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|03-21-2011, 08:35 AM||#1|
Join Date: Mar 2011
RIP my little Cody
My little guy passed away the day after Christmas 2010. I miss him everyday. I have two new Yorkies, but they will never replace my precious Cody. He would have been 7 years old this April. Some days I feel guilty because I had to put him to sleep because he was so young. He just got so ill and was diagnosed with Congestive Heart Failure and a stroke. We where all there to say goodbye and as we where saying our goodbyes he gave us all a kiss goodbye. I keep asking my vet....."did I do the right thing". He told me I did, but it still doesn't make me feel any better. I wish I could just hold and pet him one more time. I just didn't think I would miss him so much. Does the guilt every go away?
|03-21-2011, 09:23 AM||#2|
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker
Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Southern California, USA
Blog Entries: 1
I'm so sorry about little Cody.
I think the guilt will eventually go away when you've had a chance to grieve. It sounds like you made your decision for Cody's benefit - not your own. The selfish thing would have been to try to keep him going despite his suffering.
I felt the same way when I had to put my last two pets to sleep -- in fact I was so distraught, I posted on my facebook page that I had just murdered my cat. You know intellectually that you did the right thing, but it takes a while for your heart to catch up.
I hope you will soon reach the day when you can think about little Cody and smile instead of crying.
|03-21-2011, 09:58 AM||#3|
Donating YT 1000 Club Member
Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: With my yorkies
I am so sorry for your loss.
The guilt will pass, just as the pain will eventually ease. Helping a pet who is suffering as you helped your Cody is one of the most loving, selfless things we can do for them - even though it doesn't feel that way to us at the time. Right now, Cody's at the Rainbow Bridge healthy and happy and playing with my Alexander who my vet and I sent to the Bridge the week before Christmas. Alexander will watch over your boy until you arrive to get him.
RIP little man.
He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog. You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true, to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion. -- Author Unknown
|03-21-2011, 11:39 AM||#4|
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: Ontario Canada
Hi Debbie, it's Debbie, I know time does heal but right now that does not help the guilt and hurt we both feel. When I'm alone and get to thinking about my Molly I cannot control the grief and anguish I feel without her here. I know exactly how you feel about losing precious Cody. You could have another 100 yorkies, its not Cody......Non dog people especially look at you like your crazy, even some dog people think enough is enough get over it. No it's not like that, we lost our best friends and having to make that horrible decision weighs on you daily. I wish I could have just one more day with her, even just one more hour......Big Hugs to you Debbie and remember we are all here for you anytime. God bless Cody and Molly Muffin
Mattie,Abbey,Miley,Dottie,Holly and StevieX6
R.I.P. my Molly Muffin 14/01/11
|03-21-2011, 11:40 AM||#5|
YT 500 Club Member
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: Stroudsburg, PA. USA
Not that I'm a masochist, but I don't like to stick my head in the sand, sort of speak. I need to know what to do in a crisis so that I'm able to function at least to some extent.
Your experience is my worst nightmare. I just hope that when & if I have to make that same decision, I have the strength to make it in the same unselfish way that you, Boopster as well as others have done.
I hope you find comfort in the knowledge that your baby is no longer suffering and that he does live healthy and happy in your heart and in your thoughts .
Nini & Nicky (kids)
|03-21-2011, 12:41 PM||#6|
Join Date: May 2009
Location: Baltimore, Maryland
I am so sorry for the loss of your dear friend Cody.
I felt so bad after my Sophie Anne had to be put to sleep, I vowed never again, next time I would go natural. When God called my Maltese to come Home... I stayed with him by his side for over an hour. I had slept on the floor with him the prior 4 nights, because I knew his time was near. He didn't quite go in his sleep, but I don't think he was in pain, maybe more confused than anything, till his little heart gave out.
Neither way is good for the owner. I will take any of my pets to the vet, as a final act of kindness and love, as it is a more controlled situation. I have guilt that maybe it was too soon, maybe she had another week or two, and I'll always regret not waiting (for me, not for her), because I know that she passed quickly and quietly with me holding onto her, our final embrace.
Kat Infinity Chloe ?
|03-21-2011, 01:12 PM||#7|
Crazy about Kacee!
Join Date: May 2005
I am so sorry you lost Cody so young. I don't think the regret of loss ever goes away. The pain is just not as sharp as time passes.
Muffin 1991-2005 Rest in Peace My Little Angel
|03-21-2011, 05:35 PM||#8|
Donating YT 500 Club Member
Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: At Home
I am so very sorry for your loss of Cody. You did the one final act of love and kindnes for Cody. I have been thru this so many times and each time is just as hard as the first time. But I knew in my heart it was the right thing to do. Please don't feel guilty.
Sending prayers to you.
[SIZE="3"VICKI & ALLIE[/SIZE]
|03-21-2011, 05:39 PM||#9|
Donating YT 2000 Club Member
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: New York
I'm so sorry about Cody. You did the right thing. You are still grieving and you have to heal and it takes time. Sending hugs. Rest in Peace, Cody.
|03-21-2011, 06:31 PM||#10|
Ringo (1) and Lucy too!
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: On the Edge of Glory
With any death - comes guilt it seems. More so, if you had had to make the devasting choice of having your beloved put 'put to sleep'.
I had a really hard time getting over having my Maltese PTS - feeling guilty - like I had 'killed him'. It took me several months to get over it; I finally went and had a long talk with my vet's office. They assured me I had done the right thing; that he would not have done it if he had felt it was too soon or the wrong thing; AND that perhaps I had held on a little too long.
I felt so much better after that; something you could think about doing if your pain and guilt doesn't ease soon.
Really, it is a final act of kindness when the only road ahead for Cody leads to more pain, confusion and suffering. Cody has already forgiven you; now you need to be as kind to yourself as you would any stranger - and forgive yourself for doing what had to be done.
Peace be with you today; please be kind to yourself.
Mommy to Lucy, Ringo, and Matthew
|03-22-2011, 05:57 AM||#11|
Join Date: Mar 2011
Thank you everyone for all the kind words. I never thought I could love an animal as much as I loved my little Cody. Reading many of your responses has already helped me. Thank you again.