I am about to go OFF!!!!!

[chloeandj]

I'm sorry! I know how upset you are but...Welcome to the world of boys! Mine boys are certainly much better behaved than that but I've had extremely busy spiderman climbers for years...sigh...LOL

[pepe mint]

Originally Posted by chloeandj

I'm sorry! I know how upset you are but...Welcome to the world of boys! Mine boys are certainly much better behaved than that but I've had extremely busy spiderman climbers for years...sigh...LOL

the climbing on the walls was the least of my problems. the total lack of respect for other people's property.....which falls completely back on the parents....is what chaps my hide!!! boy, girl, or whatever...I can't imagine letting my kids act that way. i will be surprised if I don't have to go buy a new fish tomorrow so my daughter doesn't freak out when she gets home

[chloeandj]

I sure hope the fish is just hiding

[MyFairLacy]

My sister and I used to climb the walls like that...in the door frames but only at our own house! There is no way we'd do that at someone else's house.

I was thinking about the fish...I'm sure your daughter will be upset her fish died.

[pepe mint]

Originally Posted by MyFairLacy

My sister and I used to climb the walls like that...in the door frames but only at our own house! There is no way we'd do that at someone else's house.

I was thinking about the fish...I'm sure your daughter will be upset her fish died.

I found the fish in the filter....he is alive for now...but he has been scalped. so i'm worried

[yorkiesmiles]

Originally Posted by pepe mint

I blame the parents too. I am not angry with the children...they are young and this is how they have been raised. the parents on the other hand...they should know better. period!!!! they need to instill some serious rules and discipline...or they will have MAJOR problems later in life!!!!

Yes, all of that is true - but I doubt that you will get anywhere with these people if you tell them this.

I would stick to the exact facts. Including the fact that they are not welcome in your home again. Detail the damage done and tell them that you felt they should know. Also, let them know how much time it took you to clean this up. Let them know how you feel about this - it's a fact too - just don't go overboard. Make sure your hubby reads your email first. The one thing I hate about the written word - (yeah, I know it's all we've got on YT ) - sometimes things come across differently than we intended them.

Do they offer some parenting classes at your church - can you sign these folks up -- I would be so tempted to slip some Bible verses in the email. I think it is great they you are willing to put this effort into letting them know how you feel - I would be tempted to be a wimp & just never open my home to them again.

So what did your mutual friend have to say about the entire event? She should be thrilled these brats aren't coming to her wedding.

[chloeandj]

I'm sorry,i reread my post and wanted to say that I didn't mean to say you shouldn't be upset.(hugs)

I've just had this happen so many times where little boys come to visit and they act in similar ways. My nephews stay quite often and the house is always trashed when they leave and I'm worn out running after everyone making sure they don't hurt themselves because they are so full of energy. They've never hurt or wanted to hurt an animal of mine of though and I would certainly not tolerate any display of that kind of act.

[MyFairLacy]

Originally Posted by pepe mint

I found the fish in the filter....he is alive for now...but he has been scalped. so i'm worried

fish are so sensitive...it will probably develop an infection. I really doubt it will make it

[For My Coby]

Originally Posted by MyFairLacy

fish are so sensitive...it will probably develop an infection. I really doubt it will make it

Poor fish was probably trying to HIDE in the filter! We had a fish get caught in a decorative boat once and he was pretty much scalped too. He did survive, but he was ugly for awhile.

[kwaymon]

[QUOTE=For My Coby;1854303]Oh boy. I can see red, and it's not even my house. That is a HUGE pet peeve of mine! HUGE! When we went to anyone's house, my girls typically didn't leave my side unless they had been there before and were "welcomed" to play with the other children. But other than that, they didn't leave the room I was in! Even my kids could never stand kids like that.

You've got that right!! How are children supposed to learn respect for others if they are not taught it? I do not let my child run all over someone's house and she has to ask me permission and the person who own's the home permission to do anything. And sometimes even when the other person tells her yes, I will still tell her no because I feel like alot of times people let your children do certain things because they do not want to be rude to you or your child. It is up to me to discern these things. I do not let my child run wild because I do not want adults or her peers disliking her for her disrespect. Parents are so ridiculous these days and are way to quick with the "kids will be kids" mentality. How could you let your child run wild all over someone else's house when that person's kid isn't even at home!!?? My hands were clasped over my mouth the entire time you were telling this story! My daughter at almost five years old does not trash her toys. She takes really good care of them. She wouldn't have any if she didn't. I cannot stand to have kids over that trash her playroom. Rowdy kids usually do not get a re-invite. But this way crossed the line and I absolutely think you should say something to these crazy people!! Especially since they messed with your dogs after you specifically told them not to. And what about your poor fish? Geez. These kids are the reason some yorkie breeders won't sell to those of us who do have well-behaved children. I am so pissed for you!! If I had to go and clean up somebody else's kids mess, and deal with thought that my dogs could've been hurt, I would blow a friggin gasket!!

[erickajm]

There is your answer to what is happening to our country..lack of parenting skills, common sense, respect, among many other things. I would not hold back! I would ask them to replace the chalk, and the markers that were dumped into the tank, the fish and pay for the carpet to be cleaned..and anything else that was damaged...walls are probably marked up. And if they say no I would be very tempted, just to scare them, have an attorney draw up a paper saying you will take legal action $50 or so..hee hee

As far as your friend goes...I am sure she would agree. She must have a lot of patience.
You will have to let us know what they say when you confront them....I will pray for strength for you!

[altigger74]

Been there, I can relate very well! We have two boys that are from up the road and come down here whenever they feel like it, walk in the door without knocking, go through the fridge and cabinets and such.

We don't have many kids that come over anymore, and the parents that do come over know that they better keep an eye one their kids or I will. There have been many times that I have raised my voice to other peoples kids that were in my home. The boys that come down here, yesterday just walked in the house. I turned around and told them to walk back out and knock and wait to be invited in.

It's sad and aggrivating that parents let their kids get away with it and the kids pay for that behavior because noone wants them around.

Def. let them know how you feel, they will get angry but it will probably be the first time that anyome had the strong nerve to tell them.

We are all behind you and support you

[Yorkie Luv of 3]

Grcious Goodness, how rude and crude some people can be!!!! seems those so called parents have no control over their children and dont care to,, and i figure saying anything to them about it will do no good,, as it sounds as if they KNEW what the little monsters were up and didnt care,, sounds like you learned a valuable lesson there, JUST SAY NO!! I'm just mean,, and would have just corrected their children in MY Home,, as the "parents" were doing so,, if they were hurt by it,, then they could have left and taken their children with them!! but no,, people who invite themselves over get an excuse for NOT coming if i'm in a GOOD mood! ;-),, and a NO,, i think not,, if I'm in my normal state,, lol,, get tough girl,, some folks ya just can't be NICE to,, as they simply dont understand it,, sad state i tell ya, ,hope you daughter isnt too upset by it all when she got home!

[hha]

You need some of my attitude, I would have told them to LEAVE, AND THEY WEREN'T WELCOME BACK

[Brookef18]

I would be beside myself... but when I had kids here I would tell them no if the parents couldn't... I hate when parents put you in the position where you feel you have to take charge!

I would let them know how you felt but I would call... The thing is, if you react in anger you may not be heard... these people need a wake up call but if you do it to vent, they may not hear you. If you can calm down, and speak to the mom in a way that will be more of teaching you may be able to show her how you feel... Show her how it feels to be on the other end of this. THey got a nice night out and you got nothing but cleaning and stress....

If you can open their eyes so they see the monsters they are throwing at the world maybe they will think twice before they allow the kids to trash the next house!!! I agree that you shouldn't allow them back though.