Just because you CAN
 

Doesn't mean you should.

For one to post about their private sex life on a yorkie forum, or any other forum on the internet is inappropriate, and very poor judgement.

There are some subjects that should not be discussed with total strangers, in mixed company, across all age groups, on an international media.

Talk to your girlfriends, talk to your sister, talk to your mother, your Dr, a counselor. But Good Lord almighty, it only takes an ounce of common sense to realize that it should not be discussed HERE.

If you have friends on here that you want to discuss it with PM them or email them, but who, in their right mind would seek that kind of advice from total strangers, on the internet!!!!!

I a little common sense goes a LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOONG way.

That would be the TMI Syndrome......I'm surprised myself some of the things people will post (not just on this forum) because it's out there f-o-r-e-v-e-r, it can't be deleted or erased......

A while back I was asked to remove a quote from my signature because it was *not appropriate for a family friendly forum*.... hmmmmm......I'll have to let Grandma know there's a topic here that she might like ....:rolleyes:

I've already warned the guys to stay away from these type threads :p. TMI is an understatement sometimes! By the way, I have opened NOT any of these type threads since I made that mistake as a newbie. TMI entirely...especially for us YorkieDudes :D.

Yes - it is out there forever....and although that may not seem like a problem now, things have a way of resurfacing when you have long ago forgot what you posted.

I read one of the threads and did have a good chuckle at some of what was being posted, but did think to myself......there is a time and place for everything, and perhaps YT isn't the best place for sex education. But I also trust admin and the mods here and if they didn't have a problem with the content of the thread, then so be it.

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I have to agree... TMI. The worst is, this is a public forum.... your neighbours or your children could read those posts years from now!:eek: Perhaps even your husband/wife/mother in law!

There is a time and place for everything.... and not on a yorkie forum.. even if it is Off Topic...:(

I understand that admin and moderators have a very difficult task and usually do a very good job, but I would like to make reference to a thread that I had begun a few days ago regarding the same thread mentioned here and in my opinion should not have been closed. I found that thread to be obscene, sexually oriented, and offensive. I do not believe that I was being unreasonable nor was I confrontational and only asked that it be moved to a more private place. I was not disrespectful to Admin or our Moderators , nor do I believe that I deserve the bashing I received from some members of this community. My thread was not in bad taste, but only stated my opinion, yet it was never left open long enough for others who might feel the way I do to read and respond.
The person, or persons, responsible for heating the thread should have been held accountable not the OP ( me ) who began the thread.
Of course, the objectionable thread remains open and by the response that I have received since, I am not the only member who feels that it should have been closed, or moved somewhere private.

To say I am disappointed is putting it mildly. I was absolutely appalled at how I was treated and almost pulled my account, but during the hours that followed I was reminded that when I first joined I almost left immediately because of the lack of respect I had seen time and time again from some members, not aimed at me, but still not easy to watch. Oddly enough, at that time I then happened to come across a thread called Happy Tails to You, Moments of Pleasure to Treasure with Papi and Patti Cake. Here I found the loving, kind and compassionate members I had hoped to find. Through them, I was then introduced to others of the same kind and loving nature and they all remain in my life, and heart, to this day. I will be forever grateful to YT for this. I do realize that not everyone is going to be liked by everyone, but this is a matter of respect for other fellow members.

It is getting more and more difficult to allow my name to be associated with a forum that allows such objectionable, obscene material open and available for anyone to see. This is an open forum and my name is listed here and this makes what is printed here important to me.
I was told in my thread that if I did not like it I could always just pack my stuff and leave, but you know what? This is just as much my forum as theirs. I donate, I participate, and I have a right to voice my opinion.... as long as it is in a respectful manner, which I believe I have done. That is more than I can say about how I was treated in return.
I have followed all the rules and with pleasure and I only ask that others do the same.
Please review the rules. I have .

Yorkie Talk Rules and Regulations ( excerpt )

You agree that you will notuse the YorkieTalk Forums to post any advertisement or other commercial message except expressly allowed by YorkieTalk. You agree that you will not post any knowingly false, defamatory, inaccurate, abusive, harassing, obscene, sexually oriented, or threatening message or material that is illegally invasive of another person’s privacy.

Janie, I understand your being upset and understandably so......I logged on to that thread towards the end and I about fell of my chair when I saw there was actual *toys* pictured on that thread.......I'm no prude by any means, I have even had the same silly conversations talking with GF's, but on this particular forum I found it surprising......

I'm sorry you where treated badly for voicing your objections. You had a right to do so....It would certainly cut down on people feeling they where treated unfairly if the rules where enforced equally .......IMO

I am sorry you were treated that way and it seems to be a common theme around here right now when someone voices they are offended by something. I think when you post you have to take in consideration thaT there are members of all ages, beliefs, and orientations and you have to try to be respectful of all. Don't leave though we need our caring considerate members to stay and be a model of what a good member should be

I purposely stayed away from that thread and apparently missed some others. Sometimes I'm so clueless :rolleyes: but sometimes, I think I like being clueless.:p While I do try to have a live and let live attitude, I really don't want to come on YT and openly discuss private things, nor do I want to read about others private business. Now I know that I can choose to ignore them but I'm concerned that this attitude will give some the idea that it's accepted. And although I have to admit I have not read that whole other thread, the little bit I did read was quite enough.:eek: I'm afraid that once that stuff is accepted as the norm here, well, it's just not a place I'd want to be any longer. Maybe I'm just too old fashioned or something...

The problem is, that although the OP my have good intentions and remain respectful, a thread can be closed if other posters get to arguing.

That thread was definitely sexually oriented and therefore should not only be closed, but should be removed completely.

I read the comments about not allwoing your kids to watch certain programs and visit certain websites etc. Well that is all well and good, but I not only don't want my children seeing it, I don't want anyone elses seeing it either, because THOSE kids interact with MY kids.

Protecting children is everyones responsiblity.

Yes you have the right to free speach, but along with freedom comes responsibility. That is what being an adult is all about. It is not about being able to do ANYTHING you want, it is about taking responsibility for your actions.

As I said, just because you can, doesn't mean you should.

I avoided it too, Before I posted this, I read the original post, and I read one other post that reference was made to in the Censorship thread. that was enough for me.

If having morals makes one Old Fashioned then I am proud to be old fashioned.

I'm not a prude, my GFs and I can have some pretty wild discussion, but it is not in public.

I read a tiny bit - to each his own but do agree - the content was a bit much for a dog site and should actually have a disclaimer about content - I am far from a prude but I actually was amazed at the personal info out there - I've always felt what you post is there forever also - that part would be the 1st reason I would never discuss my personal life and what I do in private.

Some of what I read was funny though - some was just way over the top (IMO) and I'd hate to see kids on here reading - but they can see everything else these days I guess -

It's just not what I come here for. So I pretty much skipped the whole 'discussion' and hell - I already know all I need to know about sex so reading about it just doesn't interest me

My thing is the dogs - friends and a little escape sharing with people who have the same passion for animals. I don't know too many people in my personal life who even want to discuss their pets - to them - that's all they are - to us - it's a bit more plus we're big animal lovers - (most of us) and it's great to read about the stories (the happy ones) or learn about the sad ones....which have been way too many lately it seems :( In the years I've been here I've learned so much about many things - that's why I've stayed.

There's plenty of adult sites for sex talk but I guess YT is now one of them :D

Its not the first time either that a thread like this has popped up. In the past one about breast enhancements came up and a gal posted a picture of her breast enhancements. You can imagine how that went over. The guys on the forum loved the thread though lol

gee - so sorry I missed that :rolleyes:

this site has sure changed - I still enjoy it to a degree but it's done a big turnaround. Maybe it attracts new members but to see long time members leaving sucks.

There's already alot of people I miss and I'm even though I've hardly been here the last few months - I do see all the changes

I for one thinks its a disgrace that YT lets such explicit threads continue talking about doing explicit things to females and showing pics of dildos. One must please remember this is a Yorkie forum and off topics was made for talking about your kids, vacations, soaps etc not sex sex and more sex. I'm sure there is forum for this kind of talk somewhere. I think it should be removed.

I posted a pic of what I had saw in a magazine as a kid and thought that it was a neck massager. I have asked that Admin remove it. I am sorry that I offend anyone and want to apologize.

I am pretty sure everyone here has seen worse. It really wasn't a big deal to most. I choose not to talk about my sex life, but the whole toy thing was funny. I didn't participate much at all. I doubt anyone wanted to offend, I didnt. Funny thing, these threads just continue the discussion. I can understand ones opinion but at somepoint you gotta stop, or it just goes on and on and it never goes away.

Exactly! I don't know why everyone keeps on about it. Bottom line is that this site belongs to the admin...he makes the calls. We may donate, but bottom line we are guests....it is a privelege, not a right to use YT. If he has not removed it....then, why not just let it go? There is so much more to this entire site that and to let that bother you for days just seems to be wasted energy. It also just keeps bringing more attention to it!

I don't discuss my sex life on any forum, but don't honestly care if others do. It is off topic and allowed. I did not see anything obscene. I posted early on to suggest that it was dangerous for the posters to be revealing as much private information as they were on the internet, but my warnings were basically ignored. As for the content....I simply don't much care. There are many things on this forum that bother me...especially some of the bad breeding which is not for the love of yorkies and there is LOT of that. Nothing I can do about that...it is allowed. I cannot make YT be my way. So, I just avoid things I don't like as much as possible.

As for children, how many are going to be looking at a yorkie forum anyway? And...let me tell you a story. When my son was in middle school he was doing a paper on asian leopards. OMG....I was helping him do an internet search and up popped a porn site....a naked asian chick with a shower massage in her hand. :eek: Exactly WHY children should have supervision when on a computer.

I hardly think that anything being discussed in that thread would interest a child.

My two cents...I am a teenager. Believe me..Whatever reason a kid joins a forum, they see post about sex they will read it. I read it. Not because interest me, more because I found it very amusing to see older lady talking so dirty.

And parent do monitor me on computer, but think about it. I tell my mum I am on dog website, she see the header saying Yorkie Talk..She's not watching me read every thread. She doesn't expect there to be sex stuff on a dog website. (She knows there breeding stuff though.)

I'm rather neutral on topic, but I just wanted to say this to everyone who say oh well parent should be monitoring. Mum is behind me cooking dinner right now, she has checked what sites I am on and in ten minutes she will come look again. To say that child will not be 'interested' in sex thread or that they won't be on this forum anyway is just ridiculous and extremely out of touch, not to mention deluded.

What about kid who come on and are NOT member? They can still read. Like I say, I don't really interest whether this should be kept or not but maybe there should be a members only section or something.

A lot of kids around here (my neighborhood) WAY younger than 13 (the required age to join YT) are already unfortunately either sexually active or already know what it means to be. Sad, but it's true. There are plenty of other bad things kids do in *real life* and NOT online, like drugs for one (again, in my "upscale" upper middle class neighborhood). They would think the thread in question a laugh. Seriously, the thread was titled MARITAL sex, NOT PREmarital sex. Come on. The thread is way old already, and had been buried for a long time ago until someone came back and bumped it back up. I stopped reading that thread months ago, bc quite frankly, it was a bore.

LOL ! I bolded in red what made me laugh out loud - pretty good post for a teenager and right on target - that was cute :)

I'm so glad I didn't offend! Lol

I agree, but I still say if they want to read about sex, they won't come to a yorkie forum. Bottom line there is much more sex information on the web than what you will find in that silly thread.

True, all I meant was it's there, we'll look hehe

LOL, .....You couldn't be more right.....The only way a parent is going to keep kids from seeing *inappropriate* things on the computer is to pull the plug from the wall.....

I just wanted to clarify for myself....I wasn't offended by the thread in question and I didn't start hyperventilating from shock by what was posted, frankly if I get a few margarita's in me I could leave a man speechless with my mouth on this topic.....

I was just surprised it was on *this* forum. Actually, I'm really glad I found out that this topic is ok to post about. Now I can start some of my own......Get ready.....;)

I think that thread was a little much for a yorkie forum. I believe sex should stay private between the couple or between a doctor if you are having problems in that area. I don't understand why anyone would want to put that on the internet for all to see. I really hope this isn't a trend to start as I've seen a couple questionable personal threads lately - I know I came here to learn about yorkies and talk about dogs, not hear about humans having or not having sex.

WHEN / IF the members are acknowledged by staff...perhaps the discussion of offending material will die down.ummmm...because for years, now, staff has given the impression that members' opinions do matter...? If a small group of the privileged few are allowed to voice their opinions, and no one objects, then admin (or whomever) think that's what the majority want. Sadly, it looks like the 'privileged few' have taken over this board, and it no longer interests admin. We certainly are 'guests' here; but donating members contributed under what now looks like was misleading information:

Yorkie Talk Rules and Regulations ( excerpt )

You agree that you will notuse the YorkieTalk Forums to post any advertisement or other commercial message except expressly allowed by YorkieTalk. You agree that you will not post any knowingly false, defamatory, inaccurate, abusive, harassing, obscene, sexually oriented, or threatening message or material that is illegally invasive of another person’s privacy.

Had I known that the rules only went one way - toward members, and not to be upheld by this board, I most probably would not have invested monetarily.yeeeaaaaaahhh....right. LOL
Thank you, Disney! Yes, now you know exactly where to direct your under-aged friends to find their 'adult toys'! Just think of the convienience! No more skulking about behind parents' backs or trying to gain illegal entry to porn sites!

I don't know who the "priveleged few" are, but if you mean me, and if I thought my opinions mattered, then I would start screaming about the bad ...no horrible...breeders on this site. We just cannot ALL be happy ALL of the time.

If I find that I can no longer handle it and the other good that I see does not outweigh the bad, then I suppose I will just leave. This is not my forum.

Some things in life you just need to say the Serrenity Prayer about.