I am about to go OFF!!!!!
 

Long story --not-so-short, I saw this lady at church that my best friend is friends with...she was asking where my best friend was...saying she needed to talk to her about the fact that she can't come to her wedding (my best friend is getting married in May...and it is out of state). I said "well, I'm not sure why she isn't here this morning, but she will be coming over for dinner tonight and I will let her know that you need to talk to her."

she then proceeded to say "do you mind if I invite myself over???" well...I don't want to be rude to her...and even tho I can't really stand this woman...I said yes. I just hate to be rude. even tho I KNEW I would regret it.


low and behold....they come over with their 2 boys, ages 7 and 5, and have dinner and hang out for a bit. Their boys are literally climbing the walls...they think they are spiderman. literally...they climb walls. they climb door frames. and when in the hallway, they will spread their legs and arms to reach each wall and climb the walls. the parents just cheer them on and laughed about it. I was flipping out. Let me just add that my daughter is at a sleepover so she wasn't here. anyway...at one point I notice that the boys are going into my daughters bedroom and I had asked that they only play in the playroom and not the bedroom. So I asked the father to go and check on them. He comes back and says, jokingly "were there fish in that fish tank???? cuz there aren't now. the boys were trying to "pet" the fish." then he laughed and said he was joking...the fish were there but they were really trying to pet the fish. I just kinda rolled my eyes and sighed.


soooooooo....they leave. they don't ask their boys to clean up the mess they made or anything. keep in mind,...before I allowed my daughter to go to this sleepover, I made her completely clean her bedroom and play room. well...these boys leave and the play room is destroyed. literally. they have taken toy bins and dumped them on the floor. they took the chalk from the easel and broke it into hundreds of pieces and scattered it on the floor. I can't even walk in there!!!!!!!!!!

but that's not the best part!!! I go into Trinity's bedroom to see if they had gotten water on the floor. BOY...don't I wish that was all they did!!!!! They had pens, markers, hair bows, and toys inside the fish tank!! AND....to top it off...one of the fish is missing!!!! :eek: :eek: yes..MISSING!!!! I am freaking out at this point. I take the tank into the kitchen to clean it...I empty everything out...NO FISH!!! turns out the fish is in the filter...half of his scalp missing!! I am livid!!! I swear I want to go off of these people. I just dont' know how to do it. Since they are good friends of my best friend, I hate to make things akward and bad. but OMG they are NEVER allowed to come to my house again.

NOT TO MENTION...I made it VERY clear that they are not allowed to play with the dogs,. I actually had the dogs closed off in my bedroom. I was in the kitchen cleaning up and my husband went to the bathroom. The dogs ran out and when I went to look for them, Tessa ran into the play room with me and one of the boys picked her up and put her on top of the horse. this is a stand up horse that my 7 year old daughter can sit on and not touch the ground!!! I went OFF on them and said "NO,...you do NOT play with my dogs!!!!!!!!" and I took tessa and then locked her and maggie in my bedroom so no one could get in there.

I am just seeing red right now!!! am I crazy??? I just cant handle people that do not feel the need to watch their children...ESPECIALLY at someone else's house. ESPECIALLY when they invited THEMSELVES over!! and I swear...I would never let my daughter make a mess at someone's house and then just leave it there. HELL NO!!!!

so...I think I am going to send them an email and let them know how I feel. I think that sounds cowardly of me...but I know that if I call them or talk to them in person, I will say some harsh things and just totally flip out on them. If I write it in an email, I can edit it to make it not so ugly. make sense??? I just dont' know what else to do...but I want to make sure they understand that they are NOT invited to my house again!!!!

Now I agree you have every right to be mad but I would suggest sleeping on it so that your emotions do not make you say things that you may not have said after sleeping on it.

I have learned .. still learning actually... dont respond in haste.


It bothers me when parents do not make their kids behave:thumbdown.

oh, and yes, my daughters bedroom floor is soaked with water from the fish tank :( :thumbdown

:eek: :eek: :eek: Ooohh..I wouldn't care if they were a friend of a friend..I sure wouldn't have been friendly after all that! Tell them exactly how you feel. Who cares what they think...I HATE when people let their kids act like that! :mad:

Ugh... how irritating!

this is exactly what bothers me most. I can handle being around them even tho I don't like them,..but they let their kids run wild and this is just over the top for me. it's my last straw.

just to give an idea of how "bad" their kids are...their youngest just started going to school at a montesory that their mom actually works part time at. well, he got suspended and was asked not to return!!!!!

And they just brought their kids over without even asking you??

Good gosh this should open their eyes that they have heathens!

no, they invited themselves over and I said ok. I knew their kids would be there...but I really didn't expect it to get this bad. i expected them to get on the furniture with their shoes on and stuff like that...but not THIS!!!!!!

exactly!!!!

they will definitely know how I feel...one way or another!!!

Oh boy. I can see red, and it's not even my house. That is a HUGE pet peeve of mine! HUGE! When we went to anyone's house, my girls typically didn't leave my side unless they had been there before and were "welcomed" to play with the other children. But other than that, they didn't leave the room I was in! Even my kids could never stand kids like that.

I agree with Twalla - make sure you sleep on it. And here is the lesson - I learned it years ago........ Say no to the self-invite in the first place. It's your house. It was your dinner. I am not "forward" enough to be so direct as simply "no". But I come up with some excuse that "tonight wouldn't be a good time because we're discussing something personal, my daughter isn't feeling well, the dogs aren't feeling well", whatever.

I'm so sorry. You shouldn't have had to deal with that. Really bad parenting on their part. :thumbdown

those kids have some crappie parents!!

No, those kids- really don't have any parents!!

They were cruel to your fish, so it sounds like!!
And could of put your pups in danger, if you had not handled it!!
what animals will they be cruel to later on!
I blame the parnets- 100%!!
apples do not fall far from the tree!!!

I am definitely going to "sleep on it"...but make no mistake...she will know how I feel. she needs to understand that this stuff is just NOT acceptable!!!!

I blame the parents too. I am not angry with the children...they are young and this is how they have been raised. the parents on the other hand...they should know better. period!!!! they need to instill some serious rules and discipline...or they will have MAJOR problems later in life!!!!

I'm sorry! I know how upset you are but...Welcome to the world of boys! :rolleyes: Mine boys are certainly much better behaved than that but I've had extremely busy spiderman climbers for years...sigh...LOL

the climbing on the walls was the least of my problems. the total lack of respect for other people's property.....which falls completely back on the parents....is what chaps my hide!!! boy, girl, or whatever...I can't imagine letting my kids act that way. i will be surprised if I don't have to go buy a new fish tomorrow so my daughter doesn't freak out when she gets home :(

I sure hope the fish is just hiding:(

My sister and I used to climb the walls like that...in the door frames but only at our own house! There is no way we'd do that at someone else's house.

I was thinking about the fish...I'm sure your daughter will be upset her fish died.

I found the fish in the filter....he is alive for now...but he has been scalped. so i'm worried :(

Yes, all of that is true - but I doubt that you will get anywhere with these people if you tell them this.

I would stick to the exact facts. Including the fact that they are not welcome in your home again. Detail the damage done and tell them that you felt they should know. Also, let them know how much time it took you to clean this up. Let them know how you feel about this - it's a fact too - just don't go overboard. Make sure your hubby reads your email first. The one thing I hate about the written word - (yeah, I know it's all we've got on YT :rolleyes: ) - sometimes things come across differently than we intended them.

Do they offer some parenting classes at your church - can you sign these folks up :D -- I would be so tempted to slip some Bible verses in the email. I think it is great they you are willing to put this effort into letting them know how you feel - I would be tempted to be a wimp & just never open my home to them again.

So what did your mutual friend have to say about the entire event? She should be thrilled these brats aren't coming to her wedding.

I'm sorry,i reread my post and wanted to say that I didn't mean to say you shouldn't be upset.(hugs)

I've just had this happen so many times where little boys come to visit and they act in similar ways. My nephews stay quite often and the house is always trashed when they leave and I'm worn out running after everyone making sure they don't hurt themselves because they are so full of energy. They've never hurt or wanted to hurt an animal of mine of though and I would certainly not tolerate any display of that kind of act.

fish are so sensitive...it will probably develop an infection. I really doubt it will make it :(

Poor fish was probably trying to HIDE in the filter! We had a fish get caught in a decorative boat once and he was pretty much scalped too. He did survive, but he was ugly for awhile. :(

[QUOTE=For My Coby;1854303]Oh boy. I can see red, and it's not even my house. That is a HUGE pet peeve of mine! HUGE! When we went to anyone's house, my girls typically didn't leave my side unless they had been there before and were "welcomed" to play with the other children. But other than that, they didn't leave the room I was in! Even my kids could never stand kids like that.

You've got that right!! How are children supposed to learn respect for others if they are not taught it? I do not let my child run all over someone's house and she has to ask me permission and the person who own's the home permission to do anything. And sometimes even when the other person tells her yes, I will still tell her no because I feel like alot of times people let your children do certain things because they do not want to be rude to you or your child. It is up to me to discern these things. I do not let my child run wild because I do not want adults or her peers disliking her for her disrespect. Parents are so ridiculous these days and are way to quick with the "kids will be kids" mentality. How could you let your child run wild all over someone else's house when that person's kid isn't even at home!!?? My hands were clasped over my mouth the entire time you were telling this story! My daughter at almost five years old does not trash her toys. She takes really good care of them. She wouldn't have any if she didn't. I cannot stand to have kids over that trash her playroom. Rowdy kids usually do not get a re-invite. But this way crossed the line and I absolutely think you should say something to these crazy people!! Especially since they messed with your dogs after you specifically told them not to. And what about your poor fish? Geez. These kids are the reason some yorkie breeders won't sell to those of us who do have well-behaved children. I am so pissed for you!! If I had to go and clean up somebody else's kids mess, and deal with thought that my dogs could've been hurt, I would blow a friggin gasket!! :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad:

:angry: There is your answer to what is happening to our country..lack of parenting skills, common sense, respect, among many other things. I would not hold back! I would ask them to replace the chalk, and the markers that were dumped into the tank, the fish and pay for the carpet to be cleaned..and anything else that was damaged...walls are probably marked up. And if they say no I would be very tempted, just to scare them, have an attorney draw up a paper saying you will take legal action $50 or so..hee hee

As far as your friend goes...I am sure she would agree. She must have a lot of patience.
You will have to let us know what they say when you confront them....I will pray for strength for you!

Been there, I can relate very well! We have two boys that are from up the road and come down here whenever they feel like it, walk in the door without knocking, go through the fridge and cabinets and such.

We don't have many kids that come over anymore, and the parents that do come over know that they better keep an eye one their kids or I will. There have been many times that I have raised my voice to other peoples kids that were in my home. The boys that come down here, yesterday just walked in the house. I turned around and told them to walk back out and knock and wait to be invited in.

It's sad and aggrivating that parents let their kids get away with it and the kids pay for that behavior because noone wants them around.

Def. let them know how you feel, they will get angry but it will probably be the first time that anyome had the strong nerve to tell them.

We are all behind you and support you

You need some of my attitude, I would have told them to LEAVE, AND THEY WEREN'T WELCOME BACK

I would be beside myself... but when I had kids here I would tell them no if the parents couldn't... I hate when parents put you in the position where you feel you have to take charge! :mad:

I would let them know how you felt but I would call... The thing is, if you react in anger you may not be heard... these people need a wake up call but if you do it to vent, they may not hear you. If you can calm down, and speak to the mom in a way that will be more of teaching you may be able to show her how you feel... Show her how it feels to be on the other end of this. THey got a nice night out and you got nothing but cleaning and stress....

If you can open their eyes so they see the monsters they are throwing at the world maybe they will think twice before they allow the kids to trash the next house!!! I agree that you shouldn't allow them back though. :(