I am so sorry to hear all that you have been through and especially upon hearing about your precious Poopanut.
I joined a month after you and I always remember your stories and just reading her name made me laugh. She will always be in your heart.
Maybe that was her own way to say don't fight over me mom and dad - I'll make the decision for you.
I've been through divorce and funny of all the material things we had we also fought over a Yorkie at the time..not Izzy but I had two boys. I wish you and your kids nothing but good luck and hope you find a job soon.