Such thing as TOO attached?

[Lovetodream88]

Originally Posted by MsMonae

Hi Pippins mom. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!! I thought I was. I have an almost 2yr old yorkie and she is super adorable, sweet, protective, loyal and yes....WAY TOO ATTACHED!! It drives me nuts and like you, I have no idea what to do to break that. It's so annoying and it's far from cute, like it was when I first got her and just thought that was a "baby stage" kind of thing. She's gotten older and gotten worse. She literally follows me EVERYWHERE and I do mean EVERYWHERE!! I can simply walk to the trash can and throw something away and she'll jump out of a deep sleep just to be at my feet. I get annoyed tripping over her, as if she's not tiny as it is. She's 5lbs. She's needy, demands attention and way too clingy. I don't mind it but I wish she would tone it down just a tad. It's like if I'm on the couch she can't just come find a spot on the couch and relax, she has to be in my lap or somewhere literally glued to me (like she is right now). I feel smothered by my own lil pup. I am going to lose my sanity.

Maybe you need to look for a different home for her if it bothers you that much. Its her way of loving you.

[MsMonae]

"I felt a little sad too, unless I was reading it wrong. It's like hearing about someone complain they're being loved too much! That poor baby to be considered not cute and just pure annoying, breaks my heart!"

Clearly everyone is reading that wrong. Doesn't matter, don't owe anyone an explanation abt myself, my pup and how I feel.

[MsMonae]

"Maybe you need to look for a different home for her if it bothers you that much. Its her way of loving you."

Better yet maybe she needs to learn to adapt to my way of doing things, the way u all think I need to just always adapt to hers!! If I am annoyed then that's just that! What may work for others may not work for me and vice versa!! I can careless about the opinion of others (and don't recall requesting any), SHE'S ANNOYING!! Just because one person loves to be shadowed 24hrs of the day, doesn't mean I'm suppose to nor does it mean I don't love my pup but yes she SMOTHERS ME!! Plain and simple! LIKE I SAID, she just needs to tone it down a bit. Go play, leave the room and do ur own thing it's ok I'm right here if u need me. Also as I said, I shower her with love and attention and she's very well taken care of but yes the constant shadowing is very annoying. I cuddle her, play with her, go on walks with her and even take her on rides with me but I honestly don't try to go overboard and I demand our space at times because she is too clingy for me already and I don't do too much spoiling, that never turns out well in human or canine worlds. I constantly trip and almost fall over her, she's overbearing when it comes to demanding attention and I don't care for that because even with company or strangers she will go as far as jumping in people's laps to get what she wants and that is not cute and not ok!! (Not everyone are dog lovers and I'll look like the owner who has no control over her own dog). Would you (you all) allow that behavior from your human child?! NO!! I'll do like you guys and assume not! So she's well trained and knows what will get her in trouble and what is allowable. I have a very smart pup. She's very stubborn, rebellious and fiesty. Trust she's not always cute!! (In her behavior). I know she loves me and I love her or else she wouldn't be here but I need and want my space at times. I want to use the bathroom alone at times or sit on the couch alone or simply not have my feet literally laid on sometimes. She's never content with being in the same room or space but she has to be on top of me which is irritating. If she doesn't get her way when she wants at the very second, she will literally growl at me and at times bark because I won't pet her or pick her up! Take it how u want! I don't care how cute she is, I am in charge and I will not give in to certain things that I am not ok with whether it's a human child or a canine child!! I've never seen a human child, birthed from their mothers' womb that's this clingy and this attached. I am a dog lover but I hate "extreme" dog lovers!!!

[LaVcaM]

I don't think you're doing or have done anything "wrong". Pippin just loves you unconditionally. Maybe the cat picks on her when they're alone together, it happens ya know. Cats are sly and can be playful to us but nasty to the dog. Long ago, I had raised a puppy & kitten together and I watched them interact as they grew. When the cat thought I was in the other room, she would actually jump on the dog's head while it was laying down and then climb back on the back of the couch as if nothing happened. The dog would try to jump on the couch to get the cat and I could just see the curve in the cat's mouth and her thinking "You're going to get in trouble for trying to get on the couch when Mom comes back!". Sly kitty... naughty kitty! LOL I feel truly blessed with my velcro Yorkie.

[Lovetodream88]

Originally Posted by MsMonae

"Maybe you need to look for a different home for her if it bothers you that much. Its her way of loving you."

Better yet maybe she needs to learn to adapt to my way of doing things, the way u all think I need to just always adapt to hers!! If I am annoyed then that's just that! What may work for others may not work for me and vice versa!! I can careless about the opinion of others (and don't recall requesting any), SHE'S ANNOYING!! Just because one person loves to be shadowed 24hrs of the day, doesn't mean I'm suppose to nor does it mean I don't love my pup but yes she SMOTHERS ME!! Plain and simple! LIKE I SAID, she just needs to tone it down a bit. Go play, leave the room and do ur own thing it's ok I'm right here if u need me. Also as I said, I shower her with love and attention and she's very well taken care of but yes the constant shadowing is very annoying. I cuddle her, play with her, go on walks with her and even take her on rides with me but I honestly don't try to go overboard and I demand our space at times because she is too clingy for me already and I don't do too much spoiling, that never turns out well in human or canine worlds. I constantly trip and almost fall over her, she's overbearing when it comes to demanding attention and I don't care for that because even with company or strangers she will go as far as jumping in people's laps to get what she wants and that is not cute and not ok!! (Not everyone are dog lovers and I'll look like the owner who has no control over her own dog). Would you (you all) allow that behavior from your human child?! NO!! I'll do like you guys and assume not! So she's well trained and knows what will get her in trouble and what is allowable. I have a very smart pup. She's very stubborn, rebellious and fiesty. Trust she's not always cute!! (In her behavior). I know she loves me and I love her or else she wouldn't be here but I need and want my space at times. I want to use the bathroom alone at times or sit on the couch alone or simply not have my feet literally laid on sometimes. She's never content with being in the same room or space but she has to be on top of me which is irritating. If she doesn't get her way when she wants at the very second, she will literally growl at me and at times bark because I won't pet her or pick her up! Take it how u want! I don't care how cute she is, I am in charge and I will not give in to certain things that I am not ok with whether it's a human child or a canine child!! I've never seen a human child, birthed from their mothers' womb that's this clingy and this attached. I am a dog lover but I hate "extreme" dog lovers!!!

Poor pup

[gemy]

Nothing poor about this pup. You train the dog, to adapt to your home and lifestyle.

A number of different options - Xpen when you need to focus on tasks at hand or a crate. Ignore clingy behaviour and dpnt reward it by giving your lap or pets. Play dates with other dogs. Even a sleep over at a good friends place she growls at me that is a discipline action - sic correction.....You should not accept growls....

[MsMonae]

Thank you Bonbons mom, u hit that right on the head. Thank you for understanding.

[MsMonae]

Gemy, thank you for that piece of advice. Thank you for your understanding as well. No on is going to make me out to be a horrible person and dog owner. I see u get it, and can at least respect where I come from. Some of the things u mentioned, I do already do with her like the crate thing and ignoring her pushy behavior because you can pet her or pick her up and go on about ur business but she's never satisfied and will literally force u into continuing I have video proof. Also I discipline her for growling. It is not tolerated and as I said in my previous post, I will not give in to her just because she's cute and these are things so called apart of her characteristics that I failed to "research" before getting her. Poor people on this board how they let a dog(s) rule their lives and their homes and it's clear who's in charge. Thanks again for ur positive feedback.

To those who have already felt the need to comment and those who will in the future, FYI watch what u say to me or better yet if u have nothing nice or helpful to say DONT SAY ANYTHING AT ALL!! I don't judge anyone on anything I've read so far that they post about so I don't any my way.

[Lovetodream88]

Originally Posted by gemy

Nothing poor about this pup. You train the dog, to adapt to your home and lifestyle.

A number of different options - Xpen when you need to focus on tasks at hand or a crate. Ignore clingy behaviour and dpnt reward it by giving your lap or pets. Play dates with other dogs. Even a sleep over at a good friends place she growls at me that is a discipline action - sic correction.....You should not accept growls....

It’s normal for dogs to follow you around even trained well dogs. It’s sad to be extremely annoyed and angry that it loves you to the point of following you all the times that is what the poor pup is about. Read all of her posts first and you will see. Sometimes we need to rethink god ownership if them loving us annoys us so much.

[MsMonae]

Originally Posted by Lovetodream88

It’s normal for dogs to follow you around even trained well dogs. It’s sad to be extremely annoyed and angry that it loves you to the point of following you all the times that is what the poor pup is about. Read all of her posts first and you will see. Sometimes we need to rethink god ownership if them loving us annoys us so much.

Again, I don't need or want or care for the OPINIONS of others. I have stated that and I will again. And as I also stated previously, if u have nothing NICE or HELPFUL to say DONT SAY ANYTHING AT ALL. KEEP IT TO URSELF!! You nor anyone else has to like or agree with how I feel or how I do things. Keep that between u and ur dog and let me deal with mine how I see fit because u nor anyone else will help me take care of her, pay her vet bill, buy her feed and medication or even take a trip with her to the groomers so with that being said since she isn't ur problem she shouldn't be ur concern. Thank you to those who actually have helpful and beneficial feed back!!!

[MsMonae]

Originally Posted by yorkieusa

I was looking through some things and found this interesting, but I don't know if this applies to your situation or not.
If your yorkie does fine when you are not at home, then it doesn't seem like a problem to me, but what do I know? I have loved my doggies no end.

Anxiety
Many dogs become over attached to one or all of the members of a household and become extremely anxious when they are left alone. This can result in quite extensive damage which is usually found around the door that the person leaves through and any escape route the dog may discover such as cat flaps, open windows and gates. These dogs usually become hysterical on their owner’s return and take several minutes to calm down. The behavior only occurs when the dog is separated from the household members to whom they are attached. In some cases, dogs that can cope when left in the home will become destructive when left alone in a strange environment. Dogs that are destructive because of anxiety tend to follow the people they are attached to around from room to room and try to maintain physical contact or eye contact as often as possible. Often barking, howling, toilet training problems and, in extreme cases, self-mutilation accompany this type of behavior.

There are many different reasons for anxiety in dogs which can result in destructive behavior. This can range from the hormonal swings caused by seasons in female dogs, to insecurity in elderly dogs. The most common type of anxiety is cause by over attachment to owners.

It is very flattering for some owners to have a dog that worships them and adores them. Unfortunately, this sort of dog finds it distressing to be parted from the object of his adoration. To resolve the problems with a dog like this, it is important that the owner is able to cool their relationship with the dog whilst building the dog’s confidence when being left alone.

Things you can do to make your dog more independent and less anxious when left alone

He will need to be left alone for short periods in the house whilst you are out. Until he can happily stay in one room while you are in another part of the house, there is no point in trying to get him used to being left alone while you are away. Get him used to being in one room, or perhaps acclimatise him to an indoor kennel, covering it with a blanket to make it a den type area.

He must be discouraged from following you from room to room and making constant physical contact. You should be aware of this and close doors between yourself and your dog. In addition, you should be firm with him and encourage him to sleep in his bed and not be constantly underfoot.

Other household members and friends should be enlisted to assist by taking him out for walks, playing and feeding him. This will avoid him becoming dependant on one individual or certain people in the household.

When he is left, the light should be turned off, a radio should be playing softly and items of the owners clothing can be left in his bed and on the other side of the door. This will also help create a restful environment which still sounds and smells reassuring to him.

You should ignore him completely for 20 minutes before leaving him and for 20 minutes upon your return. The dog should only be greeted when he has calmed down.

A special chew or toy can be left for him during your absence although this should be removed on your return. Also ensure he is well exercised at least half an hour before leaving him.

http://72.14.203.104/search?q=cache:...ed+puppy&hl=en

Thank you for this information, it was very helpful and I can take from it. Some of these things I already do but can a bit more assertive and consistent with it to get more affective results and other things I can start to do and see if it helps. She is very persistent and won't go down without a fight so wish me luck. thank you.

[Wylie's Mom]

Originally Posted by MsMonae

To those who have already felt the need to comment and those who will in the future, FYI watch what u say to me or better yet if u have nothing nice or helpful to say DONT SAY ANYTHING AT ALL!! I don't judge anyone on anything I've read so far that they post about so I don't any my way.

Originally Posted by MsMonae

Again, I don't need or want or care for the OPINIONS of others. I have stated that and I will again. And as I also stated previously, if u have nothing NICE or HELPFUL to say DONT SAY ANYTHING AT ALL. KEEP IT TO URSELF!! You nor anyone else has to like or agree with how I feel or how I do things. Keep that between u and ur dog and let me deal with mine how I see fit because u nor anyone else will help me take care of her, pay her vet bill, buy her feed and medication or even take a trip with her to the groomers so with that being said since she isn't ur problem she shouldn't be ur concern. Thank you to those who actually have helpful and beneficial feed back!!!

Welcome to YT - glad you found a forum that might help you better understand the little kiddo you're sharing your life with . If you take a look around, you'll see YT has been here a *long* time - as have many of its members, so you'll get opinions from many different angles. As this is an open forum - we welcome ALL opinions from all members - so everyone is welcome to post on this thread as they wish.

Therefore, it is not appropriate to tell certain members they may or may not post on any thread or to speak to them in the manner above. I understand you're upset - but it will be okay -- just please, take a deep breath! Let other people have their own opinion as YOU want them to let you have yours. Okay?

You've gotten too wound up about other people having their opinion - and you need to calm down. You need to calm down if you want to be able to have a conversation, right...?

I will tell you that my own personal experience and opinion is like Taylor's - my dogs all want to be around me all the time, as much as possible and I LOVE IT . And I too honestly feel bad for your dog (and you too!) bc I wish there was a better "match" going on here. Some dogs don't need/want all that attention all the time - they're more independent - and I feel like that would be perfect for you...a more independent dog. I just don't want you ending up with a depressed dog here if you start forcing all these different isolating methods upon it etcetera...and that can actually happen to some dogs if they don't get the attention they need . Have you considered getting another dog so your kiddo would have a buddy...?

[Lovetodream88]

Originally Posted by Wylie's Mom

Welcome to YT - glad you found a forum that might help you better understand the little kiddo you're sharing your life with . If you take a look around, you'll see YT has been here a *long* time - as have many of its members, so you'll get opinions from many different angles. As this is an open forum - we welcome ALL opinions from all members - so everyone is welcome to post on this thread as they wish.

Therefore, it is not appropriate to tell certain members they may or may not post on any thread or to speak to them in the manner above. I understand you're upset - but it will be okay -- just please, take a deep breath! Let other people have their own opinion as YOU want them to let you have yours. Okay?

You've gotten too wound up about other people having their opinion - and you need to calm down. You need to calm down if you want to be able to have a conversation, right...?

I will tell you that my own personal experience and opinion is like Taylor's - my dogs all want to be around me all the time, as much as possible and I LOVE IT . And I too honestly feel bad for your dog (and you too!) bc I wish there was a better "match" going on here. Some dogs don't need/want all that attention all the time - they're more independent - and I feel like that would be perfect for you...a more independent dog. I just don't want you ending up with a depressed dog here if you start forcing all these different isolating methods upon it etcetera...and that can actually happen to some dogs if they don't get the attention they need . Have you considered getting another dog so your kiddo would have a buddy...?

[Peachie22]

Originally Posted by MsMonae

Hi Pippins mom. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!! I thought I was. I have an almost 2yr old yorkie and she is super adorable, sweet, protective, loyal and yes....WAY TOO ATTACHED!! It drives me nuts and like you, I have no idea what to do to break that. It's so annoying and it's far from cute, like it was when I first got her and just thought that was a "baby stage" kind of thing. She's gotten older and gotten worse. She literally follows me EVERYWHERE and I do mean EVERYWHERE!! I can simply walk to the trash can and throw something away and she'll jump out of a deep sleep just to be at my feet. I get annoyed tripping over her, as if she's not tiny as it is. She's 5lbs. She's needy, demands attention and way too clingy. I don't mind it but I wish she would tone it down just a tad. It's like if I'm on the couch she can't just come find a spot on the couch and relax, she has to be in my lap or somewhere literally glued to me (like she is right now). I feel smothered by my own lil pup. I am going to lose my sanity.

The things I would do to have this dog. Lol. My puppy is 15 weeks old and doesn't want me to cuddle him or anything, he's very independent at a young age.

[MsMonae]

Originally Posted by Peachie22

The things I would do to have this dog. Lol. My puppy is 15 weeks old and doesn't want me to cuddle him or anything, he's very independent at a young age.

She doesn't necessarily like to cuddle because I can pick her up to cuddle her and she'll get super fidgety like she's trying to get away or something but it's more so the following me all around literally everywhere and tripping over her. I literally sprained an ankle once, tripping over her because she's literally right on my feet every step I take so no that attention is not always wanted and not always cute. She demands that attention meaning, when she's at my feet or is on two feet reaching up for me, I will reach down and pet her and rub her belly and pet on her and go on with what I am doing and because she doesn't want u to stop she'll growl and bark at me for me to keep going or pick her up or something and that's not acceptable and that's when it becomes annoying and that's when I have to check her behavior. She will do that to strangers or people she don't know and go as far as jumping in their laps to get what she wants and that is NOT OK! People are clearly not understand my point. I train her right and she's for the most part really good BUT she has her ways and she knows what's wrong and whats right but at times she'll still do wrong and hide so she won't get in trouble so she knows better