Such thing as TOO attached? - YorkieTalk.com Forums

Pippins_mom · 12-05-2005, 09:27 AM

Is there such thing as a Yorkie becoming TOO attached to their owner? Pippin just clings to me wherever I go in the house. She will only go to my husband when I am not in the room. Many times she crawls around my neck (even when I am sleeping.) What have I done to cause this behavior? She is alone a good part of the day while I am away but I have a cat she plays and sleeps with while I am gone and I leave lights and the radio on. Can someone tell me? I love her but this is just a bit too much! ... oh, and she is TERRIBLY jealous if I give just a little attention to the cat. Thanks for any and all insights you can give me!

Pippins_mom · 12-05-2005, 09:42 AM

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Zeus' Mom · 12-05-2005, 10:09 AM

After this weekend's playdate, I have to say our little guy might be too attached. We have babied him for 2 years and this weekend he didn't really want to play with the others. He just wanted to be held. At home, he never leaves our side. We don't mind, but we want to do what is best for him. He is my little cuddle bug, but I wished he would be a little more independent sometimes. I just love him to pieces and love having him around, but I want him to be happy and enjoy other things too, like playing with others.

LuvMyYorkies · 12-05-2005, 10:25 AM

There are Yorkie's who are a "one person" dog. One of my breeding dogs recently went home with a widow who lost her Yorkie suddenly in August. She was grieving for her lost baby. Maria (the widow) and Bonnie have bonded unbelievably, and Maria's adult children are jealous because Bonnie won't leave their mother's side. Whenever someone other than Maria is holding Bonnie, Bonnie is looking around for her "mom." Her children were comparing Bonnie to Maria's other Yorkie who went to any body. Long story short, Bonnie has always been a one person dog and no doubt will always be. It's just the nature of some Yorkies.

sneri13 · 12-05-2005, 10:25 AM

Hi pippins Mom. I don't know about being too attached. Mac is very attached to me while Mellie is more attached to my oldest son. I think it just depends on who they see as their Alpha. Are you the one who predominately takes care of pippin? Both of my dogs go in spurts on how attached they are going to be. Mac tends to follow me around the house. He has to sleep in bed with me, while Mellie will be just as content being in her bed at the foot of my bed. I think as pippin gets older he may not be so clingy.

Pippins_mom · 12-05-2005, 10:26 AM

Thanks Zeus' mom for the reply. But I need to know what I have done to make Pippin this way and what to do to correct it. I love her to death but she is driving me nuts!

chachi · 12-05-2005, 10:27 AM

It sounds like he is a little baby. I dont think you can expect a change in his personality. All yorkies have their own personalities. As far as the cat it sounds like he plays with it while you are gone and that is good. The only thing my dogs do is bark and corner up my cat. I dont know how you could make him less jealous of the cat except maybe giving them both attention at the same time.

Lucky's Mom · 12-05-2005, 10:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Pippins_mom

Thanks Zeus' mom for the reply. But I need to know what I have done to make Pippin this way and what to do to correct it. I love her to death but she is driving me nuts!

The only thing you've done to make her act this way is show her love! She see's you as her mom & just wants to be w/ you all the time! Lucky does the same thing w/ me. If he hurts himself or the cat swats (no claws) at him, then he comes running to me for comfort. Pippen just sees you as her momma & just wants all your attention. Maybe you could get her/him (sorry don't know!) a brother or sister. Then they will play together & Pippen might not be so attached to you. Just a thought. Good luck!

Lucky's Mom · 12-05-2005, 10:44 AM

Sorry I kept spelling Pippin wrong! Didn't mean it!!

skatr45s · 12-05-2005, 10:46 AM

Trust me there is never a thing called to attached. The more you love her the moer that she wdill love you. All taht she can do is show more love. you can never get too attached.

schatzie · 12-05-2005, 10:50 AM

I can't even pee alone w/out Schatzie by my side.

She is my shadow wherever I go. From room to room, inside or out...There she is!

I used to kinda worry about it? But...not anymore. She doesn't seem stressed when I'm away or when she's being babysat by a friend, so I found no reason to be concerned. She just really shows how much she prefers to be w/ me.

shelbysmom · 12-05-2005, 10:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Pippins_mom

Thanks Zeus' mom for the reply. But I need to know what I have done to make Pippin this way and what to do to correct it. I love her to death but she is driving me nuts!

I don't think you have done anything wrong. Some Yorkies are just born to be one person dogs while others love anything that moves. I remember reading that when I was researching different breeds. Sometimes (not saying always) when you look at a litter the quiet one might be a dog that is more attached.

What you can do that might make life easier for yourself and your dog is get her more socialized. Have her around people, let people give her treats, let Daddy be the one to feed, let her be around other dogs even if you still keep her in a safe bundle in your lap. Exposure might help and it won't hurt

Good luck!

Nikko's_human · 12-05-2005, 10:59 AM

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Originally Posted by schatzie

I can't even pee alone w/out Schatzie by my side.

She is my shadow wherever I go. From room to room, inside or out...There she is!

That is my Nikko to a tee!! Mommy has to use the bathroom, and Nikko has to be right there!!

It doesn't bother me in the least. I am away from him at least 10 hours a day and I miss him like crazy. When I get home he is so happy to see me and he follows me everywhere. I think its pretty sweet.

Biddy's Mom · 12-05-2005, 11:08 AM

I think it just depends on their presonality. Biddy is SUPER clingy, whereas Tucker is pretty independant - and I've raised them both the same way for the most part. On Saturday, Biddy would not let me put her down - she just wanted to be held. I tried to pass her off to my fiance, but she only wanted me. Just like a baby! Sometimes it gets annoying, but it's worth it. There could be worse things than being loved so unbelievebly unconditionally!

cheryl000 · 12-05-2005, 11:21 AM

I understand where you're coming from. Sometimes a situation arises to where the dog can't be with you, even when you're home. One lady had a man working in her house and he requested her to put the dogs in a seperate room. Other times it can be dangerous you're doing home improvements, etc.

It is also important to have some one on one time with other pets. What I recommend is to crate train your dog. You can also put him in an xpen. This will also show the dog that he has his own area in the home. Sometimes (like when I am studying) it is too distracting for me to have Brandy even on my lap. I'm always like, "Okay logrithams are... oh... Brandy is so cute, I love her so much.) lol. I also don't know what I would do without our pug, who keeps Brandy entertained when I can't. If he's not in there, she climbs out of the xpen.

12-05-2005, 09:27 AM	#1
Pippins_mom Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 55	Such thing as TOO attached? Is there such thing as a Yorkie becoming TOO attached to their owner? Pippin just clings to me wherever I go in the house. She will only go to my husband when I am not in the room. Many times she crawls around my neck (even when I am sleeping.) What have I done to cause this behavior? She is alone a good part of the day while I am away but I have a cat she plays and sleeps with while I am gone and I leave lights and the radio on. Can someone tell me? I love her but this is just a bit too much! ... oh, and she is TERRIBLY jealous if I give just a little attention to the cat. Thanks for any and all insights you can give me! __________________ "A merry heart does good like a medicine..." Prov. 17:22 My Yorkie is VERY good medicine!

12-05-2005, 09:42 AM	#2
Pippins_mom Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 55	Bump bump this up __________________ "A merry heart does good like a medicine..." Prov. 17:22 My Yorkie is VERY good medicine!

12-05-2005, 10:09 AM	#3
Zeus' Mom Enja's Mom too! Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Raleigh, NC Posts: 2,765	After this weekend's playdate, I have to say our little guy might be too attached. We have babied him for 2 years and this weekend he didn't really want to play with the others. He just wanted to be held. At home, he never leaves our side. We don't mind, but we want to do what is best for him. He is my little cuddle bug, but I wished he would be a little more independent sometimes. I just love him to pieces and love having him around, but I want him to be happy and enjoy other things too, like playing with others. __________________ Farrah, Zeus, Enja & Riley

12-05-2005, 10:25 AM	#4
LuvMyYorkies Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Maryland Posts: 83	There are Yorkie's who are a "one person" dog. One of my breeding dogs recently went home with a widow who lost her Yorkie suddenly in August. She was grieving for her lost baby. Maria (the widow) and Bonnie have bonded unbelievably, and Maria's adult children are jealous because Bonnie won't leave their mother's side. Whenever someone other than Maria is holding Bonnie, Bonnie is looking around for her "mom." Her children were comparing Bonnie to Maria's other Yorkie who went to any body. Long story short, Bonnie has always been a one person dog and no doubt will always be. It's just the nature of some Yorkies. __________________ Helen and her Yorkies

12-05-2005, 10:25 AM	#5
sneri13 Luv My Spoiled Babies Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: New Jersey Posts: 3,065	Hi pippins Mom. I don't know about being too attached. Mac is very attached to me while Mellie is more attached to my oldest son. I think it just depends on who they see as their Alpha. Are you the one who predominately takes care of pippin? Both of my dogs go in spurts on how attached they are going to be. Mac tends to follow me around the house. He has to sleep in bed with me, while Mellie will be just as content being in her bed at the foot of my bed. I think as pippin gets older he may not be so clingy. __________________ Susan Mac Mellie & Manny Until we meet again at Rainbow Bridge

12-05-2005, 10:26 AM	#6
Pippins_mom Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 55	Thanks Zeus' mom for the reply. But I need to know what I have done to make Pippin this way and what to do to correct it. I love her to death but she is driving me nuts! __________________ "A merry heart does good like a medicine..." Prov. 17:22 My Yorkie is VERY good medicine!

12-05-2005, 10:27 AM	#7
chachi I Love My Yorkies Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana Posts: 37,147	It sounds like he is a little baby. I dont think you can expect a change in his personality. All yorkies have their own personalities. As far as the cat it sounds like he plays with it while you are gone and that is good. The only thing my dogs do is bark and corner up my cat. I dont know how you could make him less jealous of the cat except maybe giving them both attention at the same time. __________________ Chachi's & Jewels Mom Jewels http://www.dogster.com/?132431 Chachi http://www.dogster.com/?132427

12-05-2005, 10:44 AM	#9
Lucky's Mom And Lucy Too! Donating Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 1,481	Sorry I kept spelling Pippin wrong! Didn't mean it!!

12-05-2005, 10:46 AM	#10
skatr45s Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Milltown, New Jersey Posts: 56	Trust me there is never a thing called to attached. The more you love her the moer that she wdill love you. All taht she can do is show more love. you can never get too attached. __________________ If time is an illusion is that why there are so many magical moments.

12-05-2005, 10:50 AM	#11
schatzie *Moderator Emeritus* Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Tontitown Arkansas Posts: 4,909	I can't even pee alone w/out Schatzie by my side. She is my shadow wherever I go. From room to room, inside or out...There she is! I used to kinda worry about it? But...not anymore. She doesn't seem stressed when I'm away or when she's being babysat by a friend, so I found no reason to be concerned. She just really shows how much she prefers to be w/ me. __________________ ~~~~ Schatzie and Ransom ~~~~

12-05-2005, 11:08 AM	#14
Biddy's Mom and Tucker's too! Donating Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Boston, MA Posts: 2,134	I think it just depends on their presonality. Biddy is SUPER clingy, whereas Tucker is pretty independant - and I've raised them both the same way for the most part. On Saturday, Biddy would not let me put her down - she just wanted to be held. I tried to pass her off to my fiance, but she only wanted me. Just like a baby! Sometimes it gets annoying, but it's worth it. There could be worse things than being loved so unbelievebly unconditionally! __________________ Jessica, Biddy, Tucker & Gertie

12-05-2005, 11:21 AM	#15
cheryl000 YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: none Posts: 1,495	I understand where you're coming from. Sometimes a situation arises to where the dog can't be with you, even when you're home. One lady had a man working in her house and he requested her to put the dogs in a seperate room. Other times it can be dangerous you're doing home improvements, etc. It is also important to have some one on one time with other pets. What I recommend is to crate train your dog. You can also put him in an xpen. This will also show the dog that he has his own area in the home. Sometimes (like when I am studying) it is too distracting for me to have Brandy even on my lap. I'm always like, "Okay logrithams are... oh... Brandy is so cute, I love her so much.) lol. I also don't know what I would do without our pug, who keeps Brandy entertained when I can't. If he's not in there, she climbs out of the xpen.