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Connie · 03-19-2006, 06:04 PM

I read your post with a heavy heart. I am so sorry for you losing your soul mate. So sorry for the pups too! I have no advice, and I guess grieving isn't something one get's over too fast...it takes time. In the meantime, you and your pups take comfort in each other. My heart goes out to you and your pups. *HUGGGGGGGGGGG*

Raven · 03-19-2006, 06:14 PM

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Hold those furbabies close and it will help you both!!!!! They are lucky to have you.

GucciMyGirl · 03-19-2006, 06:21 PM

I am to sorry to hear about the passing of your husband. May the days ahead bring you some sort of peace and healing... God Bless

Dudley's Mom · 03-24-2006, 08:14 PM

for the wonderful words of comfort. I put my husbands pajamas on the bed and now they will stay up there and sleep. I appreciate all of you that answered with suggestions. My puppies are my best friends now and you have helped me to comfort them.

Katys mom · 03-24-2006, 08:20 PM

My heart goes out to you and your little ones. I am glad that you have them to snuggle up with and hold on to at night.

BabyGenes-Mom · 03-24-2006, 08:23 PM

Im soooo sorry to hear of your loss, poor lil ones its hard on them too..so sad, i pray that God gives u all strength...sending a big hug to u all((HUG)))
Baby Gene and momma

Oscar's Mom · 03-24-2006, 08:41 PM

I am SO sorry to hear about the loss of your husband. I cannot even begin to know how you feel right now. But you have shown such courage to get beyond your own grief to worry so much about your babies. The three of you are so lucky to have each other and this will be what gets you all thru this hard time. Each day will be different I am sure. There will be good days and there will be bad days...just take each day as it comes, deal with that day and don't worry about yesterday or think of what tomorrow will bring. May God Bless and keep you and your little ones...wish there was more we could do to help.

Cookie2 · 03-24-2006, 08:54 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss and now your pups grieving also

I liked the idea of letting them sleep on something that belonged to your hubby like a sweatshirt or tshirt. I know dogs can sense when you are sad or sick. Only time will help. All I can say is love and comfort them and they will also do the same in return to you.

((hugs))

Genie

whispersmom2 · 03-24-2006, 10:41 PM

I have some differing opinions than some of the members. The longer their lives revolve around the familiar smells, sounds and smells, they are gonna have trouble moving on. The pj's on the bed are good but I would start putting different beds on top of the jammies and add layers each night til the smell is lessened. Then, after a week or two (or how ever many it takes) Wash the jammies a couple of times. Then put them back up on the bed -they will be less interested in them, I think. Also, DO NOT do things that you and hubby or just hubby did with them for a good while. Another reminder. This will be controversial but here goes-keep them away from his clothing andpillows..anything that has the strongest odor of him on them. Start new habits. Walk in different places. Replace daddy's toys that he played with them. Move the furniture around in the rooms where he spent the most time with them. Use Febreeze or similar to help dissipate his odor..Get rid of anything of his that YOU are ready to let go. Air out the house; vacuum with a deodorizer in the vacuum bag. Anything to challenge their senses..
One of the biggest issues is you. How sad you must be! Grieving for him and helping the babies to get thru theirs. But, please try and I do mean TRY, cause you don't feel upbeat, to act a little happy and use a cheery voice with them. And, distract them at the times when dad would come home-they are children and they will make it thru this, as will you, but it will not be easy. However, if you make just 1 baby step a day, you are healing. Then, your babies can do the same. They really will bounce back quicker with distractions and changes in routine and re-arranging anything that you can. There are holistic practitioners and books that can help you help them.
Meanwhile, we are here for you and will do what when we can..just ask> Bless you and your grieving babies.
Sorry about the book!

onelovelylynn · 03-24-2006, 11:02 PM

Hi, My name is Lynn and Penny is my Yorkie....

I am in San Diego also, and read your post. I am so very sorry to hear about your husband, my heart goes out to you.
I see you manage an Rv park. Well we are full time RVers and I would love to get together with you and maybe have a yorkie-poodle day. I would love to meet you and get our pets together maybe that would help them also. I want to offer my shoulder to lean on. I truely would love to get together with you . Let me know!!!

I will be praying that the lord comforts you and your babies....

dianne · 03-25-2006, 02:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Oscar's Mom

I am SO sorry to hear about the loss of your husband. I cannot even begin to know how you feel right now. But you have shown such courage to get beyond your own grief to worry so much about your babies. The three of you are so lucky to have each other and this will be what gets you all thru this hard time. Each day will be different I am sure. There will be good days and there will be bad days...just take each day as it comes, deal with that day and don't worry about yesterday or think of what tomorrow will bring. May God Bless and keep you and your little ones...wish there was more we could do to help.

A very well said post and I couldnt of put it better. You are in my thoughts today.

winnismom · 03-25-2006, 07:56 AM

Oh my..poor babies. They are picking up on your feelings of grief too...it will probably just take some time and when your heart lightens and brightens some so will theirs. Godspeed to all of you and I will remember you in my prayers.

kitty · 03-25-2006, 08:01 AM

I am sorry for your loss. I know this must be a very hard time for you and your babies. I know you all will get through this, but it will take time. I will be keeping you in my prayers and hoping you and your babies get through this in good time.

shecass · 03-25-2006, 08:02 AM

I'm so sorry for you loss. My dad's now my mom's yorkiepoo went through the same thing after my dad died. It took her a few months to go through the grieving process. Now she is my mom's shadow and my mom wouldn't have it any other way. It just takes time. I wish I had some good advice to help you and them through your grief.

strawberrycream · 03-25-2006, 08:02 AM

I am sorry to hear your lost, I think what you are doing is great but I find that animals grieve different from humans. They probably just need more time to grieve and everything should be ok. I wish you all the best and take care. Keep us posted.

Babe Girl *

Mommy

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Originally Posted by Dudley's Mom

My poor Dudley ( 2 1/2 years old) and his little brother (5 months old little poodle) are having a really hard time. My husband died Feb. 24th and they just can't seem to accept that Dad isn't coming home. They sit at the door and watch, jump up every night to see where Dad is at bedtime, and lay around and look sad. I am trying to spend more time with them and holding them close to comfort them, but it seems like they just can't come to grips with it all. Of course I'm am not the bravest person at this time, He was my soulmate and I miss him too. Any ideas how I can help these little guys?

03-19-2006, 06:04 PM	#16
Connie Loved by Maddie & Libby Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: North Dakota Posts: 10,732	I read your post with a heavy heart. I am so sorry for you losing your soul mate. So sorry for the pups too! I have no advice, and I guess grieving isn't something one get's over too fast...it takes time. In the meantime, you and your pups take comfort in each other. My heart goes out to you and your pups. HUGGGGGGGGGGG __________________ Custom doggie dresses and vests Memory is a country where I can go to see your face - but where do I go when I miss your embrace?

03-24-2006, 08:14 PM	#19
Dudley's Mom YT Addict Join Date: May 2005 Location: Hemet, Ca Posts: 359	Thank you all for the wonderful words of comfort. I put my husbands pajamas on the bed and now they will stay up there and sleep. I appreciate all of you that answered with suggestions. My puppies are my best friends now and you have helped me to comfort them. __________________ Mommy of Dudley( RIP), Mickey, and poodle Mitchell http://www.dogster.com/dogs/1326033

03-24-2006, 08:41 PM	#22
Oscar's Mom My Little Biker Dude Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Alabama Posts: 2,065	I am SO sorry to hear about the loss of your husband. I cannot even begin to know how you feel right now. But you have shown such courage to get beyond your own grief to worry so much about your babies. The three of you are so lucky to have each other and this will be what gets you all thru this hard time. Each day will be different I am sure. There will be good days and there will be bad days...just take each day as it comes, deal with that day and don't worry about yesterday or think of what tomorrow will bring. May God Bless and keep you and your little ones...wish there was more we could do to help. __________________ ****************** Debbie G. - Oscar's Mom ****** PRAYERS FOR ALL THOSE KICKING CANCER'S BUTT!!! **************** RIP SHARON 8-10-63 to 9-21-08

03-24-2006, 11:02 PM	#25
onelovelylynn My Darling Divas Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: magnolia, Texas Posts: 1,220	Dudleys MOM Hi, My name is Lynn and Penny is my Yorkie.... I am in San Diego also, and read your post. I am so very sorry to hear about your husband, my heart goes out to you. I see you manage an Rv park. Well we are full time RVers and I would love to get together with you and maybe have a yorkie-poodle day. I would love to meet you and get our pets together maybe that would help them also. I want to offer my shoulder to lean on. I truely would love to get together with you . Let me know!!! I will be praying that the lord comforts you and your babies....

03-25-2006, 08:02 AM	#29
shecass YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: North wilkesboro, NC Posts: 2,785	I'm so sorry for you loss. My dad's now my mom's yorkiepoo went through the same thing after my dad died. It took her a few months to go through the grieving process. Now she is my mom's shadow and my mom wouldn't have it any other way. It just takes time. I wish I had some good advice to help you and them through your grief. __________________ Sheila, Mollie & Wyatt Ethan my pride and joy Mollie www.dogster.com/?176293 Wyatt www.dogster.com/?205723

03-19-2006, 06:14 PM	#17
Raven YT Addict Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Arkansas Posts: 360	I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Hold those furbabies close and it will help you both!!!!! They are lucky to have you.

03-19-2006, 06:21 PM	#18
GucciMyGirl YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Brooklyn, NY Posts: 550	I am to sorry to hear about the passing of your husband. May the days ahead bring you some sort of peace and healing... God Bless

03-24-2006, 08:20 PM	#20
Katys mom I love yorkie kisses Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 1,751	My heart goes out to you and your little ones. I am glad that you have them to snuggle up with and hold on to at night.

03-24-2006, 08:23 PM	#21
BabyGenes-Mom Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Indiana Posts: 89	Im soooo sorry to hear of your loss, poor lil ones its hard on them too..so sad, i pray that God gives u all strength...sending a big hug to u all((HUG))) Baby Gene and momma

03-24-2006, 08:54 PM	#23
Cookie2 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Florida Posts: 1,568	I'm so sorry for your loss and now your pups grieving also I liked the idea of letting them sleep on something that belonged to your hubby like a sweatshirt or tshirt. I know dogs can sense when you are sad or sick. Only time will help. All I can say is love and comfort them and they will also do the same in return to you. ((hugs)) Genie

03-24-2006, 10:41 PM	#24
whispersmom2 Inactive Account Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: MD Posts: 2,985	I have some differing opinions than some of the members. The longer their lives revolve around the familiar smells, sounds and smells, they are gonna have trouble moving on. The pj's on the bed are good but I would start putting different beds on top of the jammies and add layers each night til the smell is lessened. Then, after a week or two (or how ever many it takes) Wash the jammies a couple of times. Then put them back up on the bed -they will be less interested in them, I think. Also, DO NOT do things that you and hubby or just hubby did with them for a good while. Another reminder. This will be controversial but here goes-keep them away from his clothing andpillows..anything that has the strongest odor of him on them. Start new habits. Walk in different places. Replace daddy's toys that he played with them. Move the furniture around in the rooms where he spent the most time with them. Use Febreeze or similar to help dissipate his odor..Get rid of anything of his that YOU are ready to let go. Air out the house; vacuum with a deodorizer in the vacuum bag. Anything to challenge their senses.. One of the biggest issues is you. How sad you must be! Grieving for him and helping the babies to get thru theirs. But, please try and I do mean TRY, cause you don't feel upbeat, to act a little happy and use a cheery voice with them. And, distract them at the times when dad would come home-they are children and they will make it thru this, as will you, but it will not be easy. However, if you make just 1 baby step a day, you are healing. Then, your babies can do the same. They really will bounce back quicker with distractions and changes in routine and re-arranging anything that you can. There are holistic practitioners and books that can help you help them. Meanwhile, we are here for you and will do what when we can..just ask> Bless you and your grieving babies. Sorry about the book!

03-25-2006, 07:56 AM	#27
winnismom Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2005 Posts: 223	Oh my..poor babies. They are picking up on your feelings of grief too...it will probably just take some time and when your heart lightens and brightens some so will theirs. Godspeed to all of you and I will remember you in my prayers.

03-25-2006, 08:01 AM	#28
kitty My Best Friend Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: oklahoma Posts: 2,258	I am sorry for your loss. I know this must be a very hard time for you and your babies. I know you all will get through this, but it will take time. I will be keeping you in my prayers and hoping you and your babies get through this in good time.