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Graleyne · 07-20-2008, 03:59 AM

I DO feel guilty. However he has got to go. All joking aside, it was seriously beginning to cause issues in my marriage. Nothing really, BAD, but issues. Mostly just both of us being really stressed out, and then DH working 12+ hours a day and coming home to me complaining about DUG and listening to me and DUG argue. It just isn't a very good situation.

I just feel like I have this ball of anger turning over and over in my stomach and HATE feeling like that. Just about everyone has caught little pieces of it even though I've tried to keep it stuffed down in there. Most of it has been directed at DUG, but I have just been snappy with everyone lately.

I think that DUG is a very grey person. "Grey" is my term for those people who just suck the life out of you and leave you just emotionally drained and exhausted. (I think I may have gotten the term from a Sylvia Browne book)

Anyway, he has to be out by Friday, and it can't get here soon enough!

C C Kent · 07-20-2008, 05:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Graleyne

I think that DUG is a very grey person. "Grey" is my term for those people who just suck the life out of you and leave you just emotionally drained and exhausted. (I think I may have gotten the term from a Sylvia Browne book)

"Grey"....sounds like a very polite and caring person's way of saying

ADULT PARASITE LOSER

Help looks a little different when it's being applied to someone like DUG. Helping DUG means putting him in the position where he HAS to take care of himself, and he HAS to take responsibility for himself. As long as he has an option...he'll choose to let someone else provide.

What DUG needs can't be given, it can only be earned, it's dignity. The kind you get when you hit the street and find a job, rent a small place that's just enough for you, and buy your first meal. While you eat that simple little meal you plan for the next, with the smallest of accomplishments comes hope. Once you have hope...

red98vett · 07-20-2008, 05:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Graleyne

I DO feel guilty. However he has got to go. All joking aside, it was seriously beginning to cause issues in my marriage. Nothing really, BAD, but issues. Mostly just both of us being really stressed out, and then DH working 12+ hours a day and coming home to me complaining about DUG and listening to me and DUG argue. It just isn't a very good situation.

I just feel like I have this ball of anger turning over and over in my stomach and HATE feeling like that. Just about everyone has caught little pieces of it even though I've tried to keep it stuffed down in there. Most of it has been directed at DUG, but I have just been snappy with everyone lately.

I think that DUG is a very grey person. "Grey" is my term for those people who just suck the life out of you and leave you just emotionally drained and exhausted. (I think I may have gotten the term from a Sylvia Browne book)

Anyway, he has to be out by Friday, and it can't get here soon enough!

girl ..I feel your pain. DO NOT FEEL GUILTY ! This 'Dug' sounds like he's sucking the life out of everyone he mooches off of -

take it from Sammiz...she really knows what she's talking about. If someone isn't willing to take charge and help themself - then they will never change and you can't do it for them. We're all in charge of our actions and can't expect people to 'take care' of us (with the exception of someone who is down on their luck but trying)

I don't see how you can help this person any more than you already have....

Graleyne · 07-20-2008, 06:01 AM

DH and I have finally come to realize that. The only way DUG will ever learn is if he just falls on his face and has to pick himself back up. Sometimes the mama bird has to push the baby bird out of the nest. Only this time the baby bird is 47 years old!

To tell ya'll how self-centered he is....He asked DH to buy him a pack of cigarettes. DH told him no. (that was a rule when he first moved in - we absolutely will NOT buy cigarettes for him.) DH told him that any spare money we had right now was going to help the kids I babysit and their family.
DUG had the nerve to pout and say, "But charity begins at home! You should help family before you help someone else's kids."

EXCUSE ME???? You mean to tell me that CIGARETTES are more important than helping some children get much needed school supplies and clothes????
And as far as the helping family goes, what have we been doing???? We brought him into OUR home where he watches our television all day, reads MY books (without asking I might add), stinks up my house with his cigarettes (even though he smokes outside that smell follows him everywhere), eats our food, etc. and he doesn't think we are helping him????

red98vett · 07-20-2008, 07:43 AM

This guy is 47 ?

ah....I can't say what I'm thinking but will say this again

DO NOT FEEL GUILTY. You've already gone above and beyond. It's time for him to start acting like a man and get on with his life without expecting people to take 'care' of him.

he's not still in diapers I hope ?

sorry - I couldn't resist.

Graleyne · 07-20-2008, 07:50 AM

Yep. He turned 47 on Friday. Threw a fit about us not taking him anywhere for his birthday too.

red98vett · 07-20-2008, 07:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Graleyne

Yep. He turned 47 on Friday. Threw a fit about us not taking him anywhere for his birthday too.

hmmmm....I can think of where you could have taken him for his birthday

The Bus Depot is open 24 hours. (I think)

Can we say ....ONE WAY TICKET OUT ?

sammiz · 07-20-2008, 11:28 AM

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Originally Posted by C C Kent

"Grey"....sounds like a very polite and caring person's way of saying

ADULT PARASITE LOSER

Help looks a little different when it's being applied to someone like DUG. Helping DUG means putting him in the position where he HAS to take care of himself, and he HAS to take responsibility for himself. As long as he has an option...he'll choose to let someone else provide.

What DUG needs can't be given, it can only be earned, it's dignity. The kind you get when you hit the street and find a job, rent a small place that's just enough for you, and buy your first meal. While you eat that simple little meal you plan for the next, with the smallest of accomplishments comes hope. Once you have hope...

Wise. I so totally agree.

sammiz · 07-20-2008, 11:30 AM

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Originally Posted by red98vett

hmmmm....I can think of where you could have taken him for his birthday

The Bus Depot is open 24 hours. (I think)

Can we say ....ONE WAY TICKET OUT ?

LOL, LOL, LOL

You crack me up! you are so astute and have such clever ideas! I am wholeheartedly with you on this !

So on Friday...

C C Kent · 07-20-2008, 12:57 PM

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Originally Posted by red98vett

hmmmm....I can think of where you could have taken him for his birthday

The Bus Depot is open 24 hours. (I think)

Can we say ....ONE WAY TICKET OUT ?

I have a mental image of DUG sitting on the bench, ticket in hand...wearing his party hat.

Graleyne · 07-20-2008, 01:46 PM

Cross your fingers, legs, toes, and eyes. There is a CHANCE he could be out as early as Tuesday!

FL Tink · 07-20-2008, 01:53 PM

Well let us know ...we will have an online party

07-20-2008, 03:59 AM	#16
Graleyne Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 2,563	I DO feel guilty. However he has got to go. All joking aside, it was seriously beginning to cause issues in my marriage. Nothing really, BAD, but issues. Mostly just both of us being really stressed out, and then DH working 12+ hours a day and coming home to me complaining about DUG and listening to me and DUG argue. It just isn't a very good situation. I just feel like I have this ball of anger turning over and over in my stomach and HATE feeling like that. Just about everyone has caught little pieces of it even though I've tried to keep it stuffed down in there. Most of it has been directed at DUG, but I have just been snappy with everyone lately. I think that DUG is a very grey person. "Grey" is my term for those people who just suck the life out of you and leave you just emotionally drained and exhausted. (I think I may have gotten the term from a Sylvia Browne book) Anyway, he has to be out by Friday, and it can't get here soon enough! __________________ Aerrica, and Norman RIP my sweet Poopanut

07-20-2008, 06:01 AM	#19
Graleyne Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 2,563	DH and I have finally come to realize that. The only way DUG will ever learn is if he just falls on his face and has to pick himself back up. Sometimes the mama bird has to push the baby bird out of the nest. Only this time the baby bird is 47 years old! To tell ya'll how self-centered he is....He asked DH to buy him a pack of cigarettes. DH told him no. (that was a rule when he first moved in - we absolutely will NOT buy cigarettes for him.) DH told him that any spare money we had right now was going to help the kids I babysit and their family. DUG had the nerve to pout and say, "But charity begins at home! You should help family before you help someone else's kids." EXCUSE ME???? You mean to tell me that CIGARETTES are more important than helping some children get much needed school supplies and clothes???? And as far as the helping family goes, what have we been doing???? We brought him into OUR home where he watches our television all day, reads MY books (without asking I might add), stinks up my house with his cigarettes (even though he smokes outside that smell follows him everywhere), eats our food, etc. and he doesn't think we are helping him???? __________________ Aerrica, and Norman RIP my sweet Poopanut

07-20-2008, 07:43 AM	#20
red98vett Yorkie Kisses are the Best! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Houston TX Posts: 33,590 Blog Entries: 1	This guy is 47 ? ah....I can't say what I'm thinking but will say this again DO NOT FEEL GUILTY. You've already gone above and beyond. It's time for him to start acting like a man and get on with his life without expecting people to take 'care' of him. he's not still in diapers I hope ? sorry - I couldn't resist. __________________ Villette, Chanel & Cheri www.DesignsByVillette.net Custom Address Labels and Note Cards using YOUR Photos! Just Click HERE!

07-20-2008, 07:50 AM	#21
Graleyne Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 2,563	Yep. He turned 47 on Friday. Threw a fit about us not taking him anywhere for his birthday too. __________________ Aerrica, and Norman RIP my sweet Poopanut

07-20-2008, 01:46 PM	#26
Graleyne Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 2,563	Cross your fingers, legs, toes, and eyes. There is a CHANCE he could be out as early as Tuesday! __________________ Aerrica, and Norman RIP my sweet Poopanut

07-20-2008, 01:53 PM	#27
FL Tink No Longer a Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Riverview, Florida Posts: 4,953	Well let us know ...we will have an online party