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07-03-2007, 07:01 AM | #1 |
YT Addict | I'm going to have to rehome my baby! I haven't been on YT as much as I'd like. I graduated college, and I'm now preparing to take the LSAT which is what is going to get me into law school. And now I'm faced with the decision that I'm going to have to rehome my Theresa. I love my Theresa. She is the most friendliest, happiest puppy in the entire world. She is like my alarm clock, she is ALWAYS up early. Everyone in my family loves her. This is why it is so hard for me to admit that I can't take on the responsibility of two dogs. I thought I could, but my grandmother and grandfather need my help, so I'm moving in with them while I figure out what law school I'm going to. The reason I'm rehoming my little reese is that she is the one who doesn't listen to me. She is a very stubborn dog by nature, and although this is one of the traits that I admire about her, with everything going on, I feel I won't have the time and attention to properly and adequately train her to follow my commands. However, I truly do believe that with the right amount of attention in the right home, she could be the perfect dog for someone else. I know that if I didn't eventually rectify this situation with her disobedience, it would lead to frustration on my part, and that type of environment is not suitable for any dog. That means Teddy will be all alone. And one of the main reasons I got Theresa was because of Teddy. Although, I can honestly say, that he will notice she's gone, but he STILL gets jealous, when she sits on my lap, or licks my hand for a little too long. What you won't find on here, however, is a thread on here saying I'm selling her. I'm not going to charge an exoribant fee for my Theresa. There is no amount of money that could justify rehoming her. I spent well over 1000 for my two dogs, but there is no way I could ask someone to repay me for the good feelings and memories I had when I shelled out that money. I, instead, called a great yorkshire rescue group here in Northern California. They are a small organization and currently have 4 other yorkies they are fostering. She is coming to take my baby this morning. Words can't even begin to describe the pain I am feeling right now. I feel like I have let her down. To make matters worse, my sister sent me a text message last night with the following: "you are very mean. You should have never have gotten her then. She has feelings too." (and, let me remind you, I am triplet, so she is the same age as me, 22.) That broke me down and I cried for the rest of the night. Am I a bad mommy for letting Theresa go? I just think I am only able to handle one dog. It hurts me so bad, and I know I will be a wreck when the lady comes to pick up my baby. Ashley
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07-03-2007, 07:16 AM | #2 |
YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Earlysville
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| How hard for you. You recognized a problem that you have to solve and you are doing it. You are not mean. Mean would be to keep Reese and not be able to take care of her properly and let her miss a chance to find a forever home. She will. You will have hard decisions all of your life, but you can learn each time. |
07-03-2007, 07:16 AM | #3 |
Love my Boys Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: w/ my boys
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| I'm so sad just reading this, I can't even imagine the pain your feeling...your sister is just as pained as you are in this situation ...where there is anger there is pain, she is just releasing her pain in a different way...you cry:she's angry ....you both feel as if your losing a family member...try to not be angry back at her, just let it be for now...again this is just a sad situation for everyone involved, hang in there, the rescue place will find her a good & loving home...
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07-03-2007, 07:19 AM | #5 | |
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07-03-2007, 07:23 AM | #6 |
Little Boogers Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: virginia beach, va
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| no you are not a bad mommy. i know what you are going thru. i have had to rehome one of my babies. it is a very hard decision to make but it is what is best for you and the puppy. i wish you all the luck in the world. there will be someone out there that will have the time to train and love this baby just as much as you. you will hurt and miss her and feel terrible about it (i still do) but if it is for the best, then it is. good luck
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07-03-2007, 08:36 AM | #7 |
YT Addict | My sister doesn't even take the time to care for Theresa... or Teddy. She was annoyed when they were there, and didn't like the fact that they barked when I was home. My sister said that to make me mad, not because she cares about my dogs. I can honestly tell you that. My mom has MS and is in a wheelchair, my sister likes to kiss my dogs but doesn't want to take on that responsibility of having a dog, and my grandmother is blind and on dialysis and my grandfather has an extreme case of diabetes, hence the reason why I am taking care of them. And my brother, doesn't even return my phone calls. Hate to air out my dirty laundry, but if I could depend on my siblings.. I would. I do everything for my family. And the people who would take Reese in (my mom, and my grandparents.. can't because of their own setbacks). It's really hard on all of us. But as far as my sister and my brother.. they don't care. So, with all the responsibility of taking care of both my grandparents and my mom, I chose to keep Teddy because he doesn't monopolize so much of my time. I can tell him what to do and he will do it. Theresa needs more one on one time, and I believe I can't give that to her.. while I tend to everything else. But, please DO NOT THINK FOR ONE MINUTE.. that my sister cares about my dog. She doesn't.
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07-03-2007, 08:43 AM | #8 |
Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Charlottesville
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| you are making a wonderful decision. Most people couldnt admit what you have, and would continue trying to poorly care for two dogs they couldnt handle. you are very responsible. i also admire you for takingher to the rescue group. there are many people in this world who would love to have a little yorkie but might not be able to afford the $1-2000+ for one. They might have much more time and availability in their lives to offer her a wonderful home. You shuld not feel bad, this is a lot more than many other people could do.
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07-03-2007, 08:46 AM | #9 |
BANNED! Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Kentucky
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| i understand your pain at having to rehome her and I am sorry it hasn't worked out for you. what I don't understand ,tho, is why you turned her over to a rescue instead of giving some wonderful YT member a chance at owning her. I'm glad you have such a glowing opinion of the rescue. That would have been my very last resort. Not bashing rescue here because I know that some are wonderful and do great things. Not trying to be mean or anything just very puzzled. Oh, I know you stated why but somehow that doesn't clear it up for me. nevertheless, good luck in your endeavors. you sure have a load on you. i hope everything works out alright. i know you are heartbroken over having to do this and I am sorry for both you and little Reese. |
07-03-2007, 08:48 AM | #10 |
Misssing Baby Chloe Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: California
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| Time for yourself Being a student is a lot of work. Taking care of sick family members can be overwhelming. You should be proud of all you are doing. Your baby will find a good home. You are doing the right thing. Be sure to take time for yourself. When you care for others it is easy to forget to care for yourself. Sending good wishes your way!
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07-03-2007, 08:50 AM | #11 |
And Lil Sister Kamari Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Illinois
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| I'm sorry you had to rehome her, but there were so many people here that want and need a yorkie that would've given her a wonderful home. I was wondering why you didn't put her on yorkietalk to someone here where you would still be able to see pictures of her and know about her well being?
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07-03-2007, 08:57 AM | #12 |
Bella Boo & Diggy Too! Donating GS Member | I respect you for making the right decision....your thinking of the dog first and not being selfish. I seriously think that is a mature decision for a 22 year old. Not that age is an excuse but trust me we have all bit off more than we can chew at times. Sounds ot me that your sister is the immature one and maybe is a little jealous of your proper decisions in life and your being able to step up to the plate when your family needs you too. I commend you taking the right steps and letting a foster mom care. Most foster people have dedicated their lives to saving and caring for babies I am sure you made the the right decision for your baby. Doing the right thing does not always make things feel right. Quite honestly it can make you feel like crap, and your sisters lil texting game isnt helping. Hiding behind a text is a chicken SH** way of making a point. Either way dont comcern yourself with her. You have thought of your baby first and thats what matters. Now you did the right thing so pick your chin and be proud of yourself, your a bigger person than a lot people I know. Keep us posted and have a happy 4th of July
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07-03-2007, 08:58 AM | #13 | |
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A few of you have asked why I didn't post her on YT. I had actually thought about putting her on YT, but I wasn't sure what to price her at. She's 9 months old, and I wasn't sure if anyone would want a pup who's about to turn a year old. Plus, I don't know much about shipping pups, and things of that nature. Plus, I talked to the lady at the rescue group. She will foster Theresa for a month in her own home, and then once she gets a good idea of her personality, then she will screen potential people to adopt her with. The only thing with putting her on YT, is that I've seen the threads where people come in with good intentions about wanting the dog, and for some reason or another, can't handle the dog, or needs the dog to be sent back. I didn't want to put Theresa through all of that. I rather have her go with someone who will put her needs first, and will get a good idea of her personality and her in a home with the right people. Plus, she says they screen rather intensely. I rather have someone scrutinze who is getting my dog. They will have the time to do that, whereas I will not. I just didn't want to run into the possibility of having her returned. That would not be fair to her, to me, or to Teddy. And with giving her to a YT member, there is a slight chance that might happen, even though they might have the best intentions. Because I have seen it happen here on these threads once before. And I don't think I can handle that.
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07-03-2007, 09:00 AM | #14 | |
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07-03-2007, 09:05 AM | #15 | |
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Reece will be happy in her new forever home, I'm sure, but for you, I think YT would have been a better option. I'll be praying for your emothional healing and your family's physical well-being.
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