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HeatherHamptons · 07-13-2005, 08:35 AM

My mother has a samoyed who is now 13 years old. She was born the runt of the litter.

She is 100% blind in one eyes and partially blind in another. She has tumors on her body (non cancerous), arthritis, and hip problems.

They came to visit me this past weekend and brought snowflake (their dog) with them. This may be the last time I EVER see her.

They have decided it may be time to put her down soon. She's not in any pain, but she does have a hard time getting around.

Im not ready for her to go. Even though she doesnt live with me, she was a present to me on my 11th birthday. Figures huh? Today is my 24th birthday... exactly 13 years to the day, that we got her and its time for her to be put down. Stupid bad luck birthdays GRRR

anyway, I am not prepaired. Is there anything that will prepair me or ease the transition? She's part of out family, and grandma to my yorkies.

I dont know the exact day they are gonna do it but i know its soon. I need to brace myself but I just cant face it...

HOW DO I HANDLE THIS?

luzangela428 · 07-13-2005, 08:54 AM

I amm sooooo sorry...I don't know if you can ever really prepare for the death of a loved friend.... I guess the only comfort is that she has had 13 great ears and will be restored to her youthful health and waiting for you in rainbow bridge!!

HeatherHamptons · 07-13-2005, 09:05 AM

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Originally Posted by luzangela428

I amm sooooo sorry...I don't know if you can ever really prepare for the death of a loved friend.... I guess the only comfort is that she has had 13 great ears and will be restored to her youthful health and waiting for you in rainbow bridge!!

Your right, I know your right...but im selfish. I dont want her to go. She's such a sweet girl...

She's always been so good to everyone, and never hurt a fly.

JCarlson2004 · 07-13-2005, 09:07 AM

I'm so sorry. I know what it's like to lose someone you love. I hope you have peace knowing she lives a long and beautiful life.

HeatherHamptons · 07-13-2005, 09:13 AM

She has had a nice life. She's always been loved, and treated like a princess.

I remember going to mcdonalds with my mom... we only went like 2 times a month because it was a treat NOT a normal thing..ya know? and we could ALWAYS get her, her own cheeseburger.

She was ALWAYS thought about like another HUMAN family member. God help me...I dont know if I will make it through this.

I just want a few more years with her.....

teri88 · 07-13-2005, 09:41 AM

Heather, I am so sorry to hear about your kitty. There really is no way to prepare. It will be very sad when she goes, but try to remember the good things about her. Think of her as she was when she was young and healthy and try to visulize her that way again. When we had to put my dog Holly down 12 years ago it was the same thing. She was blind and crippled. She was the first dog I ever had and it was hard. But, I tried to think of what was best for her. Part of the "payment" we make for getting so much love and devotion from our pets is having to give them up some day. You will be in my thoughts. I hope you are able to remember her when she was at her best and that that helps you to heal.

Diego · 07-13-2005, 03:06 PM

You can't be prepared for death . If I have been when Zsa Zsa died last week maybe It wouldn't hurt so much today .

You and your family will need support because it is very hard .

txshopper73 · 07-13-2005, 03:41 PM

Oh, Heather. That is sad. Nothing can truly prepare a person for something like this. I have no words of advice to give you, just my prayers.

sunshine22 · 07-13-2005, 06:49 PM

You can't really prepare for the pain, grief, and loss you will feel.
Let yourself cry. Talk about it with friends and family. Let yourself grieve.
Remember the good times and remember how you wouldn't want your beloved to be in constant pain and misery.
I'm so sorry. Just remember that we care.
Others have gone through that same grief and know what you're feeling.
Unfortunately, death is inevitable.
Remember the good times.

HeatherHamptons · 07-14-2005, 04:31 AM

*sigh* I guess im just trying to barce myself.

I don't see snowflake on a daily basis anymore since I now life 3 hours away from my parents. Still, it's nice to know that when I do go visit, she's right there waiting for me.

Im praying for a miracle.

Connie · 07-14-2005, 09:31 AM

Hi Heather...I'm so sorry to hear about Snowflake. There just is no easy way to get through losing someone you love. I do know what you're going through and don't think there is any way to prepare yourself for what is to come. You will need time to grieve and everyone grieve's in their own way. Know that we all care about you and are thinking of you. Sending hugs and I will also pray for a miracle!

HeatherHamptons · 07-14-2005, 02:07 PM

Thanks Connie. It's so nice ot know that there is support here.

I dont know what id do without YT. To some its just a forum but to me its more. I've learned so much here, met some great people, and even made life long friends.

Im happy to know that even through the tough stuff, there's always someone here who will do their best to comfort their fellow YT'er.

Thank you so much!

fasteddie · 07-14-2005, 02:20 PM

I'm sorry to hear about Snowflake. Just remember the happy times, make a scrapbook or write down memories of her. It's never easy to lose a family member, no matter how small, how big, how furry, or how long you've known them...

HeatherHamptons · 07-14-2005, 02:44 PM

Aint that the truth.

I know it's coming soon but it just doesnt seem real. I remember the first time I saw her...well heard her really.

It was my 11th birthday and I woke up to the sound of barking. I came out of my room to see what the fuss was..............and there she was. This tiny little ball of far just waddling around. She came right to me and licked me all over.

I'll never forget how much fun we used to have. Even when I had no friends, I always had her.

I turned my moms detached garage into a club house, and snowflake and I would play in there for hours on end. Just the two of us.

I'll never forget those special times and not even death can take that from me!

Buddy · 07-15-2005, 08:31 AM

Hi heather, i'm so sorry to hear about snowflake and i hope that there is some miracle and you get to spend a bit more time with her.
we had to have my collie, sunny, put to sleep about 11 years ago and no you never forget them and all the happy funny memories, but please believe that the raw pain of losing them does get better.
I was at the vets when Sunny was put to sleep and sat on the floor with his head in my lap, i remember the vet saying to me that alot of 'humans' dont get to live the sort of life that a well loved and cared for dog does, and that many 'people' dont get the opportunity to die surrounded by people they love. I know her saying this helped me a little bit.
Just remember all those happy times and know that you contributed greatly to making a little dogs life very happy and special.

07-13-2005, 08:35 AM	#1
HeatherHamptons Got Yorkie? Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Virginia Posts: 923	Pre-emptive (sp) RIP My mother has a samoyed who is now 13 years old. She was born the runt of the litter. She is 100% blind in one eyes and partially blind in another. She has tumors on her body (non cancerous), arthritis, and hip problems. They came to visit me this past weekend and brought snowflake (their dog) with them. This may be the last time I EVER see her. They have decided it may be time to put her down soon. She's not in any pain, but she does have a hard time getting around. Im not ready for her to go. Even though she doesnt live with me, she was a present to me on my 11th birthday. Figures huh? Today is my 24th birthday... exactly 13 years to the day, that we got her and its time for her to be put down. Stupid bad luck birthdays GRRR anyway, I am not prepaired. Is there anything that will prepair me or ease the transition? She's part of out family, and grandma to my yorkies. I dont know the exact day they are gonna do it but i know its soon. I need to brace myself but I just cant face it... HOW DO I HANDLE THIS? __________________ R.I.P sweet Prince.. You are dearly missed. My heart breaks thinking of you, but i know you're in a peaceful place. We love you sooooo much sweet boy

07-13-2005, 08:54 AM	#2
luzangela428 Maximus "Lily's Love Slave" Join Date: May 2005 Location: san ramon, ca Posts: 2,368	I amm sooooo sorry...I don't know if you can ever really prepare for the death of a loved friend.... I guess the only comfort is that she has had 13 great ears and will be restored to her youthful health and waiting for you in rainbow bridge!! __________________ http://www.dogster.com/?148186 Maximus' Album: http://www.yorkietalk.com/gallery/sh...=1&ppuser=2303 Maximus Woves Lily

07-13-2005, 09:07 AM	#4
JCarlson2004 Mommy To 3 Poochies Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: New York Posts: 8,287	I'm so sorry. I know what it's like to lose someone you love. I hope you have peace knowing she lives a long and beautiful life. __________________ Mommy Loves Codie, Tia & Baby Cali RIP My Precious Katie - I Love You

07-13-2005, 09:13 AM	#5
HeatherHamptons Got Yorkie? Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Virginia Posts: 923	She has had a nice life. She's always been loved, and treated like a princess. I remember going to mcdonalds with my mom... we only went like 2 times a month because it was a treat NOT a normal thing..ya know? and we could ALWAYS get her, her own cheeseburger. She was ALWAYS thought about like another HUMAN family member. God help me...I dont know if I will make it through this. I just want a few more years with her..... __________________ R.I.P sweet Prince.. You are dearly missed. My heart breaks thinking of you, but i know you're in a peaceful place. We love you sooooo much sweet boy

07-13-2005, 09:41 AM	#6
teri88 Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: NJ Posts: 4,021	Heather, I am so sorry to hear about your kitty. There really is no way to prepare. It will be very sad when she goes, but try to remember the good things about her. Think of her as she was when she was young and healthy and try to visulize her that way again. When we had to put my dog Holly down 12 years ago it was the same thing. She was blind and crippled. She was the first dog I ever had and it was hard. But, I tried to think of what was best for her. Part of the "payment" we make for getting so much love and devotion from our pets is having to give them up some day. You will be in my thoughts. I hope you are able to remember her when she was at her best and that that helps you to heal. __________________ Teri Owned by and completely devoted to Tucker... Maddie, we will always love you *Bandit, you are always in my heart* Proud Member SSLS

07-13-2005, 03:06 PM	#7
Diego Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Canada Posts: 3,617	You can't be prepared for death . If I have been when Zsa Zsa died last week maybe It wouldn't hurt so much today . You and your family will need support because it is very hard .

07-13-2005, 03:41 PM	#8
txshopper73 Donating YT 14K Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Texas Posts: 14,226 Blog Entries: 1	Oh, Heather. That is sad. Nothing can truly prepare a person for something like this. I have no words of advice to give you, just my prayers. __________________ As always...JMO (Just My Opinion) Kimberley

07-13-2005, 06:49 PM	#9
sunshine22 YT Addict Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Florida Posts: 388	You can't really prepare for the pain, grief, and loss you will feel. Let yourself cry. Talk about it with friends and family. Let yourself grieve. Remember the good times and remember how you wouldn't want your beloved to be in constant pain and misery. I'm so sorry. Just remember that we care. Others have gone through that same grief and know what you're feeling. Unfortunately, death is inevitable. Remember the good times. __________________ I my little Sunshine ...!

07-14-2005, 04:31 AM	#10
HeatherHamptons Got Yorkie? Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Virginia Posts: 923	sigh I guess im just trying to barce myself. I don't see snowflake on a daily basis anymore since I now life 3 hours away from my parents. Still, it's nice to know that when I do go visit, she's right there waiting for me. Im praying for a miracle. __________________ R.I.P sweet Prince.. You are dearly missed. My heart breaks thinking of you, but i know you're in a peaceful place. We love you sooooo much sweet boy

07-14-2005, 09:31 AM	#11
Connie Loved by Maddie & Libby Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: North Dakota Posts: 10,732	Hi Heather...I'm so sorry to hear about Snowflake. There just is no easy way to get through losing someone you love. I do know what you're going through and don't think there is any way to prepare yourself for what is to come. You will need time to grieve and everyone grieve's in their own way. Know that we all care about you and are thinking of you. Sending hugs and I will also pray for a miracle!

07-14-2005, 02:07 PM	#12
HeatherHamptons Got Yorkie? Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Virginia Posts: 923	Thanks Connie. It's so nice ot know that there is support here. I dont know what id do without YT. To some its just a forum but to me its more. I've learned so much here, met some great people, and even made life long friends. Im happy to know that even through the tough stuff, there's always someone here who will do their best to comfort their fellow YT'er. Thank you so much! __________________ R.I.P sweet Prince.. You are dearly missed. My heart breaks thinking of you, but i know you're in a peaceful place. We love you sooooo much sweet boy

07-14-2005, 02:20 PM	#13
fasteddie *YT 6000 Club Member* Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Seattle, WA Posts: 6,238	I'm sorry to hear about Snowflake. Just remember the happy times, make a scrapbook or write down memories of her. It's never easy to lose a family member, no matter how small, how big, how furry, or how long you've known them... __________________ YODA & WINKY R ::: RIP Winky ::: RIP Yoda!

07-14-2005, 02:44 PM	#14
HeatherHamptons Got Yorkie? Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Virginia Posts: 923	Aint that the truth. I know it's coming soon but it just doesnt seem real. I remember the first time I saw her...well heard her really. It was my 11th birthday and I woke up to the sound of barking. I came out of my room to see what the fuss was..............and there she was. This tiny little ball of far just waddling around. She came right to me and licked me all over. I'll never forget how much fun we used to have. Even when I had no friends, I always had her. I turned my moms detached garage into a club house, and snowflake and I would play in there for hours on end. Just the two of us. I'll never forget those special times and not even death can take that from me! __________________ R.I.P sweet Prince.. You are dearly missed. My heart breaks thinking of you, but i know you're in a peaceful place. We love you sooooo much sweet boy

07-15-2005, 08:31 AM	#15
Buddy Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: England Posts: 165	Hi heather, i'm so sorry to hear about snowflake and i hope that there is some miracle and you get to spend a bit more time with her. we had to have my collie, sunny, put to sleep about 11 years ago and no you never forget them and all the happy funny memories, but please believe that the raw pain of losing them does get better. I was at the vets when Sunny was put to sleep and sat on the floor with his head in my lap, i remember the vet saying to me that alot of 'humans' dont get to live the sort of life that a well loved and cared for dog does, and that many 'people' dont get the opportunity to die surrounded by people they love. I know her saying this helped me a little bit. Just remember all those happy times and know that you contributed greatly to making a little dogs life very happy and special. __________________ Lyn&Jade&Buddy http://www.dogster.com/?161903