parents..what would you have done?

[abbey lee]

I saw this episode. I was SHOCKED. It grossed me out. That kid has issues. I hope my kids don't turn out like that.

[Nikki+2]

Originally Posted by YorkieRose

Did anyone see the kid on Dr Phil who slapped his mothers face...? Some things are worth going to jail for..she should have smacked him back and anyone watching would have cheered.
We are told not to stoop to their level..but I remember biting my mother one time on the neck while she was driving...remember we had no car seats or belts.. I was standing behind her...my mother stopped the car and bit me in the same place..I never bit her again..

Jodi started biting her sister at the age of 3..I tried to be a modern day parent, talk to her, no dessert etc....nothing worked..so I told her the next time she bit Melisa, her sister was going to bite her in the same place and just as hard..of course she did not believe me and bit her hand again..I held Jodi's hand and told Melisa to bite it..Jodi screams.."that really hurts"..and she never bit her again...

LOL, that cracked me up. I've been told that once as a child I bit my grandmother and she bit me back. It cured me from biting also.

[kjk723]

Originally Posted by YorkieRose

As to the kid threathening to call 911...I would tell her it will take at least 5 to 10 mins for the police to arrive...and in those 5 to 10 mins she will REALLY need 911...because I would beat the meanness out of her..

These types of kids boggle my mind...I know without a doubt it starts as you bring them through the door from the hosptial..they have no respect or healthy fear of authority...and it is worse as the grow up and go out in the world.

OH my gosh! I just had a flashback to my mother. I SWEAR she said the same thing to me when I was younger!!! No, I dont really believe in spanking but to tell you the truth I have done it in what I thought were extreme circumstances. My son was playing with gas, he got his first "whooping" at 6. My younger son is a handful not necessarily bad but busy! Nothing works for him. At two, I cant get him in timeout to save my life. I put him in quiet time in his crib. I dont know what will happen when he can get out or he is 5.

[Catrina]

Originally Posted by journey826

I loved this I can't stop smiling.

I would have spanked her,sorry she sounds like she was out of control of her mind
(what do we do when people lose it or panic)well in the movies they slap the sense back into them and I would have had to oblige her this time.

I remember a time when my boys were about 5 and 7 and we went to the grocery store.they were going up the isle touching things and bringing stuff back and putting it in the cart.after about 30minutes of nicely correcting them I had a vision of peace.They had really long hair then so I took their ponytail and tied each to the cart.smiling as I continued shopping.
An outraged woman stops and says to me that is cruel and I will call the police and cps if you don't untie their hair.
I calmly told her I need to shop TODAY! RIGHT NOW! if we are going to eat tonight and if she was so concerned she could watch them while I finished shopping.

she looked at me in disbelief, thought about it for a few seconds and went about her day.they were so embarrassed.I never had a problem with their manners in public again.
NOW on to my 7 yr old

hahaha if i saw that id laugh sorry!! i bet that traumatized them.. are they angels now?

[adorame]

So far all the Nanny shows I have seen have shown that it is lack of parental control for why those children are acting up like they do Those parents rather not have an upset child then to make em mind. If they would discipline and stick to the discipline they would not be in that boat in the first place. They have NO clue how to get their kids under control because they let them run a muck for so long, they need someone to come in and sit them down and tell them what they should be doing. I see the look of shock on the Nanny's face when they are watching a day unfold in those households. I would be so ashamed if my kids were that bratty!

I thankfully do not have children that behave like because my husband and I make our children mind and they are aware that their is consequences for braking our rules we have set forth. We get complements in all situations ( school, eating out, shopping) on how well behaved and polite our 4 boy's are. I would hope that if I lacked parting skills then a family member would of sat me down ant told me that I need help and parenting classes! Sometimes I wonder how those kids act in a school setting where you know they have rules that are to be followed.

[mscat]

I had taught preschool for over 18 yrs. and have a high functioning autistic teenage son, and a single parent who is disabled herself.
As for the il behaved child it is the parents fault. She has learned this behavior, and manipulates her mom by wetting herself. Little children know how to push their parents buttons, and often willl behave differently with others.
If that were my child, she would of been in her room. Not in a chair. The child kept getting up because she knew there was not going to be consequences, she took it a step further and spit. The parent needs to be consistence with the girl and the child needs to know her limits.
After being in her room, I'd then place her in a chair time out, just for 5 mi n. If she is older then your suppose to aDD a min. per year.
If this kid was hyperactive, or had something like a developmental disability thathas not been recognised then she needs to be evaluated.
Parenting skills go along way in dealing with hard to handle children. I do not believe in corporal punishment, and it does not teach .
ALSO, the child has learned that she gets ATTENTION for her negative behavior. It is fun to act like a brat, and she is getting a lot of attention.
Parents unknowingly encourage bad behavior sometimes and the child learns to do more of the same.
Yes, i blame the parents, the younger the child is the more likely it is the parents lack of skills.

[Tiggerwit]

My mom likes to tell a story about me that I have no memory of. She says that once when I was little we were on the ferry. I didn't want to get out of the car and go up top. She made me. I got away and ran up the stairs yelling child abuse, child abuse!!! She was mortified.. No idea where I got it from either.

I wasn't a problem kid, but it appears I had a moment or two.

[mizzwanned]

ewwww im not a parent but i love watching these shows...the nanny always helps the family out. I would have probably let the girl go to sleep in her wet pants, i would not give in. She did it, i would tell her to clean herself up. Seriously, idk i dont believe in physical punishments, i do think the time outs work really well and the kids learn from that. Idk tho what i would do with a kid that bad, i would never hit though, cause i just dont believe in that.

[kjk723]

Originally Posted by Tiggerwit

My mom likes to tell a story about me that I have no memory of. She says that once when I was little we were on the ferry. I didn't want to get out of the car and go up top. She made me. I got away and ran up the stairs yelling child abuse, child abuse!!! She was mortified.. No idea where I got it from either.

I wasn't a problem kid, but it appears I had a moment or two.

I think we all have the same story!! I was doing something in a bowling alley that was potentially dangerous but despite my moms warnings, I wouldnt stop. She took me in the bathroom. (honestly probably to beat me..) but I screamed and scream like she was killing me.. Some lady threatened to call child services. My mom told me if they did, she was going to beat me even worse. But you know kids are kids.. mine are bad but not as bad as that. It makes me feel better to watch that show. My niece learned "Stranger Danger" at school and when Her mom tried to make her leave the Toy Store, she kept yelling... "you're not my mommy.." and everyone thought that she was trying to kidnap her!!

[Catrina]

Originally Posted by kjk723

I think we all have the same story!! I was doing something in a bowling alley that was potentially dangerous but despite my moms warnings, I wouldnt stop. She took me in the bathroom. (honestly probably to beat me..) but I screamed and scream like she was killing me.. Some lady threatened to call child services. My mom told me if they did, she was going to beat me even worse. But you know kids are kids.. mine are bad but not as bad as that. It makes me feel better to watch that show. My niece learned "Stranger Danger" at school and when Her mom tried to make her leave the Toy Store, she kept yelling... "you're not my mommy.." and everyone thought that she was trying to kidnap her!!

lol how embarassing!!! did anyone try and stop your sister?

[MyFairLacy]

One reason I will never have kids...most are way out of control these days..I'm not dealing with it

[HanksMom]

Originally Posted by Judy in Waco

Probably get her evaluated to find out where the heck all that anger is coming from. Then, I'd probably go the logical consequences route and she would have to spend some time cleaning the bathroom floor and doing a load of laundry.

But, I really think there's an anger problem there. I didn't see the show though, so what do I know? lol!

I have twin four year old girls and some days can be frustrating and i know that me and my husband do the best we can and the girls still can be very defiant, but nothing like that! My thoughts are...your children (to a certain degree) will act the ways that you allow them to. Not nipping the problem at the bud will only lead to bad habits like this. Children are very perceptive and manipulative and know what and how they can get away with different actions.
We only resort to a spanking as an ABSOLUTE i mean ABSOLUTE last resort. I believe that when you start hitting that both parties stop listening.

We usually have a long talk with the girls and if they have any threats we explain to them the repricussions of their actions and if they follow thru with their bad actions then we dont back down on their consequences.
but everybody is different and so is every child so should their discipline.

[deb22]

I know when I was growing up I got spanked and had a fear of my father....(the kind of fear when you know you did something wrong and will be spanked)
I can remember my mom saying"wait til your father gets home"

That put the fear in me....

But the fear was a good thing....I knew to behave myself.....I grew up ok...
Today discipline just seems nil. I have three children...all grown now...but my son had ADHD. Problems at school...He was put on med. BIG difference.. straight A's... good behavior....And he was still active.....not a zombie.....

But that was 19 yrs. ago......(yes I'm old)

[Emmsmom]

Well to begin with I would have popped her square in her mouth for spitting on me and then she would have been sent to the time out chair. I honestly have to wonder how some kids get to this point. My daughter is turning 11 soon and she would have never even thought about spitting on me or anyone else for that matter. I know several kids that are like this. Sadly their parents are just pushovers. You have to realize this behavior didn't happen overnight. Had she put a stop to it in the beginning this wouldn't even be an issue.

[Lexie Blue]

Originally Posted by SladesMommy

I'm not a parent yet, so I don't know what I would've done.

But I do know what my mom would have done with me if I'd done that at that age... I'd have probably been slapped across the face for spitting at her. That is one thing my mom finds SUPER disrepectful. In my house I was raised you don't put your feet on ppl and you don't spit at them. Oh yea.. and you don't point either.

A spanking would have worked for me, they always did. Personally I think more kids today need a spanking every now and then.

LOL! Gotta love your mom. If you spit at someone, they can request criminal charges be filed. That little monster on the show did not get like that over night. Mommy didn't correct that behavior early on. Oh, well, now she's paying. And the sad thing, now no one is going to like the child because of that behavior. It's really a disservice to the child if you don't discipline and teach them boundaries. But no one is perfect. I always say parenting is the MOST difficult job.