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Old 08-14-2008, 09:09 AM   #1
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Angry Rude People

Man, I'm sure there's so much I could go talk about with title! People are just crazy sometimes!

This time though, there's something that happened to me the other day still just really irks me. I'm sorry but I must vent and see if anyone else agrees with me.

Anyway, I went to Target, trying to get some measuring cups. They didn't have what I wanted, so I decided to look around a little bit. I went to go look at teakettles but had to go down the isle I was on in order to turn down another isle where the kettles are. There's a lady, a boy, and another person ahead a bit, with their cart more or less in the middle of the lane. I don't say anything, but as I push closer to them it's obvious that I won't fit. I see the boy move the cart a tiny bit. I realize I still need several inches to clear. This is what ensued:

I say: "I'm sorry, I need a few more inches."
The Mom goes something like: "Oh he didn't move the cart. [Very smug now] He didn't move the cart because you didn't ask him to."
I was a bit surprised by her saying this and in the tone that she did but all the same I say: "Could you please move the cart a little bit?"
The boy goes to move the cart and the Mom stops him. Mom: "No, you did not ask him politely with respect, you did not say excuse me."
I'm getting really peeved at this point, I'm rather incredulous that this is happening, but I still say: "Excuse me, could you please move the cart?"
They move the cart then, barely enough for me to make it past them, and the Mom talks to me as I pass them.
Mom say something like: "You have to give respect, it goes both ways, you have to be respectful of the people around you...."

So basically, this lady, who was probably only in her late 20's to early 30's (keeping in mind that I'm 22) tells me off, tells me off in front of her kid/the store, gives me insane attitude, and quite possibly tries to make an example of me.

Now the only thing I can give her is that I was on my cell phone during this exchange, however I stopped talking when the ... exchange between us began and only continued my conversation once I'd passed them. I was unable to drop the phone as I didn't have a free hand to hold it.

I was raised to be polite and think of others. I thought it was very reasonable to ask for a few more inches to move my cart over (when they had parked themselves in the middle, paying attention to other things). I also thought it was appropriately polite to have asked "please could you move the cart". I have never heard of excuse me being the ONLY polite word that can be used. I use sorry and please like they're going out of style, but apparently this lady didn't feel that was good enough. I felt it was rather ridiculous for her to have made such a big deal out of all of this. What really drives me crazy is that she made such a big deal out of it and gave me attitude as she was complaining/reprimanding me about my ability to be respectful!

Ugh! People are insane sometimes! Now, I've vented, I feel better, thanks! What do you guys think?

-Vicky

P.S. Keep in mind I'm not trying to make a big deal about respect for elders, as far as I was concerned this "Mother" was only a few years older than me and more than likely not much older than me. I also know that everyone has different opinions about respect, how it should be given, and when and how it's appropriate. So given that everyone has different feelings on the matter I do understand that there may be people who felt my actions were wrong and I'm sorry if you feel that way (but respect you and your opinion if that is how you believe). I do genuinely believe I'm good person that gives appropriate respect when needed. That said, this is in the past so as my friend would say "build a bridge and get over it".

P.P.S. I've never started a thread on Off Topic so I'm sorry if I went about this wrong, it's not appropriate to be here, etc.
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Old 08-14-2008, 09:17 AM   #2
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Wow...that's nervy! I would have not been nice. I definately think this woman was out of line. You were very patient above and beyond what should be expected of people.
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Old 08-14-2008, 09:21 AM   #3
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I think you were the bigger person by just walking and leaving it like that. On the other hand if it were me I'd probably been escorted out. Sorry, I know this is not the advice I should be giving. She knew she was in the way and she should've moved the cart. Thats what I do if my cart is in the way. Bottom line she was very rude and you weren't.
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I would have been speechless but would have thought later to say that it is rude and disrespectful to others to hog the middle of the aisle.
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I would have shoved the cart in her face when I was 22!

Now at my age I'm a little calmer but she is lucky she messed with someone so nice.

I still you have yelled something like "Get the hell out of my way NOW !' And the second comment would have gotten her slapped!

OK, so my temper is as bad as it was when I was 22
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I think she was rude for having her cart too far over in the aisle and you having to say anything to get her to move it
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I would have shoved the cart in her face when I was 22!

Now at my age I'm a little calmer but she is lucky she messed with someone so nice.

I still you have yelled something like "Get the hell out of my way NOW !' And the second comment would have gotten her slapped!

OK, so my temper is as bad as it was when I was 22


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Old 08-14-2008, 10:13 AM   #8
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How rude! I hate when people do that, but most people just move it and say, "Sorry," if you ask. This woman was way out of line! I don't know if I would have continued to be polite after the second time; you're way more patient than I am.

How about the notion that "giving respect both ways" means you don't block an entire aisle with your cart?
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Thank goodness you all agree. It was such a bizarre situation I started to doubt myself for having done the right thing. Okay, I'm definitely feeling better about it now, knowing I was not in the wrong.

Now I just wonder why all the crazies always cross my path.
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Oh, you're not the only one, honey. I run into them a lot where I shop; it borders on a not-so-nice neighborhood, and everyone from there seems to have a 'tude.
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How about the notion that "giving respect both ways" means you don't block an entire aisle with your cart?
I swear sooo many people just do not get that!!!

I don't know if its the weather or something around here lately but man its been a nightmare around my area. Rude may be an understatement.

Yesterday I dropped bf off at walmart so he could drop off a prescription. (I hate walmart with a passion!!) I figured he'd be in there for 3 mins max. So I kind of pulled down an aisle and sat there in my car making sure that I was paying attention around me in case anyone wanted to get in or out of spaces. Well there were like a GAZILLION people and cars everywhere, kind of mental but I was out of the way. A SUV pulled down the lane I was in. I glanced up quickly and they kept going. An older guy and a very pretty young woman got out of the SUV and the guy came over to my car, knocked on my DOWN window and said "You are blocking a handicap spot, I had to park way down there, MOVE YOUR CAR!" First off there are like 100 handicap spots... no way he had to park 'way down there'. Second you don't touch another person's car. Third, you don't just walk up to someone and be that rude. I stared after him and kept my car RIGHT where I was. By that time he had already parked and was in the store, so it was useless to move. If they wanted that handicap spot they could have asked me to move when they drove by me, or they could have gone done another lane to get a spot.

Some people just have the most wasted stupidest points to prove. Don't let it get to you! That woman was a b*tch. Nice teaching her son that kind of lesson. Wait until someone talks to her son like that.
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Ooooooo good for you!! What a mature person you are for not stooping to her rudeness!!!!! It would have been so difficult for me to not have given her lesson in, "What is Normal Adult and Public Behavior". I would have bit my tongue becaue she had a child with her, but she sure does need someone to teach HER some respect...she had none for you, none for herself and none for her son. What a shame there are people out there with this attitude. She sounds like she enjoys belittling others inorder to make herself feel bigger. Well, phooey on her and her silliness!!!!!!!!!

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wow after you asked "could you please move the cart" and she asked for an "EXCUSE ME?" i would have just pushed on through.. no joke and said "whatever.. hey kid your mom needs to learn manners not you" ...
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So apparently I'm a saint. Though I'm certainly enjoying the mental picture of the re-enactment of all of your suggestions!

Oh, and the "kid" wasn't a really young kid either. He was probably 10-13 years old, certainly old enough to understand polite and rude!

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I swear sooo many people just do not get that!!!

I don't know if its the weather or something around here lately but man its been a nightmare around my area. Rude may be an understatement.

Yesterday I dropped bf off at walmart so he could drop off a prescription. (I hate walmart with a passion!!) I figured he'd be in there for 3 mins max. So I kind of pulled down an aisle and sat there in my car making sure that I was paying attention around me in case anyone wanted to get in or out of spaces. Well there were like a GAZILLION people and cars everywhere, kind of mental but I was out of the way. A SUV pulled down the lane I was in. I glanced up quickly and they kept going. An older guy and a very pretty young woman got out of the SUV and the guy came over to my car, knocked on my DOWN window and said "You are blocking a handicap spot, I had to park way down there, MOVE YOUR CAR!" First off there are like 100 handicap spots... no way he had to park 'way down there'. Second you don't touch another person's car. Third, you don't just walk up to someone and be that rude. I stared after him and kept my car RIGHT where I was. By that time he had already parked and was in the store, so it was useless to move. If they wanted that handicap spot they could have asked me to move when they drove by me, or they could have gone done another lane to get a spot.

Some people just have the most wasted stupidest points to prove. Don't let it get to you! That woman was a b*tch. Nice teaching her son that kind of lesson. Wait until someone talks to her son like that.
Yeah people are amazing. Unless you were actually parked in the handicap spot I see no reason the guy had to have parked in a regular spot. But people are people and they'll do insane things!
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Thank goodness you all agree. It was such a bizarre situation I started to doubt myself for having done the right thing. Okay, I'm definitely feeling better about it now, knowing I was not in the wrong.

Now I just wonder why all the crazies always cross my path.
They don't. Believe me. When I was growing up, most everyone had manners. Now, you never know what you'll run into. Sometimes I just go around an isle that is blocked that way, because sometimes the people look like some I don't want to be that close to anyway!
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