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BanditSocks2 · 10-14-2010, 06:19 PM

It seems like your BF takes his family with "a grain of salt" and doesn't let them take advantage. Follow his lead. You seem like a pleaser and you want to do the best for everyone, but you need to worry about you (and your BF and puppy

) first and foremost. You need to cope with your parents divorce and not worry about what his family is saying or demanding of you. You don't have to be "mean" just stick up for yourself and say you can't do unreasonable things or give them unreasonable things (which they seem to be asking of you an awful lot). Good luck with everything.

pawever Yorkie · 10-17-2010, 12:56 AM

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Originally Posted by BanditSocks2

It seems like your BF takes his family with "a grain of salt" and doesn't let them take advantage. Follow his lead. You seem like a pleaser and you want to do the best for everyone, but you need to worry about you (and your BF and puppy

) first and foremost. You need to cope with your parents divorce and not worry about what his family is saying or demanding of you. You don't have to be "mean" just stick up for yourself and say you can't do unreasonable things or give them unreasonable things (which they seem to be asking of you an awful lot). Good luck with everything.

Thank you and I think you are right... I have hard time saying "no" to people...
Anyway, my bf decided to take his whole family to family counseling. Most likely, they'll refuse to go to counseling, so he'll make up something like family dinner. I'm praying god that it'll help everyone...

felicity1008 · 10-17-2010, 04:22 AM

sounds like you are headed in the right direction

10-14-2010, 06:19 PM	#31
BanditSocks2 YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Crofton, MD, USA Posts: 1,522	It seems like your BF takes his family with "a grain of salt" and doesn't let them take advantage. Follow his lead. You seem like a pleaser and you want to do the best for everyone, but you need to worry about you (and your BF and puppy) first and foremost. You need to cope with your parents divorce and not worry about what his family is saying or demanding of you. You don't have to be "mean" just stick up for yourself and say you can't do unreasonable things or give them unreasonable things (which they seem to be asking of you an awful lot). Good luck with everything.

10-17-2010, 04:22 AM	#33
felicity1008 YT Addict Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: farmingdale, nj, monmouth Posts: 433	sounds like you are headed in the right direction