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|06-06-2006, 07:39 AM||#1|
Donating YT 500 Club Member
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: Sault Ste. Marie Ontario Canada
Some friends just don't understand
I was reading here today and saw something that Patti (Baby Blessing) said about some friends not understanding our grief and it made me realize that it's probably something we all experience.
Since losing Nighean on January 25th, I still find myself grieving and crying from time to time because I still miss her so...and probably always will. Some of my friends (obviously not pet owners) just don't understand. They think my grieving should be 'done' by now, and the fact that I have a new pup should totally erase all of my sadness.
For a while I was very angry at these friends...mostly because of the fact that they had to comment on my grief...something that they totally didn't 'get'. "How dare they," I thought.
But now I just feel sorry for them. They will never in their lives understand that wonderful, unconditional love that you share with an animal companion.
So I no longer feel the need to defend my feelings to them ...instead of feeling angry, I pity their inability to understand, for understanding means that you've experienced this kind of love.
How much richer my life is! Though I still grieve, I take comfort in knowing that I was given the gift of 7 years with this beautiful spirit. My life is so much better for knowing her. How lucky we all are to have experienced this kind of love.
How sad for those who never will....
VAL, TOPHER AND SOPHIE
|06-06-2006, 08:22 AM||#3|
Enja's Mom too!
Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Raleigh, NC
Very true!! We are so lucky to experience the love of these little ones and the love for them! I do feel very sorry for those who miss out on this. It's a good thing we have a place like YT to talk to those who DO understand!
Farrah, Zeus, Enja & Riley
|06-06-2006, 09:10 AM||#4|
Join Date: Dec 2005
You knows it's funny because I used to be the same. Growing up with cats all my life, I didn't really have an attachment because they come and go as they please. When I got Lea, everything changed. I absolutely agree that having a furbaby changes your attitude about attachment to animals (they're family) and the unthinkable grief that comes from losing the thing that depends on you the most.
Sarah and Lea
|06-06-2006, 07:29 PM||#5|
Join Date: Jan 2005
The fact that the members of these forums do understand our grief is such a help. Tonight, even my other babies are whining and looking for Marlee. Even though she was only 10 months old, all the pack are looking for her and show how closely they have bonded. They grieve too. We will keep going because we have to, for the others but it is not easy.
I agree that those who have never had such unconditional love as our Yorkies give us are missing something very valuable. Jesse and Marlee are together tonight across Rainbow Bridge with all of the others we have lost recently...
|06-15-2006, 11:52 AM||#7|
Join Date: May 2006
Location: Orlando, Fl
I think of it as a FurBlessing!!! we ARE the lucky ones, we ARE the loved ones by them, & we ARE the lonely ones when it is time to become a FurAngel, but I wouldnt change it for the world. I hope your grief is lessen day by day, but filled with lots of wonderful memories.. Are you thinking on another one...someday?...