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crystalsmom · 04-25-2008, 06:15 AM

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Originally Posted by For My Coby

If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably a wise investment."

and look at it this way, you only had to spend $10

Don't waste any time and energy or anger, it's one of life' lessons and you did a very thoughtful deed.

JCarlson2004 · 04-25-2008, 06:22 AM

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Originally Posted by MyFairLacy

I don't think it's about her losing $10 at all (although you know..$10 is $10). It's about right and wrong and just good manners. How rude to ask someone to do you a favor by buying something for you and taking the time to ship it, and then not pay them or even say thankyou...that is incredibly rude

Whoever did this ought to feel pretty ashamed of themselves. Like I said, it's not about money..it's about doing the right thing and having good manners. I'm sorry but this is just not acceptable

I've done favors for YT members and have always gotten a thankyou. I've had favors done for me and I always say thankyou. You are supposed to say thankyou when someone goes out of their way for you.

Well said. I totally agree.

daisy mae06 · 04-25-2008, 06:54 AM

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Originally Posted by MyFairLacy

I don't think it's about her losing $10 at all (although you know..$10 is $10). It's about right and wrong and just good manners. How rude to ask someone to do you a favor by buying something for you and taking the time to ship it, and then not pay them or even say thankyou...that is incredibly rude

Whoever did this ought to feel pretty ashamed of themselves. Like I said, it's not about money..it's about doing the right thing and having good manners. I'm sorry but this is just not acceptable

I've done favors for YT members and have always gotten a thankyou. I've had favors done for me and I always say thankyou. You are supposed to say thankyou when someone goes out of their way for you.

Very well said Michele... I agree

I hope that the person that did this sends the money.. and Truly I think that posting the name so others do not get scammed would be wise.
I know that others have been exposed and it is in the rules that members who do this will be banned.

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jp4m2 · 04-25-2008, 07:02 AM

It stinks this happened to you.....After being on here for a few years I can say I'm not surprised.....This must have put you in an awkward position....
It sure is disappointing when a member does this sort of thing to another member....

southernchick · 04-25-2008, 07:22 AM

Hopefully they will see this & feel very ashamed of theirselves & not only pay you but also apologize. I deal with this in my business, (hair stylist) it is very irritating.. I've had them come in & say oh I forgot my billfold/wallet AFTER I'm done (one lady did this to me 4 times in a row) it's took me a month & LONGER b/f to get my money & there are some that never came back to pay (mostly college students) & what's bad is when you see them they know they're guilty & won't even look you in the eye. guess I needed to vent!

Take a deep breath & say GOOD RIDDANCE!!

cariblonde · 04-25-2008, 07:36 AM

I swear the audasity of some people is just truly UNBELIEVABLE

I would like to know who it was.. Im sorry you were scammed

daisy mae06 · 04-25-2008, 07:39 AM

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Originally Posted by southernchick

Hopefully they will see this & feel very ashamed of theirselves & not only pay you but also apologize. I deal with this in my business, (hair stylist) it is very irritating.. I've had them come in & say oh I forgot my billfold/wallet AFTER I'm done (one lady did this to me 4 times in a row) it's took me a month & LONGER b/f to get my money & there are some that never came back to pay (mostly college students) & what's bad is when you see them they know they're guilty & won't even look you in the eye. guess I needed to vent!

Take a deep breath & say GOOD RIDDANCE!!

Wow thats not right I am a stylist too... If they do that to me I have them call someone to bring it

and I put a note in their file. In 14 years I have done hair this has worked the best for me.

AmeliaBadelia · 04-25-2008, 03:57 PM

Years ago I was on a designer purse board where this was a problem. We were in Europe, the Euro was weak & so the fashion houses were considerably cheaper for us. People would ask for favors in picking stuff up from Hermes or LV.... What I've always done is have payment in CLEARED in my bank account before I purchase anything. People would always ask, but I would never do any favors for anyone unless they payed first & it CLEARED my account.

If that's too harsh, another thing you could do is if it's something small, or something that's going fast, get it - but don't ship out until you have payment in hand. You can always return it later if you don't get your money back, or offer to someone else. But never, never ship anything out without first getting your money first. I don't care who it is. Money makes people do stupid things.

OP, I'm really sorry that this happened to you. It's so sad when a truly kind & giving soul is taken advantage of, particularly when it's someone they consider a friend. Don't let it jade you, just safeguard yourself better next time. ((hugs))

Betty'sMom · 04-25-2008, 04:19 PM

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Originally Posted by MyFairLacy

Seriously, if anyone ever sends me something and doesn't hear from me, PLEASE ask me

LOL!! That sounds exactly like me!!!! I'd die if I forgot to pay for something!!!

Baby Madeleine · 04-25-2008, 06:36 PM

I'm so sorry this happened to you. This person should be ashamed of themselves

erickajm · 04-25-2008, 06:55 PM

I am hoping that maybe the person just forgot? And maybe they aren't good at checking their pms? Just trying to be optimistic here. I hope that that was the case. If its not it is a shame that being a good, friendly and trusting person just doesn't pay off anymore.

Monday · 04-25-2008, 07:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Connie

I'm sorry you got burned by a yt'er that you trusted. I've gotten burned 3 times by yt'ers because I'm such a trusting soul. They all disappeared off YT, so I guess they felt shady by doing it.

I understand your upset. The least they could have done is thank you. I just couldn't sleep at night if I did that to people! Please pm me the name.

AMEN! And Connie is one of the nicest people on here.

This happened to me a few times I made donations to help people, and I really felt hurt.

However, I would not let them stop me from doing the right thing.

Isabel · 04-25-2008, 08:33 PM

I understand you... been there, done that... When I started selling my bows, I used to jjust make them, and ship... then, people would send a check because I hated them to pay for those fees... got screwed a couple times... so upsetting... you do something to help, please or share with others, give your time, effort and money, and they, somehow think they deserve it for free... I am sorry you are in this situation... Shame on some people... Oh, and as you say, is not the money...

Angela · 04-26-2008, 01:14 AM

Sorry you were put in this postion.....I always enjoy helping when I can and there are good people on here who can't find something in their area....It makes it hard for those people to ask for help and hard for the trusting person to help. I hope somehow it was a big misunderstanding.

Angie

romeos mommy · 04-26-2008, 03:51 AM

this is awful. i had someone on YT sell me something that was clearly damaged when they sent it to me. that made me really angry.

04-25-2008, 07:02 AM	#34
jp4m2 Love my Boys Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: w/ my boys Posts: 5,056	It stinks this happened to you.....After being on here for a few years I can say I'm not surprised.....This must have put you in an awkward position.... It sure is disappointing when a member does this sort of thing to another member.... __________________ B.J.mom to : Jake J.J. Jack & Joey, momma misses you..... The joy found in the companionship of a pet is a blessing not given to everyone. The two most powerful words when we’re in struggle: me too..

04-25-2008, 07:22 AM	#35
southernchick Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: God's Country Posts: 398	Hopefully they will see this & feel very ashamed of theirselves & not only pay you but also apologize. I deal with this in my business, (hair stylist) it is very irritating.. I've had them come in & say oh I forgot my billfold/wallet AFTER I'm done (one lady did this to me 4 times in a row) it's took me a month & LONGER b/f to get my money & there are some that never came back to pay (mostly college students) & what's bad is when you see them they know they're guilty & won't even look you in the eye. guess I needed to vent! Take a deep breath & say GOOD RIDDANCE!! __________________ *proud mommy to Regan Ashlie*

04-25-2008, 07:36 AM	#36
cariblonde Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: wilmington nc Posts: 1,585	I swear the audasity of some people is just truly UNBELIEVABLE I would like to know who it was.. Im sorry you were scammed __________________ Proud Member of the Spoiled Rotten Club and in the end, its not the years in your life that count but the life in your years.... Abraham Lincoln

04-25-2008, 03:57 PM	#38
AmeliaBadelia YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Jersey Shore Posts: 351	Years ago I was on a designer purse board where this was a problem. We were in Europe, the Euro was weak & so the fashion houses were considerably cheaper for us. People would ask for favors in picking stuff up from Hermes or LV.... What I've always done is have payment in CLEARED in my bank account before I purchase anything. People would always ask, but I would never do any favors for anyone unless they payed first & it CLEARED my account. If that's too harsh, another thing you could do is if it's something small, or something that's going fast, get it - but don't ship out until you have payment in hand. You can always return it later if you don't get your money back, or offer to someone else. But never, never ship anything out without first getting your money first. I don't care who it is. Money makes people do stupid things. OP, I'm really sorry that this happened to you. It's so sad when a truly kind & giving soul is taken advantage of, particularly when it's someone they consider a friend. Don't let it jade you, just safeguard yourself better next time. ((hugs)) __________________ --Catherine Amelia, Rosie & the kitties

04-25-2008, 06:36 PM	#40
Baby Madeleine Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Stuart, Florida Posts: 1,094	I'm so sorry this happened to you. This person should be ashamed of themselves __________________ Monica and Madeleine Member of the Spoiled Rotten Club

04-25-2008, 06:55 PM	#41
erickajm Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Central Pennsylvania Posts: 3,200	I am hoping that maybe the person just forgot? And maybe they aren't good at checking their pms? Just trying to be optimistic here. I hope that that was the case. If its not it is a shame that being a good, friendly and trusting person just doesn't pay off anymore. __________________ Zoe Peppee Brady EARL!

04-25-2008, 08:33 PM	#43
Isabel Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: The Woodlands TX Posts: 1,010	I understand you... been there, done that... When I started selling my bows, I used to jjust make them, and ship... then, people would send a check because I hated them to pay for those fees... got screwed a couple times... so upsetting... you do something to help, please or share with others, give your time, effort and money, and they, somehow think they deserve it for free... I am sorry you are in this situation... Shame on some people... Oh, and as you say, is not the money... __________________ Isabel T., Don Juan and Luna's momma. Last edited by Isabel; 04-25-2008 at 08:34 PM.

04-26-2008, 01:14 AM	#44
Angela YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Baton Rouge, LA Posts: 849	Sorry you were put in this postion.....I always enjoy helping when I can and there are good people on here who can't find something in their area....It makes it hard for those people to ask for help and hard for the trusting person to help. I hope somehow it was a big misunderstanding. Angie

04-26-2008, 03:51 AM	#45
romeos mommy YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Pennsauken , NJ Posts: 4,068	this is awful. i had someone on YT sell me something that was clearly damaged when they sent it to me. that made me really angry. __________________ Bernadette & Romeo