Good for you....I would have done the same thing......Behavior like that is unexeceptable...Shame on the parents for not checking up on their own children.....


Joyce

WOW!!! :eek: :eek: :eek: I'm truly sorry that you had to go thru that.

I was mad when I read the post, then I just down right angry when I saw the pictures. Plain and simple those people knew what their boys are capable of doing. I would definitely send them a bill on the clean up.

All I can say is WOW. :eek: :eek: I can't believe 2 boys that age would be so destructive AND get away with it. I'd be really really upset too - especially what they did to the fish tank amd that poor fish- :(

I'm with everyone else - my boys NEVER acted like that - they were raised to respect peoples homes and I can remember people always telling me how polite/well mannered they were etc - IF I were in someones home I'd be checking my kids ALL the time just because -

Mandee - I would go ballistic too - The thing you missed though was telling them BEFORE they left to clean up their horrible disrespectful mess and I would DEF tell that woman what they did to your fish tank - not to mention - they were sadistic

What the H*ll is wrong with people these days - - so many people just don't teach their kids common manners - those kids are out of control but it's totally the parents fault.

poor girl - I'll say this - you did good NOT calling and waiting to calm down

I can't wait to see what they have to say. Just remember - NO expectations. There's no telling what they'll be like - they may be offended, contrite, appauled. It'll be interesting.

Mandee, iread this this morning and couldnt believe it... and those pics OMG!!! my mom would have killed us if we ever did that to someones house!!... i hope these people realize what their kids are like, but like the above poster said, don't have high expectations for these ppl... good luck though!!

The problem is that the parents were laughing and not correcting this behavior. If I made a mess and acted like that you can bet I would get in so much trouble. My parents wouldn't let me leave unless I made that room spotless. I can't believe they allowed their kids behave that way.:mad:

Okay - I would have been in soooooooooooooo much trouble if I EVER even thought about doing that to my own house and especially someone else's house! I wouldn't have been able to sit for at least a month! I can't believe some parents... they just let their kids do whatever and laugh about it. I wonder what their house looks like?

Now you will know that you are not being rude, you are being sensible to keep this person and her family out of your house.

You poor thing. I would have asked them to leave once they went wandering thru the house!
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!:angry:
I do not blame you for being angry!

Had I been there and had seen that before they left (and after a free meal)
I would have watched while they AND their mom cleaned that mess up.
This is disgraceful!!!
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When my daughter was little people always told me how they would love to have her back,
because the place was left cleaner than it was before she was there.:smile:

And your poor fish! DOUBLE Grrrrrrr!!!!:angry::angry:

Ppl just don't make their kids mind anymore!

Once when I took my son to day care and I picked him up I was walking down the hall and this lady was telling her son he could not have a drink... she just kept argueing w/ him and he would not take no for an answer... when my son and I walked by the machine he ask for a drink and I said no and we kept walking and I heard the lady tell her son... see how that little boy minds his mother, why can't you do that... i couldn't believe it... just like we do with our dogs we have to let our kids know who is alpha...

WOW!!! Mandee those kids are brats:eek: :eek: I know I will get flack for saying this, but I do not enjoy being around children:( I LOVE my children but I get very irritated being around other peoples kids for this exact reason:(

So many people think their kids are angles when in reality they are BRATS!!! And how do you tell someone "I cant stand your kid he/she is a brat" so I just stay away:(

you are sooooo right. in my email, i actually said to her "I'm not saying your kids are bad....they just don't know any better."

this let her know that her kids ARE brats....but it is HER fault LOL

Mandee ~ This sounds a lot like a family horror story regarding a cousin we rarely see, and one of my sisters. The cousin invited herself over "for a visit" (turned into several days). My bil finally told my sister, "I don't care if they are family, you get rid of them, or I will". By this time, cousin had discovered their brakes were bad on their car. When sister asked them to go, cousin brought up the brakes. "We can't drive with no brakes!" To that, sis responds: "Drive real slow". LOL Then, prayed them all the way home. There were some pretty hurt feelings over that one for many years. Even my mother couldn't believe sis sent her cousin away with no brakes in the car!! But...the things the kids did, and her husband! :eek: :eek:

IF these people invite themselves over again, maybe you can sweetly say something like: "Perhaps when the boys grow up a bit, and learn to behave in civilized company." They need not know you're actually thinking: "sure....when pigs fly". :)

I can't believe this. Not only did these people take advantage of your good nature by inviting themselves, the kids trashed your house on top of it all. They didn't give two hoots about your feelings and your property, I wouldn't give two hoots about theirs.
They need to be told. Hope you are feeling o.k. from all this unnecessary clean up.
I know a little bit about how you feel, as when I was a child, friend's of my parents came to visit with their brat daughter, she high tailed it upstairs into my bedroom, ripped the heads off of all my dolls, tore up all my paper dolls, spilled ink all over the place, painted my white dresser with nail polish, I could go on and on.I wasn't home at the time, but when I did come home, I cried for days.
Don't let them get away with this.
Janice

OMG Mandee!! How horrible! And with your pregnancy, you don't need the added stress this caused you! So glad you wrote the email - even if you get no response, at least you got things "off your chest".

I'm a mother to 2 boys and whenever we went over to friends homes, I ALWAYS made mine clean up before leaving. At first they whined and complained but I explained that they helped make the mess, they were going to help clean it up! Didn't take long before all I had to do was tell them we were getting ready to go and to clean up - and they did. And in our home, all toys, books, movies, etc. had to be picked up and put back on shelves or in toy bins before bedtime - that was the rule! It all comes down to parenting and how one teaches their children respect in their own home. If they don't respect their own stuff, how can anyone expect them to respect other peoples things? Clearly, they have no respect for their own house to show such utter DISRESPECT in yours!!

No matter the response (or lack of) from the mother, feel better knowing you spoke your peace!

Suzi

I am getting so ansy waiting for their reply!

no reply yet :( but I still feel better knowing that I told them. and I did it nicely (as nice as can be anyway)...but was sure to let them know that they will not be invited over again...and that I didn't blame the kids...I blame the parents! I also pointed out that I felt there was a lack of concern and respect in my home and that it really upset me.

Wow I can't believe the things some parents let their children get away with. When I was younger, my parents had a rule, if I went to someone's house to play or spend the night I had to stay and help my friend clean-up the next day. Even after birthday parties, etc. And to think that someone just lets there kids run around and destroy things in that manner is disgusting. Seems like those parents might need a lesson from Nanny 911.

I totally agree with you! I'm glad if anything else you were able to point out to them how pathetic...in a nice way that they are. You go girl!

I think she tried to call but I was outside with my daughter. whoever it was didn't leave a message, so I don't know for sure. But I know it is the same prefix as her cell #.

Good grief! What is wrong with parents these days that don't discipline their children! I raised my kids to have respect for people's privacy and property. I never had to worry when they were in other homes, or our own, because they knew how to conduct themselves. I guess many parents don't believe in discipline, and don't give a rat's behind what destruction their kids do. I have no patience for that kind of nonsense.

Good for you in writing them an email. Some people need to be told because they can't see for themselves. Thank goodness you won't feel forced into having them over for dinner ever again! Bless your heart for doing that, but like I said...you need not worry about them coming back. Hugs to you. I can't believe the mess they made of that play room...and the fish...that is outrageous!

She better have an apology and an explanation!

anynews yet?

Just checking to see if you heard anything yet? I hope she at least apologizes for her and her sons behavior.

Darn..I am dying to know what their response is. I hope they really read it and learn from it. You definitely deserve an apology and they need to start raising their kids better before they grow up and land in jail

I wish I had an update for you all :( unfortunately, I do not. :(

For some reason I doubt you'll get a reply.

I'm just glad you said something to it. Hopefully they'll take it to heart and make their children start behaving better.

How did your poor daughter react to what happened with her fish and playroom?

she really doesn't know that anything happened
i told her that they made a mess but that I cleaned it up. she thanked me for cleaning it. but she has no idea anything happened to her fish.....yet :(

Well, I got an email from her. long story short, she said her boys got in a lot of trouble, and that she cried over my email, but that she honestly did not think her boys had caused any trouble. She went on to say that the other 3 times that she has been over (including the time that she called and asked if she could bring the boys over because she was in the neighborhood and needed a babysitter), that my daughters play room was not clean. so she expects it to be that way every day. she said she did not look in there before they went in to play, and when had gone into my daughters bedroom, there was a laundry hamper in the middle of the room along with a bunch of stuff piled on her dresser. So she assumed that since her room was "a mess" that the play room was too. WHATEVER. I am not going to defend my daughter here...because she has been under a lot of pressure from us over the last or 8 months about keeping her rooms cleaner and she has done a GREAT job. So...unfortunately, she didn't know that and just assumed what she did...and "didn't realize" that her boys had "made a bigger mess than they ever have in their entire lives". She says that she had asked them if they cleaned up everything they played with and they said yes, so she believed them and they just left.

about the fish...she said that the boys have never been around a fish before and they thought they could pet the fish like they do their cats. PUHLEEEEZZZEEE!!!!!!!! she also said that her boys said that the markers and toys and stuff that were in the fish tank were already there. now that is BULL because my daughter knows better!!! she has never once put anything in there other than fish food, and she is not even allowed to do that anymore because she dumped a bunch in there about 2 years ago. she would NEVER put toys and stuff in there. NEVER. I will take that to my grave!!!

so all in all, she really doesn't think her kids are at fault here. she is amazed that I would even bring it up to her. she said she would never contact someone's parents and tell them that they were upset about the condition their kids left her house. She says that she would never even ask OR allow children to clean up their messes in her house...because she feels it is her responsibility as the host. well, that is what is wrong with her...she doesn't feel that as a guest, you should have to clean up after your children. so therefore, she doesn't feel that she should have to have her..or her children clean up after they have spent 3 hours or more playing in a play room. not even when her children were the only ones in there...REMEMBER...my daughter was not here. it was ONLY her kids playing here.

now...I do not allow my guests to help me with the dishes and general clean up like that after dinner....I would rather them just enjoy being here and I will clean that stuff up after everyone is gone. HOWEVER, I have never had a guest come into my home for dinner and NOT at least offer...and I would never go to someone's house for dinner and not offer to help clean up. and I would offer with the FULL intention of really doing it!!!! and you better believe, that my child is being raised to be the same way!!! she WILL clean up after herself at our house and at other people's house. bottom line.

The problem I see is that she does not feel she should have to go to someone's house and clean up after herself...and she is not raising her kids to feel that they should clean up the toys they play with...the chalk, moon sand, play dough, and everything else that they play with for 3+ hours. It should be up to her to offer to clean up, and up to me to deny the offer if I feel that it is not necessary. and 99.99% of the time, I would not accept it. HOWEVER, I would have accepted the offer for their children to clean up after the tornado mess that they left behind. That would have been my .001%.

does that make sense?

I'm really upset about her response. but honestly, I expected it.

Mandee You were Totally in the right in this and that excuse for a Parent really needs to get a Clue. You did the right thing. I bet she knows that she is not welcome to to Invite herself to dinner again.