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Old 04-04-2007, 10:16 AM   #1
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Cry For Those Who Have Put Pets To Sleep Help!

I need help and support from my YT family. My mom has a shnouzer(sp) he is almost 14 yrs old she got him when i was 13 he is so senial and blind and going def. We can't even take him to the groomer anymore because he is becoming so hostle. I have always been the one to take him when he needs to be grommed or anything because i have a bond with him. He will let me do anything i need to like cutting his bangs picking him up, loosening his coller and he growls or snips at anyone else. He is now doing this to me he is growling at me and he has arthritus so he can barley walk. But it is so hard to think about putting him to sleep. I am crying as i'm typing this i'm so upset. I will have to be the one to take him to get this done. I have called a few vets an one will give him a seditive to calm him before they do it because he is becoming so mean and the other one wants to muzzle him and have me just drop him off. How can people be so heartless? I guess i feel bad because i don't want him to die and i'm being selfish. But how can i kill a member of our family? What do i do?? I can't stop crying Please i need help from others that have had to put an old dog down. Do you regret it? How did you cope?
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Old 04-04-2007, 10:20 AM   #2
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I also want to add he is now going after the kids. He cornered my boys in a room growling at them. I have never seen him this way before. My keyboard is flooding from me trying to type this as i cry. I just don't know what to do.
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Have you tried to get him some herbs to help ease his arthritis? Maybe he just growls cause he is hurting. I know how hard loosing him will be, so maybe you can exhaust other options first. I'm so sorry your upset heres a big hug
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Old 04-04-2007, 10:24 AM   #4
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Have you tried to get him some herbs to help ease his arthritis? Maybe he just growls cause he is hurting. I know how hard loosing him will be, so maybe you can exhaust other options first. I'm so sorry your upset heres a big hug
Thank you. No the vet told my mom a few months ago that he is very old and they are not sure without doing very expensive tesing if it would help him or not. she doesn't want to put him through the pain of testing him. Even if they found something they could fix he couldn't have anesthesia because it would kill him. He can't see he is totally blind and his hearing is almost gone
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I understand not testing him, but it might help ease your pain knowing that if he is hurting so much putting him down so he isnt suffering would be best.
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I'm so sorry. I can't even begin to imagine how painful this must be for you. I never had to put a dog to sleep before; so I don't know what it's like to be in that painful situation but here's how I'd try to look at it. If the dog virtually has no good quality of life left, then I'd ask myself am I keeping this dog alive for HIS sake or for my own?

It's never an easy decision to make but it's one that we, as dog owners and lovers, have to make. This poem is very touching and it helps us look at things from the dog's viewpoint. I wish you and your family all the best during this difficult time. Please keep us updated.

If It Should Be

If it should be that I grow weak,
And pain should keep me from my sleep,
Then you must do what must be done,
For this last battle cannot be won.

You will be sad, I understand,
Don't let your grief then stay your hand,
For this day more than all the rest,
Your love for me must stand the test.

We've had so many happy years,
What is to come can hold no fears,
You'd not want me to suffer so,
The time has come, please let me go.

Take me where my need they'll tend,
And please stay with me until the end,
I know in time that you will see,
The kindness that you did for me,
Although my tail its last has waved,
From pain and suffering I've been saved.

Please do not grieve, it must be you
Who had this painful thing to do,
We've been so close, we two, these years,
Don't let your heart hold back its tears.
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Old 04-04-2007, 10:32 AM   #7
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I understand not testing him, but it might help ease your pain knowing that if he is hurting so much putting him down so he isnt suffering would be best.
Yeah i guess it's the what if there is something ya know. it's just killing me i feel like i'm killing him. i need to quit over analysing it but it's so hard!
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I have put pets to sleep. It is not easy and I still cry when I think about it. But it is the kindest thing you can do. Death is not horrible to them and they trust you to make the pain go away.

It's not easy, but it can't be easy to watch him suffer either, and eventually he is going to pass anyway.

My heart goes out to you. May the Lord give you strength and comfort you to make this difficult decision.
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A year ago I was going thru what you are now with an 18 yr old sheltie. He was blind, deaf and had become incontinent for the last 2 years of his life. He was sleeping more then he was active and I noticed his health starting to worsen. I made an appointment to have him put down in like 3 weeks so I could make sure I was doing the right thing. Well just before the 3 weeks were drawing closer he stopped eating completely, it was his way of telling me it was time. Sometimes the best thing you can do is see what quality of life he has and if its best for him to go to doggie heaven then give him the biggest hug you can and tell him its okay to rest in heaven where you dont hurt anymore.
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I'm so sorry. I can't even begin to imagine how painful this must be for you. I never had to put a dog to sleep before; so I don't know what it's like to be in that painful situation but here's how I'd try to look at it. If the dog virtually has no good quality of life left, then I'd ask myself am I keeping this dog alive for HIS sake or for my own?

It's never an easy decision to make but it's one that we, as dog owners and lovers, have to make. This poem is very touching and it helps us look at things from the dog's viewpoint. I wish you and your family all the best during this difficult time. Please keep us updated.

If It Should Be

If it should be that I grow weak,
And pain should keep me from my sleep,
Then you must do what must be done,
For this last battle cannot be won.

You will be sad, I understand,
Don't let your grief then stay your hand,
For this day more than all the rest,
Your love for me must stand the test.

We've had so many happy years,
What is to come can hold no fears,
You'd not want me to suffer so,
The time has come, please let me go.

Take me where my need they'll tend,
And please stay with me until the end,
I know in time that you will see,
The kindness that you did for me,
Although my tail its last has waved,
From pain and suffering I've been saved.

Please do not grieve, it must be you
Who had this painful thing to do,
We've been so close, we two, these years,
Don't let your heart hold back its tears.
Thank you that was beautiful! Now i am crying even more omg that really was emotional thank you for posting that
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A year ago I was going thru what you are now with an 18 yr old sheltie. He was blind, deaf and had become incontinent for the last 2 years of his life. He was sleeping more then he was active and I noticed his health starting to worsen. I made an appointment to have him put down in like 3 weeks so I could make sure I was doing the right thing. Well just before the 3 weeks were drawing closer he stopped eating completely, it was his way of telling me it was time. Sometimes the best thing you can do is see what quality of life he has and if its best for him to go to doggie heaven then give him the biggest hug you can and tell him its okay to rest in heaven where you dont hurt anymore.
I guess it makes it harder because some days he is better and some days he is awful. he is pooping in the kennal a lot at night and i think it's due to old age as well. I know what should be done i just don't know if i can do it.
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I am so sorry that you have been left with the descision to do this. I myself, do not know what I would do and just want to say I hope you go with your mind and not your heart...think of the consequenses, either way and the right descision will come to you...

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Aww Sweetie, I am so sorry to hear all of this That poem someone sent made me bawl, it was so touching! Hey, if you need someone to go with you call me and I'll be right there. It does sound like the most loving thing to do is let him go peacefully xoxox - Hoku & Kalani
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I didnt think I could do it either, but somehow you find the strength to do what needs to be done. It isnt easy to put a family member like this down, but in time I can tell you it hurts alittle less each day. May you find the strength and comfort you need!!!
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I'm so sorry. I can't even begin to imagine how painful this must be for you. I never had to put a dog to sleep before; so I don't know what it's like to be in that painful situation but here's how I'd try to look at it. If the dog virtually has no good quality of life left, then I'd ask myself am I keeping this dog alive for HIS sake or for my own?

It's never an easy decision to make but it's one that we, as dog owners and lovers, have to make. This poem is very touching and it helps us look at things from the dog's viewpoint. I wish you and your family all the best during this difficult time. Please keep us updated.

If It Should Be

If it should be that I grow weak,
And pain should keep me from my sleep,
Then you must do what must be done,
For this last battle cannot be won.

You will be sad, I understand,
Don't let your grief then stay your hand,
For this day more than all the rest,
Your love for me must stand the test.

We've had so many happy years,
What is to come can hold no fears,
You'd not want me to suffer so,
The time has come, please let me go.

Take me where my need they'll tend,
And please stay with me until the end,
I know in time that you will see,
The kindness that you did for me,
Although my tail its last has waved,
From pain and suffering I've been saved.

Please do not grieve, it must be you
Who had this painful thing to do,
We've been so close, we two, these years,
Don't let your heart hold back its tears.
this is the poem we got from the vet when we had to put our cat to sleep. and i honestly belive she would thank us for putting her out of her pain. you need to think of it from their point of view. dont keep them alive for your own satisfaction if they are hurting and are in pain... if it was you and you were constantly in pain, not who you were, and there was nothing else you could do, what would you want....this is how i look at it, and i know i would want to be set free, and not in pain anymore.. i know its tough and all you think of is what u will lose, but think of what your beloved pet would want... i think you will find the right answer xxx sending my thoughts
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