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yorkiegirl83 · 06-19-2007, 01:35 PM

I really believe your MIL just trusted you to watch her precious puppy during such a difficult time, and I'm sure she's SO excited to get him back and catch up on missed time with him.

You did a wonderful thing caring for him, but it's time to let go now.. you'll still see him I'm sure and your furbaby can have playdates w/Ace. You can offer to get her a different puppy, but I know that I would personally be offended and it's quite possible she's so emotional after her ordeal and won't react well to you offering that.

Catrina · 06-19-2007, 02:29 PM

That is such a tough decision... have you talked to her yet about you buying her another puppy? I hope she agrees! Please update us when you find out! I'm hoping for the best for you!

NODAK · 06-19-2007, 02:54 PM

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Originally Posted by yorkiegirl83

I really believe your MIL just trusted you to watch her precious puppy during such a difficult time, and I'm sure she's SO excited to get him back and catch up on missed time with him.

You did a wonderful thing caring for him, but it's time to let go now.. you'll still see him I'm sure and your furbaby can have playdates w/Ace. You can offer to get her a different puppy, but I know that I would personally be offended and it's quite possible she's so emotional after her ordeal and won't react well to you offering that.

ding ding ding!! We have a winner.

sweetr72 · 06-19-2007, 03:40 PM

Any updates??

Dawn

yorkiegirl83 · 07-05-2007, 10:51 AM

Just wondering what happened

Were you able to keep Ace?

Gingergirlsmom · 07-05-2007, 10:54 AM

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Originally Posted by yorkiegirl83

Just wondering what happened

Were you able to keep Ace?

I'm wondering too!

littlewhip · 07-05-2007, 11:06 AM

Me to

sweetr72 · 07-05-2007, 11:12 AM

Me three..

Ceibasmom · 07-05-2007, 11:12 AM

I can't believe I didn't update you guys! Sorry!

Last weekend, my niece and MIL came over to the house to use our pool. They played w/both pups etc, but when the time came for them to go, they left. My MIL didn't really say anything except that we should bring the pups by her house for a visit sometime. No mention of keeping or not keeping Ace!

And oh yeah! My niece asked me if I was keeping Ace. I told her I wasn't sure, we'd see. She said she'd talked to Grammy (my MIL) and that Grammy had said 'maybe'.

Well, this past weekend, we all went to breakfast then back to her house to move furniture. She didn't have room for a beautiful bar so DH and I offered to keep it at our house until she found a place for it. She (jokingly) said something like I would have to sign a blood oath vowing I would give the bar back since she's never going to see her dog again. I laughed, we hugged and I didn't say another word about it.

I asked DH on the ride home if we were home free and he said that she loves the dog and wanted to see if I'd still want him once our baby comes (due in December). (why wouldn't I!?)

So, the jist of the story is, no formal talks have taken place, I still have Ace (4 months now!) and we're still doing this 'keep him?/give him back?' dance. I would think if she really, truly wanted him back she would have flat out asked (or told) me to give him back, but nothing has been said!

I guess I am still in limbo b/c I'm too much of a whimp to cause drama in the family.

Ugh, ugh, ugh.....(someone help me grow a backbone!)

sweetr72 · 07-05-2007, 11:15 AM

Sounds like Ace is staying.....

sweetsophia · 07-05-2007, 11:20 AM

Possession is 9/10 of the law!!! LOL Hope he gets to stay with you. You sound like you genuinely love him and if she really wanted or missed Ace she would have taken him home by now.

candybaby · 07-05-2007, 11:24 AM

To be honest with you, you should give him back or at least ask her, "are you going to take him back or do I get to keep him??" And do it with a smile on your face. If you don't your MIL is always going to have it in the back of her mind what happened, like you said she is already saying little comments about it (signing a blood contract etc..), to me thats not a good sign.

I would really think about it, it may hurt you in the long run because she may come out and say one day can I have my dog back now, and by that time you will REALLY be attatched.. And that may bring hurt to your family..

They sure are cute, I hope you get to keep him, offer to pay her for him then you will KNOW he is yours..

Good Luck!!!

fourdez · 07-05-2007, 11:37 AM

I would bring it out into the open and close the door on this one way or another. It seems to me she is going to let you keep him, you should offer to buy her another puppy. It sounds like you guys have a really nice relationship, don't let anything get in the way of that.

wemple2 · 07-05-2007, 11:41 AM

I think you and your husband need to have a talk with your MIL. You need answers and she is the only one that has them. Just to clear the air...get it out in the open. But my thought is, you will keep the pup...and she will give you her blessing. Good luck...

jp4m2 · 07-05-2007, 11:46 AM

I have to agree w/ candybaby...this dance is not good for everyone involved you should come right out & ask her if you should drop off her pup to her but if she's having second thoughts on having a pup it would be no problem for you to adopt him...if you don't get this out in the open & get some kind of clarity you run the risk of her having hard feeling as if you stole her dog & those types of feelings are what your trying to prevent...your always going to be waiting for those dreaded words from her & walking on egg shells til this is really resolved.....good luck...

07-05-2007, 11:06 AM	#37
littlewhip Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: wiith my furbabys Posts: 8,874	Me to __________________

07-05-2007, 11:12 AM	#39
Ceibasmom Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Tampa Posts: 168	Mini Update - Not Really I can't believe I didn't update you guys! Sorry! Last weekend, my niece and MIL came over to the house to use our pool. They played w/both pups etc, but when the time came for them to go, they left. My MIL didn't really say anything except that we should bring the pups by her house for a visit sometime. No mention of keeping or not keeping Ace! And oh yeah! My niece asked me if I was keeping Ace. I told her I wasn't sure, we'd see. She said she'd talked to Grammy (my MIL) and that Grammy had said 'maybe'. Well, this past weekend, we all went to breakfast then back to her house to move furniture. She didn't have room for a beautiful bar so DH and I offered to keep it at our house until she found a place for it. She (jokingly) said something like I would have to sign a blood oath vowing I would give the bar back since she's never going to see her dog again. I laughed, we hugged and I didn't say another word about it. I asked DH on the ride home if we were home free and he said that she loves the dog and wanted to see if I'd still want him once our baby comes (due in December). (why wouldn't I!?) So, the jist of the story is, no formal talks have taken place, I still have Ace (4 months now!) and we're still doing this 'keep him?/give him back?' dance. I would think if she really, truly wanted him back she would have flat out asked (or told) me to give him back, but nothing has been said! I guess I am still in limbo b/c I'm too much of a whimp to cause drama in the family. Ugh, ugh, ugh.....(someone help me grow a backbone!) __________________ Ceiba's Mama (Farah) Ceiba's Dogster Page

07-05-2007, 11:24 AM	#42
candybaby Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: N. California Posts: 1,316	To be honest with you, you should give him back or at least ask her, "are you going to take him back or do I get to keep him??" And do it with a smile on your face. If you don't your MIL is always going to have it in the back of her mind what happened, like you said she is already saying little comments about it (signing a blood contract etc..), to me thats not a good sign. I would really think about it, it may hurt you in the long run because she may come out and say one day can I have my dog back now, and by that time you will REALLY be attatched.. And that may bring hurt to your family.. They sure are cute, I hope you get to keep him, offer to pay her for him then you will KNOW he is yours.. Good Luck!!! __________________ Candee, Bear, Daizy (in spirit, R.I.P) and Pepsi's mommy Last edited by candybaby; 07-05-2007 at 11:26 AM.

07-05-2007, 11:37 AM	#43
fourdez Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Rockland county, NY Posts: 1,306	I would bring it out into the open and close the door on this one way or another. It seems to me she is going to let you keep him, you should offer to buy her another puppy. It sounds like you guys have a really nice relationship, don't let anything get in the way of that. __________________ ********************* Nedda & My Girls Desi & Millie & my boy Ricky

07-05-2007, 11:41 AM	#44
wemple2 Wee Winston Wiggles Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Kewanee, Illinois Posts: 9,666	I think you and your husband need to have a talk with your MIL. You need answers and she is the only one that has them. Just to clear the air...get it out in the open. But my thought is, you will keep the pup...and she will give you her blessing. Good luck... __________________ As Ever, Kathy Intruducing Bentley Winston and Spencer: RIP My Sweet Angels

06-19-2007, 01:35 PM	#31
yorkiegirl83 Love My Furbabies! Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: somewhere Posts: 4,427	I really believe your MIL just trusted you to watch her precious puppy during such a difficult time, and I'm sure she's SO excited to get him back and catch up on missed time with him. You did a wonderful thing caring for him, but it's time to let go now.. you'll still see him I'm sure and your furbaby can have playdates w/Ace. You can offer to get her a different puppy, but I know that I would personally be offended and it's quite possible she's so emotional after her ordeal and won't react well to you offering that.

06-19-2007, 02:29 PM	#32
Catrina I love my lil wolf! ;) Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Washington Posts: 2,434	That is such a tough decision... have you talked to her yet about you buying her another puppy? I hope she agrees! Please update us when you find out! I'm hoping for the best for you!

06-19-2007, 03:40 PM	#34
sweetr72 No Longer a Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 6,111	Any updates?? Dawn

07-05-2007, 10:51 AM	#35
yorkiegirl83 Love My Furbabies! Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: somewhere Posts: 4,427	Just wondering what happened Were you able to keep Ace?

07-05-2007, 11:15 AM	#40
sweetr72 No Longer a Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 6,111	Sounds like Ace is staying.....

07-05-2007, 11:20 AM	#41
sweetsophia Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Michigan Posts: 646	Possession is 9/10 of the law!!! LOL Hope he gets to stay with you. You sound like you genuinely love him and if she really wanted or missed Ace she would have taken him home by now.

07-05-2007, 11:46 AM	#45
jp4m2 Love my Boys Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: w/ my boys Posts: 5,056	I have to agree w/ candybaby...this dance is not good for everyone involved you should come right out & ask her if you should drop off her pup to her but if she's having second thoughts on having a pup it would be no problem for you to adopt him...if you don't get this out in the open & get some kind of clarity you run the risk of her having hard feeling as if you stole her dog & those types of feelings are what your trying to prevent...your always going to be waiting for those dreaded words from her & walking on egg shells til this is really resolved.....good luck... __________________ B.J.mom to : Jake J.J. Jack & Joey, momma misses you..... The joy found in the companionship of a pet is a blessing not given to everyone. The two most powerful words when we’re in struggle: me too..