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06-18-2007, 05:11 AM | #1 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2005
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| Yorkies & Divorce Hi all... I need some help. When I left my husband last year, it was decided that since the condo I was moving in didnt have a fence, that the yorkies would stay with him. Altho, my ex is a lousy husband and dad, he is absolutely wonderful with Diesel and Daisy. Everything has been fine up until now. He is now selling our home and taking Diesel and Daisy to live with his new girlfriend and her children. I cant imagine not being able to see them when I want to. Plus they will be an hour away. I cant split them up so I can have one and he have one. I am literally worrying myself sick over this. Does anyone have any suggestions? Im almost to the point where I am going to go steal them from him, but then, there are issues with Diesel and Daisy staying at home alone during the day while Im at work. Thanks |
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06-18-2007, 05:43 AM | #2 |
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| Unless he willingly gives the yorkies to you, I say the only thing you can do it 1) steal them, or 2) take him to court over them. |
06-18-2007, 05:58 AM | #3 |
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| Stealing is going to be my only option I think. What makes me sick is that my husband wont fight over seeing our son, but he will fight over the dogs. |
06-18-2007, 06:06 AM | #4 |
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| aww hope everything works out!
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06-18-2007, 07:30 AM | #5 |
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| Well you did leave them with your husband and you have said he is very good with them. You could have found a place to have your dogs or you could have put up a fence but you choose to leave them behind. I say leave them with your husband and move on with your life, don't keep upsetting your dogs life. Make a commitment to them for their life or let them go. Be sure before you fight for them or try and steel them that you can provide a good home for them. |
06-18-2007, 07:42 AM | #6 | |
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06-18-2007, 07:44 AM | #7 |
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| I had to leave my JRT with my ex-husband 6 years ago when we separated because I moved into an apartment. When I bought a house he would not let me have her. She has been happy I think but she has not been spoiled and pampered like I would have done. I did not want to leave her, but at that time I had to do what was best for me and my daughter and an apartment was my only choice. I hate when you have to try to defend yourself and your decisions to complete strangers, and I hate when people judge you and say "well you did leave her there" when they don't know anything about the circumstances. I really regret leaving my JRT Becca behind, so if there is any way you can get your babies back then you need to do it. He might be a good dad to the dogs now but after he moves in with his girlfriend and she starts whining about them he might change his tune, not to mention her kids. But on the other hand, maybe his girlfriend will hate the dogs and he will give them back to you....hopefully her kids will be allergic to them and he will have to give them back to you.... ...Good luck |
06-18-2007, 07:46 AM | #8 |
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| You are correct, I did leave them with my husband when I left. If things would have stayed the same meaning, he stayed in his house, then I would be ok with seeming the dogs every other night. But with him moving an hour away to a house that has no fence, and has 6 kids running around, that isnt in the best interest of the dogs. I had to leave in a hurry for my safety, and with living in a condo, I cant put up a fence. However, I am more prepared to have them with me now. I was just asking for advice if anyone else has gone thru the same situation. |
06-18-2007, 07:48 AM | #9 | |
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06-18-2007, 07:50 AM | #10 |
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| Sometime people don't have a lot of choices when they are leaving in a hurry and also their income is cut in half. |
06-18-2007, 07:51 AM | #11 | |
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06-18-2007, 08:01 AM | #12 |
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| I wouldnt steal the dogs. At one tme it was most convenient for you to give them to him. From that point on they became his dogs not yours. I think if you steal them you are no better than a person who sees a dog in a back yard and wants it and steals it
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06-18-2007, 08:07 AM | #13 |
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| I feel like I am getting pounced on becasue I "left" them. The reason I left them is because I was in the hospital with a broken neck and a 9 hour surgery because of my husbands actions. When I left the hospital, I didnt go back to my home. My parents did all they could to help me, but who was going to take care of my dogs while my parents were in the hospital with me. I just wanted to make it clear that I didnt leave them by choice. Thank you everyone for your advice. |
06-18-2007, 08:11 AM | #14 |
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| You said he loves the dogs and is very good with them, and at the time, it was for the best they stayed with him. Well, it sounds like maybe now you have the better situation for them (6 kids), have you asked him to let you have them? If you used to visit them every other night, it sounds like maybe you do have a good enough relationship to discuss what is best for the dogs? I hope this all works out for you and for him and especially for the 's!! **oops we posted at the same time** maybe he isn't so reasonable after all!! Have you asked him to let you have them?? What did he say??
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06-18-2007, 08:13 AM | #15 | |
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