Am I wrong about this?

[momof4CA]

I feel for you! I have 2 dd's with learning disablities (1w/ADD and 1 w/ dyslexia) and homework is a big issue in our house! It take us hours without adding anything extra. Some afternoon I truely want to run away!

If it was me, I would go into the school first thing tomorrow and talk with the teacher. Make sure you take your DD it is important for her to understand that her behavior is part of the problem and she needs to be part of the solution! Go in with a very friendly attitude! Tell her you had no idea that your DD was behind by 20 pages. Then ask what could be done to fix the situation. If the teacher doesn't offer any suggestion on what can be done. Maybe, you can suggest that your DD finish a certain amount every night for a week.

I have to deal with my 4 children's schools ALL of the time for very different reason. I have had good experiences and some not so good. But, I always go in with a smile on my face and a overly friendly attitude!! I always make it clear that we are a team, working together.

[Brookef18]

I would have a meeting with the principal and the teacher and discuss a happy medium on how much work your daughter does at home. The teacher let this go way to long and now wants to throw it at you to fix. My daughter is in college and my son is out of college. In my experiance if you go to the teacher she will just give you a hard time ( you can try...) But when you bring in the principal they have a big attitude change real fast. I would be willing to bet they come to a reasonable amount of work for your daughter to complete at home.

[BabyFidgette]

Originally Posted by Brookef18

I would have a meeting with the principal and the teacher and discuss a happy medium on how much work your daughter does at home. The teacher let this go way to long and now wants to throw it at you to fix. My daughter is in college and my son is out of college. In my experiance if you go to the teacher she will just give you a hard time ( you can try...) But when you bring in the principal they have a big attitude change real fast. I would be willing to bet they come to a reasonable amount of work for your daughter to complete at home.

Oh geez. (sigh) Don't go to the principal first. Talk to the teacher. Then if you don't get the desired response, contact the principal or guidance counselor.

PS. I talk to my parents the SAME way whether they went to me or the principal first.

[TootiesMom]

OH, how I have been in your shoes, for the last 11 years... my daughter has ADD and cannot tolerate meds so we FIGHT, hard.... we had the teacher from #&#$#%! one year and did end up having to go to the principal but it worked and all went well the rest of the year.
I DO understand what teachers have to go through, being married to one....

I have found that staying in CONSTANT contact with her teachers always helps me, and it helps her in the long run. I email teachers very often, and now they will shoot me an email if they see something going wrong....

I dont think you are making too much of this, this is your BABY! I agree with the others and would go to the teacher first.... thay may clear it all up for you!
Good Luck!

[psugorilladdr]

Originally Posted by chloeandj

That seems like an impossible task for a 6 year old.
My son is in first grade and I'm pretty sure they finish things together in class. If my 3rd grader doesn't finish his class room work he has to stay in for recess to complete it.

Wow. I'm doing my student teaching this fall... and I totally disagree with taking their recess away. They need that time to get all that energy out they have from sitting all the time...

[pepe mint]

Originally Posted by psugorilladdr

Wow. I'm doing my student teaching this fall... and I totally disagree with taking their recess away. They need that time to get all that energy out they have from sitting all the time...

I agree with this. I can tell you first hand that there is a HUGE difference in the energy level and behavior of the kids when they don't have recess. I think it is crucial. especially the days they don't have p.e.

[BubblPopElectrc]

Originally Posted by BabyFidgette

What do we "do" with them all day? You go teach a classroom for 10 years and see how you can handle discipline and bad attitudes that parents don't take care of at home. It's a two way street honey, so don't blame it on the teachers.

I agree.

Sadly, I believe that teachers get such little respect. There are so many objectives, standards, and testing that teachers must have children complete. It's not optional. It's not up to the teachers.

But back to the OP, I would also be upset that the problem wasn't caught earlier. Hopefully you can work with the teacher and address the issue.

[Judy in Waco]

I am so sorry you and your dd are going through this.

However, I don't really see the point in blaming anyone for the problem. I would suggest that you focus on a solution instead. I would have a conference with the teacher first. If you feel too angry to do that on your own, set it up with the counselor. I would keep the principal out of it for now.

1. From now on, find out what page she should be on each night and make sure those pages were done that day. Ask the teacher to email you if there is an issue that day or that week even. (Even once a week would help.) If you don't hear from the teacher by the end of a week, take the initiative and email her.

2. Set up a realistic schedule to get her caught up. Maybe three or four pages a night?

3. Find out why your dd isn't getting it finished. Is there a type of problem she doesn't understand?

I hope you can all work it out amicably for your daughter's sake.

[pepe mint]

Originally Posted by Judy in Waco

I am so sorry you and your dd are going through this.

However, I don't really see the point in blaming anyone for the problem. I would suggest that you focus on a solution instead. I would have a conference with the teacher first. If you feel too angry to do that on your own, set it up with the counselor. I would keep the principal out of it for now.

1. From now on, find out what page she should be on each night and make sure those pages were done that day. Ask the teacher to email you if there is an issue that day or that week even. (Even once a week would help.) If you don't hear from the teacher by the end of a week, take the initiative and email her. The work that was sent home today isn't anything that is normally sent home. It is work that is done IN the classroom and I never see it. So I wouldn't really have any way of knowing on a nightly or weekly basis if she is doing it. This is something I really feel should be the teachers responsibility. I don't know of any teachers that don't have to grade papers daily...or almost daily. So, with that said, if she were doing that, she would not have been surprised to see that there were 20+ pages of her "in school" work incompleted.

2. Set up a realistic schedule to get her caught up. Maybe three or four pages a night? We actually finished it all tonight. We worked on it a little at a time until it was done. she got plenty of play time in tonight, as well as dessert and such....but she did finish all of the work today. I will send the book back to school with her tomorrow.

3. Find out why your dd isn't getting it finished. Is there a type of problem she doesn't understand? I do not think it is that she doesn't understand. she literally finished all of the work on her own with VERY LITTLE help from me today. all 20+ pages of it...and I had to help her with maybe 2 of the pages. She understood the work and did it very quickly. I think she is aware that the teacher isn't following up and making sure the work is done. she probably doesn't think the work is important because the teacher doesn't look at it anyway. Kids are a lot smarter than we tend to give them credit for LOL

I hope you can all work it out amicably for your daughter's sake.

Judy, I understand what you are saying.and I do think the teacher needs to be talked to about it (by me...not the principal) and I would like to understand why it took so long for her to recognize this and bring it to my attention. Apparently she is not grading the papers daily...or even weekly for that matter...or she would have seen that she was not finishing her work in class.

I answered your questions above

[BabyFidgette]

Originally Posted by BubblPopElectrc

I agree.

Sadly, I believe that teachers get such little respect. There are so many objectives, standards, and testing that teachers must have children complete. It's not optional. It's not up to the teachers.

But back to the OP, I would also be upset that the problem wasn't caught earlier. Hopefully you can work with the teacher and address the issue.

[blueeyes_jd]

sheesh! Im sorry you are having such a hard time with this teacher!!! I know MOST teachers correct the papers in class with the students or on thier own... now it just strikes me as odd that she would let it go that LONG!!!what is up with her?? you are NOT WRONG AT ALL!!!! you are a GREAT MOM!!!! keep up the good work!

[lilfoot]

With your children so young you have a lot of this kind of stuff in your future. I have worked for the school system for the last 4 years as well as having a 12 and 14 year old and have seen it ALL!!!! Good teachers and the bad teachers....I really believe that if you are to survive their schooling the next 20 years you have to handle the situations. I ALWAYS hold my kids accountable for any issues unless they can prove to me that situation is under their control.....and then I let them handle certain things themselves and if no resolve then I get involved....it teachers them accountablitly for their actions (which I think most kids dont get these days). I started this from kindergarten on.... granted somethings are beyond their control and do need parent back up....

as for your daughter I think you did a great job by having her getting caught up in one night cause obvioulsy she didn't do the work when she needed to and by showing her how hard it is to get caught was a valuable lesson. But I do think that since this was not a homework issue and an inside school issue that you need to talk to the teacher....the teacher was slacking on her responsibilites by not seeing this work was not getting done....please don't ever go to the principal unless issues with the teacher are unresolvable....it causes great problems down the road.....(a valuable lesson "I" have learned) Good luck with everything....

[Sookie]

I understand your frustration, believe me. I have no solution - just reading it made me so happy to have all that stuff behind me. Good luck with everything and I hope you work it all out.

[JCarlson2004]

Originally Posted by vainchick5

I definitely think that you should have a discussion with the teacher because I do agree that's a lot to send home with a 6 year old. I hope you don't mind me saying so but you should also definitely talk to your daughter. It's good for her to understand her responsibilities. Getting good grades and doing well at school was a requirement for me growing up. Even if I had the teacher from hell my parents always made me take the responsibility of doing well in school. I think maybe you should ask your dd why she's not doing her work in class and what it is she is doing during that class work time. Sometimes I used to do better at home than in the classroom because I had anxiety at school with the teacher breathing down our necks. But somehow I got through it. The teacher should have at least called or emailed or something at like assignment 2 to say "hey Trinity is behind on the last two days work can you please work with her on this". Sorry you have to deal with this, probably the last thing you need

[Nikki+2]

That is awesome that she got it done! I would have been upset also though. There is no excuse for her teacher not to be checking (and grading) classwork.