Should I feel hurt!

[Kona]

I went through a similar situation last week. My friend invited a group of us over to her house for dinner on Friday night. I told her that I was getting the new pup and that I should be home. She offered that I could come if I would tie the dogs up in the back. I said, thanks but no thanks. I'm sorry, but I'm not going to tie my dogs up in the back yard, especially when I just got one of them that day. Some people...

[JeanieK]

Consioder the source, obviously the guy can't distinguish one dog from another. But I wouldn't let it come between me and my sister.

Many people do not understand what the fuss is over a yorkie, or any small dog for that matter, to them it is just another dog.

[JeanieK]

Originally Posted by ytsirk27

It is wrong but I am in a similar situation. My grandmother does not like animals in her house PERIOD!! I am planning a vacation up there sept 1-5 and dont know what im going to do. She has a breeze way in her house that I can keep him out there but I dont like that idea..hes a good dog and really little but shes old and set in her ways!!

I'd ask her if she minded if I brought a playpen for him. She might fall head over heels in love with him.

[karen171]

I would definitely talk to your sister about it. Maybe BIL was just upset because he'd lost his dog...some men have a problem expressing grief. I don't see why Buddy couldn't just stay in the guest room with you since the other dog had the run of the house. I couldn't believe he expected you to tie Buddy outside...for one thing he could be stolen since they don't have a real backyard and the main thing is it's down right cruel. Also,I know I would be upset if one of my relatives referred to Ziggy as an "It."

[Rae Rae]

I would just ask your sister if you can atleast bring the dog inside...but I really don't think this is any reason to be mad at your brother in law. Some people really don't care to have other dogs in there house besides there own.

[YORKIE7]

I would deffinatley say something to your sister, you have a right to be hurt by what her husband said. But maybe he is jealous that you still have your baby and is grieving for his lab. Or then again he probably doesnt know that you have to treat a small dog differently from a large dog, and thought tying him up outside would be fine.

[Peters]

i would say something about it i hate when people act like my dogs are nasty when i know their not

[stinky]

I understand you’re upset; I would be. But, if he tied up his own dog in the back yard, I can see how he would think this is acceptable…unless he knows better and is just being a turd…it’s how to say without knowing the guy. I wouldn’t let it get in between you and your sister though. She might not even know about it.

My brother is exactly the same way. When I go over he suggests I put her in the back yard, which isn’t landscaped yet and has a questionable fence. I’d rather leave her in the car (not in the heat of course). He doesn’t mean to be rude, but sometimes I wonder…

[peanut]

I would talk to your sister and see how she feels, but some people just don't like animals in the house..My mother who lives about 6 acres away from me(we have 25 acres) always closes her garage door when she see me walk the dogs, and too if I have been playing with them and smell like them I am not allowed in her house...Max my GSD my stink after being outside for awhile, but Lexie & Peanut smell better than anybody they are cleaner than most people, but she is set in her ways, I just don't pay any attention to her, I just walk by and not even look up when I am walking the dogs... It's hard when its your family, follow your heart & what makes you happy....

[bettyeanne]

Originally Posted by rnnw62

I am exactly the same way!

That makes three of us!! Love me, love my Toto! My BIL isn't necessarily a dog lover, but we have been "family" long enough that he knows my pet goes wherever I go or I simply don't go! My sister is an animal lover just like I am .... we were raised by the same parents [animal lovers all]! He just doesn't "allow" her to have an inside dog! She is hysterically funny and always tells him "when you die, I'm going to buy me two, one for each arm and they will sleep on your pillow!!

Seriously, anyone who doesn't "approve" of our devotion to Toto is welcome [grrrrrrr] to visit us at our home but if Toto isn't welcome at their home, we simply do not go. We aren't angry about it, it's just a fact .... BTW .... I have a framed picture of Toto to greet them which says the following: "Toto lives here, you don't! ..... etc., etc., I'm sure you have all read this ..."

[Rae Rae]

Originally Posted by JeanieK

Consioder the source, obviously the guy can't distinguish one dog from another. But I wouldn't let it come between me and my sister.

Many people do not understand what the fuss is over a yorkie, or any small dog for that matter, to them it is just another dog.

The way a lot of people on here feel about their yorkie, and/or small dog is the same way that a lot of bigger dog owners feel about them...so I wouldnt just say it's a "fuss over small dogs"...I know I dont favor my smaller dog over my bigger one, and vice versa...their both my babies Theres really no difference when it comes to loving them.

[TootiesMom]

I have to agree with both sides of the story... if someone doesnt like my dogs, I will choose not to go to their home. it is their right not to want them inside but also my right to stay home! if someone is invited to my home, the KNOW I have 4 dogs(and a cat). Some people dont like my pups but they also know that I have them when the choose to be at my house. My mom always wants me to lock them up and I WONT.... dont love my pups, stay home... LOL

[Dan & Corinne]

First of all the way I look at it is We are being invited to someone else's HOME. As an invited guest, I feel we are not in a position to make demands or ask for exceptions. If they say our furbabies are welcome but only if they are to be kept outside, then we need to make a choice to go without our furbabies or nicely decline the invitation.

Since your situation is with your sister & her husband, I definitely would talk to her and see if she knows how her husband feels about the possiblitly of allowing your pup in the home. If she says he is ok with it, talk to him and thank him for making an exception. When you do go for a visit, be extra deligent about keeping your pup out of trouble, crate or play pen him if you can to make the visit pleasent for everyone. If your brother-in-law is firm about the outside thing than you need to accept his wishes and make the decision to go with out your furbaby or to stay home all together. I'm sure you don't want your sister feeling uncomfortable and put her in a difficult position of having to choose between pleasing you or pleasing your husband.

I sound like "Miss Manners"! Sorry!

[BabyFidgette]

Originally Posted by Nikko's_human

You have every right to be upset. How dare he suggest you tie your little dog outside. Is he kidding?

My next door neighbor said the same thing to me!!!!!!!!! "Why don't you get one of those stakes in the ground, and tie her outside like I do with my dog (she has a lab)?" I said, "Yorkies don't get chained outside to stakes!" That shut her arse up!!! What nerve of that beeotch to tell me to chain up my dog.

Now, as for your brother-in-law. Don't take it out on your sis for not visiting. Maybe visit, and leave your dog home. My sister's boyfriend doesn't like when my dog comes over, but my sister loves Baby, so she tells him too bad!!! LOL

[Latuya]

Everyone who knows me knows that Gus goes everywhere with me. My family is pretty good about it. One time my cousins husband hurt my feelings. I took Gus to their house for a birthday party (with permission from her of course) I don't get to see this cousin too often and since she got married I had never been to their place and really didn't know him too well. So anyway, when he seen Gus in his bag he told me to keep my rat in the bag and to keep him out of the house. I was so pissed I was ready to leave when my cousin seen me ready to cry, She turned to her husband and socked him and told him,,,,, "That dog is cleaner and behaves better then you ever will!" He was only joking with me and since he is kinda new to the family and I did not know his sense of humor. He came to apologized and told me that I was fresh meat and he couldn't help himself.

Maybe your brother in law was doing the same thing. They know how we feel about your little ones and they like to poke fun. I really think you should talk to your sister about it.