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yorkiegirl16 · 05-07-2008, 10:57 AM

It's been 3 months now since I lost Zack and I thought it had got easier. I've dealt with his ashes scattered some and then put the remainder in the back garden where he used to like to lie in the son. I still miss him everyday and talk about him each day.

I've been having problems though just recently - I can't cope at work - everything seems to much, and I have pressure going on at home with my mum being ill and I cry over the slightest thing. I've just been reading about grief and depression - The bargaining stage where you think could I have done something more - I've done that and then it mentions Depression which I feel reading the article is where I'm somewhere in between with Anger as I'm so angry at my manager at work at the moment - I don't want to be there - he makes these comments and I would normally think you idiot but now they're getting to me and it has me in tears and then I'm angry. I did phone a free confidential service today at work as I don't feel I'm coping. It made me realise what I'm going through is still grief but I really don't know how else to get through this. I think some people just think it's only a dog but he was real and I loved him and it really hurts.

Thanks for listening to me.

Betty'sMom · 05-07-2008, 11:13 AM

I am so sorry for what you are going through. I understand so well. Sometimes, things pile up and it becomes very hard to cope. I think it was a good idea that you called someone. It might be a good idea to continue with that for awhile until you feel better. We are here too...keep on talking with us. (hug) Jeanne

LoveMyJake · 05-07-2008, 03:25 PM

I am so sorry for your loss. How wonderful that you had 16 years with him. Rest in peace, Zack.

Cinq1964 · 05-07-2008, 03:45 PM

Sorry for your loss. Prayers for you and your family. My heart is broken for you all!

valerieam · 05-08-2008, 05:38 AM

Zack wasn't 'only a dog', and those of us who have been blessed to have a wonderful creature share our lives understand your pain. I had to PTS my dog Beau a few months ago and there are still days I can hardly cope with the loss. I know we will never foget our beloved pets but I do know time will help ease the pain. I'm sending you a hug and hope today is a better day for you.

Lexi Rae · 05-08-2008, 07:12 AM

aww sweetie, im sending you hugs too.

mkawczak · 05-08-2008, 07:16 AM

I'm sorry for the loss of your little man. They always remain in your heart. Hugs to you and yours

Grizzley Bear · 05-08-2008, 11:16 AM

Yorkiegirl16..My heart breaks for you. I am so sorry for I know how you feel. I lost My Grizzley Bear in October. It is still like yesterday to me. I still cry every a day and he is always on my mind. Talk about him too. Please know you did the best and gave Zack a wonderful life. He will always be in your heart and mind. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. If I were in your presence I would give you a great big Grizzley Bear hug to comfort you. Since I am not. Please accept the ones I am sending your way.

Mary

yorkiegirl16 · 05-08-2008, 11:23 AM

Thanks everyone for your lovely kind messages. It does help to talk and know that you understand what I'm feeling. I had a great big cry last night and I think it helped me a lot to let it all out. Thanks

KatiesMommy · 05-08-2008, 02:48 PM

Time will help you thru this ~ take one day @ a time. When You really feel uptight try taking a walk and LISTEN TO SOME MUSIC ! AND COME AND POST HERE WE ALL ARE HERE FOR YOU ! HUGS KATHY

05-07-2008, 10:57 AM	#46
yorkiegirl16 Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Worcestershire, UK Posts: 43	It's been 3 months now since I lost Zack and I thought it had got easier. I've dealt with his ashes scattered some and then put the remainder in the back garden where he used to like to lie in the son. I still miss him everyday and talk about him each day. I've been having problems though just recently - I can't cope at work - everything seems to much, and I have pressure going on at home with my mum being ill and I cry over the slightest thing. I've just been reading about grief and depression - The bargaining stage where you think could I have done something more - I've done that and then it mentions Depression which I feel reading the article is where I'm somewhere in between with Anger as I'm so angry at my manager at work at the moment - I don't want to be there - he makes these comments and I would normally think you idiot but now they're getting to me and it has me in tears and then I'm angry. I did phone a free confidential service today at work as I don't feel I'm coping. It made me realise what I'm going through is still grief but I really don't know how else to get through this. I think some people just think it's only a dog but he was real and I loved him and it really hurts. Thanks for listening to me. __________________ Yorkiegirl16 RIP My little Zack http://i3.photobucket.com/albums/y93...ck1yearold.jpg

05-07-2008, 11:13 AM	#47
Betty'sMom Donating YT Addict Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 6,234	I am so sorry for what you are going through. I understand so well. Sometimes, things pile up and it becomes very hard to cope. I think it was a good idea that you called someone. It might be a good idea to continue with that for awhile until you feel better. We are here too...keep on talking with us. (hug) Jeanne __________________ Jeanne: Mom to Betty & Juju Bean

05-07-2008, 03:25 PM	#48
LoveMyJake I love Jackson too! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Ohio Posts: 2,905	I am so sorry for your loss. How wonderful that you had 16 years with him. Rest in peace, Zack. __________________ Selina, mommy to Jake and Jackson. RIP baby Lily Coming soon: Gracie

05-07-2008, 03:45 PM	#49
Cinq1964 Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Louisiana Posts: 2,255 Blog Entries: 2	Sorry for your loss. Prayers for you and your family. My heart is broken for you all! __________________ Doggie Blankets $10 with shipping! cinq1964.webs.com

05-08-2008, 07:12 AM	#51
Lexi Rae Gina, (Lexi's Mommy) Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: LONG ISLAND,NY Posts: 10,455	aww sweetie, im sending you hugs too. __________________ Gina & Lexi CLICK HERE for our Photo Album ...

05-08-2008, 05:38 AM	#50
valerieam Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: California Posts: 449	Zack wasn't 'only a dog', and those of us who have been blessed to have a wonderful creature share our lives understand your pain. I had to PTS my dog Beau a few months ago and there are still days I can hardly cope with the loss. I know we will never foget our beloved pets but I do know time will help ease the pain. I'm sending you a hug and hope today is a better day for you.

05-08-2008, 07:16 AM	#52
mkawczak Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Upstate New York Posts: 1,320 Blog Entries: 3	Hold on to the memories I'm sorry for the loss of your little man. They always remain in your heart. Hugs to you and yours __________________ N.Y. 'S FINESTPONGO,AIDEN,HARLEY, KI-KI ,GARFIELD ,MINI-ME

05-08-2008, 11:16 AM	#53
Grizzley Bear MY HEART AND SOUL Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Sacramento Posts: 566	Yorkiegirl16..My heart breaks for you. I am so sorry for I know how you feel. I lost My Grizzley Bear in October. It is still like yesterday to me. I still cry every a day and he is always on my mind. Talk about him too. Please know you did the best and gave Zack a wonderful life. He will always be in your heart and mind. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. If I were in your presence I would give you a great big Grizzley Bear hug to comfort you. Since I am not. Please accept the ones I am sending your way. Mary __________________ A + = My Grizzley Bear 10/12/95 to 10/10/2007:

05-08-2008, 11:23 AM	#54
yorkiegirl16 Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Worcestershire, UK Posts: 43	Thanks everyone for your lovely kind messages. It does help to talk and know that you understand what I'm feeling. I had a great big cry last night and I think it helped me a lot to let it all out. Thanks __________________ Yorkiegirl16 RIP My little Zack http://i3.photobucket.com/albums/y93...ck1yearold.jpg

05-08-2008, 02:48 PM	#55
KatiesMommy YT Addict Join Date: May 2007 Location: Long Island NY Posts: 440	Time will help you thru this ~ take one day @ a time. When You really feel uptight try taking a walk and LISTEN TO SOME MUSIC ! AND COME AND POST HERE WE ALL ARE HERE FOR YOU ! HUGS KATHY __________________ Love from Allears and Katie