I think Im crazy!

[Buddy-licious]

Isn't love grand?!!!!!!!! My story was the same as yours.....my DH and I knew each other for about 8 or 9 years before we ever had our first date. Once he finally asked me out....there was an immediate connection between us. We fell head over hills in love!!! We have been married for 15 years and our marriage is PERFECT!!!! We are best friends, great parents, great lovers, etc....we are perfect for each other!!! I look back at all the other relationships I was in and cannot believe the "beeep" I put up with.

I am very happy for you!!!! Keep us posted!!!!

[Lexi Rae]

you go girl.. im so happy for you..

[mizzwanned]

I think that's great that you feel that strongly about it and there must be something if you do. Best of luck to you, cant wait to hear what happens.

[celstu1]

Originally Posted by Sookie

Does he like Yorkies??

He loves my boys and treats them wonderful! That is a mandatory criteria in my book!!!

[lisatodd]

that is wonderful!!!! but you had to ask the question about did we feel like we could marry them after a month?????

i don't have a great answer for that. i have been in many (well all )my new relationships have always been "world wind". i always wanted to marry the guy after a month or 5. but it always winds down and thats when you get real.

i am glad you are so happy. it's been a long time since i felt that newness of a relationship. i have been w my husband for 10 years.

[celstu1]

Originally Posted by Ozzie'sperson

That's awesome! I am SO happy for you.

I'm in the boat you were in on relationships (met the one and it didn't work out), so you're a shining ray of hope, too, for those of us who have all but written love off.

Oh yes, after my engagement broke off in Aug 05, i was with the guy for almost 10 years... I thought that was it... my one great love... all gone. I even held out hope for a LONG time that he just needed to grow up and he'll be back. (this is AFTER we sold the house, cancelled the wedding, he took the ring back, etc... and it was our 4th break up in those years) I was soooooo stupid when it came to him. I was very bitter and angry for a LONG time. I am not anymore... I recently (ironically RIGHT before I went out with this guy) had a change of heart in Dec. Told my ex (who STILL contacted me) to F**K off for good! (sorry so crude, but it had to be said that way cuz he kept me hanging on with false hope so I had to end that for my own sake in a harsh way!) and a month went by and then boom... I met this guy... I was like the universe was saying "That was all you needed to do to finally get your true love, was to finally let go of the old one for good"

Hey Archie - HOPE FLOATS right???

[Jacoby]

Congrats on finding a great guy!! I'll have to show this thread to my friend who is going through a divorce. She has lost all faith in men! She is beautiful and really nice and I keep telling her she will find someone else!!

[Proud Mommy]

how wonderful I am so happy for you!!!

[Sookie]

Originally Posted by celstu1

He loves my boys and treats them wonderful! That is a mandatory criteria in my book!!!

Then I say "go for it"!! I hope you find a lot of happiness. Good luck.

[Brookef18]

I am so happy for you... I have been married for 26 years and I just want to say

#1 Make sure you get to know all sides of him before you marry him. I dated my husband for 3 years before we married. I saw him Mad, greaving, sad, happy, tired. I think I saw just about it all... I think that is important.

#2 My sister has been through a few tough times with guys. This one guy she thought was the one. She moved out of her apartment to live with him. As soon as she moved there were problems... After being with him over a year she moved in and she realised she had made a horrible mistake moving out of her place almost right away. He was awful to her and she couldn't aford to move out. Her apartment was a fixed rent, as soon as she moved out the rent was higher and she couldn't aford it. She was stuck with this guy for Months... and she called crying and we all helped her with money.

I guess what I'm saying is, think very hard about giving up your home and all until you are really married.... Be careful and protect yourself. He sounds wonderful and he probably is. But don't be blinded by your feelings. And if you see ANY red flags listen to your self and take a closer look!

[TommiGirl]

I am so happy for you. I have a feeling this is right for you.

You sound so exuberant and I can "hear" your excitement.

I really wish the best for you.

Yipeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!

[celstu1]

Originally Posted by Brookef18

I am so happy for you... I have been married for 26 years and I just want to say

#1 Make sure you get to know all sides of him before you marry him. I dated my husband for 3 years before we married. I saw him Mad, greaving, sad, happy, tired. I think I saw just about it all... I think that is important.

#2 My sister has been through a few tough times with guys. This one guy she thought was the one. She moved out of her apartment to live with him. As soon as she moved there were problems... After being with him over a year she moved in and she realised she had made a horrible mistake moving out of her place almost right away. He was awful to her and she couldn't aford to move out. Her apartment was a fixed rent, as soon as she moved out the rent was higher and she couldn't aford it. She was stuck with this guy for Months... and she called crying and we all helped her with money.

I guess what I'm saying is, think very hard about giving up your home and all until you are really married.... Be careful and protect yourself. He sounds wonderful and he probably is. But don't be blinded by your feelings. And if you see ANY red flags listen to your self and take a closer look!

Thank you for the advice, I totally understand and definately see it as valid advice to anyone who was thinking in that direction. I am a little different though, I am 31, been through a 10 year relationship with a guy I was engaged to and owned a home with. I now own my own house, make my own money (pretty decent money too ) and take care of myself. For me to move in with someone, Id have to sell my house. At this point, I would not do that until I was MARRIED! Im just not going to risk what I built for myself for a boyfriend... sorry! Did that and it backfired, not going to do it again! ya know?
Im sorry to hear about your sister, I bet she is wiser now. I am wiser after my terrible experience with my ex also, thank goodness!

And oh yes, red flags, since my break up from my ex, Im very aware of red flags and not afraid to say so to any guy I dated. ive dumped guys left and right or not gone out with them again bc of reasons that some might find dumb but are important to me. One guy swore too much, sorry but you just sound like an uneducated idiot, I couldn't date him!

I am sooooo cautious of myself and what i built and sooo independant my mom seriously thought Id NEVER end up finding someone bc I tell every guy I meet to get lost after 2 dates HAHA but thats bc I already knew in 2 dates they were not worthy to keep around.

I see NO red flags with this guy at all yet. I know its only been a month, but I've known him for 7 years on a high level (not personal and intimate like, but some knowledge of who he is, also my best friend considers him one of her best friends and absolutely loves and adores him and the person he is, and if I can't trust her judgement in men, who can I? she's been my best friends for 17 years now!) I met him through my best friend and they have been close for 7 years. He is actually a JP and married her to her hubby in Sept.

Thanks all I am still sooo happy here