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07-12-2009, 08:27 PM | #1 |
Senior Yorkie Talker | I hate fireworks!!!!!!!!!! I know this site is strictly for Yorkies and thier owners (of which I am). That being said, I need advice PLEASE! How to comfort/help my Mom?! She is absolutely heartbroken, worse than any of us has ever seen her over anything! Mom is and always has been a very strong person but this has just undone her My mom's beautiful Bichon, Heidi, who has been a member of our family for more than 10 years, was recently killed in a tragic accident! Heidi was always afraid of fireworks (the loud noises and the flashes). My moms awful neighbor set them off every year, including the illegal ones. Well this year was no different. Around 10:30 pm, my Dad figured it was over as it had been quiet for awhile. Heidi had to go potty so Dad took her out in the back yard but forgot her leash as she had to go so badly. WELL...the stupid neighbors set off a huge firework that actually momentarily blinded my Dad and sent Heidi running in terror before Dad could grab her!! She was gone all night, my parents, brother & sister in law, several friends and neighbors were all out looking for her all night. I would have been too but I live too far away. She was found by one of the friends who went to get my mom to "i.d" her body...in the middle of the damn highway! My mom is so devastated!! She ran into the middle of the road and physically blocked traffic (idiots would not stop and kept running over Heidi even as my mom was screaming) so Dad could get her! Dad believed that Heidi had hidden in the woods and was coming out to get home when it happened. I've written to Mom, listened to her tears over the phone and sent her card and flowers. Mom was over the moon with Heidi, completly trained her herself, Heidi would wipe her feet when she came indoors after going potty, she would go to the bathroom so Mom could clean her up, she even played soccer with the grandkids and my Dad. I don't know what to do! The whole family is really concerned about my Mom as am I. Please, your suggestions are desperately needed. Sorry this is so long...but we are all so crushed by the loss of Heidi and sooooo worried about my Mom!!
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07-13-2009, 04:12 PM | #2 |
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| Oh my goodness. How absolutely horrible for your mother. She saw too much. Oh my! I am soooo sorry. Please give your mother my condolences. ~Joanne~
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07-13-2009, 08:14 PM | #3 |
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| OH how TRAGIC!!!!! I Know how I WOULD FEEL had that been one of my babies!!!! I'm sooooooo sorry for your mom!!!! My daughter lost her yorkie in a tragic accident some months ago...and I will tell you what helped her.... We got her another yorkie!! She said that for her...it was the best thing ever!!!! Because Jazz really helped heal her heart and fill that HUGE Void she had after losing Lilly!! So talk to your mom....explain you are NOT trying to replace Heidi....no other little dog could take her place....but maybe if she has another little dog to focus on she will not hurt so bad!!! Hope this helps....Good luck...and I'm sooooooooooo sorry for your whole families loss!!!
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07-13-2009, 08:14 PM | #4 |
Love my little flowers Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: In Gorgeous Montana!!!
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| OH how TRAGIC!!!!! I Know how I WOULD FEEL had that been one of my babies!!!! I'm sooooooo sorry for your mom!!!! My daughter lost her yorkie in a tragic accident some months ago...and I will tell you what helped her.... We got her another yorkie!! She said that for her...it was the best thing ever!!!! Because Jazz really helped heal her heart and fill that HUGE Void she had after losing Lilly!! So talk to your mom....explain you are NOT trying to replace Heidi....no other little dog could take her place....but maybe if she has another little dog to focus on she will not hurt so bad!!! Hope this helps....Good luck...and I'm sooooooooooo sorry for your whole families loss!!!
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07-14-2009, 07:10 AM | #5 |
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| What a tragic accident, especially when your mom had to see what she saw. My heart is broken for her. You are doing a great job consoling your mother, there is not much more to be done for her right now. In due time she will slowly recover and she'll remember the good times with Heidi. For now, just let her know you are there for her if she wants to cry or talk or anything. RIP Heidi baby, I pray your mommy finds peace in time.
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07-14-2009, 07:18 AM | #6 |
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| I am so sorry for the loss of Heidi. My heart breaks for your poor Mom and Dad. What a terrible thing to have happened. Isn't it illegal to set off fireworks where you live? Most towns and cities it is. Sending a prayer to help your mother's broken heart. |
07-14-2009, 07:21 AM | #7 |
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| OMG! How tragic! I am so sorry for your mother's loss...
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07-14-2009, 07:23 AM | #8 |
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| I'm so sorry to hear this!! I know how your mom feels. I lost my 5 yo boy 3 years ago when he ran across the street and was mauled to death by a husky. I know that getting a new baby was what really helped me. I so missed Niko following me all over the house and the sound of those little feet prancing all around. Getting a new puppy didn't replace Niko and I still miss him, but it so helped me to have a baby to love. Good luck to you and your family. Michele :-) |
07-14-2009, 07:48 AM | #9 |
Donating YT 30K Club Member | Oh how terrible. I feel so bad for your Mom and all of you. I know it is not for everyone but I know I would get another one not to replace as that is impossible but to give your Mom something to keep her busy and hug when she is feeling bad.
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07-14-2009, 07:51 AM | #10 |
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| How sad for Heidi and for your mom and dad. Sometimes no matter how careful we are these tragic accidents happen, not just to dogs but to humans also. We all never know when are time on earth may end. I know it is probably no consolation to your mom but I know Heidi lived a wonderful 10 years and she was greatly loved. Although her death was sudden and unexpected we just have to pray she did not suffer and she is now at peace. Just tell your mom that you love her and you know how much she hurts. These things take time to heal and everyone has to grieve in their own way. |
07-14-2009, 07:56 AM | #11 |
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| Your poor mom. What a tragic accident. I can't imagine watching what your mom had to see. That really breaks my heart. Hopefully one day soon, the ten wonderful years Heidi spent with your family can be a comfort to your mom. I would want to report my neighbors just for the annoyance of years past not to mention the loss of sweet Heidi, especially since you know they set off illegal fireworks.
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07-14-2009, 08:16 AM | #12 |
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| I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your mom's beloved Heidi. They must be devastated. Keep consoling her and listening to her. Hopefully she will find it in her to love a new puppy and remember all the joys that Heidi brought them.
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07-14-2009, 08:23 AM | #13 |
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| How absolutely tragic!!!! I'm so very sorry for your mom's loss! She is in my thoughts and prayers!
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