I need to vent

[Rae Rae]

Yesterday my fiance and I got in an arguement because I needed to borrow his camcorder and he said no because his father gave it to him (his father passed away a few years ago) and he doesn't want anything to happen to it. That's telling me that he doesn't trust me with it. I bring up that he let his friend borrow it to go on vacation and he says "he can replace it if he broke it"...Kinda seems like changing the story to me, but whatever. So my friend calls and I hang up with him to talk to her, and when I come home he's on my computer, I ask to use it and he says "i'm on it" and I'm like "well I gotta register for classes" so I did that, then he goes back on it, and I ask if I can change the channel, and he says he's watching it. So I dont say anything, then a minute later he tells me "do you want to watch something else?" and I'm like "NO it's fine" and I went upstairs and go to bed. This was by 7pm! He comes to bed at like 9:30 and I wake up, and he gives me pj's and I say "im not sleeping yet" so I got up, went to smoke, washed up, etc...then laid in bed and on my laptop. I think he gave me a kiss this morning when he left, but I'm not sure because I was sleepy so I couldve been dreaming, but he hasn't called me AT ALL today, and he usually calls me on his breaks, and his lunch break is over so I know he's not calling. I don't know if I should give in, I am very stubborn but I do think he is in the wrong, he made me feel irresponsible when he said I can't borrow the camera. I just need to vent to get through this! I go to work in an hour and won't see him until 10pm, and everytime I look at the clock I want to cry because he hasn't called yet

[patty58]

I don't have any answers for you but know how you feel and I'm sorry you are going thru this. Just don't let it fester for long. Maybe talk it out when you get home. Good luck, Patty

[Lexi Rae]

you want opinion? he's dead wrong... first of all , he is treating you like
a child... your engaged to be married to this man , a lifetime committment
ya know... he should not and dont let him treat you like this because it
doesnt get better it will just get worse... i would be totally pissed off.
dont let him treat you like this... he is acting like he's your boss or something.
you need to talk to him and let him know how you feel and see what happens.
you've done nothing wrong

[labrown]

I know it is hard to let go of things like this, but in the long run, these little squabbles don't really matter! My live in BF can be so immature and wishy washy sometimes, and I have learned that I always feel better when I just brush it off and go sit somewhere else than getting mad about it. It IS frustrating, but it is so much easier on you to just let it go and chalk it up to him being a dude.
Do you love him? Are you willing to deal with his silly behavior? Does he deal with you when you get cranky and crochety? If you can answer yes to all of these things, then it is worth just brushing it off and not letting him get to you. My BF and I used to get so riled up and frustrated with each other, and now I just tell myself to take a deep breath and remember why I love him. And we fight a lot less because of it. I mean, I still get frustrated with him, and I do try to explain to him why I am upset, in a calm and logical manner, and he still doesn't get it, so I learned not to waste my breath all the time. I guess I'm just trying to say, pick and choose your battles. Things will work out, it isn't anything so detrimental that it will end your relationship! And I know it is hard to cool down when he pisses you off, but you can do it! Hope this helps! Remember, it is just my opinion, do what is best for you!

[gutu28]

I definitely think you should talk to him when yall get home tonight. it's one thing to be stubborn..trust me, I am the SAAME way! But you have to know when to pick your battles.. Just tell him how he made you feel and what you'd like him to do to make you feel better...good luck!

[Rae Rae]

Thanks guys! I just know it's going to be so hard to make it until 10pm w/o hearing from him. And it's kinda hard for me to call him because I'm upset, and I don't want to call him and be like "i'm mad at you"...actually I think I will

[Lexi Rae]

oh boy!! im a hard rock huh? im sorry i get so mad when men treat women
like children... it shouldnt be, especially a fiance..

[Tiggerwit]

ug sorry, i would have told him to get off my computer because he might break it. LOL Sorry, I'm an instigator like that though.

Hang in there. Things will be ok.

[Nikki+2]

Originally Posted by Lexi Rae

oh boy!! im a hard rock huh? im sorry i get so mad when men treat women
like children... it shouldnt be, especially a fiance..

Gina I just noticed your new avatar- I love it.

Rae Rae I would just call him and make yourself feel better. You don't want to have to think about until 10. I'd be a huge baby and not let him borrow anything of mine but that is just terrible advise so I didn't post it.

[celstu1]

Originally Posted by Tiggerwit

ug sorry, i would have told him to get off my computer because he might break it. LOL Sorry, I'm an instigator like that though.

Hang in there. Things will be ok.

I would have too! Maybe thats why Im still single? haha

[Rae Rae]

Were good again! Thanks for your advice ladies..I did call him before I went to work and left a message, but it was just regaurding that our sheets needed to be dryed. He called me while I was at work, turns out he had some stuff go down at work today, didn't even get a break and had no chance to call. He felt bad though, he said he realized what he said to me and apologized, so I was happy because I didn't have to tell him what he did wrong.

As for the computer, I did change my pw and the hint was "My mom bought me this I don't want anything to happen to it" but I realized that was really bitchy of me (especially cuz I accidently got a virus on his computer, but he took blame cuz he forgot to tell me he didn't have an antivirus on it yet) so I just changed the PW and figured if he called and ask I would tell him no.

I'm just so happy were not fighting anymore!!

[labrown]

Yay! I'm happy for you! That is so funny what you put on your computer!

[Rae Rae]

Originally Posted by labrown

Yay! I'm happy for you! That is so funny what you put on your computer!

Trust me...if I didn't get the virus on his I wouldve left it!!!

[mizzwanned]

Originally Posted by Rae Rae

Thanks guys! I just know it's going to be so hard to make it until 10pm w/o hearing from him. And it's kinda hard for me to call him because I'm upset, and I don't want to call him and be like "i'm mad at you"...actually I think I will

I know exactly how you feel! I like my bf to call me when im angry, i don't like calling him and i dont like waiting long. It's torture. Usually my bf calls all the time so when he doesnt i start to worry and panic and then when i find out he's okay and just 'forgot' to call or something i get so mad. I lent my bf my phone to go to Albany yesterday and he barely called me cause it had low battery and he didn't have a charger there but i was so mad, i lent him my phone and he barely calls! Guys are so retareded sometimes so i know just what you mean and how you feel. About the tv watching and computer he should let you watch whatever you want and make him get off that computer when you need it! If you let him do what he wants he will get away with it and make a habit of it. Also i think if he lent his friend the camera he could have lent it to you too

[mizzwanned]

Originally Posted by Lexi Rae

oh boy!! im a hard rock huh? im sorry i get so mad when men treat women
like children... it shouldnt be, especially a fiance..

I agree, i don't like when men try to control their gf's, not saying that yours is controlling you Rae Rae but i mean just in general when i hear that happens i get so mad. I think it should be the other way around or equal