Considering a new baby...after losing my last One

[Yorkie_25]

Hello All
Two weeks ago my Yorkie Chloe passed away. Since she passed, I have been depressed but this site has really help me through the grieving process, so thanks to you all who consistently post on the site, it has really helped me.
Now on to the question at hand:…when to get a new Yorkie. I was not expecting to get another one anytime soon, and in my head I was thinking not even until the end of the year if then. However, I happen to be roaming around on a puppy site, and saw the most beautiful Yorkies from a breeder here in VA. I emailed her and complimented her on her yorkies, and also asked her to keep me in mind if she ever had a Yorkie she be willing to sell as a pet. Coincidentally, she emailed me back, and to make a long story short, she has a baby she can’t show and is willing to sell as a pet. I have debated it over and over again in my head, and I am still stuck at a crossroad. I told my boyfriend that I would decide today. Truth be told, I want the puppy but I feel like I am disrespecting Chloe by bringing a dog into our home. I know crazy right? I don’t know what to do…smh.

[maxdog]

IMHO, it is not disrespectful to Chloe. You will always love Chloe and her memories will always be close to your heart. I don't think it is too soon. Other people will think it is. Every person will mourn in their own way. There is no wrong answer but the answer has to come from inside you. And the way you describe the puppies as "the most beautiful Yorkies " I can almost see the smile on your face as you typed it out. I don't even like to think about life w/o Max and Sasha, but when it happens, I won't wait long before bringing that joy back into my life. I went 8 years w/o a dog and I will never do that again. JMO.

[yavenay]

I was sort of in the same boat except I waited for 6 months before I got another yorkie. I adopted a very well taken care of female yorkie. At first I thought I made a huge mistake because I was having a hard time bonding with her, not because she was a bad dog but because I kept comparing her to my previous yorkie.

It wasn't until I stopped comparing that I was able to bond with her. Now she is my shadow and we now share a special bond that gets stronger every day. I can't imagine my life without her. I still compare but it's okay because I now can think of my previous yorkie without crying. Duchess will do something that will remind me of Brandi and instead of crying I smile.

[addevo]

I am so sorry for your loss. It is devastating to have to say "goodbye" to your dear companion. However, the highest compliment you can pay a departed pet is to get another one. You can never "replace" your baby, but there is a special dog out there waiting for you to love her.

But before you go to a breeder, please consider adopting a rescue Yorkie. There are so many homeless little ones who would really benefit from your experience with the breed. Just take a quick look on Petfinder.com. The adoption process can be more time consuming than buying a dog from a breeder, since many rescue groups are run by volunteers who answer emails and review applications after they come home from work. But there is nothing like taking a dog who has been cast aside, and making them a promise that they will be loved and cherished for the rest of their life.

[Mayzoo]

It is an honor to Cloe that you are wanting another Yorkie. It shows she was a great dog that you loved and enjoyed so much that the hole now left is very painful and difficult to bare. Wanting to fill that hole is not disrespectful, it shows Cloe did her job very well by being a steadfast friend you now truly miss. As a good friend would, I am she would be excited for you to romp and enjoy another pup.

You are not replacing Cloe by getting another dog. You are filling a need to love that you have. Chloe will always have a place in your heart and you will never forget her or stop loving her.

[buddybear]

I have no experience with the loss of a beloved Yorkie but Buddybear and I just want you to know how sorry we are for you.
You will know when the time is right and do Not feel guilty. You have more love to give. Chloe knows that.

[JadeD]

Everyone grieves differently. If you feel you can take care of this new puppy, then you are ready for a new puppy. It will not replace your old Yorkie, but will give you a new one to love.

Here is my story. I have Abby (English Setter) and she had cancer and I had to let her go last summer. I was depressed. I knew I would get another dog but wasn't sure when. I have a friend who has a Yorkie and I would just hold him and love on him last fall. She planned to have puppies with him and asked me if I would like a puppy if/when she had some. I was overjoyed at the idea even though I had no idea when or if that would happen.

Enter Teek in January. 9 year old Yorkie in need of a home. He is my angel! He needed a home, so I took him home with me. All of my sorrow for not being able to do more for Abby was gone. I was so healed after getting to love him. I knew he needed me, but I soon realized that I needed him too.

So, puppies are born and I let my daughter have the pick of a puppy to be her puppy. However, I fell in love with one of the puppies and when it was 2 weeks before we picked up my daughter's puppy my friend let me know that the puppy I was partial too was not lined up for a home and no one seemed to want him because of his coloring (he is more black and gray than black and tan). I loved him for his different coloring! So, she asked me to consider taking him.

I now have 3 Yorkies (one is my teenage daughter's) and love them all.

Do I still miss Abby? Sure, but I am not as depressed or heartbroken as I have so much Yorkie love in my heart.

Just remember that this puppy is it's own dog and not going to be exactly like your old dog and just love it for who it is.

Good luck if you decide to bring it home. The fact that you are thinking about it tells me that you are probably ready. The little things that the new puppy does that remind you of your old dog, cherish them!

[Jkpal]

I think you know that you really want this puppy and that's wonderful!! Whatever helps and makes you happy...And I believe you do a great honor to Chloe in adopting another baby---indicates how very much she meant to you and how much you want joy and love again. It's right, I think!

[navillusc]

I do not think getting a puppy following the loss of a puppy is disrespectful in any way. It seems more of an honor...same as when we get a second or third puppy while our first puppy still lives. To me, we do it because we love them. You love Chloe...you always will, but love...true love...is not so exclusive as to prevent you from loving a new puppy, even in her absence. Please do not feel that you are obligated to suffer loss when another puppy also needs a loving home you can provide. The decision is yours alone, but I hope you will allow yourself a logical, loving, guilt free decision, whatever you decide. Hugs, and my sincere condolences on losing sweet
Chloe.

[matese]

You would not be disrespecting Chloe, Chloe will remain in your heart forever. I know just where you're coming from. My Matese went to rainbow bridge on 10/1/13, I swore no more dogs, the pain of losing them has become to over whelming. I fought everyday with myself, get another, no don't. I was sick and in a very dark place, I could not drive my car, thoughts of that last day were constantly in my mind, I would start crying, pull off the road and come back home, I was a hazard on the road so I just stayed home in an empty, cold quiet house. 6 weeks after losing my sweet girl my vet gifted me with a sweet 2.5 y/o boy who had been surrendered, I gave my vet all the reasons why I didn't/couldn't have another dog, but she kept pleading with me to "just come see the dog" something about him reminded her of my Matese. Out of respect for my vet for thinking of me when they got the dog and to appease her I went to see the dog knowing I would never bring a male dog home. When I saw this little boy and heard his sad story I had to take him home, I knew he would have a happy life with me. I never felt I was disrespecting my Matese, she loved me and would want me to be happy and want me to give another baby a 2nd chance. Cody has helped me heal, he pulled me out of a very dark place, he rescued me and made my house a home again. Do not deprive yourself of love of a dog, if you are thinking of one, go for it, fill that empty hole in your heart with the love of another baby. Chloe would want you to be happy. I have a little memorial of Matese, I see her every day, miss her everyday, but know I was blessed to have this sweet girl in my life for 17 years. Cody is my first little boy and I am blessed to have him in my life. Get this baby, you need her as much as she will need you, and she will help you heal (((hugs)))

[barneysmommmy]

This may make me sound terrible, but I got Barney immediately after Charlie died. I just could not stand living in my house without a yorkie there. In hindsight this was much too soon. I don't know what we would have done without Barney here to fill the void. I never really thought of it as disrespectful to Charlie.

[Lizchloe]

I am so sorry for your loss, I know how difficult it can be, when I lost my Didi 3 years ago, I could bearly get out of bed for a week. Shortly after my Husband suggested that I should get another Yorkie, I just didn't know if I could. He started showing me some Yorkies on line, and said one of these little guys needs a Mommy and a good home like you have given all your doggies. When I started looking I just knew I had to get another one. After 3 months, I got a 2 year old, and named her Chloe, she is beautiful and I love her so much. She really helped me so much, she is so much like Didi it is unbelieveable. Didi will never be replaced and always loved, and I know someday I will see her again. Just follow your heart, and you will know when it is right for you, I found just looking at those little cute Yorkie faces made me want to give him/her a good and loving home. But I do feel that they all give you so much more.

[jshade]

Originally Posted by Yorkie_25

Hello All
Two weeks ago my Yorkie Chloe passed away. Since she passed, I have been depressed but this site has really help me through the grieving process, so thanks to you all who consistently post on the site, it has really helped me.
Now on to the question at hand:…when to get a new Yorkie. I was not expecting to get another one anytime soon, and in my head I was thinking not even until the end of the year if then. However, I happen to be roaming around on a puppy site, and saw the most beautiful Yorkies from a breeder here in VA. I emailed her and complimented her on her yorkies, and also asked her to keep me in mind if she ever had a Yorkie she be willing to sell as a pet. Coincidentally, she emailed me back, and to make a long story short, she has a baby she can’t show and is willing to sell as a pet. I have debated it over and over again in my head, and I am still stuck at a crossroad. I told my boyfriend that I would decide today. Truth be told, I want the puppy but I feel like I am disrespecting Chloe by bringing a dog into our home. I know crazy right? I don’t know what to do…smh.

My Milo died unexpectedly earlier this summer. He was only three and we were devastated. Through a series of "coincidences" we adopted a five year old Yorkie, named Casey. This was only 2 or 3 weeks after Milo passed. I can tell you that Casey rescued us from our terrible grief. I think, at least for me, that it is therapeutic to get a new baby to love. My Casey has helped me so much. Just today I was pulling up to my house and was missing Milo and wondering why he had to die. Just then, I saw my husband out walking Casey and the pain eased. He helps me feel better, that's for sure!!!!! I'm sorry about the loss of your pup.

[lovestiny]

Hello, I am so very sorry for your loss. We had a maltese for 17 years and it took my husband 2.5 years to be emotionally ready for another. I wanted one much sooner and I will never wait that long again. I do not think you are disrespecting Chloe. For me, the mourning period I think would've been helped by another sweet pup. Everyone is different, but it sounds like your heart knows the way....hugs

[Dudley's Mom]

I had the same choice as you. I lost my Dudley on June 10th last year. I had nursed him for so many years with his kidney failure that when he passed, I felt totally lost. I cried so many tears that I decided to go see my daughter and sister to help me with my grief. The day before I came home I saw the ad in the paper for him and went to see him. As soon as I picked him up he gave me a big hug in my neck and I brought him home. He has helped me heal and I don't know what I would have done without him. I will never forget my Dudley boy but I can now say his name without crying. Mickey is a wonderful loving dog. I feel he was a gift from God to help me through that horrible time. If you need to love again, do so without guilt.