I am so upset....crushed

[katelin]

Debbi, I'm glad to hear you are still moving forward with your plans. I know things had to be put on hold awhile so these girls could have their babies, but it never hurts to be prepared for what will inevitably come again. Go Girl!

[txshopper73]

Maybe you should put parental controls on his username. Change your password to your account so that he can't log on under you.

I've had to do it before.

Best of luck!

[Josie's Mom]

Just wanted to let you know, you are in my thoughts.

[RoxyJosMom]

Big, big hug on it's way to you. Be strong and take care of you.

[Keno]

I just found this and was reading it. Deb, is the house in both your names?
If not, then go to the bank and take a home equity loan, then the house will belong to the bank and he will not be able to touch it.

Ask someone at the bank about that.
But if it is in both your names, you would need his signature and I imagine that would be hard to get.

My heart hurts for you.

I am still reading this thread, so I may have justed the gun here. forgive me.

Originally Posted by NanaDtreasures

I read your posts a week or so ago and I worried that this had happened to you...I'm so sorry. And you have small kids.((((hugs)))
I have consulted an attorney here.
But he says that I have to be prepared to lose everything.
There is no protecting my house/100,000 if he goes to the hospital.
I already know I can get a protection order, but off to the hospital he would go
I'm not sure if you read about his problems with his heart.
I have been abused for most of my marriage.
I had spinal fusion done 10 years ago and was in a bodycast for 3 months.
I cant work. I do not get disability. The only thing I have for my future is my money which I thought I had protected with a pre-nup.
Not so if the man choses to blackmail you. I hope if others read this they know this can happen to them and in reaching out I hope somebody will know ANYTHING I can do to prevent it. My attorney gives me no hope.
He just says when you're ready...the money wont matter..
I have went to the hospital once after he grabbed my top as I tried to leave
and threw me to the ground. I couldnt move but thankfully the fusion held.
The hospital took pics of what looked like a huge rope burn across my neck.
It was there for a week.
He also pulled my hair and blackened my eye and half my face when grabbing it(he didnt punch me) both times at the hospital...he glared at me telling me dont you dare tell...Your house will be gone
The nurses and DR werent stupid they knew what had happened.
I have been "chest butted" into walls more times then I can count.
BUT he claims he is not an abuser.He has never beat me with his fists...whatever. I know what he is ..I hate him
He tells me Im old and wrikled and ugly.
He knows my 22 yr marriage broke up for 10 yr for a younger woman.
And he is 2 years younger then me..
I think thats why the porn bothers me that much more
And uses names I had only heard a few men say in my life.
I have hated this man for years now
I want out. Its all I think about
I keep hoping he will just have a heart attack from his heart problems.
I do go to my kids alot...and I go to hotels alot just to get away from him
Thank you so much for checking on things for me.
He wont get support .I dont work or have nothing but the money which is in my house.

[Potter]

I just want to say I am so sorry and I hope you will feel better soon. PM me if you need someone to chat, I sometimes am still on YT even late at night. I don't have much but I have a good pair of ears to listen.