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06-30-2008, 11:38 AM
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| Donating YT 1000 Club Member  Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: New Hampshire
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|  Pretty proud of myself!! Well I had to share what Im so proud of. For all those who have been through a horrible breakup that tore them apart... read below. I went through a horrible break up with my fiance of almost 10 years in 2005. We were supposed to get married the following June 24th. Here it is June 30th 2 years after the wedding was supposed to happen, almost 3 years after the breakup, and that day totally went by me. I didn't even realize it had come and gone until just a few mins ago! Im proud of myself because I had such a hard time moving on from this guy.  Also he texted me last week and for the first time EVER... I didn't respond and deleted the text! I feel sooo good that Im taking a stand finally against him and not letting him get to me anymore or hurt me or anything. He is a memory now, nothing more. Im so glad for that! 
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06-30-2008, 11:41 AM
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| No Longer a Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Riverview, Florida
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|  That is so awesome and healthy! good for you! |
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06-30-2008, 11:42 AM
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| It sounds like you've moved on with your life! I'm very happy for you!
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06-30-2008, 11:47 AM
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| No Longer a Member  Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: INDIANA
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| I'm soooo proud of you and that you are starting to move on. Congrats! |
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06-30-2008, 12:10 PM
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| Lovin' to the MAX!!  Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Yorkieville
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| Wonderful ! It's really really hard to get to that point and emotions are so strong....it seems like all the good stuff is always in the forefront no matter how bad it was at other times! Which makes getting over it and moving on so difficult! But you did it!!! Pat yourself on the back; you totally deserve it!!!
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06-30-2008, 12:18 PM
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| Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: New Hampshire
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| Its been a LONG road. Ive shed sooo many tears, lost some friends, gained so much strength, read sooo many books, lived numb... its amazing the realm of emotions that goes through you when something traumatic happens. We owned a house together and it was like we got divorced. It tore me apart for sooo long. I met someone this past January who I feel is my soul mate. I cannot imagine a day w/o him. I don't love him in that childish, passionate, obsessive way that I loved my ex. I love him in a comfortable, calm, content way and know that he would never do to me what my ex did. He makes me feel safe and secure. He is reliable and comfortable yet still fun and passionate. I feel like such a lucky girl to have 2 great loves. One that burnt out but was filled with so much at one time, and another that can and will sustain a lifetime I truely believe.
__________________ “Petting, scratching, and cuddling a dog could be as soothing to the mind and heart as deep meditation and almost as good for the soul as prayer.” ― Dean Koontz |
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06-30-2008, 01:13 PM
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| Donating YT 3000 Club Member  Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: A little town south of Chicago
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| You SHOULD be proud of yourself. I don't think we realize how much we beat ourselves up with grief until we don't feel it any more. Whatever you did, you did right! |
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06-30-2008, 04:35 PM
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| Lovin' to the MAX!! Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Yorkieville
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06-30-2008, 05:13 PM
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Awwwww...you brought tears to my eyes. You are in love, aren't you, girl? I am sooooo happy for you. Joanne
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06-30-2008, 05:50 PM
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| You have a right to be proud of yourself. I can tell you have grown emotionally. Good luck sweetie.
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06-30-2008, 06:25 PM
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| Donating YT 7000 Club Member  Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Alabama, etc.
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 Yes, I still hug him and tell him that I love him ... he is the father of my grandchildren and they are watching ... we never, ever say anything negative about him. They love their Dad and when they are old enough to figure out for themselves ... so be it! I am so very happy that you met someone who deserves a wonderful person such as yourself and I pray that someday my Amanda will also. It's so very hard for a Mom to watch her child in pain but we just keep reminding ourselves that "all things work together for good .... "! God bless you!
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07-01-2008, 08:51 AM
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| Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: New Hampshire
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Thank you Bettyeanne and everyone else!! Bettyeanne, I know how your daughter feels when it comes to her ex husband. I did not have kids with my ex so I don't know how it feels to be a 'family' so to speak and then have him rip that apart. How long has she been divorced? I know it took me over 2 years to feel any emotion at all towards another man. I held a glimmer of hope that maybe we needed a 5 year break to 'grow up' and then we'd unite and be happily ever after for real. Reality hurts, but then you start to have moments here & there, epiphanies that make you see how much more you deserve. It takes time but it does get easier. For some of us, it takes a LOT more time than others. It took me a LONG time! Too long I think, but Im ok with that. At least it makes me realize when I love, its with my whole heart & soul and not just anyone I date. Im picky! My relationship with my own mother strengthened so much after my break up with my ex. We could relate to each other more and looked at each other as adults, people and WOMEN, not just a mother and a daughter. In so many ways Im glad he ended it. Even if I lived through the worst most heartbreaking time of my life. Now that Im beyond it, I see how much I had to gain without him in my life. Im a happier person day to day than I was, I have better more positive relationships with friends, family and guys I date now. I have a better outlook on my life in general. My only slight sadness is that I did not ever have a child and I may not ever have one. I believe everything happens for a reason though! (((HUGS)))) to your daughter! If you ever want to ask my advice on how you should help her, send me a PM. I remember what would make me listen to my mother when I was going through all this ... and what would make me turn away from my mother. My moms love for all her kids is fierce, she'd beat my ex to a piece of crap if she saw him on the street at this point (she despises him for all the breakups he put me through and the roller coaster 10 years we had) and that makes me feel good that she'd beat him to protect me!
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07-01-2008, 08:55 AM
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| Love my lil' Stinker <3  Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Central Coast, CA
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| Good for you!!!!!!! I bet that is a VERY good feeling.
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07-01-2008, 09:10 AM
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| Just me 'n my boys Donating Member  Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Murphy, TX
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| 3 years!!! ccrrraaaapppp!!!!!! I'm only 4 months into my ordeal. I can't wait to get to the point that you are.Good job honey, big hugs and congrats!!!!!!
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