Please know you are thought of and prayed for. Life does move on but the "good" memories stay in our hearts. Take care~

It is good to hear from you V! You are still in my prayers. Things will get better. Have you heard of Rescue Remedy? Maybe that would help Cheri if you give it to her before you go. It is a Bach product you can get at the healthfood store. It is for people and pets!
http://www.rescueremedy.com/


It is on sale on this site (below) and is much cheaper than I have gotten at my local health food store.
http://www.ihealthtree.com/bach-resc...-remedies.html


http://www.bachflower.com/Pets.htm
Stressful situations: visits to the vet, being left alone, adapting to new surrounding. Fear of loud noises. Excessive barking or hissing
Rescue Remedy
Immediate calming effect



Hope this helps!

Thank you all - man you guys can touch my heart with such impact - and thanks LilBit - I'm going to look into that - my poor baby just screams when I try to leave and I'm so worried one day I could accidentally shut the door on her - not to mention this new 'running' out the door - she never did this before - never.

Some of you know I post on 2 sites - well - the 2nd I can't access (it was hacked) and my post here includes those people too - I hope I don't get in trouble for saying that :eek:

I'm hoping this medication will help me from breaking down like I've been doing - I even lost it in the grocery store last week and I just can't interview like that - no one would hire a basket case so I'm really trying to get myself together so I CAN start looking again for work - having a 6 year gap in my resume isn't helping that's for sure but there must be someone out there who will hire me.

I was told by hospice to give it at least 2 months but don't really know if I HAVE that long (financially) - as I said - one day at a time. I never dreamed it would be this hard to accept losing him - people think when one is ill you have a chance to at least say goodbye - I don't feel that at all - if anything I wish I could have him back just one more day so I can say the things I've been saying to him since he died and hug him as hard as I could. He thought he had a year or 2 left and I personally was worried but never dreamed 2 days after calling hospice he would die....he was excited about the new oxygen machine and meds they gave him and very animated the day they were here - then boom - he was gone.:(

wow i am truely sorry to hear about your husband. i know all to well about sleepless nights and the guilt from finding someone who died on sept 11th was the one year mark for baby eligh dieing and for me the past year has pretty much been a blur due to the meds i was on or the stress from all the what ifs and if i could haves. i got my yorkie after eligh died and i really think if it wasnt for her i wouldnt be half way sane today, and the thought of me leaving her hurts me also, we will be taking a trip in oct and if i leave her for an hour she cries and stresses as much as i do. the only things that are making me feel better about leaving her is i know my son and friend will be taking care of her. but still worried grrrr.

Villette, Somehow I have missed alot of your story, but have been praying for you since I heard that you lost your husband. My heart just breaks reading your thoughts today and I wanted you to know that all my thoughts and prayers will be with you until you are on your feet and feeling better.

Hugs to you and your girls,
Kim

V~
Your stories of your hubby just rip my hear out.. I can't imagine your loss.

I don't really have any ideas for Cheri either..but I'm gonna ponder it..;)

You will find a job I'm sure..with your attitude who wouldn't want you. :) When the time is right you'll get something, I'm sure.

I was going to call you over the weekend but everytime I considered it, it was too late and GINA taught me.. NO calls after 9 her mom said so..LOL But I will call you soon.

I love to see your light on here. We all miss you but understand you need time. I'm glad you finally had a good nights rest.

I think too your son moving in could really be a positive for the girls....I know what you mean by the it can be 20 minutes or 3 hours they act the same....Diggy and Bella both freak out when I come in form taking garage out like Id been gone for hours....I don't get it. I'm gonna look into seperation anxiety as that is what they are going thru. I will send you what I find.
It is very real, and Vets recognize it and even medicate in some situations....I think meds would be a last resort tho the dog I know of who's partner died was a weimerinder (sp?) HUGE dog and when the family left he tore all the trim off the windows! He gets medicated during the week. Very sad story. So anyway I will start researching seperation anxiety and see what we can come up with!

Villette.

Thank you for posting. My thoughts & prayers had been with you. I continue to pray for you, that there will be peace in your heart & in your home - I will pray for the dogs to be calmed.

It is so hard. I have a Siamese cat who has been grieving for months. She lost her partner at the end of Nov. & then my daughter left for her 1st yr of college about 5 weeks ago. My cat is a mess. It is so hard to watch them go thru grief.

These sweet girls are there to help you during this time & you are there for them. I hope this Rescue Remedy works for Cheri. I'm going to check it out too.

I will pray for you as you seek employment. The right employer/interviewer is out there - I know that. Nearly 12 yrs ago, I was seeking employment after staying home or going to school for almost 10 yrs. It was scary, but I truly believe God put the right person in my path. I am so grateful to the woman who hired me -- and actually it was outside of my education field & just opened a new door for me. You will find someone who will see your charm & believe in you to do the job!

I am also getting ready to start the new job search because my financial situation recently changed & I can't stay in my home, etc. if I don't find a better paying job. I don't want to look for something new, but have to -- it makes it hard to be in the situation where you have to do something, even when you're not ready to. I'm praying God will make a way for me. I will pray that He also makes a way for you too -- He is so good.

Praying you have a blessed day.

V, don't torture yourself with what 'ifs' you can do nothing about. We have hospice here in the building every other month for someone and they only come when someone has two or three more weeks to live. They are angels and I remember how they helped you with some of the funeral arrangements. Your heart is broken and the 'good-by' is not necessary when people love each other.....your good by was being there with him every day. Gal, we are all praying that it gets easier for you and those of us that have been through it know there is no pain like that pain in the world.

V, I'm glad things are a little bit better for you now and I hope that they continue to get better and better every day. I know how hard it is for you and my thoughts and prayers are with you as always. :)

V,
I am glad to see you back on posting on a few threads. It will take awhile, but you will get back to being yourself. We all care so much aboug you and I am glad your son is coming to live with you and you both can heal. Take care of yourself.

Hi Villette ,
I am glad things are a little better for you . Thoughts and prayers are with you .

I put an xpen around the door so they can run out if we leave or someone comes. YOu have to step over it but it\'s safer for them.

Hi V!!!!
Oh dear friend my heart goes out to you. One day at a time, take it slow, you might feel the need to rush, but you don\'t have to. Things will work out for a job & your home, your heart needs to heal. The girls will fill you up with the very best kisses, your son will be there to help, and you have lots of dear friends who really care about you, who will always be here for you. Stay strong our dear friend, lean on us, we are here.
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:2hearts2: Leonard will forever live in V\'s heart :2hearts2: