I understand you... been there, done that... When I started selling my bows, I used to jjust make them, and ship... then, people would send a check because I hated them to pay for those fees... got screwed a couple times... so upsetting... you do something to help, please or share with others, give your time, effort and money, and they, somehow think they deserve it for free... I am sorry you are in this situation... Shame on some people... Oh, and as you say, is not the money...