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Breny · 06-09-2009, 05:21 PM

HI

Just wanted to wish you well. Divorce can be so hard. My only advise is, if she is going to take them, which I'm sure she will if they were hers, then why not get a little one of your own?

I know when I'm feeling down..all it takes is a hug and kiss from one of my furbabies and dam, it sure makes things better for a few

Just a thought.

Again I wish you the best. Take care.

cheryl19 · 06-10-2009, 02:31 AM

No one cares if you are a guy or not. When you have to leave your babies it hurts. I would see if you can see them on weekends. Good luck

JJC · 06-10-2009, 03:21 AM

I'm so sorry you will soon be going through a divorce. It's never an easy situation to go through. Some divorces can get nastier than others but none of them are easy. I hope that yours will not be one of the "nastier" ones as that just makes it all the more difficult. Don't assume that the furbutts have to stay with your wife because you have just as much right to them as she does. Hopefully you guys can work something out since it sounds like you and Bella have really bonded. (Not to offend any lawyers but sometimes the lawyers and the process can create more issues than were there to begin with.) See if you can both come to an agreement that's in the best interests of the furbutts when making arrangements for them. This divorce will not only effect you guys but them as well, just like it would skin kids. I wish you the best of luck and again, I'm so sorry your going through this rough patch in life.

JoshieBoy · 06-10-2009, 03:34 AM

Divorce can be difficult and painful. I hope your divorce ends peacefully. Your wife taking the Yorkies away is heartbreaking, because you love them too. If I were you, I would get my own Yorkie to love. Then you do not have to worry about somebody taking your Yorkie away from you.

Yorkiekids · 06-10-2009, 04:51 AM

I'm so sorry for your divorce. It doesn't sound like it's what you really want. There are a lot of babies as well as older yorkies on here that need a home. Maybe you can help one of them out. Depending on how long you were married you might have a chance of getting one of them, but I think they would be best left together. If you ever need someone to take to; just pm me.

KJLive · 06-10-2009, 05:34 AM

So sorry to hear of your pending divorce. I did the big "D" myself nearly 19 years ago. (Geez, that makes me sound old!). It's never an easy time, but you will survive.
As for the Yorkie's. Do you even know at this point that she wants them? Perhaps suggest leaving them with you? And if she won't, then I'd go for visitation. 1 week with her, 1 week with you. And keep rotating it. Or whatever time period you both can agree on. Just a thought....
Good Luck to you!

happy bunny · 06-10-2009, 06:51 PM

I would absolutely try for joint custody. No matter who paid for them, you both should get to still see them. It had been done, me and my ex did it. He kept our Great Pyrenees and she came over to my house when she started getting arthitic in her hips.

She stayed with me for @ 5 months with him visting her all the time, before we had to move out of state and he just recently called me to dicuss her health, as she was getting really bad and it was time for us to let her pass. Even though he was the one with my son there physically with her, he held the phone to her ear while I could tell her goodbye.

I guess that was really off subject, sorry. Try to make a good arrangement for your furbabies and if it can't be done, I seriously recommend finding a baby for yourself. Best of luck and we are here for you.

mblab · 06-10-2009, 07:09 PM

We too wanted to voice our sincerest apologies that you are going through this now! Divorce is never easy, and leaving a loved one (furry or not) is hard too! Like everyone else said, forget about who's they are, fight for them if you can! She must know how much you care for them and how much they care for you!

Keep your spirits up and know we're thinking of you and sending good thoughts your way!

Romo604 · 06-17-2009, 10:57 AM

I agree with others. You should get visitation or like people do with children..shared custody! It's very normal these days.

06-09-2009, 05:21 PM	#16
Breny My Tiny Treasures Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: . Posts: 11,790 Blog Entries: 3	HI Just wanted to wish you well. Divorce can be so hard. My only advise is, if she is going to take them, which I'm sure she will if they were hers, then why not get a little one of your own? I know when I'm feeling down..all it takes is a hug and kiss from one of my furbabies and dam, it sure makes things better for a few Just a thought. Again I wish you the best. Take care. __________________ http://Brenysbabies.com

06-10-2009, 02:31 AM	#17
cheryl19 Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: NY USA Posts: 1,749	No one cares if you are a guy or not. When you have to leave your babies it hurts. I would see if you can see them on weekends. Good luck __________________ Ivy, Max, Reggie & Cheryl

06-10-2009, 03:21 AM	#18
JJC YT Addict Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Kansas Posts: 261	I'm so sorry you will soon be going through a divorce. It's never an easy situation to go through. Some divorces can get nastier than others but none of them are easy. I hope that yours will not be one of the "nastier" ones as that just makes it all the more difficult. Don't assume that the furbutts have to stay with your wife because you have just as much right to them as she does. Hopefully you guys can work something out since it sounds like you and Bella have really bonded. (Not to offend any lawyers but sometimes the lawyers and the process can create more issues than were there to begin with.) See if you can both come to an agreement that's in the best interests of the furbutts when making arrangements for them. This divorce will not only effect you guys but them as well, just like it would skin kids. I wish you the best of luck and again, I'm so sorry your going through this rough patch in life. __________________ - Jennifer Joshua Jenna Kissy Natasha

06-10-2009, 04:51 AM	#20
Yorkiekids Piper & Sebastian Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: florida Posts: 14,495	I'm so sorry for your divorce. It doesn't sound like it's what you really want. There are a lot of babies as well as older yorkies on here that need a home. Maybe you can help one of them out. Depending on how long you were married you might have a chance of getting one of them, but I think they would be best left together. If you ever need someone to take to; just pm me. __________________ Susan, Piper ,Harley & Suiki

06-10-2009, 06:51 PM	#22
happy bunny Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Derby, KS Posts: 204	I would absolutely try for joint custody. No matter who paid for them, you both should get to still see them. It had been done, me and my ex did it. He kept our Great Pyrenees and she came over to my house when she started getting arthitic in her hips. She stayed with me for @ 5 months with him visting her all the time, before we had to move out of state and he just recently called me to dicuss her health, as she was getting really bad and it was time for us to let her pass. Even though he was the one with my son there physically with her, he held the phone to her ear while I could tell her goodbye. I guess that was really off subject, sorry. Try to make a good arrangement for your furbabies and if it can't be done, I seriously recommend finding a baby for yourself. Best of luck and we are here for you. __________________ Rest in Peace Sweet Princess Kelli 5-28-09 and our dear Maxi-Poo 11-25-10

06-10-2009, 03:34 AM	#19
JoshieBoy No Longer a Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: N/A Posts: 2,114	Divorce can be difficult and painful. I hope your divorce ends peacefully. Your wife taking the Yorkies away is heartbreaking, because you love them too. If I were you, I would get my own Yorkie to love. Then you do not have to worry about somebody taking your Yorkie away from you.

06-10-2009, 05:34 AM	#21
KJLive Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Lebanon, PA, USA Posts: 1,162	So sorry to hear of your pending divorce. I did the big "D" myself nearly 19 years ago. (Geez, that makes me sound old!). It's never an easy time, but you will survive. As for the Yorkie's. Do you even know at this point that she wants them? Perhaps suggest leaving them with you? And if she won't, then I'd go for visitation. 1 week with her, 1 week with you. And keep rotating it. Or whatever time period you both can agree on. Just a thought.... Good Luck to you!

06-10-2009, 07:09 PM	#23
mblab Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Tallahassee, Florida Posts: 723	We too wanted to voice our sincerest apologies that you are going through this now! Divorce is never easy, and leaving a loved one (furry or not) is hard too! Like everyone else said, forget about who's they are, fight for them if you can! She must know how much you care for them and how much they care for you! Keep your spirits up and know we're thinking of you and sending good thoughts your way! __________________ Vicky & Zoë "I think dogs are the most amazing creatures; they give unconditional love. For me they are the role model for being alive. " -Gilda Radner

06-17-2009, 10:57 AM	#24
Romo604 Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Vancouver, BC, Canada Posts: 74	I agree with others. You should get visitation or like people do with children..shared custody! It's very normal these days.