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altigger74 · 03-02-2008, 07:56 AM

I can understand that feeling. I'm from NJ and moved to Alabama where my hubby is from. The unforgivable YANKEE! I've had some rumors and gossip spread about me and of course I've been "the city b*tch" to the MIL but oh well! I've had people here argue with me over the friggin civil war! I've But I usually get made fun of for my accent of course.

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Originally Posted by Graleyne

You know that old saying that everyone is famous in a small town? Well, I am here to tell you it is TRUE. And if you didn't happen to be born and raised in that small town, you are even MORE famous because everyone is nosy and curious about what the "foreigner" does. In this case, the "foreigner" is ME.

So at 8am this morning I got a phone call from my MIL. I went to the grocery store yesterday and someone she knows saw me there and saw me checking out. This person took it upon themselves to call Carol (my MIL) and ALERT her to the fact that I did not purchase any meat. She was just "concerned" that Mike and I were having "money problems" and couldn't afford to buy meat for our family and she was worried about "the poor children".

I didn't buy meat because I'M A VEGETARIAN! How she didn't know that I don't know. Lord knows the rest of the town does. Its just another thing that makes me "weird".

Then there are all the speculations and rumors going around about my health. According to the town gossip I've had everything from a brain tumor to cancer to the plague.

And did ya'll know that in the 8 years I have lived here I have YET to be spotted in one of the 1500 churches around here. MIL brought this to my attention. So I told her it was because I was too busy sacrificing animals and small children on Saturday nights and I was just too tired on Sunday mornings. (OK, I DO acknowledge that probably was not a nice thing to say on my part, but I was mad).

I am just tired of it all. No matter how much I watch what I say or do they still find something to talk about. I told Mike I am going to start sitting on the front porch in my bathrobe with curlers in half my hair and clown make up on and squirt everyone who comes near our yard with a water hose. They already think I'm crazy I might as well have some fun, right?

Graleyne · 03-02-2008, 09:41 AM

You are lucky because you just ARE a yankee. I have committed the ultimate sin/betrayal. I am a southerner who ASSOCIATES with yankees ON PURPOSE!

I think I am going to write a book. A survival guide to being an outsider in a small town OR My 8 years in Hell. lol

Jody Renfroe · 03-02-2008, 09:52 AM

LMAO!!!!

I was born and raised in Georgia for the most part...I know how it can be, especially if you're in a small town. Where are you in Georgia? You are so funny! I think the clown makeup and water hose sounds like a great idea!!!

Tiggerwit · 03-02-2008, 09:59 AM

Oh man I sure don't envy you. How irritating. My mother lives in Texas but somehow I always seem to get that same type of call from her LOL I think it's my sisters doing.

Be strong don't let the ole blue hairs get to you. Darn old biddies.

Graleyne · 03-02-2008, 10:09 AM

I am in a little bitty town called Buchanan. Well, technically we are in Tallapoosa, but we are less than a mile from Buchanan and the kids go to school in Buchanan. It has TWO red lights now. One of them was just put up a couple years ago.

They put it up because we are now actually considered part of "metro-Atlanta" and they wanted to look sophisticated.

It isn't just the old blue hairs doing the gossiping. Its just crazy.

mypreciouspups · 03-02-2008, 10:10 AM

OMG, that was a hoot to read.. and at the same time,. that would drive me crazy...
I had a neighbor one time, that lived on the corner, the only window on my side of her house was her bathroom, in the shower.. and yet she could yell out and tell us the oil bill was dropped off at like 11:01... grrrrrrrrrrrrrr
I uses to think she must have had a chair in her bathtub and she must have stood looking out that tiny window in that older home all day...
Now that was a lady with little to do to keep mind busy.. How do you deal with this.. my patience would wear thin after awhile..
Girl you must really love your hubby..

bren · 03-02-2008, 10:13 AM

WOW! I'm originally from a small town but not THAT small that people would talk about what you're buying at the grocery store

! It's nice that you have a bit of a sense of humor about it, though. I can't imagine living around all that DRAMA! I hate drama...
Why do they even care WHAT you buy or what you do??? These people need to get a hobby or something--find something constructive to do with all of their free time.
I think at this point, I'd start acting really bizarre around people, just to get a reaction--see what they'll say next. Go beyond your porch with the garden hose and your clown makeup

Jody Renfroe · 03-02-2008, 10:13 AM

Wow! Two red lights! I was born in South Georgia - Moultrie to be exact. I haven't lived there since I was 8 years old. It's funny though, I know that I could go back right now - nearly 50 years later and be considered as "home folk". I'm sorry you've run into so many "busy bodies!".

Yorkiedaze · 03-02-2008, 10:15 AM

I know exactly how you feel. We were in the AF for 20 years and some places called us "basers" like a bad word and some just wanted to know more than they should. We lived in CA. from 1985 till 1999, retired and moved to a very small place in TN. and lasted 20 months. The mentality there was only "fags" and druggies come from CA. We sold our big beautiful home on 6 1/2 acres, and got back to CA. as fast as we could.
Good luck to you. I do hope you find your happiness somewhere else. Life is just far too short to be miserable.

Graleyne · 03-02-2008, 10:15 AM

For a long time I just kept my mouth shut and just rolled my eyes and shook my head.

Then I LOUDLY mentioned in the town gossip hall (also known as "The Cafe") that I don't gossip because my mama always told me the ones who do the gossiping are the ones with the most skeletons in their closets they are trying to hide. That slowed it down some for a couple of weeks.

Then I started just venting to my mom and GaGa or just venting in my journal.

Here lately though I've been popping off the smart comments - a lot. I think its because I have been so sick and I have so much on my plate to deal with my patience is just gone. I am just sick of it.

Graleyne · 03-02-2008, 10:18 AM

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Originally Posted by bren

WOW! I'm originally from a small town but not THAT small that people would talk about what you're buying at the grocery store

! It's nice that you have a bit of a sense of humor about it, though. I can't imagine living around all that DRAMA! I hate drama...
Why do they even care WHAT you buy or what you do??? These people need to get a hobby or something--find something constructive to do with all of their free time.
I think at this point, I'd start acting really bizarre around people, just to get a reaction--see what they'll say next. Go beyond your porch with the garden hose and your clown makeup

They care because I am not from here. I am a "foreigner" (yes, I've actually been called that even though I was born right next door in Alabama). So because I'm "different" they are all very interested in ever little thing I say and/or do. I am torn between being ticked off and irritated, and just feeling sorry for them. Most of them have never left this town and have no idea that a world exists outside of it.

Graleyne · 03-02-2008, 10:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Yorkiedaze

I know exactly how you feel. We were in the AF for 20 years and some places called us "basers" like a bad word and some just wanted to know more than they should. We lived in CA. from 1985 till 1999, retired and moved to a very small place in TN. and lasted 20 months. The mentality there was only "fags" and druggies come from CA. We sold our big beautiful home on 6 1/2 acres, and got back to CA. as fast as we could.
Good luck to you. I do hope you find your happiness somewhere else. Life is just far too short to be miserable.

Speaking of being called "fags", that is the other rumor going around about me. I am really a lesbian. This is based on the fact that I have been spotted talking to my best friend of nearly 17 years in my driveway and I hugged her and kissed her on the cheek. And they all feel so sorry for poor Mike because he married "that weird foreign girl" and he just doesn't have a clue what he's gotten into.

Jody Renfroe · 03-02-2008, 10:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Graleyne

Speaking of being called "fags", that is the other rumor going around about me. I am really a lesbian. This is based on the fact that I have been spotted talking to my best friend of nearly 17 years in my driveway and I hugged her and kissed her on the cheek. And they all feel so sorry for poor Mike because he married "that weird foreign girl" and he just doesn't have a clue what he's gotten into.

Sounds like the people in your town need to get a life of their own!! I'm so sorry this is happening to you.

Angela · 03-02-2008, 10:25 AM

I know where your coming from. My grandmother knows what I have done before I ever get to my house....lol This town is exploding sooooo fast, but that's the only pro about it. The traffic is killer now.

Angie

Judy in Waco · 03-02-2008, 10:33 AM

Yep, sounds like a small southern town to me.

Here's a couple of quick stories.

My first teaching job was in a tiny town in east Texas. My husband was going to work in a local steel plant, but it shut down right after we moved there, so he took a night shift at a convenience store so he could be home with the kids during the day while I taught.

Someone noticed that we never went to a church in town. (We are Episcopal and the closest church was almost an hour away.) So, one night the local sheriff came by and asked my husband if we were Satan worshippers!

My husband has a very dry, sarcastic sense of humor, so he casually responded, "Yes sir, that's why I work nights."

He came VERY close to being arrested!

*****
The county was also dry, so for our anniversary, we drove thirty miles to a liquor store and bought a bottle of champagne. The next day my students told me EXACTLY what we had bought right down to the name and price!

So, you're not alone. Crazy isn't it? LOL!

03-02-2008, 09:41 AM	#17
Graleyne Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 2,563	You are lucky because you just ARE a yankee. I have committed the ultimate sin/betrayal. I am a southerner who ASSOCIATES with yankees ON PURPOSE! I think I am going to write a book. A survival guide to being an outsider in a small town OR My 8 years in Hell. lol __________________ Aerrica, and Norman RIP my sweet Poopanut

03-02-2008, 09:59 AM	#19
Tiggerwit Just me 'n my boys Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Murphy, TX Posts: 4,596	Oh man I sure don't envy you. How irritating. My mother lives in Texas but somehow I always seem to get that same type of call from her LOL I think it's my sisters doing. Be strong don't let the ole blue hairs get to you. Darn old biddies. __________________ "Be kinder than necessary, for everyone is fighting some kind of battle." Alphy 's Roxy

03-02-2008, 10:09 AM	#20
Graleyne Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 2,563	I am in a little bitty town called Buchanan. Well, technically we are in Tallapoosa, but we are less than a mile from Buchanan and the kids go to school in Buchanan. It has TWO red lights now. One of them was just put up a couple years ago. They put it up because we are now actually considered part of "metro-Atlanta" and they wanted to look sophisticated. It isn't just the old blue hairs doing the gossiping. Its just crazy. __________________ Aerrica, and Norman RIP my sweet Poopanut

03-02-2008, 10:13 AM	#22
bren Slave to Max 'n Abbie Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Pittsburgh Posts: 1,529	WOW! I'm originally from a small town but not THAT small that people would talk about what you're buying at the grocery store ! It's nice that you have a bit of a sense of humor about it, though. I can't imagine living around all that DRAMA! I hate drama... Why do they even care WHAT you buy or what you do??? These people need to get a hobby or something--find something constructive to do with all of their free time. I think at this point, I'd start acting really bizarre around people, just to get a reaction--see what they'll say next. Go beyond your porch with the garden hose and your clown makeup __________________ Brenda, Max & Abbie

03-02-2008, 10:15 AM	#25
Graleyne Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 2,563	For a long time I just kept my mouth shut and just rolled my eyes and shook my head. Then I LOUDLY mentioned in the town gossip hall (also known as "The Cafe") that I don't gossip because my mama always told me the ones who do the gossiping are the ones with the most skeletons in their closets they are trying to hide. That slowed it down some for a couple of weeks. Then I started just venting to my mom and GaGa or just venting in my journal. Here lately though I've been popping off the smart comments - a lot. I think its because I have been so sick and I have so much on my plate to deal with my patience is just gone. I am just sick of it. __________________ Aerrica, and Norman RIP my sweet Poopanut

03-02-2008, 09:52 AM	#18
Jody Renfroe No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Florida Posts: 1,375	LMAO!!!! I was born and raised in Georgia for the most part...I know how it can be, especially if you're in a small town. Where are you in Georgia? You are so funny! I think the clown makeup and water hose sounds like a great idea!!!

03-02-2008, 10:10 AM	#21
mypreciouspups Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Florida/Canada Posts: 5,514	OMG, that was a hoot to read.. and at the same time,. that would drive me crazy... I had a neighbor one time, that lived on the corner, the only window on my side of her house was her bathroom, in the shower.. and yet she could yell out and tell us the oil bill was dropped off at like 11:01... grrrrrrrrrrrrrr I uses to think she must have had a chair in her bathtub and she must have stood looking out that tiny window in that older home all day... Now that was a lady with little to do to keep mind busy.. How do you deal with this.. my patience would wear thin after awhile.. Girl you must really love your hubby..

03-02-2008, 10:15 AM	#24
Yorkiedaze My hairy-legged girls Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: lompoc, ca. Posts: 12,228	I know exactly how you feel. We were in the AF for 20 years and some places called us "basers" like a bad word and some just wanted to know more than they should. We lived in CA. from 1985 till 1999, retired and moved to a very small place in TN. and lasted 20 months. The mentality there was only "fags" and druggies come from CA. We sold our big beautiful home on 6 1/2 acres, and got back to CA. as fast as we could. Good luck to you. I do hope you find your happiness somewhere else. Life is just far too short to be miserable.

03-02-2008, 10:25 AM	#29
Angela YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Baton Rouge, LA Posts: 849	I know where your coming from. My grandmother knows what I have done before I ever get to my house....lol This town is exploding sooooo fast, but that's the only pro about it. The traffic is killer now. Angie

03-02-2008, 10:33 AM	#30
Judy in Waco Gizzy & Kandi spoil me Donating Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Waco, Texas Posts: 8,477	Yep, sounds like a small southern town to me. Here's a couple of quick stories. My first teaching job was in a tiny town in east Texas. My husband was going to work in a local steel plant, but it shut down right after we moved there, so he took a night shift at a convenience store so he could be home with the kids during the day while I taught. Someone noticed that we never went to a church in town. (We are Episcopal and the closest church was almost an hour away.) So, one night the local sheriff came by and asked my husband if we were Satan worshippers! My husband has a very dry, sarcastic sense of humor, so he casually responded, "Yes sir, that's why I work nights." He came VERY close to being arrested! ***** The county was also dry, so for our anniversary, we drove thirty miles to a liquor store and bought a bottle of champagne. The next day my students told me EXACTLY what we had bought right down to the name and price! So, you're not alone. Crazy isn't it? LOL! __________________ The fullness of our heart is expressed in our eyes, in our touch, in what we write, in what we say, in the way we walk, the way we receive, the way we need. -Mother Teresa ( RIP Gizmo 3/9/07-8/18/12)