I have some differing opinions than some of the members. The longer their lives revolve around the familiar smells, sounds and smells, they are gonna have trouble moving on. The pj's on the bed are good but I would start putting different beds on top of the jammies and add layers each night til the smell is lessened. Then, after a week or two (or how ever many it takes) Wash the jammies a couple of times. Then put them back up on the bed -they will be less interested in them, I think. Also, DO NOT do things that you and hubby or just hubby did with them for a good while. Another reminder. This will be controversial but here goes-keep them away from his clothing andpillows..anything that has the strongest odor of him on them. Start new habits. Walk in different places. Replace daddy's toys that he played with them. Move the furniture around in the rooms where he spent the most time with them. Use Febreeze or similar to help dissipate his odor..Get rid of anything of his that YOU are ready to let go. Air out the house; vacuum with a deodorizer in the vacuum bag. Anything to challenge their senses..
One of the biggest issues is you. How sad you must be! Grieving for him and helping the babies to get thru theirs. But, please try and I do mean TRY, cause you don't feel upbeat, to act a little happy and use a cheery voice with them. And, distract them at the times when dad would come home-they are children and they will make it thru this, as will you, but it will not be easy. However, if you make just 1 baby step a day, you are healing. Then, your babies can do the same. They really will bounce back quicker with distractions and changes in routine and re-arranging anything that you can. There are holistic practitioners and books that can help you help them.
Meanwhile, we are here for you and will do what when we can..just ask> Bless you and your grieving babies.
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