Divorce, Poopanut, and the big move back home... - YorkieTalk.com Forums

Graleyne · 07-10-2009, 12:36 PM

Mike and I are divorcing. I am actually quite happy about this. I've wanted out for a while now. I just want to live my life MY WAY for a change.

Horrible news...my beloved Poopanut passed away.

The day after I told Mike I was leaving, she had a seizure and passed away on the way to the vet's office. I am still in shock. I just can't believe she's gone. She is the only thing Mike and I argued over. We both wanted custody of her.

Other news, the kids and I packed up and moved back to my hometown and in with my grandmother temporarily. It is so....WEIRD....moving back home. Finding a job is proving to be difficult. Other than that, the kids and I are HAPPY (but incredibly BROKE LOL). We sang and laughed all the way here. All of us just feel like a huge heavy weight has been lifted off our shoulders.

And there you have the past couple months in a nutshell. LOL

I have missed ya'll.

Hugs,
~Aerrica

Wylie's Mom · 07-10-2009, 12:52 PM

Wow Aerrica....I'm so sorry for all you've been through. I'm so sorry about The Poopanut, she has always been one of my favorites bc of all the stories you told about her. That's so incredibly sad

. Had she ever had a seizure before? Big hugs, hon.

I'm really sorry about the changes your family has to go through, but your attitude is amazing and you sound ready for a fresh start in life. I will miss those MIL stories, I have to say

. Hang in there, we're all here for you!

Graleyne · 07-10-2009, 01:01 PM

No, she'd never had a seizure before. Have no idea why she had this one.

I miss her like crazy. It KILLED me to box up her things...her blankies, her clothes, her special pink spoon... Her stuff was the hardest to box up.

I am SO very ready for a fresh start. Despite everything going on, I feel calmer now than I have in years.

The job issue is scaring me a little bit. It didn't occur to me until after I started to work on a resume that I have been a housewife for 10 years and have no experience in anything other than raising kids and dogs. LOL It will be OK though. I have faith and confidence that everything will work out just the way its supposed to. (FYI that is Aerrica speak for I am scared sh*tless and trying to put on a brave front...lol)

Still, even with all the scary stuff it feels so flippin' good to be FREE!

cashsmommy · 07-10-2009, 01:05 PM

it is a brave and wonderful thing it sounds like you are doing for yourself. good luck and keep us updated on your new life!

KimberlySRN · 07-10-2009, 01:15 PM

Welcome back. It sounds like you have man changes ahead but it will all work out. Just keep a positive attitude. My sister was with her son's father for over 10 years and she just asked him to move out. It's a tuff situAtion but as you said it is all for the better.

mohawkmalli · 07-10-2009, 01:20 PM

Glad you made the right move for you and your kids however I am going to miss hearing about the dear poopanut and those crazy MIL stories!!!

Patti · 07-10-2009, 06:51 PM

I am sorry to hear about poopanut. I wish you all the best in starting a new free life. Things will work out.

erickajm · 07-10-2009, 08:06 PM

I too am sorry to hear about Poopanut. I can almost hear the relief in your writing... about your divorce. Its amazing what one decision in life can do for you. I wish you all the luck in finding a new job! You'll have one in no time!

linda44 · 07-11-2009, 05:12 AM

wow youve been thru a lot. Im sorry about your furbaby, and wish you happiness and success.

Graleyne · 07-11-2009, 09:12 AM

It is a HUGE relief!

Now the kids and I are doing the things that WE want to do. We've found a new church that we think we are going to love, I am becoming more active in the community (and working on getting the kids more involvled).

I'm looking forward to getting my own apartment and decorating it the way I want. (decided to go with a blue/brown/cream/white beach theme throughout)

We just have lots we are looking forward to and its actually a JOY to wake up the morning now.

Mom to Hot Rod · 07-11-2009, 11:10 AM

I'm so very sorry to hear about Poopanut. I wish you well in your new chapter of your life.

shannonroselive · 07-11-2009, 12:48 PM

Wow, I'm sorry about losing your pup.
Congratulations on the positive life changes for you and your kids. I'm sure it will all work out and you'll be employed soon! Good luck and keep your eye on the stars!

celstu1 · 07-13-2009, 07:31 AM

wow... uuummm... wow!

Aerrica, I am sooo sorry to hear about poopanut

My heart is broken for you. I know how much she meant to you. I lost my little boy Stuart right after my ex-fiance and I split (1 month later), nothing like kicking you when you're already down. I do have a feeling though, as tragic and heartbreaking as it was for me, he was the one thing that would have linked my ex to me and I think things were supposed to go that way so that my ex would be out of my life with no strings attached. Maybe there is a greater, bigger reason for your tragic loss, something that is not quite clear yet. (((HUGS)))

I never got the impression you were so unhappy with your husband, but I am glad you did what you had to do. Its so hard to take that step, but can feel so liberating. You are a strong woman, you will land on your feet in no time. Take care of yourself and your kids, this may not have hit them yet. I wish you all the happiness in the world in your 'new life'.

Izzy Princess · 07-13-2009, 08:10 AM

I am so sorry to hear all that you have been through and especially upon hearing about your precious Poopanut.

I joined a month after you and I always remember your stories and just reading her name made me laugh. She will always be in your heart.

Maybe that was her own way to say don't fight over me mom and dad - I'll make the decision for you.

I've been through divorce and funny of all the material things we had we also fought over a Yorkie at the time..not Izzy but I had two boys. I wish you and your kids nothing but good luck and hope you find a job soon.

kay6688 · 07-13-2009, 08:28 AM

I am so sorry about your furbaby passing! Please know that all things will work out & it sounds like you & the kids are doing good with what you are going thru! ! Many prayers! Kay, Jaxon & Macy

07-10-2009, 12:36 PM	#1
Graleyne Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 2,563	Divorce, Poopanut, and the big move back home... Mike and I are divorcing. I am actually quite happy about this. I've wanted out for a while now. I just want to live my life MY WAY for a change. Horrible news...my beloved Poopanut passed away. The day after I told Mike I was leaving, she had a seizure and passed away on the way to the vet's office. I am still in shock. I just can't believe she's gone. She is the only thing Mike and I argued over. We both wanted custody of her. Other news, the kids and I packed up and moved back to my hometown and in with my grandmother temporarily. It is so....WEIRD....moving back home. Finding a job is proving to be difficult. Other than that, the kids and I are HAPPY (but incredibly BROKE LOL). We sang and laughed all the way here. All of us just feel like a huge heavy weight has been lifted off our shoulders. And there you have the past couple months in a nutshell. LOL I have missed ya'll. Hugs, ~Aerrica __________________ Aerrica, and Norman RIP my sweet Poopanut

07-10-2009, 12:52 PM	#2
Wylie's Mom Furbutts = LOVE Donating Member Moderator Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Phoenix, AZ Posts: 35,889 Blog Entries: 2	Wow Aerrica....I'm so sorry for all you've been through. I'm so sorry about The Poopanut, she has always been one of my favorites bc of all the stories you told about her. That's so incredibly sad . Had she ever had a seizure before? Big hugs, hon. I'm really sorry about the changes your family has to go through, but your attitude is amazing and you sound ready for a fresh start in life. I will miss those MIL stories, I have to say . Hang in there, we're all here for you! __________________ ~ A friend told me I was delusional. I nearly fell off my unicorn. ~ °¨¨¨°ºOº°¨¨¨° Ann \| Pfeiffer \| Marcel Verdel Purcell \| Wylie \| Artie °¨¨¨°ºOº°¨¨¨°

07-10-2009, 01:01 PM	#3
Graleyne Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 2,563	No, she'd never had a seizure before. Have no idea why she had this one. I miss her like crazy. It KILLED me to box up her things...her blankies, her clothes, her special pink spoon... Her stuff was the hardest to box up. I am SO very ready for a fresh start. Despite everything going on, I feel calmer now than I have in years. The job issue is scaring me a little bit. It didn't occur to me until after I started to work on a resume that I have been a housewife for 10 years and have no experience in anything other than raising kids and dogs. LOL It will be OK though. I have faith and confidence that everything will work out just the way its supposed to. (FYI that is Aerrica speak for I am scared sh*tless and trying to put on a brave front...lol) Still, even with all the scary stuff it feels so flippin' good to be FREE! __________________ Aerrica, and Norman RIP my sweet Poopanut

07-10-2009, 01:15 PM	#5
KimberlySRN Twins=double the fun! Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: California Posts: 2,981	Welcome back. It sounds like you have man changes ahead but it will all work out. Just keep a positive attitude. My sister was with her son's father for over 10 years and she just asked him to move out. It's a tuff situAtion but as you said it is all for the better. __________________ Kim Anakin Bella

07-10-2009, 01:20 PM	#6
mohawkmalli Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Maryville,TN,USA Posts: 185	Glad you made the right move for you and your kids however I am going to miss hearing about the dear poopanut and those crazy MIL stories!!! __________________ Mommy to Mohawk Malli

07-10-2009, 01:05 PM	#4
cashsmommy Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Lombard IL Posts: 146	it is a brave and wonderful thing it sounds like you are doing for yourself. good luck and keep us updated on your new life!

07-10-2009, 06:51 PM	#7
Patti Donating YT 30K Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 35,509 Blog Entries: 6	I am sorry to hear about poopanut. I wish you all the best in starting a new free life. Things will work out. __________________ Cali Pixie Roxie : RIP Nikki; RIP Maya;RIP my sweet Dixie girl 1/17/08 http://callipuppyscastle.bravehost.com/index.html

07-10-2009, 08:06 PM	#8
erickajm Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Central Pennsylvania Posts: 3,200	I too am sorry to hear about Poopanut. I can almost hear the relief in your writing... about your divorce. Its amazing what one decision in life can do for you. I wish you all the luck in finding a new job! You'll have one in no time! __________________ Zoe Peppee Brady EARL!

07-11-2009, 05:12 AM	#9
linda44 Luv my 7 Furkids Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: napa Posts: 9,655 Blog Entries: 4	wow youve been thru a lot. Im sorry about your furbaby, and wish you happiness and success. __________________ Linda, & furbutts http://www.sketchesbybarney.com

07-11-2009, 09:12 AM	#10
Graleyne Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 2,563	It is a HUGE relief! Now the kids and I are doing the things that WE want to do. We've found a new church that we think we are going to love, I am becoming more active in the community (and working on getting the kids more involvled). I'm looking forward to getting my own apartment and decorating it the way I want. (decided to go with a blue/brown/cream/white beach theme throughout) We just have lots we are looking forward to and its actually a JOY to wake up the morning now. __________________ Aerrica, and Norman RIP my sweet Poopanut

07-11-2009, 11:10 AM	#11
Mom to Hot Rod Donating YT 5000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: MD Posts: 10,908	I'm so very sorry to hear about Poopanut. I wish you well in your new chapter of your life. __________________ www.kissecollar.com Soft Cone Collars for Post-surgery and much more! 10% (non-food) - Discount code YT10

07-11-2009, 12:48 PM	#12
shannonroselive Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Where ever the wind blows! Posts: 612	Wow, I'm sorry about losing your pup. Congratulations on the positive life changes for you and your kids. I'm sure it will all work out and you'll be employed soon! Good luck and keep your eye on the stars! __________________ ~~~ Argue for your limitations and sure enough they're yours! ~~~

07-13-2009, 07:31 AM	#13
celstu1 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: New Hampshire Posts: 10,534	wow... uuummm... wow! Aerrica, I am sooo sorry to hear about poopanut My heart is broken for you. I know how much she meant to you. I lost my little boy Stuart right after my ex-fiance and I split (1 month later), nothing like kicking you when you're already down. I do have a feeling though, as tragic and heartbreaking as it was for me, he was the one thing that would have linked my ex to me and I think things were supposed to go that way so that my ex would be out of my life with no strings attached. Maybe there is a greater, bigger reason for your tragic loss, something that is not quite clear yet. (((HUGS))) I never got the impression you were so unhappy with your husband, but I am glad you did what you had to do. Its so hard to take that step, but can feel so liberating. You are a strong woman, you will land on your feet in no time. Take care of yourself and your kids, this may not have hit them yet. I wish you all the happiness in the world in your 'new life'. __________________ “Petting, scratching, and cuddling a dog could be as soothing to the mind and heart as deep meditation and almost as good for the soul as prayer.” ― Dean Koontz

07-13-2009, 08:10 AM	#14
Izzy Princess Therapy Dog Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Ohio Posts: 5,635 Blog Entries: 1	I am so sorry to hear all that you have been through and especially upon hearing about your precious Poopanut. I joined a month after you and I always remember your stories and just reading her name made me laugh. She will always be in your heart. Maybe that was her own way to say don't fight over me mom and dad - I'll make the decision for you. I've been through divorce and funny of all the material things we had we also fought over a Yorkie at the time..not Izzy but I had two boys. I wish you and your kids nothing but good luck and hope you find a job soon. __________________ Cynd, Izzy (Yorkie) & Cosmo (Biewer)(Secwetary & Charter Membwer of the Dirty FurKids Cwub)-Jusz say NO ta bein' cwean!)proud member of the *CrAzYcLu*B! ~The PINK club~SRC

07-13-2009, 08:28 AM	#15
kay6688 Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Missouri Posts: 3,163 Blog Entries: 1	I am so sorry about your furbaby passing! Please know that all things will work out & it sounds like you & the kids are doing good with what you are going thru! ! Many prayers! Kay, Jaxon & Macy __________________ Jaxon Macy Remi and R.I.P. Trixie's Mom Kay