i refuse to put up with that in my house. when other people are here with their kids and i hear them making a mess or getting crazy i go in and loudly tell them to clean up they are done playing in my house. i make sure the kids parents hear me and tell the parent to make sure that toy room is clean before they come out and sit on the couch. if someone isnt parenting here i will take over and i really dont care what they think of me its my house. plus if you tell the parent to go and watch their kid clean up they tend to think a little more about how they need to pay attention to their own kids. there have even been times when i make a kid stand in the corner.

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Those boys went beyond normal "boys will be boys" behavior:mad: Some mess is to be expected, but for them to do the destruction they did, OMG!!!!!! I have FOUR boys and they NEVER were allowed to run amok like that. How are your walls, I bet you'll need to scrub them, and hopefully won't need to repaint.

Definitely talk to them about this. Who cares if they are friends of your best friend, I bet she'd go off on them too if you told her what went on. Disgustingly poor parenting, and I'm sorry that you have to clean up the aftermath:(

I hope you do respond and let them know how you feel. I think it's possible people continue to behave in certain ways because we don't let each other know what behavior is acceptable and what is not. I don't believe it is necessary to be unkind, but I think it's important to be clear. I think you have every right to have expectations of behavior in your own home. Personally, I would not have let them invite themselves, you are nicer than I am. However, if that were my situation, I would have asked them to supervise their children cleaning up their mess and would have asked them to leave. I bet they would never invite themselves over again!!!!:) Juliet

Sorry but they are your friend's friend...not yours. They were disgusting to just invite themselves over and not parent their children. My children know they can act the fool in their own home but never in someone elses house. T

The dad had to have seen the mess. I woudl so have gone off. My head is threatening to go exorcist for you right now.

I am just sitting here with my mouth open....I am completely shocked!!!!!!!!!! What is wrong with people?! Seriously! I would NEVER, I MEAN NEVER, allow my children to act in this way AND I can honestly say that I have never invited myself over to another person's home....especially for dinner! :eek: In my home, making dinner for several people is something that is planned. Takes time,money, energy to cook, clean and then entertain everyone. I can't imagine, on top of all of that, having their horribly misbehaved children running loose in MY home!! I am literally stunned! I teach my children respect for themselves and others...little to big things, doesn't matter. We took our 4 and 3 year olds to the circus on Saturday night and my son wanted to put his feet on the seat in front of him (not trying to be bad, just where his feet reached)....I wouldn't even allow that because I find that rude. I just can't get over how these parents didn't make their sons respect your home!!!!!!!!! How were they not mortified at the mess they made?! I would have taken pictures and emailed them to these people and would politely ask that they bring their sons over to apologize to my daughter for tearing up her things and hurting the fish. I would write out a list of all things that they tore up and ask the parents to replace those items because, afterall, they belong to your daughter and this is NOT fair to Trinity. I would be so sad to see my daughter's face when she came home from her sleepover....that's what would bother me the most.

UGH!!! I am sorry that you had to deal with this! :thumbdown

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Mandee You are a Better Person than me... I would have Asked them to Leave As soon as I started to see that were not taking proper care with keeping there children under control. My Daughter is ADHD but I will never tolerate her acting a Fool in someone else's home! She would have behaved or we would have gone PERIOD!
I would not hold back I would let your BFF and this excuse for a Parent know that you are very upset with the way that the abused your home and your poor fish. I would also ask them to pay the cleaning bill.

So sorry to hear this happened to you and your house, Mandee. Everyone keeps saying that they would have asked them to leave-but it's so much harder when you're there at the time-no one wants to seem rude back. I like the idea of taking pictures of what the boys did, and letting their mom know how you feel and what happened. Then, maybe suggest that they boys do chores/work in their own home to repay their parents for what it's going to cost to replace Trinity's fish, chalk, markers, and other toys that were broken. Or, maybe they get docked in their allowance to help repay for the things they broke-that way, maybe, just maybe, it will teach them and their parents a lesson on how to act when welcomed into someone else's home. It's one thing for you to be upset and have to clean up-that completely stinks-but it's even worse that Trinity will be upset and disappointed that her things were broken and used when she wasn't home :( Maybe take her with you to pick out new chalk and some fish-you could take that time to have a discussion about the behavior of the other boys and what happened, (which will also help reinforce her good behavior), and it will make her a part of the process of having to replace her things. She might feel as if she's being rewarded for being a good kid and being responsible for her things if she gets to go with you to choose new items.

I'd be just as pi$$ed as you are!! Seems the parents had absolutely no respect for your home. Sorry you went through that. :(

here are pics of trinity's play room after they left.

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OMG it looks like a tornado hit that room! I would be pi$$sed!!!

So sorry this happened, Mandee!

EXACTLY!!! can you imagine??? i will be in there for hours cleaning before my daughter comes home. Like I have nothing else to do!!!

:eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: OMG Mandee I am So so sorry you Really Really Need to confrunt them That is TERRIBLE!!!

Maybe hire Merry Maids to clean it up, and send the parents the bill?! :p

now THERE'S an idea LOL

oh boy those children are little disgusting monsters. I would kill my kids for doing something like that to someone else house. Shoot when we go to my SIL's house I make the kids clean the playroom for her before they play.

Yikes! That sounds bad! I too hate when parents are not responsible and don't teach their children manners. They are at fault for what their children do. I would have gone off on them. :thumbdown

Email the parents the before and after pics of the playroom! OMG, they are MONSTERS!!!! :(

And to top it off, you're pregnant and haven't been feeling all that great (dizzy, fainting, etc.). And now you have to clean up THEIR mess??? Those parents should be ASHAMED of themselves!!

exactly.

did I mention that I spent nearly $100 on stuff for dinner last night? and THIS is the thanks I get. blows my mind. i'm still in shock.

I hope you get everything back in order soon. You sure didnt need the stress of irresponsible parenting. Your a better person than I am cause I would have asked them to leave my home and never return!

Wow, that's a tough one especially since they go to your church. Definitely sleep on it. I don't know if saying anything to them or emailing them will even to any good as it sounds like they knew exactly what their kids were doing and saw nothing wrong with it:eek: . I understand the need to say something to them but I can't help but wonder if it wouldn't be better to just let it be and if the opportunity for them to invite themselves over comes up again you could say "no" and tell them exactly why. Now if the kids were being sneaky and the parents didn't have a clue as to what they were doing it would be different. These people are a prime example of why there are so many bratty kids out there. The parents have no respect so why should the kids! It's pretty sad. I'm really sorry you had to deal with all of that

I don't think it's necessarily easy to ask people to leave, but I would have done just that. Why in the world do we worry about the perception of rudeness in response to rudeness? I believe we have the right and responsibility to be respectful of ourselves and each other. It is not "rude" of me to let another person know that their behavior is unacceptable in my own home, and I don't feel bad about that. Whatever is chosen in this instance doesn't really matter as long as it is what feels right for the "poster". I hope you can have the conversation, be it by phone, email, etc., so you feel ok about the outcome. What I or anyone else would or wouldn't do doesn't really matter, although it feels good, and is important to talk about. Juliet

I was hoping that the parents were unaware of disaster their boys created. I would invite them over to help clean. I would want to know immediately if my boys made a mess like that. Their butts would be there cleaning until it was immaculate.

WOW!!!!! unbelievable. i would be furious. you need to talk to those parents. send them copies of those pictures. :eek: :eek: :eek:

I agree. I have no idea why I am worried about upsetting them...when I am TOTALLY upset. I mean...they had NO concern for my feelings. none at all. I have been spending time in the play room today cleaning and I just get so mad with everything I am picking up. and that is just the tip of the iceberg in relation to all that happened last night.

I have an email typed up...I just need to make sure I don't want to add anything before I send it. I am attaching the pics of the play room...just for "reference" for them. :rolleyes: I honestly, at this point, do not care if they get mad at my email. and if they think they can go to my bff and complain about it...they will get a rude awakening because she is just as appalled as I am. :rolleyes:

WOW.. I just read this and saw those pictures..I don't even know what to say!! That is totally unacceptable behavior. I would be livid:mad:

I know how you feel. We had a simular sitution years ago. These people came over from church one Sunday nite. First time they were in our home. I also was pregnant. They had 2 boys. They literally chewed our leather furniture and went in my son's room and we heard a crash, and they tore the closet door off the hinges. Needless to say they were never invited again. Better not to say anything since you do go to church with them but I would never let them come over again.

Ok, I sent the email along with the pictures. I'll let you know what...if anything...I hear back

:mad: Wow! I don't blame you for being mad. I couldn't have remained as civil as you did under the circumstances! That sounds horrible!!!

I would be totally pist! You have every right to be mad, and who cares if you upset them or hurt there feelings. They obviously have no common sense when it comes to bring their children over to someone elses house, especially after they even invited themselves!!! I would totally go off on them!!! Keep us updated on the email.