be on the the original team that is now on the "new" team - has started picking on Jordan and he, too, tries to act like its no big deal when I can tell it is. Its so hard to know that are kids may be going through something at school when we can't be there to protect them. Jordan told me about one MINOR incident with him and this other kid and I could just see myself walk into class the next morning and pull this other kid up by his ears and give him a good shaking! lol

I hope you get this matter resolved-- and quickly. I'll be thinking about you and please keep us posted on what's happening.
Your boys are both CUTIES. You'll have the beat the girls away with a stick, you know that , right??

YorkieRose · 01-05-2006, 06:31 AM

I would very calmly go back to the principal and simply tell him/her that you have made them aware of this note. If in the future any harm comes to your child you will get a lawyer and sue the principal, teacher and entire school district....that ususally gets their attention. I would make sure the police has a copy of the note also.

yorkieangel · 01-05-2006, 06:38 AM

You need to take the note to the police! if nothing else HEY will contact school and parents to get to the bottom of things.

My son in 7th grade had a similar experiance recently. I was sitting home and the phone rang. It was the principal wanting to know if my son was home from school yet. I said yes and asked why. he said it had been brought to his attention that my son had been talked about in a note passed around that the teacher found. It stated a date , time and place my son would be killed. it also listed a person as the executioner and how it would happen.!!!! The principal also said I was to bring my son to school myself until this was straightened out since it involved the school and a person from the school. My son DID know about the note and DID know who wrote it but asked me not to get involved because he would be embarassed. WRONG!!!!!! The principle contacted the other boys parents AND also made a police report because he felt it was THAT serious!!!! The boy was suspended and the police also talked to the other family stating it was not something to be taken lightly if their son thought such a thing was a joke!!!!!. Turns out it was a newer student who nobody knew that welll so who knows what the kid was trying to do!!!!!!!!
My only anger with the school was that the TEACHER had found the note and turned it into the office later, but then LET my son leave for the day .... the note stated he was going to be killed outside that day going to the bus

. What the hell was wrong with that teacher for leting him go to the bus by himself!!!! I don't blame the principal as the teacher did not turn the note into the office until the children had left that day. I just thank the principal for calling me immediately and checking to make sure my son was OK as soon as he found out!!!!!

waistfull · 01-05-2006, 06:46 AM

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Originally Posted by YorkieRose

I would very calmly go back to the principal and simply tell him/her that you have made them aware of this note. If in the future any harm comes to your child you will get a lawyer and sue the principal, teacher and entire school district....that ususally gets their attention. I would make sure the police has a copy of the note also.

I agree

If my daughter ever came home from school with a note like that first thing is: blow up!! okay then calm down and make sure you talk to your son. It is so important to keep the lines of communication open. Of course I would make a couple of copies of the note and send them to the teacher, the principal, the board of education and yes the police. You never know what could happen. I'm sure nothing will, but as parents, we need to do everything we can for our kids.
Have you Talked with your son calmly and told him that some kids are unhappy and do these things to try and make themselves feel better. Maybe the kid is jealous or mean because of something he/she is going through.
I am so sorry this has happened to you. We are all here for you and please keep us updated as to what is happening with this.
Your kids are adorable!

shecass · 01-05-2006, 06:56 AM

I'm so sorry, this just breaks my heart. You step on as many toes as it takes at the school, school board, police whatever it takes to get to the bottom of this. I'm telling you, if this were my son nothing on earth could stop me from getting to the bottom of this.

Kids are so cruel. I'm glad that this is something that I have not had to deal with and hopefully never will. Please keep us informed.

txshopper73 · 01-05-2006, 07:08 AM

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Originally Posted by YorkieRose

I would very calmly go back to the principal and simply tell him/her that you have made them aware of this note. If in the future any harm comes to your child you will get a lawyer and sue the principal, teacher and entire school district....that ususally gets their attention. I would make sure the police has a copy of the note also.

Something else to add to this. The principal won't do anything about it??? Fine, you go above his/her head. You take it all the way to the top if you have to by going to the super intendant. I assure you, they will not take threats like this note lightly.

Whoever wrote this note is a VERY troubled child and needs counseling. In the mean time, talk to people at the administration building, GO UP THERE if you have to.

Best of luck!

Brutus'mama · 01-05-2006, 07:12 AM

So sorry about this! This kind of stuff scares the you know what out of me. I am such a lunatic when it comes to my kids! I would not let this go until they do something about it!

It's so hard being a parent these days. My son is only 6 and I worry about him being bullied. He's been in Karate and I'm hoping that in the next few years he'll be a black belt.

You sons are so handsome. Good luck with this!

cchu · 01-05-2006, 07:17 AM

Oh No!! How can any child be so cruel?? My thoughts are with you and I hope the school punishes the student that wrote that. Your boys look very sweet and they only deserve the best!!

Good Luck!

chewysmom · 01-05-2006, 07:22 AM

This is just awful! As a mother myself, I would just be beside myself right now. Something like this should not be taken lightly. This note is a death threat plain and simple. You should take the note to the police and contact the school super intendant like Kimberley suggested. I would also make a copy of the note to keep just in case something happens to the original. The teachers and the principal should meet and analyze the writing on the note; they may be able to find out who wrote it just by comparing handwriting.

Whoever wrote this is seriously disturbed and needs help. I would call for an immediate investigation into this matter. The school is legally obliged to address this situation. Believe me, the author of that note will be identified and I would take it to the full extent of the law including demanding that he be removed from the school.

Your poor son! The amount of stress he must be feeling is probably so overwhelming. I know that you will be giving him all the love in the world and helping him through this scary situation. Please keep us up to date on what is going on.

01-05-2006, 04:19 AM	#16
bkessler Mommy's Little Angel Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Northern New Jersey Posts: 1,496	Wow.. Your boys are adorable..What sweeties.. Anyway, I agree that you should go to the school board or police for this case.. No child should have to be bullied like that.. its horrible.. Does Joran's school have a bullying program... As a PE/Health teacher in the inner city, I make sure to cover the topic of Bullying... I think you should talk to his health/PE teacher and see if they cover that topic.. If not, I can recoomend some websites I use with my students about bullying.. Good luck __________________ Brooke & Lily Mae (Maltipoo) Mocha (12/23/04-6/25/05)

01-05-2006, 04:21 AM	#17
JHurtt Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Maryland Posts: 319	What Jerks! I am so sorry for you, your son, and your family as I am sure this is affecting everyone! What an awful and disturbing note! I agree, you are not overreacting at all......it is the school that is not reacting quick enough! With all of the problems that have occured in schools throughout the nation, it is amazing to me that a school would shrug this off so quickly! I mean the LEAST they could have done was at least notify his teacher so that she could keep a close eye on your boy! I too would go to the school board and the police. I also would threaten the school that if they do not do something, I would go to the media. Of course, I probably would never actually do that.....but no one likes bad publicity and that might kick their butts into gear! Please keep us updated and I will keep you all in my prayers. __________________ Jen and the Bloomin' Biewers Gang

01-05-2006, 06:24 AM	#21
centralnewyorki YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Central NY state Posts: 1,741	Wow, your sons are adorable! They are going to be some fine looking men when they grow up! Could it be a case of jealousy? If teachers and his peer like him and he sounds like a well-rounded child, could it be a less-popular child at school? Perhaps you could ask Joran if there is anyone that he doesn't talk to much that could do this. Has he beat any kids in contests? Gym class? The note is disturbing, but it's even more disturbing to think that the school isn't investigating it. I would definitely call the Superintendent, Board Members, President of the PTA, police, etc. If nothing is still done, call your local paper- I'm sure they would be interested to know that the school isn't doing all it can to help create a comfortable environment for all of its students. I could better understand the school taking the note lightly if it just said "I hate you" (or something like that), but whomever wrote this note is obviously disturbed. A child should not be thinking or threatening these types of actions. Good luck finding this little punk. __________________ Susan & Olivia Visit Olivia's Dogster Page!

01-05-2006, 06:31 AM	#23
YorkieRose No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: South Florida Posts: 8,577	problem I would very calmly go back to the principal and simply tell him/her that you have made them aware of this note. If in the future any harm comes to your child you will get a lawyer and sue the principal, teacher and entire school district....that ususally gets their attention. I would make sure the police has a copy of the note also.

01-05-2006, 06:38 AM	#24
yorkieangel Rescue Angel Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: md Posts: 1,530	You need to take the note to the police! if nothing else HEY will contact school and parents to get to the bottom of things. My son in 7th grade had a similar experiance recently. I was sitting home and the phone rang. It was the principal wanting to know if my son was home from school yet. I said yes and asked why. he said it had been brought to his attention that my son had been talked about in a note passed around that the teacher found. It stated a date , time and place my son would be killed. it also listed a person as the executioner and how it would happen.!!!! The principal also said I was to bring my son to school myself until this was straightened out since it involved the school and a person from the school. My son DID know about the note and DID know who wrote it but asked me not to get involved because he would be embarassed. WRONG!!!!!! The principle contacted the other boys parents AND also made a police report because he felt it was THAT serious!!!! The boy was suspended and the police also talked to the other family stating it was not something to be taken lightly if their son thought such a thing was a joke!!!!!. Turns out it was a newer student who nobody knew that welll so who knows what the kid was trying to do!!!!!!!! My only anger with the school was that the TEACHER had found the note and turned it into the office later, but then LET my son leave for the day .... the note stated he was going to be killed outside that day going to the bus . What the hell was wrong with that teacher for leting him go to the bus by himself!!!! I don't blame the principal as the teacher did not turn the note into the office until the children had left that day. I just thank the principal for calling me immediately and checking to make sure my son was OK as soon as he found out!!!!! __________________ Yorkieangel

01-05-2006, 06:15 AM	#18
wendybee BANNED! Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 966	has your boy told you who has written this, because if one of my sons had written that especially at 6 years old it would of worried me that they new to do it. if i was you id be on to the school all the time until they did do something about it, how dare anyone write such disturbing things to a young boy he must of been frightened, the parents of the letter writer need to know what there child is up to keep us informed

01-05-2006, 06:18 AM	#19
wendybee BANNED! Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 966	ment to say your boys are lovely and what a lovely picture of the two together

01-05-2006, 06:24 AM	#20
DaisyMaesMom and Ty too! Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Denver, Nope, not Colorado Posts: 1,235	You have EVERY right to be upset. I have a 13 year old in the 7th grade and it would kill me too if I found something like that. If you don't get the satisfication that you want from the school go to the school board for your county. Did you try asking your son if he gets along with this kid. Sometimes, although, I still don't understand why kids have a very strange since of humor. I've never seen anything like that, but my son and his friends are quit mean to each other occassionally.. Please, if you don't feel happy go above the schools head. This is not something to just sit on in this day and age... Hope this helps!

01-05-2006, 06:31 AM	#22
YorkieLady BANNED! Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Muscle Shoals Posts: 361	I, too, am a single mom of a soon to be 10 yr old son, Jordan. I would be livid if I had found something like that directed at my child. You did right by going to the school, but I would not stand for "putting it away in a file" and that was it. I would be making tons of phone calls and making appointments to anyone that would listen. My son is very active in baseball and there has been a recent "splitting" of the team he was on and this one kid that used to be on the the original team that is now on the "new" team - has started picking on Jordan and he, too, tries to act like its no big deal when I can tell it is. Its so hard to know that are kids may be going through something at school when we can't be there to protect them. Jordan told me about one MINOR incident with him and this other kid and I could just see myself walk into class the next morning and pull this other kid up by his ears and give him a good shaking! lol I hope you get this matter resolved-- and quickly. I'll be thinking about you and please keep us posted on what's happening. Your boys are both CUTIES. You'll have the beat the girls away with a stick, you know that , right??

01-05-2006, 06:56 AM	#26
shecass YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: North wilkesboro, NC Posts: 2,785	I'm so sorry, this just breaks my heart. You step on as many toes as it takes at the school, school board, police whatever it takes to get to the bottom of this. I'm telling you, if this were my son nothing on earth could stop me from getting to the bottom of this. Kids are so cruel. I'm glad that this is something that I have not had to deal with and hopefully never will. Please keep us informed. __________________ Sheila, Mollie & Wyatt Ethan my pride and joy Mollie www.dogster.com/?176293 Wyatt www.dogster.com/?205723

01-05-2006, 07:12 AM	#28
Brutus'mama YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: NJ Posts: 1,767	So sorry about this! This kind of stuff scares the you know what out of me. I am such a lunatic when it comes to my kids! I would not let this go until they do something about it! It's so hard being a parent these days. My son is only 6 and I worry about him being bullied. He's been in Karate and I'm hoping that in the next few years he'll be a black belt. You sons are so handsome. Good luck with this! __________________ ~Carolyn~ Brutus' Video Montage

01-05-2006, 07:17 AM	#29
cchu Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Queens, NY Posts: 1,485	Oh No!! How can any child be so cruel?? My thoughts are with you and I hope the school punishes the student that wrote that. Your boys look very sweet and they only deserve the best!! Good Luck! __________________ Christine and Zoe www.dogster.com/?269135 Yes guys...Zoe is a BOY!! He finally forgave me.

01-05-2006, 07:22 AM	#30
chewysmom My Precious Pup Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: New York City Posts: 2,092	This is just awful! As a mother myself, I would just be beside myself right now. Something like this should not be taken lightly. This note is a death threat plain and simple. You should take the note to the police and contact the school super intendant like Kimberley suggested. I would also make a copy of the note to keep just in case something happens to the original. The teachers and the principal should meet and analyze the writing on the note; they may be able to find out who wrote it just by comparing handwriting. Whoever wrote this is seriously disturbed and needs help. I would call for an immediate investigation into this matter. The school is legally obliged to address this situation. Believe me, the author of that note will be identified and I would take it to the full extent of the law including demanding that he be removed from the school. Your poor son! The amount of stress he must be feeling is probably so overwhelming. I know that you will be giving him all the love in the world and helping him through this scary situation. Please keep us up to date on what is going on.